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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds

What is a single bold decision you took that changed the trajectory of a significant portion of your life.

For example, cold emailing a company you want to work for, or I guess, asking some damsel out.

Regale me with your stories!!

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
20 weeks ago

Bliss

I chose to have kids.

I was thinking about this in a sliding doors kinda way, last week

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"I chose to have kids.

I was thinking about this in a sliding doors kinda way, last week "

Did you always know you wanted kids? Or was it something that came up along the way? I imagine you absolutely enjoy being a parent

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
20 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

took a job offer that practically halved my salary overnight, but kept me in Wales (ironic now I work in Manchester!).

That decision was also the first in a line of dominoes that brought me to all you beautiful people!

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By *viatrixWoman
20 weeks ago

Gatwick

Chose to leave everything that was dear and near to me and moved 10,000 across the Atlantic 23 years ago for love.

It was a good decision and have 3 lovely children from that and realised I’ve lived most of my adult life in the UK now. Though lately I keep thinking what if I had stayed put.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
20 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

I was in a position to make one of three decisions. The one I made waa the right one at the time and gave my son two loving parents

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"took a job offer that practically halved my salary overnight, but kept me in Wales (ironic now I work in Manchester!).

That decision was also the first in a line of dominoes that brought me to all you beautiful people!"

Why did you want to remain in Wales at the time?

You don't think you've have got know of fabs in the chain of tipping dominoes if you didn't take the job?

PS: I am a curious/inquisitive person, so if any of the questions are a bit too deep, please don't hesitate to decline

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By *onko the SaneMan
20 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Had two job offers when I was made redundant. One company I knew and had worked for the other totally new to me but slightly higher paying.

Played it safe and went with the one I knew. Was made redundant again a year later and I know the guy who got the other job and know how he has advanced since. I'm still playing catch up on where I could have been.

That was 2008

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

Signing the consent form in regards to my two-week old son's emergency Tracheotomy procedure.

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"Chose to leave everything that was dear and near to me and moved 10,000 across the Atlantic 23 years ago for love.

It was a good decision and have 3 lovely children from that and realised I’ve lived most of my adult life in the UK now. Though lately I keep thinking what if I had stayed put. "

Interesting. Your last sentence there are a couple of fun TV shows that explore the concept of the "decision not taken", I think it's always something we wonder when we make that kind of big decisions with lots of uncertainties

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"I was in a position to make one of three decisions. The one I made waa the right one at the time and gave my son two loving parents"

Awesome!

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"Signing the consent form in regards to my two-week old son's emergency Tracheotomy procedure."

Sounds intense! hope it worked out for the better

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
20 weeks ago

Bliss


"I chose to have kids.

I was thinking about this in a sliding doors kinda way, last week

Did you always know you wanted kids? Or was it something that came up along the way? I imagine you absolutely enjoy being a parent"

I was a career woman and chose to do that, before having kids later on in life. I have quite a few adult friends without kids, so it's interesting to have a glimpse into what life could have been, if I had chosen to stay in my career.

I definitely do love the life I have with my kids

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"Had two job offers when I was made redundant. One company I knew and had worked for the other totally new to me but slightly higher paying.

Played it safe and went with the one I knew. Was made redundant again a year later and I know the guy who got the other job and know how he has advanced since. I'm still playing catch up on where I could have been.

That was 2008"

Well damn. I think the job market it littered with these kind of experiences. I've heard from people better than me that when it comes to jobs, it's almost always best to take the risk, with either new place, new city, new skill, new people.

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By *udeSentient OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds


"I chose to have kids.

I was thinking about this in a sliding doors kinda way, last week

Did you always know you wanted kids? Or was it something that came up along the way? I imagine you absolutely enjoy being a parent

I was a career woman and chose to do that, before having kids later on in life. I have quite a few adult friends without kids, so it's interesting to have a glimpse into what life could have been, if I had chosen to stay in my career.

I definitely do love the life I have with my kids "

touché! having a glimpse into the results of a different path you could have taken puts things into perspective I guess

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By *izandpaulCouple
20 weeks ago

merseyside

Meeting a guy who explained the oil and gas business and opened doors for me.

Never looked back, its been a real adventure and a wonderful life, met some great people and some not so great.

Travelled to places I would never have thought I'd visit.

Some ok, some shit pits.

When opportunities come along you have to grab them and ride them with both hands.

Never, ever say no.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
20 weeks ago

Chester


"What is a single bold decision you took that changed the trajectory of a significant portion of your life.

For example, cold emailing a company you want to work for, or I guess, asking some damsel out.

Regale me with your stories!! "

I was in a shitty marriage of 7yrs when I logged on to AOL chat in a Transatlantic Chat room - got chatting to a bloke who lived 50miles away from me

Within 2wks we meet and we've been happily, blissfully happy for nearly 25 years

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
20 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff


"took a job offer that practically halved my salary overnight, but kept me in Wales (ironic now I work in Manchester!).

That decision was also the first in a line of dominoes that brought me to all you beautiful people!

Why did you want to remain in Wales at the time?

You don't think you've have got know of fabs in the chain of tipping dominoes if you didn't take the job?

PS: I am a curious/inquisitive person, so if any of the questions are a bit too deep, please don't hesitate to decline "

Well c'mon... its WALES!! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿❤️‍🔥

and probably not; if I'd not had taken the job, those dominoes wouldn't have fallen and I'd have no idea Fab even existed!!

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By *oeBeansMan
20 weeks ago

Derby

Deciding to do an apprenticeship rather than the university route. I didn't know what I wanted to do coming out of school so would've just gone to uni because it was the thing to do and I'd hate to think I'd be on a job not relevant to my degree with a tonne of student debt.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
20 weeks ago

Reading

I asked him to marry me and upended my life to make it work

I decided that what I needed while working full time and balancing children with little support that what I needed to do was retrain and got a new qualification that kickstarted my current career

I guess asking for a divorce after 20 years of marriage was another big one

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By *obajxMan
20 weeks ago

Cheshire

The job I was in had run its course and I was tipped off about a company looking for experienced people and that paid very well

I made a cold call, went in for a chat and was started on a salary that was paying £15k a year more than I was earning

Within six months that had increased by a further £10k

My biggest regret is that whilst having this excess cash, a lad i played football with was emigrating to Oz and he was struggling to sell his house which he'd reduced as he was desperate to sell

I considered buying it to let out and didn't

It was £80k and is worth half a mill now

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I didn't tell him to feck off. I married him.

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By *errywildWoman
20 weeks ago

Close, watch your back!

Started a degree over 1.5yr ago. Hard at late 40s as it is, plus all the menopausal shite added,but 2/3rds nearly nearly finished.

Someone mentioned Wales on here - that is my next dream - move to beautiful Wales in a few yrs time,

Somewhere with no or very few neighbours, surrounded by that beautiful nature.

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By *acey_RedWoman
20 weeks ago

Liverpool

Going to my first munch

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
20 weeks ago

Reading


"I guess asking for a divorce after 20 years of marriage was another big one"

That was the hardest decision I've ever made in my life but possibly the best one. My life has changed for the better in so many ways since. Yes, there have been some shitty times but I have learned so much about myself and am putting what I want and need first.

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