FabSwingers.com forum: Calling out your friends and family

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How comfortable are you calling out your friends and family if you don’t approve of their behaviour or views? Do you back them in public then call them out in private? Do you think you tend to let them get away with more without realising?

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
1 day ago

Next Door

My son has no filter sometimes, and yes I have put him up on that publicly and privately a few times.

If its totally unacceptable behaviour then it should be called out straight away, but I wouldnt make a scene, a quiet word often makes people rethink their comments/behaviour.

By *inger_SnapWoman
1 day ago

Hampshire

I have to do this a lot with my parents (v elderly) they just aren't very accepting of people who are different, unless they know them. Which is very odd in itself.

By *ongAndThick123Man
1 day ago

Shrewsbury

Behaviour - I’ll usually let it slide until I get to breaking point and then I’ll snap.

Views - I’m not the thought police and people can have whatever views they want. I’m not going to “call out” someone for having a different opinion, and I won’t tell them they’re wrong either.

I’ll just ask questions that lead to deeper discussion, and leave them to figure out the rest.

By *viatrixWoman
1 day ago

Redhill

I did with my mother in law after she started spewing some racist crap that included myself. I was told to understand her, she’s elderly and possibly with dementia, so “the filter is off”- which made it worse for me, as she’s had these views all these years but they’ve just been hidden. So I removed myself from the situation and haven’t seen her again.

There are some people I am gathering courage to talk to calmly and address some views (specifically about me) that I don’t agree on, but I don’t want to hurt- I did say on one of your other threads that I can be a bit of a doormat but I am working on that, establishing boundaries and calling out behaviour/views I don’t agree with.