FabSwingers.com forum: Attractive?

By *ovelybum OP Couple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Why would you describe yourself as such on your profile? Aren't we all attractive to some and not to others? We know we have have described ourselves as sexy

but is a such a turn off for us when we see on someone's profile "we are very attractive and looking for the same".

What are your views on that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is attractive to everyone but some people are attractive to a wider cross section than others.

Me ? I am happy knowing I am a niche market and would never describe myself as attractive. If others want to believe I am then all is well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is people are entitled to write whatever they want on their profile…!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Isn't it better than 'ugly people stay away! ??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've seen that before too. It does have an air of arrogance about it and I would never contact anyone who said it because one of their criteria is indefinable and I have no way of knowing if we meet it.

As with all profiles it tells you about the author and gives you a good idea if they're people you would want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because putting 'face like a smacked arse' never gets you more meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you describe yourself as such on your profile? Aren't we all attractive to some and not to others? We know we have have described ourselves as sexy

but is a such a turn off for us when we see on someone's profile "we are very attractive and looking for the same".

What are your views on that?

You describe yourself as having a _ovelybum

And indeed you do

Are you looking for an equally nice arse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because putting 'face like a smacked arse' never gets you more meets.

Ohh don't know worked for me

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Its the same as the ones that say 'only attractive people need apply'... How on earth does that work! Someone who is attractive to one may be the opposite to another! So how do reply to such a profile when you have no idea of what they find attractive? I tend to ignore them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view is people are entitled to write whatever they want on their profile…!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What Soxy said... I'd rather read that someone thinks they're attractive than a heavy cummer though! *vomits*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I describe myself as curvy, some probably would say fat as im abt 16 stone I think. Ive put on some weight since my last pic, gone to the belly and the boobs.

Wouldnt describe myself as attractive, smacks of bigging yourself up I think. People will have their own opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am what I am ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not think it is any different to describing yourself as sexy, or saying part of you is "lovely", both of which you do on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont see the point, if you have a face pic, but at least you know not to contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah agreed. It's so subjective.

Most of the time on here though, I'm attractive means, i go to the gym!

Not everyone just likes gym bunnies.

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"No one is attractive to everyone but some people are attractive to a wider cross section than others.

Me ? I am happy knowing I am a niche market and would never describe myself as attractive. If others want to believe I am then all is well

this.

Good grief, Bussy spoke some sense at last

I have seen "Only attractive couples/singles contact us" and that is up to them and does not bother me at all, and automatically makes me think these are the beautiful people I've heard of.

However, I'm still looking for the profile that says 'Only fat munters apply'

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"No one is attractive to everyone but some people are attractive to a wider cross section than others.

Me ? I am happy knowing I am a niche market and would never describe myself as attractive. If others want to believe I am then all is well

this.

Good grief, Bussy spoke some sense at last

I have seen "Only attractive couples/singles contact us" and that is up to them and does not bother me at all, and automatically makes me think these are the beautiful people I've heard of.

However, I'm still looking for the profile that says 'Only fat munters apply'

Haha!! I'd never reply to an ad that asked for attractive people... when you put it like that it makes me cringe a bit. I don't think I'm unattractive but I'd never say that either! Haha... it's a minefield!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can label yourself attractive if you want

its the other person thats gotta agree with that statement if ur gonna get it on

and in the wider scope yeh we are all attractive to someone. but some get bigger audiences than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree that's y we choose to go on personality rather than looks cuz it would be pretty boring if they couldn't string a convo up hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree that's y we choose to go on personality rather than looks cuz it would be pretty boring if they couldn't string a convo up hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree that's y we choose to go on personality rather than looks cuz it would be pretty boring if they couldn't string a convo up hehe

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt."

Perhaps I could buck the trend by describing myself as fat?

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt."

May be a shot putter? Aren't they athletes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is attractive to everyone!

It's very much down to personal taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is attractive to everyone but some people are attractive to a wider cross section than others.

Me ? I am happy knowing I am a niche market and would never describe myself as attractive. If others want to believe I am then all is well

I think you're attractive.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I don't find it attractive to be "up" oneself !!! Lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt.

May be a shot putter? Aren't they athletes

Well I was thinking of a word beginning with 'sh'.

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By *ovelybum OP Couple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"I do not think it is any different to describing yourself as sexy, or saying part of you is "lovely", both of which you do on your profile."

We do find a difference between sexy and attractive and as for the" lovely"part of our profile name,it was suggested to us by friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt.

May be a shot putter? Aren't they athletes

Well I was thinking of a word beginning with 'sh'.

Are they the ones that walk around town in track suits and trainers like they are just waiting for the starting gun for an elephantine hundred yard dash ?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think i've put ' attractive' on my profile

Personally I know I'm not everyones taste and wouldn't assume that anyone would think i was attractive

But I applaud people with the confidence to put it on though

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

cant see how its any different to describing yourself as 'sexy'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cant see how its any different to describing yourself as 'sexy'

Oh now sexy I am

Albeit in my head when Im Beyonce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even the plainest looking woman is transformed by a cheeky smile as it reveals the beauty within !.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"No one is attractive to everyone but some people are attractive to a wider cross section than others.

Me ? I am happy knowing I am a niche market and would never describe myself as attractive. If others want to believe I am then all is well

I think you're attractive.

Serious flirting alert!

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt.

May be a shot putter? Aren't they athletes

Well I was thinking of a word beginning with 'sh'.

and ending in 'itter'??

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"cant see how its any different to describing yourself as 'sexy'

Oh now sexy I am

Albeit in my head when Im Beyonce

I do say I can be sexy, but that's mainly when I'm in the 'moment'.

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By *ovelybum OP Couple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"cant see how its any different to describing yourself as 'sexy'

Somewhere there is where we draw the line between confidence and arrogance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cant see how its any different to describing yourself as 'sexy'

Oh now sexy I am

Albeit in my head when Im Beyonce

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By *ovelybum OP Couple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt."

Been called very modest a few times by describing our body types as average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or you could replace it with "if you think I am out of your league, then I probably am, don't bother messaging."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You see it in a lot of profiles. I think it's because we don't really know what to put in a profile.

Some people just don't know how to discribe themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put athletic as i'm not slim, I have muscles some bigger than others ;-0 and although not a gym bunny am toned. Have seen some put athletic and they may have been 20 years ago since then only weightlifting has been the greggs shopping bags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a face only a mother could love haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the ones who say they are athletic with a belly hanging below their belt.

Been called very modest a few times by describing our body types as average

I agree with that tho, your definitely not average. I used to have slim until someone told me I'm athletic and should change it.. I only jog and don't do weights so I don't really agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand if one is told by others that they are attractive, where is the harm in saying it on one's profile?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I only go by what I find attractive - not what someone tells me about themselves or others. And, likewise, I would expect other people to do the same with me - especially if reading my veris. That's why, if I am interested in someone, I send a pic early on in our chats as they can make a decision whether or not they want to continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only go by what I find attractive - not what someone tells me about themselves or others. And, likewise, I would expect other people to do the same with me - especially if reading my veris. That's why, if I am interested in someone, I send a pic early on in our chats as they can make a decision whether or not they want to continue."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is about personality too . If you instantly find a person physically unattractive then your never going to have a desire to get to know them better . Decent looks are only a starting point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I see words such as attractive, sexy, hot, average, slim, curvy, hung VWE, busty etc. used by people to described themselves - whilst I totally respect their opinion of themselves and their right to describe themselves exactly how they see fit - I prefer to form my own opinion based on their picture content!!

In the majority of cases I tend to find myself either totally agreeing with them or laughing hysterically and considering referring them to their local branch of specsavers!!

And for those with no pictures at all - I find myself rapidly moving on to the next profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because putting 'face like a smacked arse' never gets you more meets.

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Try face like a bulldog chewing a thistle, lol.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Hmmm... I have a list of descriptives on my profile... I'm pretty sure that I'm all of those things and I don't have a problem saying them out loud. I do have a problem saying words like 'sexy' or 'attractive' because I think that's something for people looking in to decide for themselves. I know I'm irreverent and contrary, not always things other people pick up immediately. The things that they can see from photos or what I've written are their descriptives of me. That makes sense in my head.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Because putting 'face like a smacked arse' never gets you more meets.

Try face like a bulldog chewing a thistle, lol. "

Or - face like a bag of spanners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see words such as attractive, sexy, hot, average, slim, curvy, hung VWE, busty etc. used by people to described themselves - whilst I totally respect their opinion of themselves and their right to describe themselves exactly how they see fit - I prefer to form my own opinion based on their picture content!!

In the majority of cases I tend to find myself either totally agreeing with them or laughing hysterically and considering referring them to their local branch of specsavers!!

And for those with no pictures at all - I find myself rapidly moving on to the next profile! "

As usual, the voice of reason Obi.

I totally agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the majority of cases I tend to find myself either totally agreeing with them or laughing hysterically and considering referring them to their local branch of specsavers!!

And for those with no pictures at all - I find myself rapidly moving on to the next profile!

As usual, the voice of reason Obi.

I totally agree with you."

As usual??

Jeez - I need to revisit my crazy, wild side! I'll get a friggin reputation at this rate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an attractively saggy bum and it seems to have drawn attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do not think it is any different to describing yourself as sexy, or saying part of you is "lovely", both of which you do on your profile.

We do find a difference between sexy and attractive and as for the" lovely"part of our profile name,it was suggested to us by friends

What if those people who have described themselves as attractive have also been told that by friends and therefore they've used it - is that any different to what you have done.

If people believe themselves to be attractive and put that on their profile then good for them. There is nothing wrong in believing in yourself. Its got nothing to do with anyone else and those who agree with the profile will choose to meet them.

I can't remember if my OH wrote attractive on ours, I don't ever read our profile and haven't changed it for 2 years, but I believe I am attractive. I'm not the most beautiful woman on here but Im not like the back end of a bus either, so attractive to me is an honest interpretation. I couldn't give a damn if others agree. Those who do will contact me. It's the same with every one of us.

And I don't believe either OP that you are modest and you describe yourself in the way you have cos others have suggested it. You believe it yourself, so why shouldn't others

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By *ntandbreeCouple
over a year ago

East London/Essex

Theres a thin line between belief in oneself and disillusion (Tread carefully)- one man's food is another man's poison , beauty is in the eye of the beholder - what you may deem to be an attractive quality may be the exact reason someone reached for the block button.

There's some good for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile is an advert, you wouldn't say you are ugly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view is people are entitled to write whatever they want on their profile…!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For you its off putting but for someone else it might show confidence , which is attractive to most people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go by a persons mannerisms myself( nette)..that a down to earth sort genuine company goes a long way with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For you its off putting but for someone else it might show confidence , which is attractive to most people "

Thats true, but a lot of men who say they are attractive, dont look attractive to me.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd never say I'm attractive, nor would I ever say I'm convincing - it is up to them to decide if I am attractive or convincing

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