FabSwingers.com forum: Couples not looking for single men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Firstly, let me point out that this isn't a dig. Nor am I jealous or upset. As a general rule of thumb, I don't generally instigate conversations on here with anyone so I haven't fallen foul of this. Personally, I am more than happy to banter and chat with anyone..........

Something about couples that are not looking for single women always strikes me as different. We see a lot of posts on here about preferences (women liking tall men, women liking black men, women not liking black men etc). This is a sweeping generalisation, and I totally accept the flack that comes with hat, but I get the impression that in these situations:

- The bloke is the one in control. In most cases using his partner to play out his own fantasies

- The bloke is also probably a fair bit insecure.

- Said couples then complain that there isn't much interest and don't understand what they're doing wrong.

Each to their own I admit...... If that's what you're after and you're upfront about it, I'd say that no one has a right to moan or complain. I still find it a little odd. I think there is a difinite quality to knowing what you want and going out and getting it.

Are there any couples on here that aren't looking for single women out of curiousity, and have blocked them from contacting you??

Apologies for the wording of this. I'm typing it on a mobile device and have fat finger syndrome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us...not interested in single fems at all....and as for our (my) preferences...purely my own....the fact that my husband fully encourages and enjoys my preferences makes it all the better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Us...not interested in single fems at all....and as for our (my) preferences...purely my own....the fact that my husband fully encourages and enjoys my preferences makes it all the better

Not being interested is one thing, but many couples not looking for single men state so in their preferences and block single men from contacting them (which is the part i find particularly odd).

Interesting to see you're not interested in single fems, but have you gone as far as to state this on your profile and block them from contacting you (i'm posting this blind without reading your profile)

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My guess is that women probably don't need to be blocked. (Sweeping generalisation) but some men don't seem to be able to understand preferences... my profile is pretty clear but I still have to wade through a dozen messages a day. The only thing they appear to pay attention to is the fact that I'm online.

Blocking those who don't interest you probably cuts out a whole lot of mail you didn't want.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Stating it in their profile is usually done before they have figured out the message filters....?? And are sick to death of single men mailing them?

Once block in place, they simply havent amended profile wording???

No need to block or state on profile about single women as they dont bombard couples with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us...not interested in single fems at all....and as for our (my) preferences...purely my own....the fact that my husband fully encourages and enjoys my preferences makes it all the better

Not being interested is one thing, but many couples not looking for single men state so in their preferences and block single men from contacting them (which is the part i find particularly odd).

We have our preferences clearly stated on our profile...no need to block them as never had a problem with single females inundating us with messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us. Not blocked them though as sometimes talk to them as friends. Plus dont get loads of unwanted messages from single friends. We play with couples or single males. A single female would not satisfy even though we like playing with females in couples we both do desire cock too x mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us. Not blocked them though as sometimes talk to them as friends. Plus dont get loads of unwanted messages from single friends. We play with couples or single males. A single female would not satisfy even though we like playing with females in couples we both do desire cock too x mrs x "
females not friends duh typo

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think you can infer a mans insecurity or otherwise from the fact that.couples won't meet single men or say that it's him calling the shots.

We do meet single men but I don't think it says anything about either of us apart from it's something we occasionally enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet both single men and women and neither of us calls the shots, its joint decisions on everything.

We read and reply or not to messages together aswel.

We are not single male bashers in forums or otherwise but can completely understand why people would block them.

Our profile states exactly the type of guy we seek but that doesnt stop a truckload of chancers trying it on anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I take some of the above on board .... I would imagine (again a sweeping generalisation) that women are often better at taking no as an answer and respecting the wishes of others.

i do generally infer that in those situations FFM sessions are more the want of the man than the female (in the couple anyway). Its a generalisation and whilst you might be the exception, in my opinion/experience, that doesn't represent the vast majority.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

we have a block on single guys and get very few messages from single fems

as we are a couple and want to meet other couples

we dont need or want a spare cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The messages you get from single fems, does it often lead anywhere??

granted much cock is never good, but wouldn't say no to an extra pair of fun bags, 'ey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what i want right now just not sure if i wanna go out and get it!

I tried mailing a couple ages ago and they had blocked single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couples profile we only meet couples. We've both had 3somes but as a couple want to watch each other play with others. No gender is blocked, only idiots and you get them in men and women

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I think it's down to numbers again, if you want to block the highest percentage of numpty messages then you need to block the people most of those messages come from. I'm sure there are couples on here who are looking for single guys but still block messages from them. They can still send messages to the ones that interest them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but I get the impression that in these situations:

- The bloke is the one in control. In most cases using his partner to play out his own fantasies

- The bloke is also probably a fair bit insecure.

- Said couples then complain that there isn't much interest and don't understand what they're doing wrong.

There are many reasons people pick who they wish to play with. Many women are looking for a bi experience and a few men are, many couples like to play with other couples as they both like to watch their partner have fun. Insecurities? Well in general if people have real insecurity problems they tend not to swing in the first place.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Firstly, let me point out that this isn't a dig. Nor am I jealous or upset. As a general rule of thumb, I don't generally instigate conversations on here with anyone so I haven't fallen foul of this. Personally, I am more than happy to banter and chat with anyone..........

- The bloke is the one in control. In most cases using his partner to play out his own fantasies

- The bloke is also probably a fair bit insecure.

- Said couples then complain that there isn't much interest and don't understand what they're doing wrong.

Are there any couples on here that aren't looking for single women out of curiousity, and have blocked them from contacting you??

Apologies for the wording of this. I'm typing it on a mobile device and have fat finger syndrome

we are only looking for single men. we will not look for or meet single women or couples and yes we block them from contacting us.

Why would we want people we have no wish to meet contact us. we have friends on here who are couples and love to meet socially and chat but nit after others in those brackets contacting us.

As for just meeting single guys thats our thing both of us enjoy it. And have no wish or inclination to do any different thats all.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"we have a block on single guys and get very few messages from single fems

as we are a couple and want to meet other couples

we dont need or want a spare cock

I remember when you were "a spare cock" a few years ago jim...

I thought you would have had a touch more respect...

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"we have a block on single guys and get very few messages from single fems

as we are a couple and want to meet other couples

we dont need or want a spare cock

I remember when you were "a spare cock" a few years ago jim...

I thought you would have had a touch more respect..."

yes and a very popular one too

but that does not mean WE want one now.

People and what they are looking for can and do change.

This thread was set out as if all couples should have single guys at their meets and cant understand why they dont

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Set out as if all couples should have single guys at their meets? Lol no it wasn't.

if you actually read it, its clear i understand preferences (which i respect) and boundaries .... It was my take on what i see here and how it doesn't add up to me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't think its because couples are 'ruled' by the man. I am open to meeting couples in a club scenario but have noticed the private signals given between the man and woman when chatting to them at clubs. (Him - raised eyebrows and a slight nod toward me. Her - tiny shake of head). I believe in a lot of couples the woman will have the final say, and if playing with a women is not their thing then fine by me.

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