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"I’m getting by Stephen, getting by. What about you dude? " Hey you! I’m surviving. Not thriving. But surviving 💪🏾💪🏾 | |||
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"Hello, have good and bad days" Wishing you many good days xx | |||
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"Hi OP. How are you doing? Bit of an existential crisis going on here this evening, having had my parents thrust LPAs at me today, which I then was asked to sign to be an Attorney, and organise witnesses for their Wills. A very sobering prospect and makes one ponder the imponderable." Hi EA I’m sorry. That must’ve been weird and horrible. Not easy to just put out of your mind. You seem like a positive person- hope you can find that positivity | |||
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"In a bit of a hole. Put on my fake smile every day and get through Sending you big hugs | |||
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"In a bit of a hole. Put on my fake smile every day and get through Hey! Thanks for stopping by. There’s no shame in not smiling some days. | |||
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"Its not a good mental health.... year to be honest. But I remain positive. I try to keep that PMA." I’m sorry it’s not been a great year. But credit to you remaining positive. You don’t even know how impressive that is. Well done man xx | |||
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"Surviving here. Glad to hear everyone else is too. " Celebrate the small wins. X | |||
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"Hello OP 👋🏻 Hello As someone who has had his fair share of traumas and ups and downs…and who stated the year crying more than I have in the last 10….there is always light at the end of the dark tunnel…you can make it 👊🏻 | |||
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"Nah. " A very good nah to you. X | |||
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"Hello OP 👋🏻 Hello Every step forward, no matter how small, is worth celebrating. Well done you for sticking it out. | |||
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"Hi OP. How are you doing? Bit of an existential crisis going on here this evening, having had my parents thrust LPAs at me today, which I then was asked to sign to be an Attorney, and organise witnesses for their Wills. A very sobering prospect and makes one ponder the imponderable." Sounds like you have very sensible, forward thinking parents. Well done mum and dad, saves you having to bring up what can be a touchy, upsetting subject. We have POA for each of us and for daughter. Everyone should have a will, no matter what age. | |||
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"Hello OP 👋🏻 Hello ❤️ Hope you get some positive reinforcement from this 👊🏻 | |||
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"Surviving the loneliness." Well done bro. You’re doing great | |||
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"Hello OP 👋🏻 Hello Love bro | |||
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"The dark days are not forever" True,but its been a tough year for me, each time think im getting there, its always no ya not | |||
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"I'm ok for once at the weekend pal oh a work out is amazing honestly. Well done!! | |||
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"Evening happy pills work wonders " Gotta remember to get back to taking mine | |||
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"Nah. Well hello Hello lovely. Just not been an awesome week/month/year. | |||
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"Nah. Well hello And yet you’re awesome still. X | |||
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"Shit TBH. But just got to get on with things. " you can stop and feel shit. | |||
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"Feeling much better than a mere 4-5 days ago. Smiling again Good job bro | |||
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"Hello Pickle. I've had 4 very good weeks after 2 months of being in quite a dark place. " N? Or W? Either way- hope you’re good. | |||
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"Hello Pickle. I've had 4 very good weeks after 2 months of being in quite a dark place. N? Or W? Either way- hope you’re good. " Sorry, N. Yeah, I am thanks. The dark place will always be there in the background and I made peace with that a long time ago. I've got a good set of tools to get myself out of it these days. | |||
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"Hello 👋 It's been tough recently but i'm still here so" ❤️❤️ | |||
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"All good here only one person can help you iv had ptsd and pulled myself out of it be positive thinking positive act positive all will come good " 👍👍👍 agreed | |||
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"Coming off my antidepressants. Is this a good idea? Dunno. It's an adventure though " I was on some for a year. I came off them, under GP direction, because I wanted to find out if I still needed them. Luckily I didn’t | |||
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"Coming off my antidepressants. Is this a good idea? Dunno. It's an adventure though I was on some for a year. I came off them, under GP direction, because I wanted to find out if I still needed them. Luckily I didn’t " I've been on ADs since 1998. Lol | |||
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"The dark days are not forever True,but its been a tough year for me, each time think im getting there, its always no ya not" Been there myself many times it will get better | |||
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"Coming off my antidepressants. Is this a good idea? Dunno. It's an adventure though " I cam off mine 2 years ago now I was on them for 5 years after the loss of my mum. Since being off them I haven't been depressed just have low days or I'll have a shirt period of low mood but would call that depression. I hope it works out for you | |||
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"The dark days are not forever True,but its been a tough year for me, each time think im getting there, its always no ya not Been there myself many times it will get better " Awww bless ya, folk seem to think its easy | |||
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"Coming off my antidepressants. Is this a good idea? Dunno. It's an adventure though I cam off mine 2 years ago now I was on them for 5 years after the loss of my mum. Since being off them I haven't been depressed just have low days or I'll have a shirt period of low mood but would call that depression. I hope it works out for you Thank you. I've experienced more feelings on antidepressants than off, but I was so severely depressed that... The short version is that I was told I'd be dead in a ditch by 25, and my parents nearly lost custody of me. That kind of bad. Life is a lot better than it was then, though, so, who knows. Also, this year marks my 40th ride round the sun, and I've laughed at that psychiatrist every birthday since 25. | |||
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"Coming off my antidepressants. Is this a good idea? Dunno. It's an adventure though I was on some for a year. I came off them, under GP direction, because I wanted to find out if I still needed them. Luckily I didn’t I've been on ADs since 1998. Lol" Ah a little while longer then | |||
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"Struggling massively Find someone to talk to, it will help. Don’t forget you can go to your GP too for help Hope things pick up | |||
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"The dark days are not forever True,but its been a tough year for me, each time think im getting there, its always no ya not Been there myself many times it will get better Awww bless ya, folk seem to think its easy" I can assure you that more people don't think that way | |||
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"Coming off my antidepressants. Is this a good idea? Dunno. It's an adventure though I cam off mine 2 years ago now I was on them for 5 years after the loss of my mum. Since being off them I haven't been depressed just have low days or I'll have a shirt period of low mood but would call that depression. I hope it works out for you With tour life a lot different now that should change things I really wish you all the best and hope that you won't need them ever again. Can't comment on psychiatrists I haven't seen one I have often thought about having counselling though maybe one day I will do it. I have good friends and family to talk to so I am very lucky | |||
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"Feeling much better than a mere 4-5 days ago. Smiling again That's good to here. There will be good days and some not so good days but slowly the good ones will out weigh again. I've had a couple of troublesome weeks but things are looking up | |||
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"The dark days are not forever True,but its been a tough year for me, each time think im getting there, its always no ya not Been there myself many times it will get better Awww bless ya, folk seem to think its easy I can assure you that more people don't think that way " Maybe but there are some around. Just effects my whole mindset on here | |||
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"The dark days are not forever True,but its been a tough year for me, each time think im getting there, its always no ya not Been there myself many times it will get better Awww bless ya, folk seem to think its easy I can assure you that more people don't think that way Maybe but there are some around. Just effects my whole mindset on here " It does with me too I usually hide my profile for a few days if I don't want to engage with people it helps sometimes I will post on forums if ifs a nice or lighthearted one and generally just look after myself like self care talking to close people and going out for walks | |||
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"PTSD is so real…. 😢 " PTSD is not good especially when you get night terrors combined | |||
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"All i’ll say is…my inbox is always open for anyone who needs to chat while i listen. I dont judge’ i dont advise or give an opinion i’ll just listen to what you have to say. Always open " Same here inbox as open for someone to help as we all need someone to talk to now and then | |||
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"Shit TBH. But just got to get on with things. you can stop and feel shit. " I could, but then I'd just feel shit with nothing achieved. At least this way I feel shit and have something to show for it. | |||
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"Coming out of a PTSD abyss, after having to take a loved one to A&E. They're ok. I'm a mind fragmented mess, luckily I've got tonnes of spare polyfilla. " Sending hugs xx | |||
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"How are you? If you’re reading this, say hello" easy to say but try to stay positive m8 .Just remember its usually easier to talk to a stranger than a friend | |||
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"Brutally honest, I struggle.....and fab doesn't always help. I totally understand why its hard as man to get a reply,I see the messages and abuse my wife gets.....its ridiculous. But its so hard when your partner gets lots of attention and you get non. Its such a feeling of being unattractive or not desired. The forum is fun though. " If it's being that difficult for you, have you spoken to your wife about it? Couples profile perhaps? | |||
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"Brutally honest, I struggle.....and fab doesn't always help. I totally understand why its hard as man to get a reply,I see the messages and abuse my wife gets.....its ridiculous. But its so hard when your partner gets lots of attention and you get non. Its such a feeling of being unattractive or not desired. The forum is fun though. If it's being that difficult for you, have you spoken to your wife about it? Couples profile perhaps?" Appreciate your reply. We do talk about it...any its fine, just annoying. The couples profile is where our journey began.....people think its easier,but it really isn't. Finding 4 people that click and are attracted to each other is really difficult. | |||
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"Hey OP well suffering myself with PTSD ADHD, depression and anxiety so speak up to everyone and keep going keep strong take a day by day" Hello! Thanks for popping in x Stay strong | |||
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"Hello 👋 It's been tough recently but i'm still here so" Proud of you for that xx | |||
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"Some days are bad, some are good, Just hanging in there for the good ones. " The good ones are so worth it bro ❤️ keep on keeping on | |||
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"All good here only one person can help you iv had ptsd and pulled myself out of it be positive thinking positive act positive all will come good " Good for you x | |||
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"Terrible. Agoraphobic which I don't really understand since I'm fine with going to work. Most of the time I can't physically leave the house, I get to door but can not open it. Trying and failing makes me feel worse about it and makes it harder. All I get told is to go see someone about it. Great advice" Hey. I’m sorry I don’t have the words but I see you | |||
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"Struggling massively Hey bro. Big up you for posting. X | |||
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" This year started badly and I'm still recovering haha. I'll be alright it is just taking it's time. I sustained a nasty injury back in February and I still cannot drive due to some muscles not working correctly in my shoulder and arm. It's healing but not there yet and I'm feeling stifled and quite isolated not being able to jump in a car and go where I want. Public transport isn't always an option and it's a ballache in general. " Hello 🙋🏾♂️ Thank you for posting so honestly. I see you. | |||
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"Hello OP and everyone else here My MH is not great at moment,had a few medical issues and a cancer scare this year and been off work " Hugs 🤗 | |||
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"All i’ll say is…my inbox is always open for anyone who needs to chat while i listen. I dont judge’ i dont advise or give an opinion i’ll just listen to what you have to say. Always open " Hello xx | |||
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"I'm good just finished a long work week all to have a Sunday off lol " good x | |||
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"Can’t say been great lately aha welll whole year but we get by" We do. Well done you for getting by. | |||
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"Hello OP and everyone else here My MH is not great at moment,had a few medical issues and a cancer scare this year and been off work " I’m sad to hear that. Wishing you well with your physical and mental health. | |||
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"Hi OP. How are you doing? Bit of an existential crisis going on here this evening, having had my parents thrust LPAs at me today, which I then was asked to sign to be an Attorney, and organise witnesses for their Wills. A very sobering prospect and makes one ponder the imponderable." Very sobering isn't it? When my dad was in hospital he sent me his password to the laptop so I'd know where to find all the important documents 🥹 | |||
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"Here if anyone needs to chat. Life can be difficult at times 👥️ xx" hello | |||
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"How are you? If you’re reading this, say helloeasy to say but try to stay positive m8 .Just remember its usually easier to talk to a stranger than a friend " ❤️ | |||
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"Hello 👏🏻 My head's wobbling a bit at the moment,it always does this time of year, but this year I can't seem to keep a hold of things, anxiety is through the roof,and I seem to be bumping into every trigger that sets my CPTSD off😐 there's only fab that seems to keep me calm at the moment,tits and bits,are my saviour it seems " Hello bro ❤️❤️ | |||
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"Lots of hugs if your suffering. Here if you need anything. Even if a chat Much love all" ❤️ | |||
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"Suffered mental health issues for a few years but a lot better now thankfully always here too chat It can be a lonely place sometimes Well done!! X | |||
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"Been in the absolute pits myself (over 20 years ago now though thankfully) Having been through that dark episode I can fully, FULLY empathise with anybody who is navigating bumps in the road currently. Positive thoughts go out to all you beautiful people lurking behind the (temporary!) grey clouds out there ☀️ Mr" Hey. Thank you for posting so honestly xx | |||
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"Put the brave face and smile on Most days " We see you x | |||
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"I’m ok, but I’m struggling to handle even minor setbacks, so Thursday I felt rotten for example. I’m prone to irritability at the moment put it that way." Hello xx Self awareness is great. | |||
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"Hi....struggling at the moment. Getting through hour by hour. I hope you're ok OP 🫠" Baby steps xx | |||
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"Brutally honest, I struggle.....and fab doesn't always help. I totally understand why its hard as man to get a reply,I see the messages and abuse my wife gets.....its ridiculous. But its so hard when your partner gets lots of attention and you get non. Its such a feeling of being unattractive or not desired. The forum is fun though. " Stick around here. There are some good people. | |||
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"Ive been struggling this year, but ive now got a allotment, been outdoors among nature and the nice weather, as help me loads this last few weeks, I wish I had of done it sooner " Well done you!! X | |||
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"Hello x If anyone isn’t ok please talk to someone I promise you it will help x" Hello xx | |||
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"Terrible. Agoraphobic which I don't really understand since I'm fine with going to work. Most of the time I can't physically leave the house, I get to door but can not open it. Trying and failing makes me feel worse about it and makes it harder. All I get told is to go see someone about it. Great advice" You should be able to access virtual help, talking therapies will offer video calls. | |||
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"Hey Pickle, it's fluctuating at the moment between good and survival mode ❤️" Do what you got to do. I see you xx | |||
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"So close to being off these meds. So close. And the only trade off I'm noticing at the moment is a little withdrawal if I'm not vigilant." I was going to DM but can't. It's a hard slog, like another member it was good to actually feel things after being on these for so long, the withdrawal can be a bit scary at times, really hope you'll feel like you don't need them. And I will harp on about this forever.... But get your bloods done and see if you have any deficiencies. Good supplements have worked really well for me x | |||
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"So close to being off these meds. So close. And the only trade off I'm noticing at the moment is a little withdrawal if I'm not vigilant. I was going to DM but can't. It's a hard slog, like another member it was good to actually feel things after being on these for so long, the withdrawal can be a bit scary at times, really hope you'll feel like you don't need them. And I will harp on about this forever.... But get your bloods done and see if you have any deficiencies. Good supplements have worked really well for me x" Thank you. I've had a long exploration of why things are the way they are. Ultimately, childhood stuff etc. (Was diagnosed with thyroid issues as a teenager - it's not that) At the moment it's the technical challenge of coming off the meds without sending myself spinning with brain zaps 😅 | |||
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"Off to Andy’s Man Club on Monday- " Looked around forums for AMC no one has mentioned it(but me) | |||
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"Off to Andy’s Man Club on Monday- Looked around forums for AMC no one has mentioned it(but me)" I also suggested this on another thread recently. Often there are other local groups, I think Men Shed is one? We have various groups in Portsmouth, also some that are veteran focused. | |||
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"How are you? If you’re reading this, say hello" I’m bat shit crazy theres a clinical name for it but I can’t be fussed with all that mumbo jumbo jargon ! But hello hope your having a wonderful Sunday OP! | |||
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