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By (user no longer on site) OP   
29 weeks ago

Being new to this I wonder about the etiquette. We receive many many messages with a good 70% of them being directed solely to my Mrs

Is this the norm? Because I consider it quite rude

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
29 weeks ago

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It is rude and it is normal for fab

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By *idethestormMan
29 weeks ago

northants


"Being new to this I wonder about the etiquette. We receive many many messages with a good 70% of them being directed solely to my Mrs

Is this the norm? Because I consider it quite rude "

Just 70% ??

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By *carlettsWoman
29 weeks ago

Harpenden

Afraid so just something you have to take with a pinch of salt.

Originally this profile was a couple's profile about 15 years ago and I'd say 95% of the messages we received were directed at me. If not looking for single guys just pop your filter on so they can't message and just recieve off couples, that said doesn't always mean it is a real couple so some caution needed.

Good luck and hope you have a great fab journey. Hang on tight

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
29 weeks ago

Chester

Only 70%?!

Ive given up on our couples profile

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By *itgingermanMan
29 weeks ago

Rotherham

It no different for us males

I receive 98% from other males in my inbox

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
29 weeks ago

North Somerset

It's a good filter. If they can't address both of us it's a red flag from the get go.

The number of times an obvious cut and paste message, usually used for approaching single women, is sent to us is hilarious.

But I (R) do take great pleasure in sometimes replying that maybe all those sexy things they want to do to 'me' don't really fit with their 'straighter than straight' profile text, that they'll likely be disappointed when turning up to lick me for hours as promised and that all offers to rail me hard from behind whilst pulling my hair sadly have to be declined because there's no fucking hair to tug on...🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️😂😂

It does make those that make a decent approach stand out though, so we can cope with the dross easily enough.

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By *WB85Man
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Yeah, as the male its incredibly frustrating.

Doesn't leave you feeling desired.

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By *CExeCouple
29 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

Fairly normal. The same as folks who will fab all the female pics on your profile and ignore the male ones. It stands out when a message addresses both of us and is far, far more likely to elicit a reply.

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By *herryandrumCouple
29 weeks ago

kilmarnock

but if 95% of your profile picture are of your lovely second half... you are doing well with your 30%

i see it as (We are all shop windows)

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
29 weeks ago

kent


" Fairly normal. The same as folks who will fab all the female pics on your profile and ignore the male ones. It stands out when a message addresses both of us and is far, far more likely to elicit a reply."

Exactly this. We get very messages, but any that don’t acknowledge we’re a couple get ignored. Although we don’t get many of those either. Xx

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
29 weeks ago

Round the bend

Only 70? Id say more like 95% for us. In fairness, Mr Wolves rarely comes on here unless I'm pointing him in the direction of someone I think would interest us both. If he was more active on here, I think it would irritate us more than it does.

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
29 weeks ago

North West

Women hold all the power, men are ten a penny.

That’s Fab, like it or lump it!

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By *layfull pairingCouple
29 weeks ago

Bristol

99% of mail is directed at Joanna, despite our profile stating quite clearly that she has her own profile on here too... but nobody reads past line 3 of our profile It’s fine, it is what it is...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
29 weeks ago

Leeds

Rude and normal, people will scroll pics and message if it's mostly Mrs they'll direct the message that way.

Mrs

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By *legantEnigmaWoman
29 weeks ago

South of the Watford Gap

The problem here is that you are attempting to hold other site users to your own standards.

Sadly we just can't do that here, nor anywhere on the internet it seems.

The screen in front of those less discerning seems to give them licence to lose all manners and respect for other people. Though I do often question whether they act that differently in a face to face situation, but I digress.

Over the years I've learnt to have very low expectations of the majority of users (and that is predominately those who do not frequent the forum if I'm honest), so that I'm rarely disappointed, and occasionally delighted!

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Yeah it happens pretty often and mostly they stop messaging once we say its the Mr talking.

Its a great filter because if they do that its a swift block.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
29 weeks ago

East Sussex

Most of the people who contact us address us both in the first instance. If we chat for a while I answer in the first person so I can't blame them for addressing just me.

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By *UY4CPLMan
29 weeks ago

Vera Playa, Almería, Spain

I was with a married couple in an MFM relationship for over ten years. The husband is 50% of what a guy is meeting in a couple, yet most men don't seem to think like this. It's important to consider what he wants, how he wants it and when. The extra guy is there by invitation. For me, there has to be mutual attraction between the lady and I, mutual respect between the husband and I and consideration for both of them. This is not being submissive, it's just what should be normal social interaction.

I'm sorry guys, but most of you make me ashamed to be male. And you f*ck up my chances with genuine couples because of that. 😡

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
29 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ don't feel shame on behalf of other people.

Don't the bad ones make the good ones stand out? When we meet we meet single men and find that the ones who understand it's a three way thing are the ones we're most interested in

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

Outside of the forums I rarely message couples because I don't meet couples, other than keeping in touch on a platonic level. In any case I address then both together, equally.

Sometimes I will only talk to the (F) and disregard the (M). Why? Because if your entire gallery and profile narrative is geared towards the (F) then I will match it by projecting my attention towards the (F) and totally disregarding the (M) altogether. I make no apologies for that because you've given the impression the (M) is an interloper.

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By *naswingdressWoman
29 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Pretty normal, I gather. I tend to ask for clarification about who I'm talking to, so say it's Mr who does most of the messaging.

I then write imagining something like, Mr and I are having a chat, Mrs is fully aware, and will join in every so often.

But that's what I do as a singleton, I've never been part of a couple's profile.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
29 weeks ago

Leeds

Yeah get used to it mate, I like to wind them up and reply without giving my identity away, one bloke was very angry after finding out he’d just wanked over me and not the Mrs, one should never assume.

Hopefully he still feels very disgusted in himself.

The mr

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By *oomerangboyMan
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I always address both if I’m messaging a couple, x

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By *he Silver FuxMan
29 weeks ago

Utero


"Being new to this I wonder about the etiquette. We receive many many messages with a good 70% of them being directed solely to my Mrs

Is this the norm? Because I consider it quite rude "

It is. Inexperienced, socially inept men not realising that a vast majority of couples profiles on Fab are administered by the husbands / male partners and message as though it is only the woman that reads and answers… 🤯

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By *verageHoesCouple
29 weeks ago

Bessacarr

It's pretty normal. But, as others have said, when a profile is predominantly focused on the woman, it's to be expected that the majority of messages are directed towards the woman.

I've never understood why so many couples profiles are so heavily focused on the woman only. Women tend to be more picky and sometimes only have a picture of a cock to gauge attraction.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
29 weeks ago

Brum

Try displaying a picture of your penis.

Then see what you get in the old inbox…

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
29 weeks ago

North Somerset


"Being new to this I wonder about the etiquette. We receive many many messages with a good 70% of them being directed solely to my Mrs

Is this the norm? Because I consider it quite rude

It is. Inexperienced, socially inept men not realising that a vast majority of couples profiles on Fab are administered by the husbands / male partners and message as though it is only the woman that reads and answers… 🤯"

Many. Not all.

I rarely answer messages or read them first. She does.

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By *ellowshipOfTheSwingCouple
29 weeks ago

Manchester


"It's pretty normal. But, as others have said, when a profile is predominantly focused on the woman, it's to be expected that the majority of messages are directed towards the woman.

I've never understood why so many couples profiles are so heavily focused on the woman only. Women tend to be more picky and sometimes only have a picture of a cock to gauge attraction."

Don’t go being all logical about this

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