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Neurospicy or seen as weird?!

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By *rebus1975 OP   Man
44 weeks ago

Birmingham

Im neurodivergent- got diagnosed at 40 with high functioning autism (the previously known Asperger’s) with a side dose of ADHD.

Pros: it makes me incredibly good at my job, I’m as honest as they come and boy do I pay attention…

Cons: social cues are somewhat of a mystery, as is whether someone is interested in me - either sexually or platonically!

It also makes making the first move hard - which in an arena of LOTS of guys who are all looking for the same things, means I can struggle.

How do others cope in the world of Fab with being ND?

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By *anderingArtistMan
44 weeks ago

an abstract world

I *think* I've got ADHD but no proper diagnosis at the minute (waiting lists are great).

I mirror some of the stuff you have said OP. I feel like social cue's are lost on me. Direct statements work best. Tell me you want to ride me or tell me you think I'm a cunt. The former is obviously a-okay and I don't care about the latter, just happy to know where I stand.

Otherwise, I feel like I'm blazing through life in my own little world. Attention span's only half there. My mood peaks and troughs. I don't have much of a filter. Most of the time at work I'm being someone to fit into a professional world so by the time I get home I'm shattered but also too wired to sleep (work that one out!).

Forums wise, I post whatever I want. Message's wise I try to be relevant and respectful. If that gets me a sea of clunge, happy days.

I find it hard enough pleasing people at work let alone in my personal life. I try to be a good person and that'll do for me.

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By *ensualDivaWoman
44 weeks ago

Galway, Mayo

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Sometimes people think im funny, sometimes people think im a bitch, or too blunt, not good at replies.

Sometimes i think someones not interested or i misinterpret intentions can make it a little difficult and a few people have not been happy with me over it.

But my thoughts are i cant really change it if someone wants to get to know me properly they will realise what kind of person i am 🤷‍♀️ i do try to also better myself and make a conscious effort to not do some of them things but sometimes the supression makes it worse 🤣

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By *verageHoesCouple
44 weeks ago

Bessacarr

I don't really see it as having to cope, like you do in the everyday life, as there are so many of us on here! I figured out years ago how best to "do" fab for me, and I've stuck to it. Being female helps a lot, too, obvs.

N

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
44 weeks ago

Leeds

I tell people I'm awkward as fuck, I explain I need a flashing neon sign to know that they are interested or I'll just see them as being friendly or creepy 😂

If I'm unsure I am blunt and say I don't know if you fancy me but I do you so you'll have to snog me or say goodbye 😂

I'm just upfront (more so on my old singles profile)

Mrs

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By *esigned_For_FunWoman
44 weeks ago

wherever I am. ;)

I am definitely neuro-spicy (dyslexic and ADHD) but tbh , its a blessing in most respects. Apart from my impatient streak.

I think completely differently friend/ family/ colleagues etc and can prepare and forsee problems a lot quicker.

People can accept me as I am, or fuck off.

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By *BelfastGuyMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast


"I am definitely neuro-spicy (dyslexic and ADHD) but tbh , its a blessing in most respects. Apart from my impatient streak.

I think completely differently friend/ family/ colleagues etc and can prepare and forsee problems a lot quicker.

Just Right

People can accept me as I am, or fuck off. "

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By *ustAnotherMan
2 weeks ago

Tamworth

I was managing my own aud ADHD long before I was diagnosed but now I know why

I have little impulse control and I crave new novelty

I overthink and hyperfocus on situational outcomes and worry, usually what I might have said wrong ( I assume usually this is the case even when absolutely nothing is wrong)

Organising myself to do basic stuff is often a battle

I have masses of niche interests and hobbies I can dive into literally at the expense of the world around me (including important stuff) at a sniff of interest to follow

Mostly Im.aware so I can counter some of these things when I know I'm doing them. I often have a what's my first reaction here? Stop. Think. Probably don't do it. Think. It's painful at times.

It does help when you're talking to someone else who gets it or lives it. Rejection sensory disorder is also part of this mix and something that can be very hard for folks in this scene or online in general.

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By *allasMajorWoman
2 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Relate a lot to this as an adhd woman X

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By *lark_KentMan
2 weeks ago

here and there

Adhd and dyslexic here.

I too can relate to this.

Since i stopped trying to fit in, and instead, being myslef, i have been alot happier. Im still impulsive, crave dopermine rushes, and creative

If people dont like me, then fuck them.

Its just a pity i sometimes feel the need to expkain myself to non nuro spicy people

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By *kinmistressWoman
2 weeks ago

somewhere about

Im neurospicy... i hate socials and most usually only meet for cum and gos so i dont have to do the small talk thing. Nothing worse then a socially awquard person.. ie me... trying to extract themselves after sex...

cuddle and cup of tea? Not for me thanks.. thanks for the filling.. dont call me i will call you! (I wont)

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By *BelfastGuyMan
1 week ago

Belfast


"Im neurospicy... i hate socials and most usually only meet for cum and gos so i dont have to do the small talk thing. Nothing worse then a socially awquard person.. ie me... trying to extract themselves after sex...

cuddle and cup of tea? Not for me thanks.. thanks for the filling.. dont call me i will call you! (I wont)"

Brilliant

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By *nmyknees69Man
1 week ago

Rushden


"I *think* I've got ADHD but no proper diagnosis at the minute (waiting lists are great).

I mirror some of the stuff you have said OP. I feel like social cue's are lost on me. Direct statements work best. Tell me you want to ride me or tell me you think I'm a cunt. The former is obviously a-okay and I don't care about the latter, just happy to know where I stand.

Otherwise, I feel like I'm blazing through life in my own little world. Attention span's only half there. My mood peaks and troughs. I don't have much of a filter. Most of the time at work I'm being someone to fit into a professional world so by the time I get home I'm shattered but also too wired to sleep (work that one out!).

Forums wise, I post whatever I want. Message's wise I try to be relevant and respectful. If that gets me a sea of clunge, happy days.

I find it hard enough pleasing people at work let alone in my personal life. I try to be a good person and that'll do for me."

Genuinely why do you ‘think’ you have it? It doesn’t affect your life if you are an adult.

I was thrown out of school and caned on an almost daily basis. Wrecking classrooms by throwing desks around and punching teachers.

I’ve since been told I have Autism, ADHD and bipolar issues. Add to that my depression. Yet I just get on with life.

As for not pleasing people at work… so what?? I do MY job (better than most) and dint care in the slightest about others.

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By *BelfastGuyMan
1 week ago

Belfast


"Im neurodivergent- got diagnosed at 40 with high functioning autism (the previously known Asperger’s) with a side dose of ADHD.

Pros: it makes me incredibly good at my job, I’m as honest as they come and boy do I pay attention…

Cons: social cues are somewhat of a mystery, as is whether someone is interested in me - either sexually or platonically!

It also makes making the first move hard - which in an arena of LOTS of guys who are all looking for the same things, means I can struggle.

How do others cope in the world of Fab with being ND? "

Bit of both. Im glad im different.

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By *reolush98Man
1 week ago

Manchester

Oh I am definitely on the spectrum there's no disputing that

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By *mf123Man
1 week ago

with one foot out the door

My brain has issues but way i see it ignorence is bliss so il never go see

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