FabSwingers.com forum: Proactive or reactive

By *layfullsam OP Man
4 days ago

Solihull

How do you use fab to find meets

Do you wait for people to contact you

Message first and look for what you want

Mix of both

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By *eanRMan
4 days ago

Dublin 9

On occasion proactive yet I will definitely respond to messages or winks too

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 days ago

Leeds

I look for what I want mainly x

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By *layfullsam OP Man
4 days ago

Solihull

"I look for what I want mainly x"

Love this

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By *es not the MessiahMan
4 days ago

3rd rock from the sun

Neither as I can't be arsed with it

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By *ornyOlder1000Man
4 days ago

Bury

Neither. Doesn't work for me at all.

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
4 days ago

somewhere, someplace

Reactive, I'm crap at telling people anything 😂

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By *andB130Couple
4 days ago

northampton

Mixed,probably a few more meets from when we make initial contact.

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By *arialoueWoman
4 days ago

Doncaster

Nither cant be bothered ing out the time wasters n the other rifraf

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By *layfullsam OP Man
4 days ago

Solihull

"Reactive, I'm crap at telling people anything 😂"

Lmao

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By *rs GGWoman
4 days ago

Up North

I'm a bit of a lazy git so wait for people to come to me

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By *uperSalopian7Man
4 days ago

Shrewsbury

I'm reactive. I'm not very outgoing

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By *layfullsam OP Man
4 days ago

Solihull

"I'm a bit of a lazy git so wait for people to come to me "

I’d still be waiting aged 87 if I did that lol

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By *rdere OpusCouple
4 days ago

Brum - ish

A mix. We use meets and events, message people we think we could be compatible with and respond to first messages where there’s a whiff of attraction 😂

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By *aomilatteCouple
4 days ago

Midlands

We never message first and reply to less than 5% of messages received. Of the the few we reply to they lead to nothing. Our few meets have started at clubs.

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By *layfullsam OP Man
4 days ago

Solihull

"We never message first and reply to less than 5% of messages received. Of the the few we reply to they lead to nothing. Our few meets have started at clubs."

Interesting stats

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 days ago

little house on the praire

When I was meeting it was a bit of both

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By *hatgingerguyMan
4 days ago

Manchester

1% proactive, the rest reactive or people i met in clubs. Of the 1% maybe a 1% reply rate.

I've no energy for being pushy and mass mailing

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By *avenNightsMan
4 days ago

Canvey Island

Reactive - I let people find me and if my profile interests them then all good!

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
4 days ago

Niche

I do enjoy doing little flirty things to fish for a delicious snacky snack of a man.

Drop a dainty hankie and see which kind gent will take the hint and offer to sweep a girl off her feet.

I'm a big fan of a manly man doing manly-man, sexy, hornificated things in ways that don't require me to be a doormat.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
4 days ago

Bit of both.

Feel like I'm mostly messaged or winked by couples as opposed to single ladies.

Which is still great, I'm not complaining

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By *estinysswingersCouple
4 days ago

Worsley

If you want good things to happen you need to go and find them.

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By *an8iMan
4 days ago

Bilston

I prefer clubs now dont have any luck with messaging on here, I join the event group chat and post on there and that works much better for me.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
4 days ago

huddersfield

Mix of both

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 days ago

Reading

Totally proactive. I let them come to me.

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By *acey_RedWoman
4 days ago

Liverpool

Neither

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
4 days ago

In fair Verona.

I’m pro active if we meet. 😏

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By *peedyGMan
4 days ago

Telford

I don't really message much in general, if i like the look of someone i will message first yes.

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By *easideShenanigansMan
4 days ago

Gronant

In more than 20 years, I can honestly say I have not had one meet ever as a result of either sending or receiving a message on fab.

For me, fab serves 3 purposes.

1) Passing time on the forums.

2) Imagery to keep my eyes lubricated.

3) Info about clubs and club events.

I am not shy to visit clubs and that is where I have the most success at getting laid, getting sucked off and even meeting sociable, friendly people!

Other than that, I've met several people through dating stuff from Dateline in the 1980's, through POF in the 2000s.

Oh, and I met many people through actually going out to pubs, general clubs, walks and even by simply visiting a nuddy beach.

Hope That Helps

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By *ife NinjaMan
4 days ago

Dunfermline

Don't message much these days. I have had meets from messages, but rare in the last couple of years 🤓

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By *egoMan
4 days ago

Preston

Mainly passive.

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By *esigned_For_FunWoman
4 days ago

wherever I am. ;)

I do neither now.

I find a lot of the men who contact me expect me to be online wank fodder. I don't indulge but just use the block button.

Mainly here now to quietly watch and laugh at what goes on in the forums.

Hopefully will find a quality kink friend, but not betting on it from this site though.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
4 days ago

Trowbridge

I look for what/who interests me, very occasionally I’m found by the right person

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By *azzy75Man
4 days ago

Houghton le Spring

Definitely proactive. When you look like me, you've got to get the personality out there first!

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By *eliWoman
4 days ago

I've never thought oh I need to find someone for sex, actively looked as such.

But if I think someone is interesting I'm happy to message. Or reply.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 days ago

Covent Garden

"Do you wait for people to contact you..."

Mostly this, from experience.

"Message first and look for what you want..."

Very occasionally. If I'm feeling compelled.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
4 days ago

Maidstone

Erm both. I don't really go looking but if someone catches my eye I'll contact them

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By *estructionDollyWoman
4 days ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Mostly reactive. Sometimes proactive if I feel brave and find someone intriguing enough.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
4 days ago

Stockton

Reactive mostly although every so often i will be brave

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By *eroLondonMan
4 days ago

Covent Garden

"Do you wait for people to contact you...

Mostly this, from experience.

Message first and look for what you want...

Very occasionally. If I'm feeling compelled."

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Just to add from my previous response - as I didn't read the opening post properly - this applies for whatever reason in general terms, and not necessarily just looking for 'meets'.

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By *olinOfBathMan
4 days ago

Corsham

Both, but more often proactive. For finding folks, though, nothing beats clubbing. Messaging just can't compete with face-to-face conversation to gauge compatibility.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
4 days ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Both, but more us looking for a bit.

If the blokes respond.

Which they usually don't 😂

Which is fine, we aint everyones mug of Bovril.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
4 days ago

Altrincham

"How do you use fab to find meets

Do you wait for people to contact you

Message first and look for what you want

Mix of both "

I wait to be messaged first

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By *aughtylist DuoCouple
4 days ago

Kilmarnock

"Reactive, I'm crap at telling people anything 😂"

Saaaaammmeeee

Tho we will send a wink now and again

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By *etcouple22Couple
4 days ago

Salisbury

A bit of each

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By *raveboyMan
4 days ago

Helston

"Reactive, I'm crap at telling people anything 😂"

Just go with the flow and all things will follow,

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By *offysmangoMan
4 days ago

Colchester

Haven't instigated or messaged a single woman on here yet, and don't plan to. Don't even respond to winks.

If someone's likes me enough to message, they will. I'm not going to send a thoughtful message anymore, just for it to either be deleted, or lost among the dozens of three word messages from horny men.

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By *azzle99Woman
4 days ago

Edinburgh

A mix, but one things for sure never ever for instant “meet now”! Always well planned.

Often when I am proactive and message a guy they don’t believe it’s true - can’t win!

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By *N MFCoupleCouple
4 days ago

Lincoln

I assumed single women didn’t have to do much in the way of instigating things, but I suppose Sod’s Law says if there’s 100 people, the 99 you DON’T want will be the ones bugging you

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By *azzy75Man
4 days ago

Houghton le Spring

"A mix, but one things for sure never ever for instant “meet now”! Always well planned.

Often when I am proactive and message a guy they don’t believe it’s true - can’t win! "

I know what you mean! I've had a lot of messages from a different app I use lately and a fair number of them have been fake or scamners. So when I've gotten genuine ones, I've been super cautious which has put some genuine ladies off. I still have to question why some ladies prefer Shrek over Brad Pitt!

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By *oodmessMan
4 days ago

yumsville

I don't at all then am taken aback when people do

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By *heVikingJarlMan
4 days ago

behind you

I try to be proactive but with limited success

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By *cottish guy 555Man
3 days ago

London

I don't really. It's very rare I'll message someone I don't already know.

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By *sWyldWoman
3 days ago

Edinburgh

Currently in a proactive phase

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By *ustBoWoman
3 days ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

When I am meeting then I am pro active. I prefer to look for those who pique my interest.

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
3 days ago

MiddleofMyStreet

"How do you use fab to find meets

Do you wait for people to contact you

Message first and look for what you want

Mix of both "

Mix of both... or i just go into clubs... although it is rare i message first.

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By *xx0123Man
3 days ago

nottingham

Try and be proactive but can’t seem to get any meets sadly

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

100% reactive.

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By *y_journeyMan
3 days ago

newark

If someone actually has something to say in their profile and I’d like to know more then of course I would politely message.

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