FabSwingers.com forum: You know when women ask "does this dress make me look fat? 🤔"

By *agic.M OP Man
30 weeks ago

Orpington

Such an odd question 🧐...really don't know why they ask it.

Anyways, does this unbuttoned shirt 👆 make me look fat? I feel it gives out this shadowie texture that covers the depth of my muscle insertions 👀...

ok but in all seriousness, do you believe there are clothes that make you look like you gained weight? And I'm not talking about muscle/fat suits 🙄...that don't count 😒

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By *viatrixWoman
30 weeks ago

Gatwick

Definitely!

Some garments are much more flattering than others…

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
30 weeks ago

North Somerset

Yep. Even for men.

Badly fitting clobber can be unflattering, hang awkwardly and change the shape of someone completely.

It's why I don't wear skinny jeans. To 'ouchy' in the crotch depth and they make me look like I'm smuggling a banana.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"...ok but in all seriousness, do you believe there are clothes that make you look like you gained weight? And I'm not talking about muscle/fat suits 🙄...that don't count 😒"

Uh.

Yeah.

Empire dresses make me look like a fat sack of potatoes, for example.

Boy clothes don't tend to have quite so much going on that affects it to the same degree, but there for sure are wild differences between the perceived physicality beneath baggy sweaters and a well fitted suit 💜

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

The cut of clothes can enhance or not.

I'm not very tall so a gathered skirt makes me look like I have hips out of proportion with the rest of my body. A dress cut on the bias will flatter most figures.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

G- Does this make my butt look big?

D- Yeah. REALLY BIG.

G- Perfect

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

Some garments do accentuate the fatness.

What they are really asking is, are my fat bits sticking out.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

Central

People, including myself, can look distinctly different in body form, by their style of clothes. If at a point when I'm especially sensitive about my looks, I don't want others to pick up on what I think is wrong.

It's a privilege to be asked about our choices

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By *ellhungvweMan
30 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am tall and lean. Clothes for tall people tend to be cut much wider which just looks awful.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

I mean, we all know we're fat. Some clothes accentuate the fatness.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

Same as men saying do my muscle look big in this shirt.

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By *agic.M OP Man
30 weeks ago

Orpington

"Same as men saying do my muscle look big in this shirt."

Guilty 🤚😳

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By *vaRoseWoman
30 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Yes cut and shape matters

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By *ertcoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

Welwyn Garden City

Pizza makes my clothes shrink

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By *ilkandvelvetWoman
30 weeks ago

Plymouth

It depends on colour too. Black is slimming, white is not flattering at all

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
30 weeks ago

Tamworth

Definitely, some things are more flattering than others.

The key with that question is to be accepting of whatever answer you get - and to not ask if you don’t really want the truth!

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
30 weeks ago

Hatfield

Leave the country .. play dead .. just don’t answer

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By *urry BlokeMan
30 weeks ago

Wear clothes that work with your build

I don't like my silhouette in a suit

Being short and chubby, I just see The Penguin

However, a single breasted woollen blazer with some good straight cut jeans, works

I won't wear buttoned up shirts with a tie either

An open collar takes the eye away from a heavy neck

If wearing an overshirt, I choose a heavy boxy cut

Lighter materials accentuate rather than cover up

I do find though, being comfortable in your clothes choice gives you much more confidence than just wearing the clothes cos it's the latest trend or because it's what you are 'expected' to wear

I am fortunate to work in an office with no strict clothing rules

I would hate to work somewhere a shirt, tie and formal trousers were expected

Likewise, I wouldn't work anywhere where the men's uniform was a polo shirt

They do no one any favours, unless you have a firm, lean body

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By *ny1localMan
30 weeks ago

READING

Just don't make the mistake of saying 'no it doesn't make you look fat, you are fat '.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

"Same as men saying do my muscle look big in this shirt.

Guilty 🤚😳"

So you know that different clothing has a different effect on your body shape.

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By *aven RedWoman
30 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

Definitely. Certain style dresses I look pregnant. Other styles I look really slim. I have learned what styles to avoid x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Chichester

"Such an odd question 🧐...really don't know why they ask it.

Anyways, does this unbuttoned shirt 👆 make me look fat? I feel it gives out this shadowie texture that covers the depth of my muscle insertions 👀...

ok but in all seriousness, do you believe there are clothes that make you look like you gained weight? And I'm not talking about muscle/fat suits 🙄...that don't count 😒"

Just tell them whst they want to hear and save yourself an earache

. Unless it’s your wife / bird then you can get away with honesty I guess

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By *ex HolesMan
29 weeks ago

Up North

"Such an odd question 🧐...really don't know why they ask it.

Anyways, does this unbuttoned shirt 👆 make me look fat? I feel it gives out this shadowie texture that covers the depth of my muscle insertions 👀...

ok but in all seriousness, do you believe there are clothes that make you look like you gained weight? And I'm not talking about muscle/fat suits 🙄...that don't count 😒

Just tell them whst they want to hear and save yourself an earache

. Unless it’s your wife / bird then you can get away with honesty I guess

You’re packing a bit ‘more’ in your dress

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
29 weeks ago

Telford

Oh certain styles just highlight areas that maybe someone didn't want to highlight, hence the question does this make me look fat.

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By *hilloutMan
29 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I am tall and lean. Clothes for tall people tend to be cut much wider which just looks awful."

Agreed!

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By *recticWoman
29 weeks ago

taunton

As someone who has lost more than half my body weight there are definitely clothes that make you look fatter than others. I have a BMI of 20 now and am still convinced I look fat in some clothes and out of them.

If I had your muscle definition I’d probably walk around with my shirt undone all day long

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By *recticWoman
29 weeks ago

taunton

"Such an odd question 🧐...really don't know why they ask it.

Anyways, does this unbuttoned shirt 👆 make me look fat? I feel it gives out this shadowie texture that covers the depth of my muscle insertions 👀...

ok but in all seriousness, do you believe there are clothes that make you look like you gained weight? And I'm not talking about muscle/fat suits 🙄...that don't count 😒

Just tell them whst they want to hear and save yourself an earache

. Unless it’s your wife / bird then you can get away with honesty I guess

"
ahahahahha I’d be more mad if a fella I was seeing told me I looked fat than a friend or a stranger but I am on the crazy spectrum

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
29 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

ahahahahha I’d be more mad if a fella I was seeing told me I looked fat than a friend or a stranger but I am on the crazy spectrum "

If an outfit is unflattering then I'd want my partner to tell me before I left the house in it than for other people to comment on it when I'm somewhere I can't change it 💜

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By *luebell888Woman
29 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I have slim legs but bootcut jeans make them look short and chunky.

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By *carlettsWoman
29 weeks ago

Harpenden

Absolutely. For example a swing dress that flows out at the waist can hide more than a bodycon dress which is tight fitting. Same for stripes horizontal makes you look wider than vertical stripes.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
29 weeks ago

Merseyside

It’s basically asking do I look ok - anything misplaced or hanging out or does this honestly suit me?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
29 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

The clothes don't make people look fat unless they are fat

There are clothes that flatter a persons shape though and those that bring out your worst features.

Even if you have the most perfectly proportioned body , ill fitting clothes make you look awkward, uncomfortable and oddly shaped

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Chichester

"The clothes don't make people look fat unless they are fat

There are clothes that flatter a persons shape though and those that bring out your worst features.

Even if you have the most perfectly proportioned body , ill fitting clothes make you look awkward, uncomfortable and oddly shaped

Very true indeed. I wear very cleavage happy clothing as it distracts people’s gazes generally from narrow hips lack of ass profusion in clothing etc

I like my skinny jeans on my legs / but my ass doesn’t

I have no issues with friends telling me if something I wear looks abit whack. Then I’ll decide if I give zero fucks or not on said look issue

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
29 weeks ago

Niche

If a woman asks that question then her girlfriends and/or boyfriend need to up their game.

She's a grown adult who can buy what she likes but they're supposed to help her when out and about to support her to buy things that best flatter her body.

AND their behaviour and the way they treat her ought to be such that she feels her best self, gorgeous in their eyes, sexy and adored as she is.

Get your idle finger out and make your woman feel adored!

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By *agic.M OP Man
29 weeks ago

Orpington

"If a woman asks that question then her girlfriends and/or boyfriend need to up their game.

She's a grown adult who can buy what she likes but they're supposed to help her when out and about to support her to buy things that best flatter her body.

AND their behaviour and the way they treat her ought to be such that she feels her best self, gorgeous in their eyes, sexy and adored as she is.

Get your idle finger out and make your woman feel adored!"

Some people have low self esteem regardless of what people around them do or say...not sure how a question like that immediately reflects low effort or lack of care from friends and loved ones...maybe it's just your experience

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
29 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Some people have low self esteem regardless of what people around them do or say...not sure how a question like that immediately reflects low effort or lack of care from friends and loved ones...maybe it's just your experience "

I don't think it even has to be about low self esteem. Sometimes I'll buy something different to my usual style or just a slightly different cut and my brain will be too busy screaming that it's DiFfErEnT to fathom whether it works on me or not, so I'll ask someone I truest to give me an honest evaluation what they think of it. And I'm pretty happy with my body to start with 💜

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
29 weeks ago

Niche

Nope, not my experience. That's why I'm a happy girlie 🫶😁 & a girl's girl and someone who doesn't gatekeep love and affection from the people in my life.

Have to be the cheerleader and the mirror 🪞 ✨️

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