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Do you ever think your standards are too high? Here? Dating? Real life?
Here, I set my standards wherever the heck I want them and I'm fine with the results. But when it comes to dating, I dunno.. maybe I expect too much. Been single for.. a while.. now. I don't find myself attracted to the men who want to match with me, and I appear to not attract the men I want to match with. My bestie told me I shouldn't lower my standards, because I could end up with a piece of shit.. but she also said "what could he want with a fat girl from [redacted location]?" about a guy who appears to be way out of my league.
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"And here lieth the problem with all apps; you can't tell personality. It's a meat market. I gave on dating apps ages ago. I'm having a bit of a mump and moan tonight 🙄🤓" That's just it, isn't it. I'm a fucking delight but nobody can see past the 7 chins 🤣 | |||
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"And here lieth the problem with all apps; you can't tell personality. It's a meat market. I gave on dating apps ages ago. I'm having a bit of a mump and moan tonight 🙄🤓 That's just it, isn't it. I'm a fucking delight but nobody can see past the 7 chins 🤣" At the risk of sounding like a white Knight, you look just pukka to me 🫡🤓 | |||
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"Do you ever think? That's it. That's the thread
No, nevermind.
Do you ever think your standards are too high? Here? Dating? Real life?
Here, I set my standards wherever the heck I want them and I'm fine with the results. But when it comes to dating, I dunno.. maybe I expect too much. Been single for.. a while.. now. I don't find myself attracted to the men who want to match with me, and I appear to not attract the men I want to match with. My bestie told me I shouldn't lower my standards, because I could end up with a piece of shit.. but she also said "what could he want with a fat girl from [redacted location]?" about a guy who appears to be way out of my league.
So, over to you.. whaddyathunk?"I could have written this post 😂 Been single for ages, dating on and off. Not short of offers on dating apps etc, but I am not willing to lower my standards when it comes to dating and sex. Connection and attraction is important for me. Always seems like the men I am actually interested in decide they don't want me, and the ones who do I don't feel the same way. I sometimes think maybe I'm too picky and should lower my expectations, but also fuck that! I'm not going to settle for the sake of having a relationship. I'm happier single than in a bad relationship. | |||
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"And here lieth the problem with all apps; you can't tell personality. It's a meat market. I gave on dating apps ages ago. I'm having a bit of a mump and moan tonight 🙄🤓 That's just it, isn't it. I'm a fucking delight but nobody can see past the 7 chins 🤣 At the risk of sounding like a white Knight, you look just pukka to me 🫡🤓"  | |||
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"Do you ever think? That's it. That's the thread
No, nevermind.
Do you ever think your standards are too high? Here? Dating? Real life?
Here, I set my standards wherever the heck I want them and I'm fine with the results. But when it comes to dating, I dunno.. maybe I expect too much. Been single for.. a while.. now. I don't find myself attracted to the men who want to match with me, and I appear to not attract the men I want to match with. My bestie told me I shouldn't lower my standards, because I could end up with a piece of shit.. but she also said "what could he want with a fat girl from [redacted location]?" about a guy who appears to be way out of my league.
So, over to you.. whaddyathunk?
I could have written this post 😂
Been single for ages, dating on and off. Not short of offers on dating apps etc, but I am not willing to lower my standards when it comes to dating and sex. Connection and attraction is important for me. Always seems like the men I am actually interested in decide they don't want me, and the ones who do I don't feel the same way.
I sometimes think maybe I'm too picky and should lower my expectations, but also fuck that! I'm not going to settle for the sake of having a relationship. I'm happier single than in a bad relationship. "Sometimes it's easier to get lost in good romance book, and fall asleep happy 🤣 | |||
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"My bestie told me I shouldn't lower my standards, because I could end up with a piece of shit.. but she also said "what could he want with a fat girl from [redacted location]?" about a guy who appears to be way out of my league. So, over to you.. whaddyathunk?" I mean, the first part sounds right, but the second makes me wonder if you should raise your standards on friendship too. Being alone is highly underrated. And infinitely better than settling for less than you want or deserve. If it's not, take some time to learn to love yourself before worrying about loving someone else 💜 | |||
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"I'll give a fudged answer to this which will probably make no sense...and because it's late... I feel, as I get older, I'm begrudgingly accepting the gradual erosion of whatever physical attributes I had of my younger self: looks (good or not-so-good), skin complexion, body shape and build, and the general aura of youthfulness and vitality. Because of this I sometimes feel that I may not meet the standards of others on here. Those "others" who have not succumbed (yet) to my aforementioned ^ decrepitudes. In other words I'm no longer a catch. (Was I ever one?) I have standards - chemistry, connection, presentation etc which serve me well, but they carry little value if I don't meet the standards of others. Clear as mud." I was a catch in my 20s. Hit 30 and it all went downhill 🤣 | |||
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"One of my good mates tells me all the time to lower my standards not that I think I’m above anyone looks wise my hair and face are utter dogshit haha it’s more so lifestyle factors i expect a potential partner to work hard, be money and goal oriented, train seriously and have savings or assets of own. He says it’s slim pickings at my age and I’m just denying myself potential happiness haha I have thought about it a lot " How does he know what would make you happy and would you be happy with someone who didn't fit your criteria? | |||
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"I'll give a fudged answer to this which will probably make no sense...and because it's late... I feel, as I get older, I'm begrudgingly accepting the gradual erosion of whatever physical attributes I had of my younger self: looks (good or not-so-good), skin complexion, body shape and build, and the general aura of youthfulness and vitality. Because of this I sometimes feel that I may not meet the standards of others on here. Those "others" who have not succumbed (yet) to my aforementioned ^ decrepitudes. In other words I'm no longer a catch. (Was I ever one?) I have standards - chemistry, connection, presentation etc which serve me well, but they carry little value if I don't meet the standards of others. Clear as mud. · I was a catch in my 20s. Hit 30 and it all went downhill 🤣" • Good grief - don't let JoeBeans see that remark!  | |||
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"I'll give a fudged answer to this which will probably make no sense...and because it's late... I feel, as I get older, I'm begrudgingly accepting the gradual erosion of whatever physical attributes I had of my younger self: looks (good or not-so-good), skin complexion, body shape and build, and the general aura of youthfulness and vitality. Because of this I sometimes feel that I may not meet the standards of others on here. Those "others" who have not succumbed (yet) to my aforementioned ^ decrepitudes. In other words I'm no longer a catch. (Was I ever one?) I have standards - chemistry, connection, presentation etc which serve me well, but they carry little value if I don't meet the standards of others. Clear as mud. · I was a catch in my 20s. Hit 30 and it all went downhill 🤣 • Good grief - don't let JoeBeans see that remark! "He'll cope 🤣 | |||
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" I was a catch in my 20s. Hit 30 and it all went downhill 🤣" You're a total catch now, darling. No question! | |||
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"One of my good mates tells me all the time to lower my standards not that I think I’m above anyone looks wise my hair and face are utter dogshit haha it’s more so lifestyle factors i expect a potential partner to work hard, be money and goal oriented, train seriously and have savings or assets of own. He says it’s slim pickings at my age and I’m just denying myself potential happiness haha I have thought about it a lot How does he know what would make you happy and would you be happy with someone who didn't fit your criteria? " Good point I will use that next time he mentions it ha, I know he means well just wants to see me with someone I think | |||
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"Do you ever think? That's it. That's the thread
No, nevermind.
Do you ever think your standards are too high? Here? Dating? Real life?
Here, I set my standards wherever the heck I want them and I'm fine with the results. But when it comes to dating, I dunno.. maybe I expect too much. Been single for.. a while.. now. I don't find myself attracted to the men who want to match with me, and I appear to not attract the men I want to match with. My bestie told me I shouldn't lower my standards, because I could end up with a piece of shit.. but she also said "what could he want with a fat girl from [redacted location]?" about a guy who appears to be way out of my league.
So, over to you.. whaddyathunk?"Wow that's some bestie ! If that’s how she views you, maybe she’s jealous? | |||
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"My standards on here have been low in the past. I recently said to myself, NEVER AGAIN. " Ah! So that's why you blocked me!!! | |||
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"My standards on here have been low in the past. I recently said to myself, NEVER AGAIN. Ah! So that's why you blocked me!!!" I would never ever block you 😇 | |||
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"I don't think anyone should have standards to lower. That's just arbitrarily putting abstract constraints that are not realistic. I've known tall women who said "I don't want to date someone shorter than me". I've know guys who said "I'd never date a woman older than me". Yet they might meet someone in real life they fancy and not realise they break their own rules. On the other hand, I don't think anyon should settle for something they don't want because they haven't found what they want. But that's just my opinion. No one has to agree. "My standards have nothing to do with looks. My standards in a romantic relationship are about things like... - not wanting children (because I don't want them - it's a deal breaker) - emotional maturity - willingness and ability to communicate openly like adults - respect for women's autonomy - socially liberal values/having a sense of social justice - having the same priorities in life - similar interests and hobbies - sexual compatiblity Some of these are more important than others, but not wanting kids is an absolute deal breaker. | |||
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"One of my good mates tells me all the time to lower my standards not that I think I’m above anyone looks wise my hair and face are utter dogshit haha it’s more so lifestyle factors i expect a potential partner to work hard, be money and goal oriented, train seriously and have savings or assets of own. He says it’s slim pickings at my age and I’m just denying myself potential happiness haha I have thought about it a lot How does he know what would make you happy and would you be happy with someone who didn't fit your criteria? Good point I will use that next time he mentions it ha, I know he means well just wants to see me with someone I think" He’s being a good mate by not blowing smoke up your arse. To be honest, he’s right, your criteria reduce potential partners to a very low, almost impossible number but you also have to examine what you bring to a potential relationship too, take a look around gyms etc. (I find attractive well adjusted women who look after themselves and stay in shape are doing classes, body pump, spin, running clubs, you won’t meet them in a weight room with a bunch of other dudes)- what will they see in you? You’re obviously spending a great deal of time and resources on your body but what else do you do, what else do you enjoy outside of work and gym, meal prepping etc. Emotional and intellectual traits that are attractive to a woman? It’s tough finding a mate in todays society - online dating is just shit, scrolling through pictures, swiping left and right, discarding after a momentary glance at a single picture without ever considering what they are really like. Without giving a chance to a real life encounter which might reveal an amazing attractive, desirable personality Good luck my friend, life these days has changed from how people used to meet and pair bond and it doesn’t look good for the future. | |||
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"One of my good mates tells me all the time to lower my standards not that I think I’m above anyone looks wise my hair and face are utter dogshit haha it’s more so lifestyle factors i expect a potential partner to work hard, be money and goal oriented, train seriously and have savings or assets of own. He says it’s slim pickings at my age and I’m just denying myself potential happiness haha I have thought about it a lot How does he know what would make you happy and would you be happy with someone who didn't fit your criteria? Good point I will use that next time he mentions it ha, I know he means well just wants to see me with someone I think He’s being a good mate by not blowing smoke up your arse. To be honest, he’s right, your criteria reduce potential partners to a very low, almost impossible number but you also have to examine what you bring to a potential relationship too, take a look around gyms etc. (I find attractive well adjusted women who look after themselves and stay in shape are doing classes, body pump, spin, running clubs, you won’t meet them in a weight room with a bunch of other dudes)- what will they see in you? You’re obviously spending a great deal of time and resources on your body but what else do you do, what else do you enjoy outside of work and gym, meal prepping etc. Emotional and intellectual traits that are attractive to a woman? It’s tough finding a mate in todays society - online dating is just shit, scrolling through pictures, swiping left and right, discarding after a momentary glance at a single picture without ever considering what they are really like. Without giving a chance to a real life encounter which might reveal an amazing attractive, desirable personality Good luck my friend, life these days has changed from how people used to meet and pair bond and it doesn’t look good for the future." All great points mate thank you for the insight | |||
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