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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. " Don't let some backwards neanderthal knock your confidence. She wasn't for you and thankfully you found out early. My missus celebrates my bisexuality and there are plenty of women with a similar attitude. No need to hide. | |||
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"Pfft! I wish Actually, If I had any inclination towards the same sex, I would’ve abandoned women looooong ago😄" You imagine that's an easier option? Ahahahahahaaaa 😉🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Don't let some backwards neanderthal knock your confidence. She wasn't for you and thankfully you found out early. My missus celebrates my bisexuality and there are plenty of women with a similar attitude. No need to hide." Thank you, yes im just working back on my confidence and carrying on! I won’t hide it and grateful to see that, at least here, it’s widely accepted and not looked down on! As for your missus, sounds like you’ve met an absolutely wonderful lady!  | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. " I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile!" Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can!  | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can! "The only reason to get annoyed would be if there is any element of deceit involved. The issue would become one of honesty, trust and consent. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can!
The only reason to get annoyed would be if there is any element of deceit involved.
The issue would become one of honesty, trust and consent. "Absolutely, in this case though there wasn’t. She asked and I told her, then came the “oh you’ll just run off with men” and the stinger “you’re dirty and disgusting, probably get AIDS or something”, very very nasty individual. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can!
The only reason to get annoyed would be if there is any element of deceit involved.
The issue would become one of honesty, trust and consent.
Absolutely, in this case though there wasn’t. She asked and I told her, then came the “oh you’ll just run off with men” and the stinger “you’re dirty and disgusting, probably get AIDS or something”, very very nasty individual.
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can!
The only reason to get annoyed would be if there is any element of deceit involved.
The issue would become one of honesty, trust and consent.
Absolutely, in this case though there wasn’t. She asked and I told her, then came the “oh you’ll just run off with men” and the stinger “you’re dirty and disgusting, probably get AIDS or something”, very very nasty individual.
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. " Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described? | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described?" Sorry, I generally don’t go straight into a conversation with “Hello, nice to meet you, I’m bisexual by the way” right out of the gate. It stemmed from a conversation about sex, she asked what I was and I told her, then went from there. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can!
The only reason to get annoyed would be if there is any element of deceit involved.
The issue would become one of honesty, trust and consent.
Absolutely, in this case though there wasn’t. She asked and I told her, then came the “oh you’ll just run off with men” and the stinger “you’re dirty and disgusting, probably get AIDS or something”, very very nasty individual.
Maybe you're better off without her then?"Indeed, this didn’t happen on Fab so thankfully just blocked and moved on. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. I just don't get this reaction. Why does it matter who else you are sleeping with? All should be having safe sex so that shouldn't be the issue. I'm sorry you had that experience but good for you for being honest. Plus it's on your profile! Honestly I didn’t get it either, but there are, unfortunately people out there who hold such views and use them with prejudice. And it’s ok, onwards and upwards! And yes it is, I’m not going to hide it, just be my authentic self and whoever wants to know me, can!
The only reason to get annoyed would be if there is any element of deceit involved.
The issue would become one of honesty, trust and consent.
Absolutely, in this case though there wasn’t. She asked and I told her, then came the “oh you’ll just run off with men” and the stinger “you’re dirty and disgusting, probably get AIDS or something”, very very nasty individual.
Surprised people still have the default view that anyone who is bi has aids"🤷♂️ you can’t educate the willingly ignorant. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described? Sorry, I generally don’t go straight into a conversation with “Hello, nice to meet you, I’m bisexual by the way” right out of the gate. It stemmed from a conversation about sex, she asked what I was and I told her, then went from there. " It read as it was a person from here or another online dating site maybe? A social situation..  | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described? Sorry, I generally don’t go straight into a conversation with “Hello, nice to meet you, I’m bisexual by the way” right out of the gate. It stemmed from a conversation about sex, she asked what I was and I told her, then went from there. It read as it was a person from here or another online dating site maybe? A social situation.. "It wasn’t on here, nor was it on an online dating site. This was someone I had known for quite a while who said she had feelings for me, we were talking about sex and I told her, then came the vitriol. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described? Sorry, I generally don’t go straight into a conversation with “Hello, nice to meet you, I’m bisexual by the way” right out of the gate. It stemmed from a conversation about sex, she asked what I was and I told her, then went from there. It read as it was a person from here or another online dating site maybe? A social situation..
It wasn’t on here, nor was it on an online dating site. This was someone I had known for quite a while who said she had feelings for me, we were talking about sex and I told her, then came the vitriol. "Better to find out she's got such views before it develops into anything.. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.. | |||
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described? Sorry, I generally don’t go straight into a conversation with “Hello, nice to meet you, I’m bisexual by the way” right out of the gate. It stemmed from a conversation about sex, she asked what I was and I told her, then went from there. It read as it was a person from here or another online dating site maybe? A social situation..
It wasn’t on here, nor was it on an online dating site. This was someone I had known for quite a while who said she had feelings for me, we were talking about sex and I told her, then came the vitriol.
Better to find out she's got such views before it develops into anything..
Sounds like you dodged a bullet..
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"I recently had a lady who was previously interested in me go apeshit because I was honest and told her I was Bi. Knocked my confidence, but I was honest from the start. Sounds like you didn't tell her from the first contact else why would she be interested at all if bi guys make her react as you've described? Sorry, I generally don’t go straight into a conversation with “Hello, nice to meet you, I’m bisexual by the way” right out of the gate. It stemmed from a conversation about sex, she asked what I was and I told her, then went from there. It read as it was a person from here or another online dating site maybe? A social situation..
It wasn’t on here, nor was it on an online dating site. This was someone I had known for quite a while who said she had feelings for me, we were talking about sex and I told her, then came the vitriol.
Better to find out she's got such views before it develops into anything..
Sounds like you dodged a bullet..
Indeed, dodged a massive bullet with her and slowly rebuilding my confidence "Nice one, stay positive and move on..  | |||
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"My missus celebrates my bisexuality and there are plenty of women with a similar attitude. No need to hide." . I'd echo the importance of this, and certainly offer it as a valid suggestion to the OP. . As an openly bi man myself, living in a transparent and everything discussed and aware marriage, I have lost count of the number of times "bi-curious" men have messaged me wanting "discreet fun". . The problem being, that behaviour comes with a whole raft of issues. 1. Trust betrayal of an innocent party 2. Deception, and making me a part of that. 3. Potential to acquire something unpleasant and pass it on to a partner with the fall out from that. 4. Self-inflicted emotional learnings about yourself, and you'd have to deal with those on your own. You might like it and that knowledge will change you. You might hate it and that knowledge will change you. . It IS a very difficult path to explore your own sexuality, and I would say it's even harder when it's same sex because of many external (and internal) pressures and conceptions. . It IS possible, but it has to be done within the context and approach from coming from a place of the least harm to you and others, especially innocent dependents because you will be "reframing" their entire relationship and perception of you. . I do get it. There is no easy way for self-discovery. But on the other hand, discussing this with an existing partner and being open and transparent is the only way to explore with as minimal fallout as possible. You might just find they long suspected or had inklings and would support you anyway. | |||
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" It wasn’t on here, nor was it on an online dating site. This was someone I had known for quite a while who said she had feelings for me, we were talking about sex and I told her, then came the vitriol. " That happened to me once. A group of friends who did public events at Uni together. We were in the pub after wrapping up one event. My missus was with us, as she was the designated driver. During the drinking, "Truth or Dare" hove in to view and we each had to reveal a secret about ourselves. On my turn, I declared truthfully I was bi. One fellow student, a girl who always seemed to hover around me all the time, ran out the pub, crying her eyes out. (She knew I was married and that didn't seem to phase her, so I thought her response to me being bi was very bizarre indeed). Still whilst the night almost ended on a sour note, it in fact turn in to a very good one, as another student (and a close male friend turned to me and whispered "So am I". I had no idea. I turned to my wife whilst everyone else was busy with their own revelations, and said "Darling....would you fancy trying a 3-some with "Bob" and myself?". She thought for a moment and said "Why not?" and we all went home together for quite a night, shall we say
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