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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On the back of the pocket money thread and salaries earnt yonks ago

When I was earning £520 a year

yes I'm that old lol!! I paid my mum £10 a month..........

Is the going rate the same 25% of salary paid to parents for housekeeping? Don't think my kids paid that more like 20%..........

What do people think it should be?

I know about saving up to move out, but if parents can I'm sure they save some of it to give back when they move out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£100 a month she thinks its too much i thinks it should be double xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my son lives with me rent free since moving back from Dublin... he earns his keep by cooking for me and babysitting his younger brother lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our boys are 24 and 20, both at uni, both have part time jobs, but up to now we have not received a penny off either of them. In fact we still subsidise them.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

My daughter has just returned from Wales, shes already costing me more than I can afford and she hasn't paid a penny, when shes got her Jobseekers sorted she wants to give me £20 a week!!! She's just got to go find a place of her own SOON!!!!!

As I said in a previous post I gave my mum 2/3rds of my wage.

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love


"our boys are 24 and 20, both at uni, both have part time jobs, but up to now we have not received a penny off either of them. In fact we still subsidise them. "

You will be subsidizing them all there life LOL as we are doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to hand over half my wages no matter how much or how little I earned and I still had to do all the housework and collect my brother from school and pay for my own food didnt leave much from £40 per week I can tell you.

Hubby only paid £30 a week and his mum did all the washing shopping and housework ohh and he was making over £100 a week so it just shows the different styles of parenting we had

When my kids get old enough to work I will only charge them enough to cover their leccy and gas cos teenagers tend not to eat at home only sleep

Shona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i moved back to my parents house two years ago for a few months she wanted a tenth of my salary per month. Considering when i last stayed with them about 14 years prior i gave them £50 pm i had to fork out £175 pm this time

Inflation i tell yie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daughter number 3 has recently moved out but when she was here, she paid 1/3 of her take home pay for rent ... £200 a month. She knew she was getting a bargain so never complained - where else can you get a place to live, all in for £50 a week? She now pays £400 a month as her share of the flat she and her fiance live in. They're doing fine but it was a shock to their system how much everything really cost.

I remember her talking about her council tax bill with me just before she moved out "It says £95 here mum - is that per year?" Her face was a picture when I said that would be per month! I don't think it does young adults any favours to let them off too lightly - it's only a bigger shock when they eventually have to stand on their own two feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i lived at home i paid £20.00 per week to my parents and that was in 1984.at the mo we only have our son living with us hes in full time work and 22 and he pays £20.00 per week but he also helps out with gas,lecy and phone bills and even buys some shopping.he his happy with what he pays and when he does move out he has a fair idea of just how expecive running a house is

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Youngest lad is 19 and still at home, starts uni on the 1st of February, he has been sat here since college finished last May and not done a thing except online gaming.

He's sat on 60 grand in the bank (accident compensation) and doesn't pay a penny. karen wouldn't have it any other way. Strange how mothers are suckers for their kids

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When i left school i was on a YTS and earnt £25 i gave my mum £10. Callum isnt working unfortunatly and is on jobseekers or what ever its called and gives his dad £50 a fortnight out of it and complains. I say well if you lived here it would be double. Yes i would put some of it buy for when he left but i think we should learn them to budget. I love it when callum comes to stay and of cause i dont worry about how much it costs me but i wouldnt be able to do it over a long period of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my son is far to young yet to pay rent (he's only 11) though I have already started to teach him the cost of living as i sit him down each week and he helps figure out cost of electric etc and food and hes now getting better than me at finding bargains when we go food shopping! I think you have to teach them young or they'll end up like my mothered brother and still be living at home at 27 and not have a bloody clue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if curious that nobody has mentioned the joy of still being needed long after their kids are old enough to take care of themselves.

We had both mums and dads here for Xmas and both sets of parents wanted to 'assist' with the cost of it. I said to both of them, "who paid for us all those years ago?"

They said, "It doesn't matter. We're still your parents."

What am I trying to say here?

In a pwrfect world we wouldn't take board from our kids so long as they saved the money for a down payment on a house or put themselves through Uni, but its' not an ideal world and families have to plan the only way they can. If someone upsets that apple cart then problems arise.

I hope I've done enough while I'm fit and healthy (ladies: take note at that ) that my children won't need to tap into my retirement fund to meet expenses that they have not planned for..... but as a parent... well, ... it's gonna be there for them isn't it, I've planned for that too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I find if curious that nobody has mentioned the joy of still being needed long after their kids are old enough to take care of themselves.

We had both mums and dads here for Xmas and both sets of parents wanted to 'assist' with the cost of it. I said to both of them, "who paid for us all those years ago?"

They said, "It doesn't matter. We're still your parents."

What am I trying to say here?

In a pwrfect world we wouldn't take board from our kids so long as they saved the money for a down payment on a house or put themselves through Uni, but its' not an ideal world and families have to plan the only way they can. If someone upsets that apple cart then problems arise.

I hope I've done enough while I'm fit and healthy (ladies: take note at that ) that my children won't need to tap into my retirement fund to meet expenses that they have not planned for..... but as a parent... well, ... it's gonna be there for them isn't it, I've planned for that too. "

My mum and stepdad are quite comfortable now, they have both worked all there lives and still do, both get there pension and the house is paid for. There both still fit and healthy and i say to my mum, just spend it and enjoy it i dont want any of it just make sure you leave enough for your funeral lol. Its there money so why should i expect to get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both me and my brother gave my mum board each week. What we did'nt know was mum used to save it gave it back to us when we both left home. Nice little nest egg to start our new lives with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum and stepdad are quite comfortable now, they have both worked all there lives and still do, both get there pension and the house is paid for. There both still fit and healthy and i say to my mum, just spend it and enjoy it i dont want any of it just make sure you leave enough for your funeral lol. Its there money so why should i expect to get it"

I can understand that sweetheart, but we still feel like parents all of our lives. That's what we are when we have kids. And when we shuffle off this mortal coil we like to think we can leave something tangible that will continue to help them. We know full well that the memories they hold are priceless but I would consider it a job well done if I gave my kids both of those things at the end of my days.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"My mum and stepdad are quite comfortable now, they have both worked all there lives and still do, both get there pension and the house is paid for. There both still fit and healthy and i say to my mum, just spend it and enjoy it i dont want any of it just make sure you leave enough for your funeral lol. Its there money so why should i expect to get it

I can understand that sweetheart, but we still feel like parents all of our lives. That's what we are when we have kids. And when we shuffle off this mortal coil we like to think we can leave something tangible that will continue to help them. We know full well that the memories they hold are priceless but I would consider it a job well done if I gave my kids both of those things at the end of my days."

Yes and i understand where your coming from but as the child i dont want it. Now if you ask me if there will be a bit put buy for callum then of cause there will. My great aunt who died last year aged 96 was one of the most wise women i knew. She had never had children and was well off. She did leave quite a bit in her will but what she also did is if a family member needed help, she would give them it and then take them from the will. So she was giving them it as they needed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my son was here , and working.

He moaned at giving me £30 a week.

But as a single mom who often struggled i had no choice.

If he were here now i wouldnt have a penny.

Be worth it just to see him again .

Money aint everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...So she was giving them it as they needed it"

..and alleviating the tax burden on her estate because if she outlived the gift by 7 years it is not included in deathe dues. Smart woman.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"...So she was giving them it as they needed it

..and alleviating the tax burden on her estate because if she outlived the gift by 7 years it is not included in deathe dues. Smart woman."

Yes and another reason was in case she had to go into a home and they took all her money thankfully that never happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my son was here , and working.

He moaned at giving me £30 a week.

But as a single mom who often struggled i had no choice.

If he were here now i wouldnt have a penny.

Be worth it just to see him again .

Money aint everything "

See now that's my point exactly. My family are down south and when we go down to see them it's more like an invasion than a visit. We eat their food, sleep in their house and use their elecricity... but will my mum have a penny off us? No fookin chance!

Yet they expected me to take money from them when they were here.

We start of helpless, bald and unable to walk or talk and someone has to take care of us....

...and we end up helpless, bald and unable to walk or talk and HOPE someone takes care of us...

....ALL I'M DOING IS HEDGING MY BETS LOL X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...So she was giving them it as they needed it

..and alleviating the tax burden on her estate because if she outlived the gift by 7 years it is not included in deathe dues. Smart woman.

Yes and another reason was in case she had to go into a home and they took all her money thankfully that never happened"

Good for her. I applaud anyone who knows the system and makes it work for them.

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