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Is it rude to ask ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it rude to ask outright/direct if someone your chatting you actually wants sugar in their coffee/tea ??? lol

no seriously now --- once you establish a connection and tick each others boxes personality wise - should ask if they like some of things you like sexually or does that wait until your in bed ???

NB: this NOT a personal question - just one for discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer establishing sexual compatibility before agreeing to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk about it first.. im not saying plan a meet with military precision but its important to know your gonna be singing off the same hymn sheet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer establishing sexual compatibility before agreeing to meet "

I prefer to establish coffee compatibility before sgreeing to a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take sugar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask up front. Not planning as such but I need to know do's and dont's.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

2 sweetners and milk please..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to have frank and funny conversations with prospective play mates socially first...not as a menu of requirements or to feel that we have a tick list of things to do but more as a general judge of compatibility...it all adds to building up the overall picture...and it's fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a good plan to know what the other persons likes and dislikes!

And I find it easier to say something's here than face to face!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but why would you even meet socially with someone who you share no sexual interests with in the first place?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

You should agree everything before getting in bed apart from anal. Don't mention that until you have breached the bomb bay doors, and are displaying your brown wings. Makes the ride far more turbulent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer establishing sexual compatibility before agreeing to meet

I prefer to establish coffee compatibility before sgreeing to a meet! "

Fap-fap-puccino

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luke has coffee, white with one sugar, tea for me please, white with 1 sweetener!! Many thanks

Ok we like build a rapport first then talk about likes/dislikes!! But we don't really plan what's going to happen on our meets unless I want to try something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask up front. Not planning as such but I need to know do's and dont's. "

Same here, after a few messages and if it looks like we are going to meet I tend to ask for 'dos and donts'

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Definitely before any agreement to meet is made! Though not right off the bat either, I can't stand convos that go 'hi how are you so what you into then '

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"You should agree everything before getting in bed apart from anal. Don't mention that until you have breached the bomb bay doors, and are displaying your brown wings. Makes the ride far more turbulent "

That works both ways right?

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

no different than asking how you like your eggs in the morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah its good to know the dos and don't just incase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no different than asking how you like your eggs in the morning "

Preferably unfertilised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make double sure people know what's on offer before a meet, because I have felt pressured into more at a meet, and as a single women, this can be quite off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should agree everything before getting in bed apart from anal. Don't mention that until you have breached the bomb bay doors, and are displaying your brown wings. Makes the ride far more turbulent "

Grab yer ankles and bite down on the satsuma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"talk about it first.. im not saying plan a meet with military precision but its important to know your gonna be singing off the same hymn sheet "

Does this mean I am supposed to give them a choice of songs??

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

No I don't think it's rude.

However, make sure they are telling the truth and not just agreeing with you just to get in your pants.

Had someone say how much he hated bum fun blah blah blah, next minute... Oops wrong hole Yeah of course Knob!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Brill response as usual

Recently i had both approches ....

"when we meet will you fuck me there and then and do.......... to me"

and

"when we meet can we discuss our likes and dislikes"

My way is dead simple - chat to flirt to social meet to re arrange to bed ; all as to follow the whole inquisitiveness of conversation along the way - nothing worse in my opinion to find out the he/she likes spreading marmite on your bits to get turned on; if your a veggie ..is it lol ....you get my drift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"talk about it first.. im not saying plan a meet with military precision but its important to know your gonna be singing off the same hymn sheet

Does this mean I am supposed to give them a choice of songs?? "

only song you sing is 'its begining to look a lot like.... '

Oh feck almost said it.. phewww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"talk about it first.. im not saying plan a meet with military precision but its important to know your gonna be singing off the same hymn sheet

Does this mean I am supposed to give them a choice of songs??

only song you sing is 'its begining to look a lot like.... '

Oh feck almost said it.. phewww "

nooooooooooooooo that's not true ...... I sang in my bestest voice in the forum today ..................

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I always make it clear that I don't drink tea or coffee but will make it for others if pressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"talk about it first.. im not saying plan a meet with military precision but its important to know your gonna be singing off the same hymn sheet "
Do you sing hymns before or after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"talk about it first.. im not saying plan a meet with military precision but its important to know your gonna be singing off the same hymn sheet Do you sing hymns before or after "

probably best not during

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