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By *ature male Oldham OP   Man
24 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

I admit to using the wink button as I feel it's very gentle / non intrusive way to express my interest. I know lots of people think that it's a lazy way to contact someone.

Is it lazy and do most people just ignore them ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
24 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Most women ignore them. Some couples find them useful. If you're winking men they're more likely to at least notice 💜

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By *ature male Oldham OP   Man
24 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham


"Most women ignore them. Some couples find them useful. If you're winking men they're more likely to at least notice 💜"

You are spot on 👍 Most of the positive responses I've had are from couples...I tend not to wink at men 😉

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By *ornyray69Man
24 weeks ago

stockton on tees


"Most women ignore them. Some couples find them useful. If you're winking men they're more likely to at least notice 💜"

😉😉😉

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By *elvetNeuronWoman
24 weeks ago

Risa, Beta Quadrant

I like it to guage interest if I'm not sure, get a wink back and it's usually a good sign 😊

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By *ature male Oldham OP   Man
24 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham


"I like it to guage interest if I'm not sure, get a wink back and it's usually a good sign 😊"

Thanks, that's exactly what I like about it

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By *kibirdWoman
24 weeks ago

Gillingham ( Dorset, not Kent)

I definitely don’t ignore them , I see them the same as you OP. I always have a look at anyone who’s winked me just to see if there’s anything there.

I’m always perplexed by people who wink with an empty profile though. What am I supposed to be looking at ? Lol

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By *rhugesMan
23 weeks ago

Cardiff

No different yo shipping on tinder really

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By *shford_5Man
23 weeks ago

Ashford

Used to ignore winks but these days I message asking what the wink for, especially when it's from someone who's profile says they aren't looking for guys

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

A wink from a guy who isn't looking for guys is especially hot

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By *tu100Man
23 weeks ago

Southampton

I send a wink to show an interest, occasionally send a message with it as well. If I get a wink back then I'll definitely message to thank them and see where it goes.

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By *okingham WillMan
23 weeks ago

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It’s a shame that so many people have a bit of a stigma about wink use, as used properly they’re a great tool to show interest and save everyone time.

So many people get upset about “cut and paste” messages from men in particular and expect a unique piece of prose every time someone messages them, yet most men experience the majority of their messages being left unanswered.

So what’s the incentive to spend ages crafting a unique message to a profile on here if it’s going to be ignored?

With a properly functioning wink system, you send a wink and if it’s reciprocated THEN it’s your chance to impress (or not!) with your unique message.

As it is the wink system only really works now if you’re a woman winking a man (we get so few that winks still do stick out for us)

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By *orny IrishMan
23 weeks ago

North Wiltshire

As some have said I use the wink system to show my interest in a profile. If I get one back then let's have a chat and see where we get to.

When I recieve them I look at the profile and if there is something to read and pics to look at then I will send one back and maybe a message. If the profile is a shadow pic and no words then I just ignore.

So please keep winking.

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By *uriousCorvidMan
23 weeks ago

Birmingham

Probably the wrong way of doing it but if I think you're hot, I'll fab. If I think you're REALLY hot, I'll wink.

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By *earditallWoman
23 weeks ago

Lancaster

I use them now and then if I have interest in a profile but I have to admit I don't always check through mine.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
23 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We like winks as a 'soft touch' way to say we like what we see, and usually respond to most we get from couples.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Chichester

I can wink my asshole. Do I get a prize

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By *kibirdWoman
23 weeks ago

Gillingham ( Dorset, not Kent)


"I can wink my asshole. Do I get a prize "

That’s sounds more like a lucrative career if you wanted it to be

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
23 weeks ago

Chester


"I admit to using the wink button as I feel it's very gentle / non intrusive way to express my interest. I know lots of people think that it's a lazy way to contact someone.

Is it lazy and do most people just ignore them ? "

I've been here nearly a year now and only really started to use the 'wink' option - like you say, it's a gentle way to show your interest

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