FabSwingers.com forum: ⁉️What the FAB were you thinking...

By *agic.M OP Man
29 weeks ago

Orpington

When you created your profile fab...what exactly were you're expectations? And have they been met?

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I had absolutely no idea, i imagined i would probably delete it after a day and yet here we are 🤣 still dont really have a clue tbh but i am sure of what i dont want from this site 😁

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By *ife NinjaMan
29 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Being brutally honest, my marriage had broken up, I was lonely. I'm not a hardened swinger, but I enjoyed the social side and clubs. Should I still be here? Who knows, but it has met about 40% of my expectations, which is why I now have none 🤓🥷

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

My original plan was to get hard evidence that my then boyfriend was cheating on me

Discovered the forum and the generally better quality of men compared to my locals, and did a bit of travelling. You know how it goes with fab forum hotties

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By *enda83Man
29 weeks ago

north

I thought all the other large muscular gentlemen would be out in the real world and I’d be the only one on here and the women would come flocking ha

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By *quirrel!Man
29 weeks ago

London

I think I was expecting Thickthighs and Miss Bella to come round together and take advantage of me!

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By *hilloutMan
29 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Didn't know what to expect really. I wanted NSA sex and to dip my toes into the world of swinging. It had been a long running curiosity I figured never to experience.

Years later I can say I've sampled most of what the lifestyle can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

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By *tannersMan
29 weeks ago

stanley

My life situation was different back then nd hoped fab would help me find what I was looking for.

Situation different again now. Hence profile is what it is now

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
29 weeks ago

Brum

We were directed here by a lady we met in a nightclub back when people still met that way.

She said we’d have a lot of fun.

We did.

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By *morousCouple8Couple
29 weeks ago

Cumbria

Hmm we joined to arrange meets, find people we get on well with and have fun.

This is mostly what has happened so far.

I didn’t expect some of the messages we received or how many times I’d have to repeat no if I “did the polite thing” and responded to say if not interested.

We also didn’t expect to get convinced to try clubs - or enjoy them so much!

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I was thinking “this is a work of genius, and that it’ll definitely get me my wang wet”

It worked.

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By *aven RedWoman
29 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

I had a friend who had been on here for a few months so she helped me. She took some of my pics, helped with my profile and showed me how to set filters x

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By *sWyldWoman
29 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I think this is profile number 6.

Mostly I've had very few expectations and I've always been pleasantly surprised.

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By *agic.M OP Man
29 weeks ago

Orpington

"I had absolutely no idea, i imagined i would probably delete it after a day and yet here we are 🤣 still dont really have a clue tbh but i am sure of what i dont want from this site 😁"

Expect the unexpected

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By *morousCouple8Couple
29 weeks ago

Cumbria

"When you created your profile fab...what exactly were you're expectations? And have they been met?

How about you OP?

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
29 weeks ago

Round the bend

I remember joining up after someone recommended it, and being terrified. I said to hubby there was no chance I was meeting any freak off there!

Now here I am, a freak 🏆 😎

And we have met some wonderful people off here. It's far exceeded our clueless expectations ♥️

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By *anderingArtistMan
29 weeks ago

an abstract world

When I made my first one I just wanted to be swimming in a sea of vagina.

I was younger and deluded.

This time round I came for the forums and make me come they have.

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By *EAT..85Woman
29 weeks ago

Nottingham

I was recommended to Fab

by someone kinky I'd been chatting to from a vanilla dating site. They told me it was all about the sex.

I came expecting to get lots of sex. And boy did I have lots of sex. I was like a fat kid in a sweet shop when I first joined!

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By *naswingdressWoman
29 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Thought I'd be laughed off in a few weeks. Had no idea what the fuck hit me 🤭

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By *agic.M OP Man
29 weeks ago

Orpington

"When you created your profile fab...what exactly were you're expectations? And have they been met?

How about you OP?"

I was on Tinder at that time and had matched with someone that was on fab...when we met face to face she told me all about it and she said I should join...she said fab needs more guys like me 😏

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By *cottish guy 555Man
29 weeks ago

London

I joined with no real expectations after being steered to it by a now dear friend who I met the first time I visited a club.

I thought it would be a good way to keep in touch with people I met in clubs and to see what events were on. It has far exceeded those simple reasons and I have made some genuine friends through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I had absolutely no idea, i imagined i would probably delete it after a day and yet here we are 🤣 still dont really have a clue tbh but i am sure of what i dont want from this site 😁

Expect the unexpected

I know! I even found someone who corrects my poor punctuation for me ... sooo cute 😘

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Had no real expectations but they haven't been met

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I think I was expecting Thickthighs and Miss Bella to come round together and take advantage of me!

🤣🤣🤣🤣 i cant not see you as squirrell sorry

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
29 weeks ago

Essex

First time round I/we had an plan…. Nope. That didn’t really materialise.

Second time round I had fun. Then too much fun. Then it stopped being fun.

This time round. I have an idea. And I’m not going to lower my expectations or my standards.

I never expected to make friends. But I did. I’ve discovered a lot about myself - some of it has blown my mind.

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By *unguy2429Man
29 weeks ago

worthing

Just enjoy life have fun with other fabbers meeting nice new people

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By *oeBeansMan
29 weeks ago

Derby

Easy sex with gorgeous women. Oh the disapp... earing expectations once I found out that building that connection over a while of chatting made the experiences that much better 😇

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

I was thinking that I was tired of being alone in someone's enervating company, and that I needed to feel desired and craved intimacy, wanting to be wanted and to experience tactility once again.

Expectations were low but the outcomes were high and fulfilling.

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By *onko the SaneMan
29 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

This profile was just intended to annoy people

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By *onko the SaneMan
29 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"And to break hearts"

😭

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By *ealitybitesMan
29 weeks ago

Belfast

I had zero experience of anything like this and wasn't on any other sites so I had no expectations beyond new experiences.

9 years later I have much less inclination or motivation but I have no regrets over my experiences to date and am proud of the fact that I still have the courage of my convictions and will only ever do fab on my terms.

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
29 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Out of a very long relationship, funding myself again, wanted some no strings fun, found it and got it out of my system. Now i want something a bit more meaningful than that and my profile reflects that.

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By *olo180Man
29 weeks ago

Greater London

My expectations were for women to read my messages. When that failed spectacularly I joined the forums and it’s been a lot more fun 🤩

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By *inxy777Woman
29 weeks ago

essex

No expectations really, in the beginning not really sure what i wanted, just chat and the forums, now just looking for 1, to enjoy and have fun together.

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
29 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Oh and mainly use the forums now, no actively seeking things, if it finds me then thats a bonus

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By *mmaleiaWoman
29 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I joined here because I had an amazing FWB before I moved out of London, I assumed I’d be able to find another like it.

I haven’t! 😩

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By *862EastmidsMan
29 weeks ago

NOTTINGHAM

My expectations of FAB were low, I thought the people may mix amongst the established people on the site and newbies like me would sit and watch the fun.

In truth I have been who I would love to be in the real world a bi, pantie wearer that is confident and accepted.

I have been lucky to meet a fantastic couple already.

Thank you FAB

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By *ussell Nobbs...Man
29 weeks ago

Lincoln

I'm dyslexic and thought it was a site aimed for people who are decent swimmers. So yeah, confused and disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I'm dyslexic and thought it was a site aimed for people who are decent swimmers. So yeah, confused and disappointed."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *CExeCouple
29 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

First time round was from the recommendation of a couple I'd played with a few times. I was young and full of bipolar hypersexuality.

This time round, I'd met Chels and she and I realised we're both filthy and wanted a bit more fun exploring.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
29 weeks ago

Cheshire

Hopes rather than expectations. Met & exceeded. Well worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Fab was recommended to me and was coincidentally mentioned in a podcast “ vanilla to Vixen “ which I have listened too …

My sex life had been over for 12 years but fab helped me rediscover myself and rediscover my confidence.

I am fully certified to massage so this medium has been a great way to gain confidence and meet,

With out fab my world would still have been grey - without colour or sparkle, for me, it has been what I expected and more, I have a lovely inner circle of fab friends now which I respect highly.

I love the forums and I enjoy the cam rooms watching

“Real “ people

Getting messages and sending messages is so great and so valued

It can be too addictive ! Here am I at 23.30 pm lol !!!

Consider this … what’s the alternative?

Night from this tiny corner of Hampshire.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
29 weeks ago

Central

I'd been selling the swinging world a fair bit, so thought I'd look at an online version, without any major exceptions. Thought I'd be around for a couple of weeks but am still here, 17 or 18 years later. It's more than met my expectations and it's me that's limited myself

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By *uke_silverMan
29 weeks ago

London

I had great expectations that were impossible to meet.

What can I say? I used to be stupid. I still am, but used to be too.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
29 weeks ago

East Lincs

We both met on here - we weren’t looking to settle down and still wanted to explore so we decided to carry on.

Doing this together was a mind fuck initially but we’ve had some unbelievable experiences and seen and done things that we’ll never forget…I can honestly say the lifestyle has enhanced my sexual map beyond belief.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
29 weeks ago

Kent

We was very hopeful and just looking to have fun and make friends too. We didn't expect it to be as tough as it was but we seem to have found our feet somewhat. As we only want to have fun with Bi women we didn't realise it would be so difficult but, we soon learned! Fast forward 4 and a bit years and we are still going strong and seem to be fairly lucky x long may it continue x

Mrs x

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By *naswingdressWoman
29 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had great expectations that were impossible to meet.

What can I say? I used to be stupid. I still am, but used to be too."

Admitting that we're stupid is the first part of the problem.

Speaking only for myself, of course.

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By *Silver-Man
29 weeks ago

Mold

At first I thought, what am I doing, stepping out my comfort zone.

Had no expectations

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
29 weeks ago

Telford

Well I wanted to be meet likeminded people really, engage in my bi side more without having a relationship, try clubs etc.

I didn't have expectations as such just desires and wants.

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By *xydadbodMan
29 weeks ago

towcester

Well, my very first time on fab, I treated it like it was a dating site.. full on face on, cheesy description.. yeah, big mistake that was when someone recognised me and threatened to expose me.. so many lessons learned that day thats for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I had absolutely no idea, i imagined i would probably delete it after a day and yet here we are 🤣 still dont really have a clue tbh but i am sure of what i dont want from this site 😁"

Let's start with a compliment then . Gorgeous! X

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By *athomMan
29 weeks ago

South Coast

Expectation- Wanton Hedonism

Result - Reality check

I know my place (Monty Python 😂

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
29 weeks ago

newcastle

It was originally a couples page. But after he cheated I changed passwords etc so now mine. He knows. Punishment! Cheaper for him!! But I still have to ask him to put pics up for me xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
29 weeks ago

Leeds

I thought I’d be totally ignored. But it’s the complete polar opposite, I’m drowning in pussy, I’ve really struggling to keep my head above the juices.

The mr

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
29 weeks ago

Chester

"What the FAB were you thinking - When you created your profile fab...what exactly were you're expectations? And have they been met?

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After talking A LOT with hubby and having a couple of disastrous attempts on 'that swipe site' I made this profile to find a FB/FWB/BF situation

Within hours of joining I started chatting to someone, after a few weeks we met and months on we're still in a situation

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By *ora the explorerWoman
29 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣

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By *G101Man
29 weeks ago

Bedford

I thought it would be easy to find a nice clean trustworthy non seedy guy to scratch my bi itch - WRONG

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
29 weeks ago

Chester

"I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣"

Do you encounter the FAB curse like me 😔

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By *tickler2000Man
29 weeks ago

St Agnes

I was hoping for lots of meets with women and couples.

I have manged it but they have been few, and far between.

What I have found out is that Fab should have have added two interest categories of Ghosting and Standing up.

As I've found a few that would fit. 🙂

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By *ora the explorerWoman
29 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣

Do you encounter the FAB curse like me 😔 "

I find it hard to meet ladies for sure ! In fact I think it’s just as difficult for us ladies to find ladies as it is for the men!

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
29 weeks ago

Chester

"I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣

Do you encounter the FAB curse like me 😔

I find it hard to meet ladies for sure ! In fact I think it’s just as difficult for us ladies to find ladies as it is for the men!"

Definitely!!

I've hit it off with a few girlie's on here, wanting similar things and being on the same daft wavelength, it's just a matter of a few hundred miles that causes a problem

😂

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By *ere4It3000Couple
29 weeks ago

Belgium

"I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣

Do you encounter the FAB curse like me 😔

I find it hard to meet ladies for sure ! In fact I think it’s just as difficult for us ladies to find ladies as it is for the men!"

Same here…

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By *ora the explorerWoman
29 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣

Do you encounter the FAB curse like me 😔

I find it hard to meet ladies for sure ! In fact I think it’s just as difficult for us ladies to find ladies as it is for the men!

Definitely!!

I've hit it off with a few girlie's on here, wanting similar things and being on the same daft wavelength, it's just a matter of a few hundred miles that causes a problem

😂 "

Ha yep! Every time!

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By *viatrixWoman
29 weeks ago

Gatwick

I was on similar websites 8 years ago and someone told me Fab was better for finding local folk.

Has it fulfilled my expectations? 😮‍💨 YES and then some! I have met some people on here who have absolutely blown my mind! I feel very safe on Fab… have made great friends. It has been awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"My original plan was to get hard evidence that my then boyfriend was cheating on me

Discovered the forum and the generally better quality of men compared to my locals, and did a bit of travelling. You know how it goes with fab forum hotties

My god, the local men must be horrific if fabs are better quality 😂

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
29 weeks ago

kent

"I was on similar websites 8 years ago and someone told me Fab was better for finding local folk.

This is lovely to read! 😃

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
29 weeks ago

kent

We didn’t know what to expect. Our first time at a club, a couple we met told us about Fab, and we just dipped in a toe to see what might happen. We were here several years before we discovered there was a forum Xx

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By *r_Mrs.DSCouple
29 weeks ago

Voldsøy

"I joined solely to meet ladies. Not sure what happened along the way 🤣"

Pretty much this!

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By *atpurrWoman
29 weeks ago

Kent

I was on the sister site to fab until it closed. Fab at that time was always the dark side 😂. I just moved across when it closed, the sites are / were very similar in the way they’re designed, so it was easy to just start afresh. Here is so much better in terms of numbers though, far more people.

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By *WB85Man
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire

My expectations were much greater than reality!! Lol

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
29 weeks ago

South Wales

We created our fab profile after finding out we liked a third person involved in our sex life but realised that it was complicated with friends.

We didn’t really know what to expect and it took a bit of getting used to but we’ve met some lovely people, found out all about the clubs and socials which we wouldn’t have known about without fab and on the whole have found it a positive experience so far xx 😘

In a nutshell, we came here looking for hot guys and found several xx 😄😄

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By *elsboy76Man
29 weeks ago

warrington

I was kinda hoping to have fun chatting with like minded souls and arrange some discreet meets with local women or couples. I just get bombarded with offers from men only who, despite my best efforts in my profile, cannot read. Surely they would be better off on Grinder. Some of the stories on the forums are great though

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By *r SensualMan
29 weeks ago

London

Had no real concrete “expectations”. The site was recommended to me by a woman I was seeing at the time. She showed me her overflowing inbox of messages and gave me very valuable advice as how NOT to navigate it as a (then) single man and how to go about it the right way.

After first day of being on here and countless messages sent, I was lucky enough that a couple took a chance on me and we met which was a one off. After that, I decided “lemme see what these parties are all about as this messaging lark is more hassle than it’s worth”. Rocked up alone to said party, got chatting to people some of whom were party host themselves, had some play at said party with a lovely lady & then everything took off from there.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
29 weeks ago

Utero

Had an idea after being briefed by a date but it’s surpassed expectations

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By *ddy818Man
29 weeks ago

manchester

To meet women honestly. Broken up marriage so lonely thought I’d give this a try. I’ve opportunity to chat to women on here but then just end up getting ghosted to be honest.

Ofcourse women have hundreds of messages on the daily compared to men.

The videos are nice to watch which is a plus I suppose 🤣

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By *eith142Man
29 weeks ago

stockton

"My original plan was to get hard evidence that my then boyfriend was cheating on me

Discovered the forum and the generally better quality of men compared to my locals, and did a bit of travelling. You know how it goes with fab forum hotties

And was he? I’m intrigued lol

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By *om WxmMan
29 weeks ago

Wrexham

No expectations as I understood it would be so heavily male members (pardon the pun), which as I'm bisexual isn't an issue.

Met only a few, but that's my choice. I enjoy the forums too where one is able to talk about sexual desires without being labelled as weird or kinky.

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By *ace400Man
29 weeks ago

my back yard

I guess I wanted to get my mojo back after separating after 20 years of marriage.

Now I’m enjoying life and it can only get better

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By *rx1Couple
29 weeks ago

Devon

We tried a couple of other sites first, but to no avail. Then we spotted Fabs back in 2009. Everything was great, chatted loads, over the years we have met and played with quite a few people and swinging friends became real friends.

Over the years the dynamics of the site have changed dramatically.

Most of our friends have either left Fabs, or have not been on for years.

Far more timewasters, far more so called influencers (that have paid profiles elsewhere) . So many leaving and re-joining multiple times.

So many Bi Blokes pretending they are straight, millions more Cock shot only profiles. lots more TV's ( yes we are entitled to an opinion)

We appreciate we are a lot older now, and outside quite a few peoples age range.

Our expectations were met, but since moving to the SW (nearly 5 years ago) It's all gone down hill

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By *uke_silverMan
29 weeks ago

London

"I had great expectations that were impossible to meet.

What can I say? I used to be stupid. I still am, but used to be too.

Admitting that we're stupid is the first part of the problem.

Speaking only for myself, of course."

And what is the solution? Silver bullets only please 🥺

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By *naswingdressWoman
29 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had great expectations that were impossible to meet.

What can I say? I used to be stupid. I still am, but used to be too.

Admitting that we're stupid is the first part of the problem.

Speaking only for myself, of course.

And what is the solution? Silver bullets only please 🥺"

God, if I knew that, I'd be fabulously wealthy.

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