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By *iveitup10 OP   Couple
30 weeks ago

Letchworth

What is it with some people?, you chat to a couple over a couple of weeks and agree a social meet. Message them a few days before to make final plans - but they don’t open your message despite being on fab several times - then they block u!, it’s just so rude- we’re all adults, if u change your mind about meeting just say so, no one’s going to get upset. In hindsight probably as well we didn’t meet as we’re not into rude people.

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Patterns like this may indicate they never intended to meet you, and were just messing you around. Unfortunately some people view the internet as live personalised theatre, rather than dealing with other people.

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By *iveitup10 OP   Couple
30 weeks ago

Letchworth

Yes we’ve come across the window shoppers before but these two have verifications

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yes we’ve come across the window shoppers before but these two have verifications"

That's never a guarantee of anything.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
30 weeks ago

Midlands

But people do get upset. We've had an extreme reaction from a guy, when changing our minds in the past. Which goes to show our gut feelings were correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

The problem is that despite you saying you won’t be upset by the change of mind…..there are many on here that do, and get rather abusive at changes of mind.

Perhaps they’ve experienced that and to spare themselves the aggro, it’s quicker to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"But people do get upset. We've had an extreme reaction from a guy, when changing our minds in the past. Which goes to show our gut feelings were correct."

Beat me to it by milliseconds

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"But people do get upset. We've had an extreme reaction from a guy, when changing our minds in the past. Which goes to show our gut feelings were correct."

Yeah, there's always a sphincter tightening moment when you say no - are they going to lose their shit?

Everyone says they won't lose their shit. Not everyone refrains from losing shit.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
30 weeks ago

Norfolk

Some times people here are not real. So you have to take good with bad . X

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
30 weeks ago

Coventry

I get people change their minds but this is a horrible cowardice. Especially if you've had to bend over backwards to clear/make arrangements.

Why can't people just be mature adults and say they've changed their minds?

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By *iddle aged and chubbyMan
30 weeks ago

Shefford

Far too many time wasters on here in my experience. However, there are also some wonderful people too

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By *lan FrescoMan
30 weeks ago

Harrogate


"What is it with some people?, you chat to a couple over a couple of weeks and agree a social meet. Message them a few days before to make final plans - but they don’t open your message despite being on fab several times - then they block u!, it’s just so rude- we’re all adults, if u change your mind about meeting just say so, no one’s going to get upset. In hindsight probably as well we didn’t meet as we’re not into rude people. "

Hi P & N.

I feel your pain. I’ve had similar experiences; moreover, as a single male among the multitude on here it barely seems to register as I’m sure the individual/couple have their gaze averted by another admirer (an endless queue I’m sure). It never fails to amaze me the lack of courtesy and decency shown by some people on here.

I think the way to survive on here is just be pragmatic, don’t overthink it and put it down to their loss. Frustrating all the same. Al x

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

That just seems to happen all the time on here ! Just a polite no thank you would go a miss ! But it is what it is !

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What is it with some people?, you chat to a couple over a couple of weeks and agree a social meet. Message them a few days before to make final plans - but they don’t open your message despite being on fab several times - then they block u!, it’s just so rude- we’re all adults, if u change your mind about meeting just say so, no one’s going to get upset. In hindsight probably as well we didn’t meet as we’re not into rude people.

Hi P & N.

I feel your pain. I’ve had similar experiences; moreover, as a single male among the multitude on here it barely seems to register as I’m sure the individual/couple have their gaze averted by another admirer (an endless queue I’m sure). It never fails to amaze me the lack of courtesy and decency shown by some people on here.

I think the way to survive on here is just be pragmatic, don’t overthink it and put it down to their loss. Frustrating all the same. Al x"

The first person I ever met from here taught me a valuable lesson in that. He was pretty sure I was genuine? But not 100%. We met in a pub.

He said (after the fact) if you're real, then that's great. If you're not real, I get to have a pint, and that's pretty good too.

Always make things lower stakes with unknown quantities.

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By *en ukMan
30 weeks ago

harrow London

I also planned a meeting with a couple 3 weeks ago for Saturday night to see each other and I just received a message that for various reasons we are no longer meeting, it's hard to find serious people like it was in the past years when you would exchange 4-5 messages and meet up and have fun.

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By *enelope2UWoman
30 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

It was probably a single guy wanking solo to you

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By *aramel.desiresMan
30 weeks ago

Surrey

We are not all adults here. Some don't understand or respect other people's time, effort and feelings.

This sort of behaviour also spoils it for the everyone else and damages the scene.

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I also planned a meeting with a couple 3 weeks ago for Saturday night to see each other and I just received a message that for various reasons we are no longer meeting, it's hard to find serious people like it was in the past years when you would exchange 4-5 messages and meet up and have fun."

You got the outcome that the OP is saying they wished they had.

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By *dventurousTraveller69Man
30 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"What is it with some people?, you chat to a couple over a couple of weeks and agree a social meet. Message them a few days before to make final plans - but they don’t open your message despite being on fab several times - then they block u!, it’s just so rude- we’re all adults, if u change your mind about meeting just say so, no one’s going to get upset. In hindsight probably as well we didn’t meet as we’re not into rude people. "

Unfortunately it happens a lot it seems.

I asked this previously as I wasnt sure what it was I had done wrong… turns out it’s one of those things.

Some said they blocked just to prevent backlash… others said it stops confusion or persistence.

Hopefully you find someone great to take their place

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By *ellhungvweMan
30 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Got to love the forums - this type of thread is posted multiple times a day by single guys and they get roasted. A couple posts it and it is all sweetness and light.

They likely were not a couple and rhe social was never going to happen.

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
30 weeks ago

Sligo/Galway/limerick depends on the day

Ive had some1 arrange to meet in a place a 2 hr drive for me an hr for them. Snapping as I was travelling then nothing. Doesn't read messages doesn't show. Few days later back messaging.

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ive had some1 arrange to meet in a place a 2 hr drive for me an hr for them. Snapping as I was travelling then nothing. Doesn't read messages doesn't show. Few days later back messaging."

I once had someone no show to a gangbang, then three hours later messaged to ask when he was going to get to fuck me. 😅

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By *en ukMan
30 weeks ago

harrow London

Over the years, I've also had a few dates with couples who had some verifications that when I got to the meeting place they either blocked me or didn't respond.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
30 weeks ago

Brum


"Ive had some1 arrange to meet in a place a 2 hr drive for me an hr for them. Snapping as I was travelling then nothing. Doesn't read messages doesn't show. Few days later back messaging."

We just decided between the two of us that we’d be perfectly willing to swim across the Irish Sea for a social with you if we had to 😘

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

It is extremely frustrating when things like this happen. Time is precious, I don’t like anyone wasting my time but me!

I generally now don’t meet unless I’ve got a phone number, not a lot of help but shows more of a genuine intent to meet 🤷‍♂️

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By *aomilatteCouple
30 weeks ago

Midlands


"What is it with some people?, you chat to a couple over a couple of weeks and agree a social meet. Message them a few days before to make final plans - but they don’t open your message despite being on fab several times - then they block u!, it’s just so rude- we’re all adults, if u change your mind about meeting just say so, no one’s going to get upset. In hindsight probably as well we didn’t meet as we’re not into rude people. "

Though you say you were chatting to a couple, even if they're well verified it's possible you're only chatting to the Man. Some Men in couples will exchange messages and arrange to meet and his partner may have no idea of the messages, it's very common on here. When (or if) she's told she may not be in the mood or may not fancy meeting.

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By *007ManMan
30 weeks ago

Worthing

Don't worry op it happens, block move on. Probably a bloke anyway.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I think some people get off on the idea of people getting ready and being excited to meet them, but then have a wank and realise they're not actually interested in actually meeting.

Some people suck. It is what it is. Block and move on.

It could also just be cold feet or something actually came up, but they've had enough outbursts from people getting upset they didn't want to say it.

One of the reasons I don't agree to meet anyone new outside of a club environment is simply so if they don't show up I'm still on for a good night at the club without them 💜

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Got to love the forums - this type of thread is posted multiple times a day by single guys and they get roasted. A couple posts it and it is all sweetness and light.

They likely were not a couple and rhe social was never going to happen. "

If it bothers you, be the change you want to see.

Be kind to those men. Roast the couples. You only get to choose your own actions, not anyone else's 💜

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By *iveitup10 OP   Couple
30 weeks ago

Letchworth

Ok not come across that ourselves - however there has been several days that they could have politely cancelled - we actually had another invitation to meet someone but declined because we had committed to this couple - Mr and Mrs block

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By *iveitup10 OP   Couple
30 weeks ago

Letchworth

We have noticed on here over the last year or so more people are being non-committal - ask u about meeting but won’t confirm or don’t open your messages ( despite logging on to fab) it’s as if they are all waiting for any better offers before deciding

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By *iveitup10 OP   Couple
30 weeks ago

Letchworth

Yes good point

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair


"We have noticed on here over the last year or so more people are being non-committal - ask u about meeting but won’t confirm or don’t open your messages ( despite logging on to fab) it’s as if they are all waiting for any better offers before deciding "

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I would also be somewhat "non-committal", or tentative, if I was making arrangements exclusively based on Fab messaging, as you seem to infer (perhaps I misunderstood?).

I would expect others to be equally "non-committal" towards me until we had exchanged phone numbers and/or connected on Telegram.

I don't think I've ever had a social or date solely on the back of Fab messaging.

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