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"I’ve been a wheelchair user and honestly the last thing I’d want is to be fetishised for my disability. I’d suggest like everyone else most people want to be wanted for who they are and not because of a trait they cannot control. " Indeed | |||
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"I’ve been a wheelchair user and honestly the last thing I’d want is to be fetishised for my disability. I’d suggest like everyone else most people want to be wanted for who they are and not because of a trait they cannot control. Agreed my post was more tounge in cheek Just like me for me not my wheels "  | |||
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"Wish there was a female version of this good luck "There is I expect. I’d get messages on Facebook from people who professed to be “Devotees” which is the term the group use for people who have a disability fetish. I never looked further into it but obviously it must exist for all genders | |||
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"Wish there was a female version of this good luck
There is I expect. I’d get messages on Facebook from people who professed to be “Devotees” which is the term the group use for people who have a disability fetish. I never looked further into it but obviously it must exist for all genders"Literally nothing shocks me anymore thanks to what ive heard about through this forum. | |||
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"I don't think the OP ment he would prefer wheelchair users but was open to it. To me it sounded like if I can't attract a fit person I'll go for "Id hope he didn't mean that don't like to think if it was me I'd be last resort haha | |||
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"Each to there own I suppose I would hope people see past the chair as most of us just wanna be normal and easily manage in the bed You get the odd block after a chairs mentioned but Its not everyone cuppa " We'd agree with this. We clearly mention Mrs Y is a wheelchair user on our profile, but as you'd expect, not everyone reads this before getting in touch.  | |||
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"Each to there own I suppose I would hope people see past the chair as most of us just wanna be normal and easily manage in the bed You get the odd block after a chairs mentioned but Its not everyone cuppa We'd agree with this. We clearly mention Mrs Y is a wheelchair user on our profile, but as you'd expect, not everyone reads this before getting in touch. "I've tried both ways pics of my chair none pics I'm a confident normal bloke and sometimes you get sick of answering the same questions like a questionnaire but that's life | |||
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"I’ve been a wheelchair user and honestly the last thing I’d want is to be fetishised for my disability. I’d suggest like everyone else most people want to be wanted for who they are and not because of a trait they cannot control. " 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability." Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination " Debatable I’d say | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination Debatable I’d say" Everything is debatable. Doesn't mean the debate holds any merit. Two key things required for sexual contact are attraction and consent. You can't legislate for attraction and tell someone they aren't allowed to decline an invitation based on physical attributes. That's not discrimination. | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination Debatable I’d say Everything is debatable. Doesn't mean the debate holds any merit. Two key things required for sexual contact are attraction and consent. You can't legislate for attraction and tell someone they aren't allowed to decline an invitation based on physical attributes. That's not discrimination. " It absolutely isn’t. If I think someone has quite serious mental health issues I don’t want to meet them. Is that discrimination too? Are we supposed to meet anyone so as not to offend? | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination Debatable I’d say" Not really. People are allowed to have sex with whoever they want or don't want. | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination Debatable I’d say Not really. People are allowed to have sex with whoever they want or don't want." Edit. Consenting adults obviously. | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination Debatable I’d say Everything is debatable. Doesn't mean the debate holds any merit. Two key things required for sexual contact are attraction and consent. You can't legislate for attraction and tell someone they aren't allowed to decline an invitation based on physical attributes. That's not discrimination. It absolutely isn’t. If I think someone has quite serious mental health issues I don’t want to meet them. Is that discrimination too? Are we supposed to meet anyone so as not to offend? " Agreed. What about the many women on here who only choose to meet black guys. Is that discrimination against white guys? Nope, it's a preference. | |||
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"Think people over think things for example I have cerebral palsy Lucky I can feel move everything ect but I'm in a chair I don't have issues meeting people and most see past the chair However some can't .. I don't take personal After all it's physical .. so like any attraction (some don't like big ppl .. ginger hair ect not me btw ) So my advice to anyone is don't take it personal and move on to someone else it's not discrimination imo it's attraction imo " Exactly. Everyone’s different. Physical disabilities is different to me, I would meet someone. Mental, I wouldn’t. | |||
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"Hmm, well I see what people are saying but the definition of discrimination is: ‘the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people, especially on the grounds of ethnicity, age, sex, or disability’. So, if someone was presented with two identical twins & found them both sexually attractive but then one revealed that they were actually wheelchair bound & then they were suddenly no longer attractive in that person’s eyes that wouldn’t in anyway be discriminatory then?" ***** No. Fk sake 🙄 my eyes hurt now. Maybe listen to the person who is actually living this, he has stated he wants attraction and nothing else. People be grounded in reality. People know what they want sexually. What they need. What life they want. What partner they want. What capacity they have in life. Some people are wired for that lifestyle and some are not. Some are caregivers and supportive and some faint at the thought of a rag-nail. You shouldn't demonise self-awareness. Better to be honest than guilted in to a fake attraction because of intimidation or fear. Again, do you think a person is OBLIGED to? Do you think there is a single person living with a disability who would even be attracted in return if they sensed a person was discouraged? Give people the respect and dignity to choose their partner. Fkg hell what characteristic is next? Height? Weight? Sex? Sexuality? Stop policing attraction. | |||
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"Hmm, well I see what people are saying but the definition of discrimination is: ‘the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people, especially on the grounds of ethnicity, age, sex, or disability’. So, if someone was presented with two identical twins & found them both sexually attractive but then one revealed that they were actually wheelchair bound & then they were suddenly no longer attractive in that person’s eyes that wouldn’t in anyway be discriminatory then? ***** No. Fk sake 🙄 my eyes hurt now. Maybe listen to the person who is actually living this, he has stated he wants attraction and nothing else. People be grounded in reality. People know what they want sexually. What they need. What life they want. What partner they want. What capacity they have in life. Some people are wired for that lifestyle and some are not. Some are caregivers and supportive and some faint at the thought of a rag-nail. You shouldn't demonise self-awareness. Better to be honest than guilted in to a fake attraction because of intimidation or fear. Again, do you think a person is OBLIGED to? Do you think there is a single person living with a disability who would even be attracted in return if they sensed a person was discouraged? Give people the respect and dignity to choose their partner. Fkg hell what characteristic is next? Height? Weight? Sex? Sexuality? Stop policing attraction."  | |||
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"Hmm, well I see what people are saying but the definition of discrimination is: ‘the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people, especially on the grounds of ethnicity, age, sex, or disability’. So, if someone was presented with two identical twins & found them both sexually attractive but then one revealed that they were actually wheelchair bound & then they were suddenly no longer attractive in that person’s eyes that wouldn’t in anyway be discriminatory then? ***** No. Fk sake 🙄 my eyes hurt now. Maybe listen to the person who is actually living this, he has stated he wants attraction and nothing else. People be grounded in reality. People know what they want sexually. What they need. What life they want. What partner they want. What capacity they have in life. Some people are wired for that lifestyle and some are not. Some are caregivers and supportive and some faint at the thought of a rag-nail. You shouldn't demonise self-awareness. Better to be honest than guilted in to a fake attraction because of intimidation or fear. Again, do you think a person is OBLIGED to? Do you think there is a single person living with a disability who would even be attracted in return if they sensed a person was discouraged? Give people the respect and dignity to choose their partner. Fkg hell what characteristic is next? Height? Weight? Sex? Sexuality? Stop policing attraction." Well to be fair, you haven’t really answered the point. I agree on honesty though. I’m more attracted to Caucasians than other races. Most people ‘prefer’ their own races - a fact reflected in marriage statistics. Does this also make me discriminatory? I reckon so & I’m not going to be a hypocrite about it & hide exclusively under ‘personal preference’. Yeah, it might be ‘personal preference’, but it’s also discrimination in my eyes. The two aren’t mutually exclusive as far as I see. What else would you call it? Coincidence? | |||
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"Here's what the great googly woogly has to say: Whether turning down a person with a disability for sex is considered discriminatory is primarily a question of social ethics and personal choice, not legal discrimination under typical law [1]. Key considerations include: Personal Choice: Consenting to sexual activity is a fundamental personal right, and individuals are free to choose their partners for any non-prejudicial reasons, including lack of attraction, compatibility issues, or any other personal preference [1, 2]. The law generally protects the right of individuals to decide who they have sexual relationships with [2]. Lack of Legal Basis for Coerced Sexual Activity: Anti-discrimination laws (such as the Americans with Disabilities Act in the US or Equality Act in the UK) are designed to ensure equal access to employment, housing, public services, and accommodations, not to mandate personal relationships or sexual consent [1, 2]. There is no legal framework that compels sexual relationships. Ethical Considerations: While not legally discriminatory, a refusal could potentially be considered ethically or morally insensitive if the sole reason for the refusal is a prejudice against the person's disability rather than a genuine lack of attraction or other personal factor [1]. However, personal attraction is complex and subjective, not a basis for legal action. In summary, turning down a person with a disability for sex is not illegal discrimination. Sexual consent must always be freely given, and individuals maintain absolute discretion over their choice of sexual partners" Just about to say that in a different way.Glad you've saved me the trouble,it would have been a little more coarse. | |||
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"Wow this is a wheely intense conversation "Sorry I have a dark sense of humour there is no running away with it | |||
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"Wow this is a wheely intense conversation
Sorry I have a dark sense of humour there is no running away with it "Wheels roll right | |||
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" Well to be fair, you haven’t really answered the point. I agree on honesty though. I’m more attracted to Caucasians than other races. Most people ‘prefer’ their own races - a fact reflected in marriage statistics. Does this also make me discriminatory? I reckon so & I’m not going to be a hypocrite about it & hide exclusively under ‘personal preference’. Yeah, it might be ‘personal preference’, but it’s also discrimination in my eyes. The two aren’t mutually exclusive as far as I see. What else would you call it? Coincidence?" ******* Oh I'm fairly certain I've answered it really really thoroughly. You just don't see it the same and you have your own feelings on it all. And that's entirely your privilege but feelings aren't facts. | |||
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" Well to be fair, you haven’t really answered the point. I agree on honesty though. I’m more attracted to Caucasians than other races. Most people ‘prefer’ their own races - a fact reflected in marriage statistics. Does this also make me discriminatory? I reckon so & I’m not going to be a hypocrite about it & hide exclusively under ‘personal preference’. Yeah, it might be ‘personal preference’, but it’s also discrimination in my eyes. The two aren’t mutually exclusive as far as I see. What else would you call it? Coincidence? ******* Oh I'm fairly certain I've answered it really really thoroughly. You just don't see it the same and you have your own feelings on it all. And that's entirely your privilege but feelings aren't facts." Well, those google ‘facts’ actually contradict themselves if you look hard enough. I could point out where but I haven’t got the time to debate this all day, so we will agree to disagree. | |||
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" Well, those google ‘facts’ actually contradict themselves if you look hard enough. I could point out where but I haven’t got the time to debate this all day, so we will agree to disagree." They really don't but I'm not your teacher 🫡 enjoy your day. | |||
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"I think the problem here is that you had an experience with a wheelchair user. Liked it, gave her what she needed which is probably a hell of a lot more than others because whether we agree or not, disabled people are often marginalised and treated differently. She clearly felt a connection, wanted more which you can't give. So instead of working on yourself and whether you could offer more or be clearer or not give mixed messages when meeting with someone, you've decided that you have a bit of a kink for it and now you are fetishising wheelchair users to recreate a sexual encounter you had with a women who caught feelings for you...... Not a good look fella." Along with the fact that its posed (along with another poster) like it was doing the person a favour. Disabled people don’t want to be anyone’s pity fuck | |||
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but who am I to judge
Rather U fell for my big ears than a chair haha
Maybe I should start a only fans or whatever Its called | |||
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"For the record I think having a disability fetish is strange but who am I to judge
Rather U fell for my big ears than a chair haha
Maybe I should start a only fans or whatever Its called"Do it. I started SW to cover the extra costs having long term illness and/or disability incurs and when ppl fetishise certain aspects if who you are. Cash in on it. Full support | |||
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"For the record I think having a disability fetish is strange but who am I to judge
Rather U fell for my big ears than a chair haha
Maybe I should start a only fans or whatever Its called
Do it. I started SW to cover the extra costs having long term illness and/or disability incurs and when ppl fetishise certain aspects if who you are. Cash in on it. Full support "Haha I wouldn't no where to start | |||
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"Glad someone isn't around or we would never hear the end of this." • That person isn't stupid; they are acutely aware of those not-so-hidden snipes, and the fact they don't need to log in to view the forums. Thankfully they have a lot more dignity and good grace to acknowledge any dubious subtexts. | |||
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"Glad someone isn't around or we would never hear the end of this. • That person isn't stupid; they are acutely aware of those not-so-hidden snipes, and the fact they don't need to log in to view the forums. Thankfully they have a lot more dignity and good grace to acknowledge any dubious subtexts." They haven't been on the site (active) for four months plus. | |||
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"It’s wrong to discriminate, we all have the same sexual desires and need. I see the person, not the disability. Not wanting to have sex with a wheelchair user isn't discrimination " I can definitely be want to say that I do agree with that as long as you’re nice about it it’s not discriminating | |||
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