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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over

Do you sometimes look at a profile and reads like a long rules list of don't this, don't that and just full or negative stuff? I appreciate telling someone what you like and don't like or is not acceptable to you but having just that and nothing else on? It just creates a picture of a rather negative person that would not want to meet, not even socially. Then you get the 'been here before, know the score' or fakes and timewasters stay away' (as if they would listen) or even listing names of timewasters. Each to their own of course and can write their profile as they wish and maybe they have a good rrason to fo so - I am sure some think mine is dire- but I just think writing in a more positive tone, including telling stuff about you as well as what you are looking for, is just better. Obviously just my opinion and no offence meant to anyone.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
28 weeks ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve absolutely no business talking about someone’s profile when mine is so sparse. I do use the profile text of others an indicator of whether they are likely to be any fun though.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

It’s just another filter. I’ll let them crack on…

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By *enial PandaMan
28 weeks ago

Globetrotting

I'd rather see it all up front than see a profile that says nothing and you then have to drag information out of them.

Its a useful filter.

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By *viatrixWoman
28 weeks ago

Gatwick

Live and let live. To each their own and if I don’t like a profike, I just scroll away….

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By *ORBCouple
28 weeks ago

Dundalk

Ours has lots of things we aren't interested in but it's done in a light-hearted way.

It doesn't seem to put people off from telling us how good they are at the things we aren't interested in.

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By *asualfridayMan
28 weeks ago

Highlands


"Live and let live. To each their own and if I don’t like a profike, I just scroll away…. "

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By *r SensualMan
28 weeks ago

London

I avoid avoid avoid these profiles at all costs. The way to entice me (personally) is a profile that says what they ARE looking for as well as what’s on offer, what’s being provided in return should we hit it off, what do they like etc?

But as said before they’re just a useful filter more than anything else

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
28 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

As someone with an inherently negative profile, I'm happy for it to keep people away 💜

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
28 weeks ago

kent

The only guiding principle for our profile is to reflect - a little bit - the kind of people we are. What other people choose to do is none of our business, but if the subtext is ‘stay away’ then we’re happy to oblige x

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By *ootyfruityCouple
28 weeks ago

andover

It’s quite hard to write a decent profile…..we’ve tried to say what we can offer whilst making it clear what we don’t want, as of yet, no fab meets 😂

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By *ad NannaWoman
28 weeks ago

East London

Doesn't matter why I wrote on my profile, the majority of people didn't read it, or did read it and ignored what I wrote.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over

Thanks fir posting. It is definately hard to strike that right balance, showcasing yourself, fending off those that will not be a good much, injecting fun and humour and staying positive. Whatever you seek, I hope you find

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By *estructionDollyWoman
28 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I feel called out 😅

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By *ature housewifeWoman
28 weeks ago

Glasgow

When I was actively looking for new meets, I put a great deal of effort into the blurb on my profile...only because I thought it would help men understand why they had been blocked after messaging me.

I did try to keep it positive, trying to focus more on what I was looking for rather than list the things I was not into/looking for.

Made absolutely no difference. Despite clearly not being compatible, men would still message stating they are the exception to the rule....

I very quickly learned that men seem to just look at the profile pics and hit 'message'...while unzipping and having a wee fiddle while thinking about a meet while typing out a message.

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By *issmorganWoman
28 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi MB, I'd prefer a bio with more writing on, than one with 2 lines.

Something that gives me an idea about them and what they are into/not into.

I'd take one that has a list of dislikes etc over a blank one everytime.

My profile is quite clear and so I like a bit of effort from others.

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By *tannersMan
28 weeks ago

stanley

[Removed by poster at 29/10/25 10:49:58]

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"When I was actively looking for new meets, I put a great deal of effort into the blurb on my profile...only because I thought it would help men understand why they had been blocked after messaging me.

I did try to keep it positive, trying to focus more on what I was looking for rather than list the things I was not into/looking for.

Made absolutely no difference. Despite clearly not being compatible, men would still message stating they are the exception to the rule....

I very quickly learned that men seem to just look at the profile pics and hit 'message'...while unzipping and having a wee fiddle while thinking about a meet while typing out a message.

"

That made me laugh but probably very true too.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"Hi MB, I'd prefer a bio with more writing on, than one with 2 lines.

Something that gives me an idea about them and what they are into/not into.

I'd take one that has a list of dislikes etc over a blank one everytime.

My profile is quite clear and so I like a bit of effort from others."

Makes, perfect sence

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By *arleycplWoman
28 weeks ago

Frodsham

My profile is mine and if someone does not like it I don't care

Marie

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
28 weeks ago

Didcot


"Do you sometimes look at a profile and reads like a long rules list of don't this, don't that and just full or negative stuff? I appreciate telling someone what you like and don't like or is not acceptable to you but having just that and nothing else on? It just creates a picture of a rather negative person that would not want to meet, not even socially. Then you get the 'been here before, know the score' or fakes and timewasters stay away' (as if they would listen) or even listing names of timewasters. Each to their own of course and can write their profile as they wish and maybe they have a good rrason to fo so - I am sure some think mine is dire- but I just think writing in a more positive tone, including telling stuff about you as well as what you are looking for, is just better. Obviously just my opinion and no offence meant to anyone. "

Unfortunately I found it necessary to put the negative stuff up front in the first few lines, that is because men on here and Fabguys seem incapable of reading past the first couple of lines.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Cheshire

Our approach is to attempt to create an honest & balanced profile. Too much of the utterly fabulous is just bragging.

Not enough honesty about what you don't want gets you a string of messages from those that aren't going to match what you hope for.

There's nothing wrong with just being politely honest.

A list of don't wants, could mean a person has been badly burned before. Enough bad experiences surely makes a person want to say more about what they don't like, to avoid being in a similar situation again.

Just an opinion. Trying to look at it from all sides.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"Do you sometimes look at a profile and reads like a long rules list of don't this, don't that and just full or negative stuff? I appreciate telling someone what you like and don't like or is not acceptable to you but having just that and nothing else on? It just creates a picture of a rather negative person that would not want to meet, not even socially. Then you get the 'been here before, know the score' or fakes and timewasters stay away' (as if they would listen) or even listing names of timewasters. Each to their own of course and can write their profile as they wish and maybe they have a good rrason to fo so - I am sure some think mine is dire- but I just think writing in a more positive tone, including telling stuff about you as well as what you are looking for, is just better. Obviously just my opinion and no offence meant to anyone.

Unfortunately I found it necessary to put the negative stuff up front in the first few lines, that is because men on here and Fabguys seem incapable of reading past the first couple of lines."

Whatever works for someone best is right for them

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"Our approach is to attempt to create an honest & balanced profile. Too much of the utterly fabulous is just bragging.

Not enough honesty about what you don't want gets you a string of messages from those that aren't going to match what you hope for.

There's nothing wrong with just being politely honest.

A list of don't wants, could mean a person has been badly burned before. Enough bad experiences surely makes a person want to say more about what they don't like, to avoid being in a similar situation again.

Just an opinion. Trying to look at it from all sides."

I think that is quite a balanced approach that includes everything rather than just ghe 'negative' stuff only.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

personally my profile changes a lot... then again i find it hard to describe myself.

I usually find though, it doesnt matter what i write either negative or positive... i get mailed anyway... i could have in big letters i onyl want single guys... but i still get the married ones messaging me... or the guys seeking a submissive etc etc...

It's each to their own what they put on a profile. However, i use it as an extra filter to see if would someone what get along or not.

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By *hilloutMan
28 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Long, ranty profiles that seem quite jaded with it all put me off. I just avoid.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"personally my profile changes a lot... then again i find it hard to describe myself.

I usually find though, it doesnt matter what i write either negative or positive... i get mailed anyway... i could have in big letters i onyl want single guys... but i still get the married ones messaging me... or the guys seeking a submissive etc etc...

It's each to their own what they put on a profile. However, i use it as an extra filter to see if would someone what get along or not. "

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"Long, ranty profiles that seem quite jaded with it all put me off. I just avoid. "

Happy days

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By *aughtydealcoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal


"Doesn't matter why I wrote on my profile, the majority of people didn't read it, or did read it and ignored what I wrote."

Glad its not only us that has this issue

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By *ink vixenCouple
28 weeks ago

Medway

It’s another one of Fabs great unintended filters.

Get about 4 lines in and get the feel and move on.

ALSO AS SOON AS WE SEE CAPITALS!

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Motherwell

I made my profile intentionally verbose to create a very good filter and to be very clear on the type of person I am looking for. After 15 years on fab it has served me very well. Mx 👿

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By *vaRoseWoman
28 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Mine has shrunk and become more blunt over time 🤣 still doesn’t work 🤣🤣🤣

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By *ace400Man
28 weeks ago

near knock

My profile is short as don’t really know what to post

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By *ellinever70Woman
28 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I'm enjoying being amused by the very clearly AI generated profile text, where it's obvious that the user wants to portray themselves in a particular way

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By *tu.xMan
28 weeks ago

around

If you see a list and its not for you put red flag on it and move on

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
28 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm here for fun, not for drama or negativity.

However not every negative profile belongs to a negative person, the lovely Prey above is one of those & I love her negative profile.

After having my singles profile I can totally see why so many are negative - even with my profile header as "this profile is allergic to penis" the penis were still persistent.

Mrs

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
28 weeks ago

All over


"I'm here for fun, not for drama or negativity.

However not every negative profile belongs to a negative person, the lovely Prey above is one of those & I love her negative profile.

After having my singles profile I can totally see why so many are negative - even with my profile header as "this profile is allergic to penis" the penis were still persistent.

Mrs "

sure

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