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By *eachcheeksx OP   Woman
1 day ago

Dartford

Just want a general idea of what people think.

So if you meet at a hotel who pays?

I am not adverse to paying I have before, even though twice I have been stood up. So I am wary of paying now but it’s not a definite no.

I’m finding though that if a guy suggests it and I agree nothing happens. So I will say have you thought of a place to meet? And they go quiet.

I am someone that likes to plan (free time is hard to come by with work and family) and know my time is not being wasted.

Any advice would be great.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
1 day ago

stanley

For a first meet I’d offer to pay ( as long as it’s sensible price , not the Ritz!)

For subsequent meets should there be be any I would hope we’d agree to split the cost.

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By *un loving couple 1971Couple
1 day ago

doncaster

Go Dutch

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By *eordieJeansCouple
1 day ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I’d say whoever suggests the hotel pays but I wouldn’t mind paying half if asked.

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By *erdyEstLdner 82Man
1 day ago

Ilford

For a first meet I'd offer to go halves, what if you never see the person again? I wouldn't want to keep paying out for meets, otherwise I'd be better off just visiting a S*x Worker.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
1 day ago

Reading

I've offered to pay half on hotels but it's only been taken up once so far.

Accommodation is one of those sticking points for me though. I don't have people at mine and if they can't accommodate either then it doesn't feel sustainable from the outset (and thus a nonstarter usually)

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 day ago

Leeds

I pay as it's my decision not to meet at my home, I would never expect the men to pay. Never had a no show as the hotel meet never happens unless I've met them socially first x

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By *ocket and RocketCouple
1 day ago

Canterbury


"Just want a general idea of what people think.

So if you meet at a hotel who pays?

I am not adverse to paying I have before, even though twice I have been stood up. So I am wary of paying now but it’s not a definite no.

I’m finding though that if a guy suggests it and I agree nothing happens. So I will say have you thought of a place to meet? And they go quiet.

I am someone that likes to plan (free time is hard to come by with work and family) and know my time is not being wasted.

Any advice would be great.

"

We have been let down a few times now and has cost us

So we now have a policy of first time meet single guy he books hotel usually Premier Inn he pays

and on successful meet before any interaction we pay 50%

Funny that we've only had one successful conclusion since starting this. Single guy booked paid and refused the 50% and gave Pocket a dam good time and said we could use the room for the night an absolute gent of a guy from Kent "rodgerrabbit" is an absolute gentleman

So thats what we do to out time wasters

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
1 day ago

newcastle

never been in this situation but i definately wouldnt book a room beforehan ( sometimes with hubby) but a lot of men are are talk or married and just dont show, no if your a woman you should NEVER book the hotel honestly xxx

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By *eachcheeksx OP   Woman
1 day ago

Dartford

The no shows weren’t from here they were actually guys I had been on a couple of dates with

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By *layfullsamMan
1 day ago

Solihull

I’d always offer and want to pay

But I’m not sure if the new generation of women want to go half ?

Perfect for me would be me paying for the hotel but then without asking the lady is at the bar getting the drinks in

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By *ealitybitesMan
1 day ago

Belfast

When I was meeting I always paid for the hotel and in most cases the woman offered to pay half and I accepted. Sometimes I paid for the room and they paid for a meal.

I would never refuse if a woman offered to contribute because I'm well aware that some don't want to feel like a sex worker by having everything paid for.

I paid for the hotel room on my very first fab meet which didn't go well at all and led to me getting dressed and leaving after an hour or so and she benefitted from the free room despite having crossed so many lines and boundaries.

I won't be doing that again unless it's with someone I know extremely well.

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By *onjon123Man
1 day ago

Merthyr Tydfil

I tend to pay for the hotel if I've offered and she can pay for a drink if they are adamant they want to contribute. If they are a no show i still get the hotel for the night and a nice big double bed all to myself

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 day ago

Reading

I offer but they usually say no. Same with meals out.

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By *oodmessMan
1 day ago

yumsville

I've always found it fairly simple to organise hotels. You or they do, you turn up and you or they pay the half toward. Sometimes there's a let down but it's rare as frustrating as t is. Chats along the way you usually know they aren't stringing you along. With regulars, I'd get it and buddy will get it the next time.

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By *erry bull1Man
1 day ago

doncaster

I’ve had three hotel meets and always paid the bill

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By *heonixrising500Man
1 day ago

Barnsley

Share the pleasure share the cost

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By *ellhungvweMan
1 day ago

Cheltenham

Happy to pay for a first meet.

I don’t particularly mind paying for subsequent ones but it is never a good look if they don’t actually offer to pick up the tab next time.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
1 day ago

The Deep Dark Woods

In my early days of fab when I couldn't accommodate at all I offered to book the hotel a couple of times and men said they would pay half, then I'd never see the money and never hear from them again after that meet 😑 so I won't book it now unless it is someone I've met a few times and trust.

If it's an initial meet I'd let them book it, and then send them half the money. I wouldn't expect them to pay it all, but I'm not getting stung again.

I don't often use hotels now though unless it's for events.

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By *hunky GentMan
1 day ago

Nottingham and Stamford

The inviter should pay, but if a hotel is suggested and agreed then split it.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
1 day ago

nw

Women pay of course, we men have been oppressed for centuries, it's time to fight back for our rights 🧑‍🌾

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By *adCherriesCouple
1 day ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We normally pay (being a couple), I feel it's unfair on the guy. However, if I was a single pringle I would go halves.

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By *ovebunny70Woman
1 day ago

portsmouth

As a couple we would pay as we're the ones inviting a single person to join us if i was single I'd probably go half or buy a meal/ drinks

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

1 day ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'd only ever contemplate booking a hotel for a meet with someone I already know well enough to know they'll be 99.9% likely to show up. Never for anyone new.

I can accomodate so there's no real need. But on the occasions I have booked somewhere it's been for a meet with someone I've met before, either at mine, a club, theirs or for several socials.

It's only ever for a nice night away with company. Never just so I can meet for sex. Sometimes I pay, sometimes we split it and sometimes they do.

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By *hastity_roseTV/TS
1 day ago

Nowhere

I usually just lay my own room and hope visitors chip in

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By *eroLondonMan
1 day ago

Mayfair

Typically over the last four years I've paid for pretty much everything, much to my chagrin. There are one or two exceptions where the woman have paid, but overall they've rarely offered or contributed.

I don't agree with the notion that if I'm inviting them the responsibility falls on me to cover the entire cost. The reason being - from personal experience - women never take the initiative to meet** but will •immediately• accept when I've asked if they wish to take things further, thus necessitating the arrangements and costs.

However, based on recent engagements over the last 12 months or so the tide appears to be turning for the better: I go 'dutch' or take it in turns, which entails sharing the cost for lunch or dinner and the room, brunch if it's an overnight date.

ㅤㅤ

[**I did a thread about this a few months ago]

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By *isteramazingMan
1 day ago

London

I always pay for everything and would never expect another way

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By *4bimMan
1 day ago

Farnborough Hampshire

50/50

in it together or forget about it.

days of men paying for everything are over.

women want their independents. pay for it.

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
1 day ago

DUBLIN

I think 50:50 is fair.

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By *vonne5exMan
1 day ago

Doncaster


"Go Dutch "
Danum hotel

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By *vonne5exMan
1 day ago

Doncaster


"50/50

in it together or forget about it.

days of men paying for everything are over.

women want their independents. pay for it."

until it's retirement age

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By *reasyMan
1 day ago

Caerphilly

Me personally as a single guy will always offer the option to a couple if they can’t accommodate that I will provide a hotel close to them but I will always add if you want to contribute to the cost of the hotel it would be gratefully appreciated but not necessary I’m trying to think the last time I met in a hotel I’m pretty certain we shared the cost, but I have also met a couple at a hotel and offered to share the cost of their room and we declined. They were staying there for two nights and it was paid for so I think communication is important anybody that demands isn’t playing fair I don’t think

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By *umagain58Man
1 day ago

London

Depends on the circumstance. I travel for work and stay in hotels. Would never charge others for that if meeting as not an extra cost. Otherwise might pay, share or others pay. Depends on conversation have with them and circumstances

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By *ife NinjaMan
1 day ago

Dunfermline

I'd pay if invited. Lady could bring snacks and drinks 🤓

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
1 day ago

Cambridgeshire

A lot depends on how much I want to impress them with how well off I am.

If they already know, then I'd expect them to go halves...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
1 day ago

little house on the praire

I would never dream of letting a man pay unless they where there on business

If they can't respect my independence what else wont they accept. I might have one pay the hotel and one the meal.

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