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I've lost my mojo!

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
41 weeks ago

Coventry

I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?

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By *oeBeansMan
41 weeks ago

Derby

A younger guy whose enthusiasm for the new parts of the scene rubs off on you 👀

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By *urvyMilf4BlackMenWoman
41 weeks ago

Norwich


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"

It is possible for women to be prescribed testosterone to help with libido. Two of my friends are on it and it has helped them.

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By *ife NinjaMan
41 weeks ago

Leeds

Butter. There's nothing that can't be improved with butter. It's a fetish. But go with it 😉😋🤭🥷🤓

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By *oeBeansMan
41 weeks ago

Derby


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?

It is possible for women to be prescribed testosterone to help with libido. Two of my friends are on it and it has helped them.

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Yeah, that's a good point two with some excellent case studies too! But I wouldn't rule out the younger guy out just yet, OP...

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By *og and MuseCouple
41 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

With many things, experience is a double edged sword …travel, performing, tech and even swinging, a been there and done that attitude & thinking about everything you’ve done in the past can be limiting, when you need an attitude of curiosity & learning.

finding people who are forward looking and who see things very differently is helpful.

We’re much more interested in what people want to do than what they have done.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
41 weeks ago

Hampshire

It's definitely a middle age thing.

But I agree with Joe, a nice younger man can work wonders!

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By *oeBeansMan
41 weeks ago

Derby


"It's definitely a middle age thing.

But I agree with Joe, a nice younger man can work wonders!"

Always here to help, but also... Hey

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By *orny PTMan
41 weeks ago

Peterborough


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"

What floats your vanilla boat?

Do you feel like someone who has lost the sense of smell and can't enjoy the smell of fresh baked bread, perfume or even flowers or fresh tarmac?

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By *igCatHuntingMan
41 weeks ago

Wiltshire, London


"Butter. There's nothing that can't be improved with butter. It's a fetish. But go with it 😉😋🤭🥷🤓"

I think you mean an old goat.

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By *ace400Man
41 weeks ago

near knock

I lost my mojo and now I’ve been told by someone I’ve been talking with that she can see my mojo is coming back

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By *ellhungvweMan
41 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Sometimes the best cure is just to jump straight back in. Don’t over think it and just enjoy the sex for what it is. Practice makes perfect and all that.

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
41 weeks ago

Coventry


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?

What floats your vanilla boat?

Do you feel like someone who has lost the sense of smell and can't enjoy the smell of fresh baked bread, perfume or even flowers or fresh tarmac?"

Yes, that's exactly how I feel!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Lincolnshire

It’s happens OP - you’ve had it good and therefore you have a benchmark of what you want/like/enjoy.

It’s harder to get traction with people on FAB and you become more aware of the bullshit and that you can’t be bothered wading through the mire to find the diamonds. It does become a chore at times, going over the same conversations with people when you know within 2 messages (or 1 sometimes) whether there’s anything there or not.

Changing your routine may help - going to social event and meeting people that way or chatting to couples is also good 👀

K

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By *ulie.your. bottom. slutTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Near Glasgow


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"

Have you been to your GP regarding this. Could be a hormone imbalance after your menopause and HRT might help.

A friend of mines had the same issue after her menopause. Now she cant get enough..xx

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
41 weeks ago

near Putney Heath


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?

What floats your vanilla boat?

Do you feel like someone who has lost the sense of smell and can't enjoy the smell of fresh baked bread, perfume or even flowers or fresh tarmac?

Yes, that's exactly how I feel!"

Finding a younger toyboy masseur helps. Lol!

I find a lot of men in swingers clubs devoid of sensuality, pre-care and aftercare. Hence moving to the BDSM scene.

I've been tying men up with rope and how they respond is amazing. One guy said to me that no one has taken that much care of him in a long time.

It was just touch. No sex at all.

I'm not on HRT and it takes a lot to enliven my libido. I'm 44 next month, and I don't suffer fools gladly in my Karen Era.

Once I noticed my libido drop, I had to work at it to rediscover my sexuality without a man! I became a nudist and a swinger which led me to the BDSM scene.

A lot of the time, I can be dominant because I often have to tell men how exactly to arouse me but it does leave me drained, so I prefer to find a rope top and continue with my massage men for a more sensual relaxing experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"

I know that feeling, I do kinda think when it sets in it feels like there’s almost an inevitability that those days are over and it’s time to hang up your hat. I’m speaking from experience here!

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