FabSwingers.com forum: Do you keep in contact with your ex?

By *eltCuteMightDelete OP Woman
38 weeks ago

Reading

I'm friends with one of mine (we ended things 18 months ago). And being friends with him is normally fine.

Except recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
38 weeks ago

Swansea

I am in contact with my ex husband because we have 2 kids together. Thankfully our youngest turned 18 this year and contact has naturally become less stressful.

OP, in relation to your ex taking his new partner to see a show you enjoyed. See it as a positive, you have great taste.

Mrs

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By *legantEnigmaWoman
38 weeks ago

South of the Watford Gap

I'm not in contact with any 'romantic' exes. I do keep in touch with ex lovers though.

I'd be very flattered if a friend took their partner to see something I'd enjoyed and recommended to them. Unless of course I'd asked them to go with me and they declined and instead took their partner. That would irk me.

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By *hoenix_1Man
38 weeks ago

richmond

I still chat to my ex, who j met on here snd had a couples profile, band went out for a coffee with here once

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Not anymore, we use to text every once in a while but i cut contact with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

No.

In the words of Dave- Fuck them man. I don’t respect my paigons.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
38 weeks ago

1127 walnut avenue

Ex girlfriend of 4 years...we finished about 15 years ago.. still good friends though.. she's up in the north east we chat on the phone now and again and sometimes we meet up if she's down London... totally nothing sexual between us... just friends..she actually gave me a makeover once and has given me make up advice.... Shame I didn't heed it ....😹😹😹

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By *dible_KinkCouple
38 weeks ago

Aberdeen

No, my ex took our break up hard and cut ties.

Polly

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Absolutely not. Unless there's kids connecting you, there's no reason to be in contact. The healthiest thing to do is move forward and cut all contact.

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By *eltCuteMightDelete OP Woman
38 weeks ago

Reading

😂 someone just private messaged me to call me a 'ho' for this thread. So that makes my day even better.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
38 weeks ago

Swansea

"😂 someone just private messaged me to call me a 'ho' for this thread. So that makes my day even better."

I had the same message.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"😂 someone just private messaged me to call me a 'ho' for this thread. So that makes my day even better."

I would say i'm surprised.... unfortunately not on here op

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By *he MinionMan
38 weeks ago

I try and stay friends with ex partners. It is usually them who end things with me, so it is mostly their call if we stay in touch or not.

Some do, some dont.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

I haven't seen it heard from him since 1981 when our divorce was finalised.

He was so devastated by it all that he remarried within 6 months.

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By *parkle1974Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

There is only 1 ex that I have zero contact with.

The couple of others, we parted on friendly terms so do still have contact every now and then.

I'm happy that they are happy x

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By *EAT..85Woman
38 weeks ago

Nottingham

I'm good friends with one, but that's because I secretly hope to reignite it with her when her home life settles down.

The kids dad, contact is an evil necessary for now. I'm friendly with most other past dalliances though.

I'd take it as a compliment (after feeling a bit initially odd) that your ex took his girlfriend to the show you praised.

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By *luebell888Woman
38 weeks ago

Glasgowish

My ex and I get on better now than we did when we lived together. I still see him about twice a week.

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By *ookie46Woman
38 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’ve only had three serious relationships in my whole life

Ev husband no, we have kids together but they are all young adults now so the contact if wished can go through them

First serious ex I was engaged to we never kept in contact, he cheated so I cut all ties

Last serious relationship of four years no contact as turned out he was a Walter Mitty type character

Casual boyfriends I’ve had over the years still keep in touch with a few as we parted on good terms

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
38 weeks ago

belfast

Nah. Mo interest in them at all. Apart from one and she went travelling. Joined one of those peace convoys.

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By *r_Mrs.DSCouple
38 weeks ago

Voldsøy

All but one. My ex fiance was just too much. I had to block him because he wouldn't stop trying to contact me ALL THE TIME, especially when he found out I was with Mr. DS

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By *26StitchMan
38 weeks ago

Hucknall

Only by radar.

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By *ubcuckpupMan
38 weeks ago

Manchester

Always try and stay on touch with my ex's. Cos I like to be friends first and foremost in a relationship. Only one I have zero contact with

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By *lueDressWoman
38 weeks ago

Bath Somerset

I didn't keep in contact with either of my two ex partners. They wouldn't accept that I had moved on and they hadn't. So it was for the best.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
38 weeks ago

Reading

My exhusband yes. On here no I've moved on.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
38 weeks ago

Leeds

I still live with her! It's far from ideal and massively inconvenient, but it's a temporary arrangement. We've a child to consider, and the financial implications of living separately make a phased exit the most sensible approach.

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By *ed FlameWoman
38 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire

The few I was seriously in love with I am still in contact on and off but just a messages now and then. X

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By *ewtfaceMan
38 weeks ago

Bracknell

I don't see or speak to any ex GFs, but I'm friends with a few via Facebook ~ we still get along and have a laugh. Most were a very long time ago, so all water under bridge.

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
38 weeks ago

someplace

Yes.

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By *om WxmMan
38 weeks ago

Wrexham

After a period of acrimony after we divorced my ex and I are on good terms now. Meet for coffee etc. She is always dressed to impress when we meet, and although I've never mentioned anything there is some flirting. We always kiss each other hello and goodbye on the lips. Don't think I would ever go further with her but I have to admit it's tempting.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
38 weeks ago

West Bromwich

My ex wife i do shopping and diy for her and we get on great support her financially as she cant work due 2 health issues .I still and always will love her .but not in love with her x

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
38 weeks ago

West Bromwich

We're still friends with my ex, he was my husband's mate before we got together.

We have spent holidays together, and our children have grown up together

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Only one is the kids dad, its amicable for their sake, if i had the choice I'd have no contact because of what he did

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By *elboy1978Man
38 weeks ago

Jarrow

Only for the kids nothing else

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By *weetiepie99Woman
38 weeks ago

cardiff

Sporadically because we have children

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By *cLovin2Man
38 weeks ago

London

"😂 someone just private messaged me to call me a 'ho' for this thread. So that makes my day even better."

Charming fella, what a moron.

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By *cLovin2Man
38 weeks ago

London

I try to keep in contact with most of my ex's. Even if they maybe just occasional text conversations. I generally haven't had a bad break up as such.

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By *host63Man
38 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Not a chance in hell. They are an ex ex for a reason

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

Fuck no! I can’t even find the twat to sign divorce papers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Nope

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By *ee1967Man
38 weeks ago

hatch end

Yes I do occasionally up with her a few times for a threesome and she still sometimes sends naughty pictures

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By *umagain58Man
38 weeks ago

London

I have been married for over 20 years and long time swinger. I have had chance to introduce several exes to my wife and was fun

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I'm not quite sure I understand the problem with him going to see something you told him you enjoyed. He thinks your opinion is worthwhile, going with you would be inappropriate with the situation even if you did want to see it again. I'm not sure what the correct course of action would have been otherwise.

I'm friends with the majority of my exes.

There's a couple of shitty ones that needed utterly cut out, but mostly the people I've cared about as partners but eventually determined that we weren't working that way I continue caring about. Sometimes needs a little time completely apart for the dust to settle immediately after the breakup, but once that bit is taken care of going back to being friends is the norm for me 💜

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By *exxyyDy11Man
38 weeks ago

North West

I'd rather spend a week in Ukraine or Gaza than contact her.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Fucked her a few times after we split, it was a long time ago though

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By *itgingermanMan
38 weeks ago

Rotherham

Kids yes otherwise no

Kept getting asked back, did once after a month after the brake up but after that I kept saying no.

All I could think was ‘WTF are you doing’

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By *exxyyDy11Man
38 weeks ago

North West

"Fuck no! I can’t even find the twat to sign divorce papers!! "

Damn that bad eh 😂

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By *eve500Man
38 weeks ago

Leeds

Don't look at mine as a failed marriage, but a good one that didn't last. I realised I didn't need to forgive her, as there was nothing to forgive her for. Everything that ever happens is OK, because however bad it seemed, it all brought you to this perfect moment.....

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By *eroLondonMan
38 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just

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I'm really struggling with this 'issue'...you made a recommendation and, having placed trust and value on that recommendation, he went to see the musical (with a partner).

I don't see anything untoward or nefarious in his actions.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"...recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just

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I'm really struggling with this 'issue'...you made a recommendation and, having placed trust and value on that recommendation, he went to see the musical (with a partner).

I don't see anything untoward or nefarious in his actions."

Don't you know that if your ex sees something first you're never allowed to see it, especially if they enjoy it? Thems the rules. Apparently 💜

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By *eroLondonMan
38 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just

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I'm really struggling with this 'issue'...you made a recommendation and, having placed trust and value on that recommendation, he went to see the musical (with a partner).

I don't see anything untoward or nefarious in his actions.

Don't you know that if your ex sees something first you're never allowed to see it, especially if they enjoy it? Thems the rules. Apparently 💜"

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I think you and I need to engage in some serious coquettish courtship to test this theory. It's long overdue.

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By *ife NinjaMan
38 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Fuck no! I can’t even find the twat to sign divorce papers!! "

Sorry, that made me chortle 😂🤓

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By *exxyyDy11Man
38 weeks ago

North West

"Fuck no! I can’t even find the twat to sign divorce papers!!

Sorry, that made me chortle 😂🤓"

Yeah same. It was a great comment wasn't it 😂

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By *kpiercedCouple
38 weeks ago

walsall

In touch with the ex ? Fuck no

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

No ... but i heard hes still alive and he said he would never be able to live without me .... more lies

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By *enda83Man
38 weeks ago

north

I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year

The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year

Fair play for being a decent guy doing that.... many wouldn’t

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

"No ... but i heard hes still alive and he said he would never be able to live without me .... more lies "

😂😂😂😂

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By *ellinever70Woman
38 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Absolutely not. Unless there's kids connecting you, there's no reason to be in contact. The healthiest thing to do is move forward and cut all contact."

Yeah, I'm aligned with this

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By *enda83Man
38 weeks ago

north

"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year

Fair play for being a decent guy doing that.... many wouldn’t "

Cheers mate being completely honest though if she didn’t have my daughter half the time I probably wouldn’t care in the slightest haha

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By *samyhotwifeWoman
38 weeks ago

Dublin

Yes I still chat to my ex a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year

Fair play for being a decent guy doing that.... many wouldn’t

Cheers mate being completely honest though if she didn’t have my daughter half the time I probably wouldn’t care in the slightest haha "

I bet! 🤣

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By *exxyyDy11Man
38 weeks ago

North West

"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year

Good on you for trying to keep the peace for the sake of your daughter. Respect mate.

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By *enda83Man
38 weeks ago

north

"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year

Good on you for trying to keep the peace for the sake of your daughter. Respect mate. "

Thank you mate

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By *istr3ssWoman
38 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

I'm in contact with my ex, but only because our kids live with him (they're both in their 20s).

He's still a narcissist and I'm happy to only have see him for a few minutes every week

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By *vonne5exMan
38 weeks ago

Doncaster

"My ex wife i do shopping and diy for her and we get on great support her financially as she cant work due 2 health issues .I still and always will love her .but not in love with her x"
Good man

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By *oinerbillMan
38 weeks ago

warrington

Every ex is different, some i miss , some i wonder what i ever saw in them

One ex was seeing my mate behind my back and got pregnant by him - i dont hate anyone but im glad she is out of my life

Another i still see around, she is the most wonderful person you could meet. i was too young and blew it, she is one of the nicest people on the planet

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I don't. When I've tried, they don't want it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I’ve had a fair few 2/3 year relationships and can say I speak to them all except 1.

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By *orphia2003Woman
38 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I keep in close contact with one, he is my best mate. As a couple it was toxic. As friends we are great.

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By *ecky and justCouple
38 weeks ago

Godalming

Ex wives… definitely not.

Ex girlfriends… Yes, friends with almost all, one is local and is probably coming for dinner Sunday.

She came to our wedding as well.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
38 weeks ago

Reading

I’m still in contact with the ex husband as he is my son’s dad. Conversation is limited to essentials about parenting decisions and logistics though despite his best efforts. He still wants me back and I couldn’t think of anything worse.

Not in contact with the ex fwb and I don’t expect I ever will be after the way he treated me. Still in contact with a couple of previous partners but I wouldn’t count them as ex’s as there was never anything serious between us.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

F*ck no. He has single handedly destryoed my life/our family. He continues to be a thorn in my side & make me drag him through the courts.

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Ramsey

Only cos of the kids for joint essentials. It's generally polite & amicable with occasional flash points. Where once I'd have taken her back, what I learned during split/divorce/since, absolutely not, not the woman I thought I married. Selfish, shallow & materialistic despite denials.

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By *IXEN200Woman
38 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I was until he passed away two years ago we had been friends years before we got together

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By *olinOfBathMan
38 weeks ago

Corsham

Which one...?

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