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By *r. Mac OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Bexleyheath

Don't know about everyone else but why do we always have to change ourselves around people I get so tired seeing my friends and people I know see a woman or man and all of a sudden their whole personality changes like just be you ffs

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By *ude LawMan
40 weeks ago

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I wanna walk like you,

Talk like you, too.

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By *lackadderMan
40 weeks ago

Eastbourne

I just realised my problem. I don’t change for anyone….

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
40 weeks ago

Chester


"Don't know about everyone else but why do we always have to change ourselves around people I get so tired seeing my friends and people I know see a woman or man and all of a sudden their whole personality changes like just be you ffs

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Because they like the other person and want to impress them?

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm a bumbling mess around someone I really fancy. 😬🤓🥷

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
40 weeks ago

Gloucester

I changed myself so much for my Ex that I lost who I was, never again.

If you don’t like me for the crazy, blunt, slightly dippy, weird, funny person I am then jog on.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I've done this all my life. Tried to be the person I thought people wanted me to be.

It's failed miserably. And wasted my life, when I could have been with someone who appreciated me for me.

I've changed completely now though and I'm unapologetically me...I like me, turns out a few other people do too!🥰

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By *erfHerder74Man
40 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I see it so much in straight couples

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

To be honest i'm just myself, had an ex who came across as quiet, sweet and innocent.... yeah how wrong can you be sometimes!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm not exactly the same in every situation or with every person. I would be different at a job interview to how I was at a swingers social.

The reason for that is that I know how to behave differently and appropriately in varying situations and with varying individuals.

I'm not changing my whole personality to do it I'm just showing different aspects of it

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By *eauNaturelMan
40 weeks ago

Malmesbury

If people do this then, surely that is part of their personality?

I know someone who, when visiting places where they have a different accent to them, they adopt that accent. I don't see this a mimicry, more behind a Chameleon, fitting in and not standing out.

These people may also choose people with seemingly different personalities to theirs as an outlet for the personality traits that they have and don't feel comfortable in revealing when they are with their usual group of friends.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex


"If people do this then, surely that is part of their personality?

I know someone who, when visiting places where they have a different accent to them, they adopt that accent. I don't see this a mimicry, more behind a Chameleon, fitting in and not standing out.

These people may also choose people with seemingly different personalities to theirs as an outlet for the personality traits that they have and don't feel comfortable in revealing when they are with their usual group of friends. "

My mum would adopt speech patterns and accents. It sometimes caused offence because people would think she was taking the mickey.

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By *og and MuseCouple
40 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"If people do this then, surely that is part of their personality?

I know someone who, when visiting places where they have a different accent to them, they adopt that accent. I don't see this a mimicry, more behind a Chameleon, fitting in and not standing out.

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Sometimes you have to though like if you’re working in West Africa, you have to stop using all the little words and be more direct and blunt or people won’t understand you.

Adaptability is a key skill to adapt quickly to your surroundings & people types.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester

How can I get people to like me if I reveal my actual personality? 😱 come on, be serious!

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"How can I get people to like me if I reveal my actual personality? 😱 come on, be serious! "

This ⬆️

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