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Falling in love with your councillor what should you do ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop going.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Tell them to come and moonlight in the forums

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Step away...........you know that it can never go anywhere...

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick

Conservative...not very good idea.

UKIP or Independent may be a better bet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What to do? "

Leave well alone, unless you want to destroy their career....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

If it's your counsellor then s/he will have experience of this. It's not uncommon.

If it's your councillor it's not a problem unless you think s/he can get you a discount on your council tax.

Just be honest and talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As op have said, leave well alone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"What to do? "

ask for another counsellor, it's easy to fall for someone who is showing professional concern eg Dr, counsellor etc but you must remember that it is their job to listen, show concern and care.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a step back from the situation...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"What to do?

Leave well alone, unless you want to destroy their career...."

Well, don't do anything about pursuing the love angle but therapy isn't going to work if you don't deal with the transference issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened in the sopranos, tony started having fantasies

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

if its a desent conciler it should have been discussed about inappropriate feeling at the start so tel her/him as thats far from the rd of recovery

best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get a vibe from her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are transference issues

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I get a vibe from her"

No, you have a thoughts about her and care and concern are being interpreted as a 'vibe'.

You need to change counsellor if you want to get better and can't accept that you are her client.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What to do?

ask for another counsellor, it's easy to fall for someone who is showing professional concern eg Dr, counsellor etc but you must remember that it is their job to listen, show concern and care.

Best of luck"

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"What are transference issues"

It's when you redirect your feelings and thoughts from one person to another. You may have real feelings about someone that are not being met and so you unconsciously transfer them to your counsellor. It happens and counsellors are trained to deal with it.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I get a vibe from her"

tred carfull mate your fooling your self

iv 3ex girlfriend that where all counceler an no I didn't go looking for em just how it worked out every 1 of them told me about this happening to them an all said the same thing its part of the job.

belive me mate there isn't 1 of them would risk there career for a pashent its wrong on so many levels

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"What are transference issues

It's when you redirect your feelings and thoughts from one person to another. You may have real feelings about someone that are not being met and so you unconsciously transfer them to your counsellor. It happens and counsellors are trained to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are transference issues

It's when you redirect your feelings and thoughts from one person to another. You may have real feelings about someone that are not being met and so you unconsciously transfer them to your counsellor. It happens and counsellors are trained to deal with it.

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What she said be honest with your counsellor about how you're feeling. The most important part of the counselling process is the relationship and being honest and congruent is part of that. Hope it all works out ok.

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