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"It's something you just have to learn to suck up just the same as the women getting abuse for ignoring messages. You have to put up with a skipful of shit to end up with a cup full of decent friends. " Well I would definitely love to be a woman on this site, as they seem to get "hundreds" of messages per day (according to the website's official information). Makes me want to become trans lol. Us males can't seem to win, same with most things in life. xx | |||
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"It's something you just have to learn to suck up just the same as the women getting abuse for ignoring messages. You have to put up with a skipful of shit to end up with a cup full of decent friends. Well I would definitely love to be a woman on this site, as they seem to get "hundreds" of messages per day (according to the website's official information). Makes me want to become trans lol. Us males can't seem to win, same with most things in life. xx" There's probably 1000 women for every man. Buyers market 🤓 | |||
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"It's something you just have to learn to suck up just the same as the women getting abuse for ignoring messages. You have to put up with a skipful of shit to end up with a cup full of decent friends. Well I would definitely love to be a woman on this site, as they seem to get "hundreds" of messages per day (according to the website's official information). Makes me want to become trans lol. Us males can't seem to win, same with most things in life. xx There's probably 1000 women for every man. Buyers market 🤓" Some discusting people in society. So many times I held doors open for peopel and they just egnore me. I says to them " your welcome" they just carry on..completely ignorent lols, what a world we live in x | |||
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"Unfortunately that is how it goes! You can be as nice as anything and someone will be horrible back ! " yes had peopel making fun of my dead mother on here some sicke peopel definitely x | |||
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"There are a myriad of reasons why people responded the way they do. Unlike speaking to someone in a bar, whom I'm assuming would be a complete stranger, many people here have detailed profiles, specifying interests and limits. As such, random approaches online might be interpreted as someone choosing to ignore preferences. Also, people often speak to strangers here in a way they would never dream of in person. Certainly not saying that applies to every online approach, but certainly happens. " I defiently agree with your secund to last paregraph x | |||
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"Thankfully I've never had the gut punch of being called names, everyone gets an ignored message, I just find its part and parcel of the site, but yeah woupdnt like name calling" Bet they wudent dare say it to my face I may be homosexual but I aine't a wallflower x | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses, I been called ugly a few times on this site which is absolutely not true. And then there is those who will just press block when you say hello. If I went up to someone in person and said hello they woulden't be so rude so why online is any different?! I have had men speaking to me in bars that I am not interested in I dunt get rude and insult them, I am polite abart it. No excusees for lack of mannors and respect." "FEMALES GO AWAY and leave me alone, stop messaging me" Manners and respect, you say? " | |||
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"It comes with the territory entitled men, thousands of us hitting on women over and over. You need a thick skin and the ability to shrug and move on. It's not ideal, just reality" Yes, do shrug off but just caren't understand wot poeopel get out of being so nasty to call sumeone names or talk abart sumeone's dead mother just discusting if u ask me. Nd then there is those who say they accom in there profiel, you message them nd they say carn't accom...loool. x | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses," What until you read replies to some posts in here. 👍🏻😉😅 | |||
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"There's no justification for being insulting, when respectful contact has been made! But luckily you can see they're trash and wouldn't want anything to do with them. No response and blocking is standard here and to be expected, as it prevents future contact with people who aren't mutually compatible. Report any profile with inappropriate behaviour " Blocking is rife on here, there is a site dedicated to homosexual men called fabguys, blocking hapenning a lot on theya too....join a homosexual dating site nd be offended when a homosexual messiges u lools. Starten 2 think sum ppl is journelists or cambridge anelitica profiels lol x | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses, I been called ugly a few times on this site which is absolutely not true. And then there is those who will just press block when you say hello. If I went up to someone in person and said hello they woulden't be so rude so why online is any different?! I have had men speaking to me in bars that I am not interested in I dunt get rude and insult them, I am polite abart it. No excusees for lack of mannors and respect." I agree that people shouldn't insult you for what you look like, but the vast majority of messages we get are dreadful and it would be very entitled to expect a polite response. Decent messages get a respectful reply from us but that's a rare occurrence. | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses, I been called ugly a few times on this site which is absolutely not true. And then there is those who will just press block when you say hello. If I went up to someone in person and said hello they woulden't be so rude so why online is any different?! I have had men speaking to me in bars that I am not interested in I dunt get rude and insult them, I am polite abart it. No excusees for lack of mannors and respect. I agree that people shouldn't insult you for what you look like, but the vast majority of messages we get are dreadful and it would be very entitled to expect a polite response. Decent messages get a respectful reply from us but that's a rare occurrence. " Sorry that yooz is gettin nasty messages, I caren't speka for heterosexuals..but the swingers community can be brutel it seems, I been on here abart a month or so nar, seen a lot of eyeopeneng things. x | |||
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"I am a Yorkshire man,A retired Sidecar Racer (passenger) so I have a thick skin a lot of determination (often called Stubbornness). So when I get an insult. My go to answer is mention the above then say FFS if that is the best insult you can come up with you need to go away have a think about it and try again because I have got more backbone than you will ever have.And I could not give a monkeys chuff about your opinion, And they just block me ." Sounds like a good way too deal with it x | |||
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"I constantly see men talking on the forums about this sort of thing, as a woman who, yes, gets inundated with messages, I certainly wouldn’t be rude to people. I may not get through all my messages and I may not feel a connection or attraction to someone who has messaged but I don’t get it when women are apparently being so rude as a response. And you’re absolutely right about if it happened face to face half those women may never actually say those insults to the man/persons face. I can’t imagine what it’s doing to the recipients confidence tbh. " Yes, it's not good for male self esteem and why male suicides is so high. We get told not to show emoitens and to "man up" then when we do, we get called pusseholes, lol. x | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses, I been called ugly a few times on this site which is absolutely not true. And then there is those who will just press block when you say hello. If I went up to someone in person and said hello they woulden't be so rude so why online is any different?! I have had men speaking to me in bars that I am not interested in I dunt get rude and insult them, I am polite abart it. No excusees for lack of mannors and respect." Pot and kettle pal, remember last week no? | |||
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"Jesus the men on here are becoming more and more whining babies. If it’s no the why does nobody fab my pics or why does nobody mail me back it’s people are saying nasty words to me 🤦🏻♂️😂😂" I couldn't give a shit about most people on here tbh. Just don't like double standards | |||
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"Ugly, fat, cunt, bald......apart from being a cunt, it's all true, so those darts don't hurt 🤓" 🤣🤣🤣 I keep getting called big and fat and I'm like I'm chubby but not that bad right ? I'm seeing a pattern ....I need to lose weight | |||
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"It's something you just have to learn to suck up just the same as the women getting abuse for ignoring messages. You have to put up with a skipful of shit to end up with a cup full of decent friends. Well I would definitely love to be a woman on this site, as they seem to get "hundreds" of messages per day (according to the website's official information). Makes me want to become trans lol. Us males can't seem to win, same with most things in life. xx" I've learned from a man perspective dating and communicating with the other sex is like a job interview, with a second, third and up to a tenth round. While for woman it's like (online) shopping. On the other hand, it seems that people are getting more and more polarized society, but thankfully there are more people who are just say hello, even if we aren't match. | |||
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"It's something you just have to learn to suck up just the same as the women getting abuse for ignoring messages. You have to put up with a skipful of shit to end up with a cup full of decent friends. Well I would definitely love to be a woman on this site, as they seem to get "hundreds" of messages per day (according to the website's official information). Makes me want to become trans lol. Us males can't seem to win, same with most things in life. xx" I don't get hundreds of messages a day, far from it. But I'd say at least 75% of the messages I do get aren't worth replying to. | |||
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"It's something you just have to learn to suck up just the same as the women getting abuse for ignoring messages. You have to put up with a skipful of shit to end up with a cup full of decent friends. Well I would definitely love to be a woman on this site, as they seem to get "hundreds" of messages per day (according to the website's official information). Makes me want to become trans lol. Us males can't seem to win, same with most things in life. xx" Believe me it's quality over quantity in regards to messages. If a guy can only type 1 or 2 words then its an automatic delete. | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses, I been called ugly a few times on this site which is absolutely not true. And then there is those who will just press block when you say hello. If I went up to someone in person and said hello they woulden't be so rude so why online is any different?! I have had men speaking to me in bars that I am not interested in I dunt get rude and insult them, I am polite abart it. No excusees for lack of mannors and respect." Yes unnecessary and no need to behave like this. Absolutely totally fine to say not for you as not what you like. Also some are overwhelmed so can understand no reply. If do reply it’s easy as can just say thank you for offer but not for me. Just either be nice but not unkind. Think of others | |||
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"Can send an opening message to someone and they respond with the most arsey responses, I been called ugly a few times on this site which is absolutely not true. And then there is those who will just press block when you say hello. If I went up to someone in person and said hello they woulden't be so rude so why online is any different?! I have had men speaking to me in bars that I am not interested in I dunt get rude and insult them, I am polite abart it. No excusees for lack of mannors and respect." Does every guy you message identify as gay/bisexual? | |||
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"Depends how you message, if you write like your profile, then you do seem abrupt and rude. I have been surprised by how nice people have been on here, especially when I've declined someone's offer. " I agree, we’ve very rarely had negative interactions on here. I also agree regarding the profile. When we receive messages, I often check the persons profile and regardless of how nice the message may have been, if the profile doesn’t come across the same way then it puts me off. Donna x | |||
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