FabSwingers.com forum: Being called a slut :(

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies if you was called a slut during a chat on here how would it make u feel?

I was called a greedy slut yesterday and it has upset me a little, not sure which why u r supposed to take something like that !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't like it at all.

I blame lads mags myself

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Okay seriously .....

No. I don't like it. I don't know why men do it. There's probably a myriad of different reasons ranging from stimulation to lack of esteem to a slightly sadist streak not to mention just not knowing how to behave....

There's been times when i've liked it .... guess it's a time, a place , a state of mind.

In general.... ive shut down messages and chat for less.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Ladies if you was called a slut during a chat on here how would it make u feel?

I was called a greedy slut yesterday and it has upset me a little, not sure which why u r supposed to take something like that ! "

You are not. If it was someone who knew you well, depending on the context, and it was said in jest then it might be acceptable. But from a total stranger on a website it is unacceptable. However, that's just how I feel. Other people may feel differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate it .......... no matter how sexy men find it ..... if I was called it I would be calling them a name ,Like Dick head as there cocks ruling there head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think perhaps Slapper has a certain jovial connotation thats found lacking in the term Slut….

But...hey.........maybe thats because I'm an old slapper....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think perhaps Slapper has a certain jovial connotation thats found lacking in the term Slut….

But...hey.........maybe thats because I'm an old slapper....

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no your lovely and fun ... see I can tell from your posts , lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never call a woman a I was interested in a slut, after all, should we end up in bed together if I'm only good enough for 'sluts' then that really doesn't say much for my calibre does it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That is kinda how I feel about the word slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you was called a slut during a chat on here how would it make u feel?

I was called a greedy slut yesterday and it has upset me a little, not sure which why u r supposed to take something like that ! "
You dont take it. And it would upset me too, Ive been lucky never been called that, the way we might behave on a meet to the way we behave at a social would be totally different in my opinion. Socials for me would be a bit flirty, chatty, on a meet well im a bit shy, but if people want to behave a bit slutty on a meet if that suits both sides then why not but if not then not. He sounds like a pratt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you was called a slut during a chat on here how would it make u feel?

I was called a greedy slut yesterday and it has upset me a little, not sure which why u r supposed to take something like that !

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Someone called me a cunt the other day... I sort of found that pretty offensive.

I dare say it would depend on the context and who said it. A random I think I'd move along, in a sexual situation with someone you know/trust is a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone called me a cunt the other day... I sort of found that pretty offensive.

I dare say it would depend on the context and who said it. A random I think I'd move along, in a sexual situation with someone you know/trust is a different matter. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how well you know them, I wouldn't walk up to someone in the street and say hello slut, just like I wouldn't message someone.

But if after you've met and it's kind of a playful or naughty thing then yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually don't mind it if its said in the right context. If someone on here said it in a first message they would find themselves with a gobful from Ruby and a place on my block list.

The word slag though makes me itch, if someone calls me it they should have running shoes on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have never chatted slutty. Acted slutty I am in fact quiet shy

Even when we have had meets both social and for fun it has always been nice and relaxed and chilled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually don't mind it if its said in the right context. If someone on here said it in a first message they would find themselves with a gobful from Ruby and a place on my block list.

The word slag though makes me itch, if someone calls me it they should have running shoes on! "
slag , whore are not on my turn on list ....... Thay turn me off BIG TIME.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather a contradiction in terms. They probably said that because you said no, so that proves you're not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never chatted slutty. Acted slutty I am in fact quiet shy

Even when we have had meets both social and for fun it has always been nice and relaxed and chilled.

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Im a bit like this. I like to think im relaxed etc on meets but got told once by a guy in msg that he thinks im not relaxed sexually. Its because I know im not experienced enough sexually for guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone called me a cunt the other day... I sort of found that pretty offensive.

I dare say it would depend on the context and who said it. A random I think I'd move along, in a sexual situation with someone you know/trust is a different matter. "

It took me a while to get used to the Mrs enjoying me using words like that while we were playing as I always saw it as offensive,however if anyone else was to call her that she'd knock him out before I got the chance to lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Did I mention I have a hat on ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gwanny that’s a stunning example of the milliners craft…..and I doff my cap in your direction

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

My experience is, many ladies call themselves slut on here , there is often a thread asking how slutty are you ? With many replies . As suggested context is key but in essence the word on this site is a compliment or certainly could be taken as such , as with many words the intent and context are vastly more relevant than the word itself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being called a tart is quite an endearing term on sites like this,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a time and a place and its not during a chat with someone you have not met...wouldn't be for me anyway

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I almost feel I'm the last on here who should comment, but my username may invite such input.

In general, from strangers, it's reasonable to assume that it's an insult. If people want to compliment someone, and use such words, they are either socially inadequate, or not being honest to themselves or others.

Anyone who needs to put another down is weak. There's a time and place for verbal sexual chat/name calling, and that's largely between people who agree to it, or in porn.

Sadly there are those around us who don't understand basic human respect for each other, and how to socially conduct themselves. They are likely lacking in early childhood development maturity, so the rest of us adults are better off without them.

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

No guy or fem! should use the word without it's beeing part of agreed roleplay or a scene

Well i'm sometimes my hubbys/Masters slut and other Doms we involve but definately not everybodys slut

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd never call a woman a I was interested in a slut, after all, should we end up in bed together if I'm only good enough for 'sluts' then that really doesn't say much for my calibre does it?"

depends how you take the word slut

If you see a slut as a dirty person with no pride in who they shag then no it don't say a lot for your calibre

If you see a slut as a sexually liberated woman then I think your calibre's still intact

People see it meaning different things and not everyone uses it as a negative form, I do however think men should make sure women are ok with being called a slut before they do so, lots of women actually like this type of talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A stranger calling me a slut, means I wont be a slut for him *nodding smilie* but a friend calling me a little slut for an action or affectionately well that's fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is there are many words used to insult women, e.g. cunt, tart, slag, slut, but none for men, pejoratively speaking they are interpreted as compliments.

Misogyny lives on in the English language or does it?

Words like cocksmith, swordsman, lothario may have originated as insults to men but have now been accepted as complimentary, maybe in years to come cunt, slag, slut will be too?

Then again if anyone called me a greedy slut they would be left with air to talk into .....I'd be off.

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

I Hate it.

There are only a couple of people on here who are allowed to call me a slut, and then only because I know them well enough to know they don't mean it.

A complete stranger calling me slut would effectively end any chance they had of getting to know me better

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

i am a slut, but only hubbys slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To some, I am one as I have casual sex with different gents a few times a year.

To some, I am a nun as I am having so few meets.

Can't win either way, so I don't care!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's one of the worst things to call a woman even if this site is for organising consenting sexual activity between adults, there are many other names tht aren't quite as degarding & belittling as being called a slut. I wouldn't allow even my husband to call me tht....x

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By *reenonionsMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

"Ladies if you was called a slut during a chat on here how would it make u feel?

I was called a greedy slut yesterday and it has upset me a little, not sure which why u r supposed to take something like that ! "

If I was a girl, I'd love it.....

If you can't take these things in you're stride then soddoffski

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If one refers to oneself as a'slut' is that considered socially acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy that i had been messaging and getting on well with,but in person there wasnt that "click" and i told him so.....he said that was ok win some ya lose some.

Then he txt me later and said "2 be honest you were the most uglyiest woman i have ever met".........why he thought he had to add that I will never know

I never profess to be anything but me!

So again as already said Slut isnt nice either xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met a guy that i had been messaging and getting on well with,but in person there wasnt that "click" and i told him so.....he said that was ok win some ya lose some.

Then he txt me later and said "2 be honest you were the most uglyiest woman i have ever met".........why he thought he had to add that I will never know

I never profess to be anything but me!

So again as already said Slut isnt nice either xx"

You have to laugh though don't you? He wanted to meet you and presumably shag you but when you decided nahh not working for us, you THEN suddenly turn into the ugliest woman he's met.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i cant do dirty talk .. all you would do is ignore someone who said that ... its nice to be nice .. perhaps im missin the treat them mean crowd but why not treat people as equals .. i dont want to be verbally abused if i start chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met a guy that i had been messaging and getting on well with,but in person there wasnt that "click" and i told him so.....he said that was ok win some ya lose some.

Then he txt me later and said "2 be honest you were the most uglyiest woman i have ever met".........why he thought he had to add that I will never know

I never profess to be anything but me!

So again as already said Slut isnt nice either xx

You have to laugh though don't you? He wanted to meet you and presumably shag you but when you decided nahh not working for us, you THEN suddenly turn into the ugliest woman he's met.

You are sooo right lol

He was no adonis but hey i want personality and gsoh.....he sadly lacked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds to me as though "greedy slut" was said in an intentionally derogatory manner. If that's the case, then you are better off not knowing the man. If that is his attitude in chat, then he is likely to be equally unpleasant in real life.

Slut is a word that I'd only use in an agreed role play situation or perhaps very rarely in humour with someone who I knew very well.

And in comment to the replies above, I never, ever understand why so many men have to turn offensive when a woman tells him that she's not interested in him. It's hardly gonna make her change her mind??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the only thing I take offence to.

It to me is a name used as a derogatory term. Used by a dom in reference to his sub.

I call nobody sir, so nobody calls me slut!

Had the male of a couple call me slut, needless to say no meet was arranged.

I'm many things, but a slut I'm most definitely not!

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

"I don't like it at all.

I blame lads mags myself

Seriously??

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By *rcalmMan
over a year ago

leeds/bradford

so what do you ladies call lads,i have a go at all,ladies typesxx

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