FabSwingers.com forum: Do I tell him

By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno

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By *ynamite500Man
24 weeks ago

Angus

"So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno "

Bro's before hoe"s man! 🤣

You were loyal enough not to go there, why be disloyal not to tell him?? Even if it upsets him and your friendship...you told him the truth...you can hold your head up and look both of them in the eye...at the very least,you can close your eyes on your pillow and not have to worry.🤔

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By *dible_KinkCouple
24 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Possibly not the best idea to tell him she propositioned you - he will forgive her anything as she's his ex - you on the other hand will be cast in his mind as the baddie (as though youre making it up, you was trying to seduce her etc - all sorts of silly irrational thoughts) and will never speak to you again. But, you can say you spoke to her and shes adamant its over and shes actively looking to move on.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

Would you tell her if the situation was reversed and you saw him trying it on with a woman?

Just tell him that as hurtful as it is it's definitely over between them. No need for details

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By *earditallWoman
24 weeks ago

Lancaster

Depends how close you are as friends if it was my best friend I'd have to say but if it wasn't a friend who is so close I would

maybe just make them aware there isn't the hope of reconciliation so they move on.

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By *tar_Buck_81Man
24 weeks ago

Exeter

I think you need to tell him all. If he thinks there's a chance to reconcile, he will get "stuck" just existing, waiting on a call that will never happen (or worse) he needs to be able to move on with his life and be with someone (or noone) who can give him what he wants/needs.

Bro's before hoes!

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
24 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Ignorance is bliss

What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him

If you contribute to the drama, you’ll become part of the drama…

Was she fit? 😂

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By *mnl40Man
24 weeks ago

leicester

I think yes you should tell him so he can stop hoping that she will comeback soon and move on to better, because if she touched you like that wouldn’t you think there are others too

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By *riskyfunsterMan
24 weeks ago

Nantwich

You did well there mate, I'd have given her your number or asked for hers in case you needed to get in touch, maybe text her a few times see how it went for the next 6 months then if they weren't together by then maybe meet up etc

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
24 weeks ago

Round the bend

Bro's before hoes! "

Agreed

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
24 weeks ago

North West

Do you fancy her?

In that case, there is a big decision to make.

Otherwise, say nothing & just pour cold water on any conversations he brings up thinking there is a chance of them reconciling.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Firstly, well done for your loyalty to your friend.

Secondly, I’d tell him there’s no hope, if he doesn’t ask why, don’t tell him. If he asks, don’t lie.

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By *ammymacMan
24 weeks ago

darlington

Her end game could have been to cause trouble between you and your friend should you have accepted her invite and she let him know.

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By *ynamite500Man
24 weeks ago

Angus

You be better telling him, before she tells him that, you came on to her! I guarantee she will say it, just to make your mate feel like shit and feel betrayed by you... Don't ever go where a mate has already been... I had a mate, who's girl dumped him,hoping that we would get together instead...wrong!! No thank you! Not happening!!😳 "Im just gonna", "WALK AWAY!"😁

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex

Is she a similar age to you op?

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Is she a similar age to you op?"
about ten years younger

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Is she a similar age to you op? about ten years younger "

If he's the same age I'd say he's mature enough for you to have an adult to adult chat with him then, without unnecessary drama.

Be clear in your own mind how much you are going to tell him and why.

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By *olo180Man
24 weeks ago

Greater London

Personally I would leave it.

He’ll eventually get over her. And you don’t want to get involved in any drama.

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Is she a similar age to you op? about ten years younger

If he's the same age I'd say he's mature enough for you to have an adult to adult chat with him then, without unnecessary drama.

Be clear in your own mind how much you are going to tell him and why.

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that's exactly what im trying to do be clear with what and how much to say if anything. Il figure it out appreciate people's thoughts something to think about

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By *oppet22TV/TS
24 weeks ago

huddersfield

No dont tell him that would hurt more

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By *he Silver FuxMan
24 weeks ago

Utero

Discretion being the better part of valour…

Say nothing.

But give her a good seeing to…

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By *layful_GaiaWoman
24 weeks ago

Yorkshire

I'd tell him you bumped into her and when you asked her about them two, she was adamant it was over for good, and said she was moving on looking for someone new.

A decent friend would never go there

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
24 weeks ago

Prestwich

Christ sounds like he might have avoided wasting a solid portion of the rest of his life.

Tell him, and emphasize he's lucky to be rid of her

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Drama.

Avoid.

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By *udelawfsMan
24 weeks ago

A pristine town

I’d say stay out of it as much as humanly possible. If they patch things up, the whole story suddenly gets a new shape and guess who becomes the villain? Yep, you.My advice.. never dive into drama that belongs to two other people. If someone needs you to guide every step, they’re not reading the signs..they’re just pretending not to.Everyone should be mature enough to make their own calls without you carrying the flashlight.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
24 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her?

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
24 weeks ago

South Wales

This sounds like a drama you’re better off avoiding to be honest xx

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her?

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i dont think she would say that if she did id just have to deal with it

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her?

i dont think she would say that if she did id just have to deal with it "

Would you have thought she would have grabbed your crotch?

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her?

i dont think she would say that if she did id just have to deal with it

Would you have thought she would have grabbed your crotch? "
good point

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By *ools and the brainCouple
24 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Is she fit

Asking for a friend 😗

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Is she fit

Asking for a friend 😗"
who's your friend 😆

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By *ustinMan
24 weeks ago

near chester/welsh border

I wouldn't get involved. You will only upset him more if you tell him what she did and I doubt he will then believe you didn't go back with her. Best to say nothing she clearly doesn't want him so just let him deal with it and get over it.

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By *idnightcowboy69Man
24 weeks ago

cirencester

Never mind that

Did her hand make you hard

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Never mind that

Did her hand make you hard

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its wasn't there long enough or i wasn't long enough 🤏

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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24 weeks ago

Central

Discuss his troubles without adding any details, as it's him who's got to work through his emotional situation, which you can help him with.

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
24 weeks ago

Bliss

Do nothing. Ask yourself, did she do it on purpose to cause shit between you and him, you can't predict his reaction to that news.

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By *im le2Man
24 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

If you want to keep your friendship say nothing.

His wife tried to trap you. Do you honestly believe he will think you didn't go with his sexy wife. I'd think your feeling guilty and worried she will say something

It's none of your business keep out of it. Just keep drinking his booze.

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

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By *rectus HumongusMan
24 weeks ago

morecambe for the day

Anyone else just think the post is fantasy.

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By *l chapo123Man
24 weeks ago

Costa del sol

No don't tell him tell everyone else and humalite him . Phh sounds bullshit this tbh

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By *kphooey43Man
24 weeks ago

Barnet

"Anyone else just think the post is fantasy. "

You mean it got posted in The Lounge by mistake instead of the 'Stories and Fantasies' room

Surely if that were the case he would have carried on the story, telling us what they got up to when he went back to her place?

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Anyone else just think the post is fantasy. "
it might be your fantasy certainly isn't mine

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By *ellinever70Woman
24 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Did you meet her in a bar? In the street? A supermarket?

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"No don't tell him tell everyone else and humalite him . Phh sounds bullshit this tbh"
how is it telling everyone on a thread on here you think everyone i know is on here do you know them ??

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By *tu.x OP Man
24 weeks ago

around

"Did you meet her in a bar? In the street? A supermarket?"
pub

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
24 weeks ago

Prestwich

"Anyone else just think the post is fantasy. "

100%

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