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Can you fake it?

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
47 weeks ago

All over

Can you manage to fake your real emotions and how you really feel? Are you unhappy inside but just put a brave face on, especially for the sake of others? Do you burry your head in the sand or deal with stuff head on? Do people realise when you are faking it and ask you what's wrong? If they do, do you tell them or keep faking it? How long can you really fake it for? I was party to a conversation yesterday and realised how good at faking it some people are and how bad at picking the signs others around can be so made me wonder. Am I a fake? Are you a fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Good morning OP, I trust your well on this fine morning?

I find it hard to hide my emotions, I am afraid my heart too is much on my sleeve as they say, which is good and bad in some situations … hiding them may make one less vulnerable- yet the person, really see who you are and your emotional triggers

Tough call … I guess you can only be yourself

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By *eliWoman
47 weeks ago

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I don't know if it's always "faking" it, sometimes it's about things being private, unimportant at the time, not relevant to the people you're with, the conversation you're having etc.

I do put a "brave" face on at times but that's because I have things to get on with and I'm quite happy to process things alone. Once I've worked through it I can be better at talking to others. I don't really bury my head in the sand - if something needs doing I'll get on with it.

My downfall is my face being too expressive - it says how I'm really feeling light-years before I do.

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By *artorialMan
47 weeks ago

weymouth

Nope I fake it, probably why I feel disassociated from groups/society as a whole

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
47 weeks ago

Maidstone

Not everyone needs to know my shit so I'm very good at saving it for those that I'm comfortable sharing with. Otherwise I'm business as usual. I don't think it's faking it. You don't have to carry your troubles around with you in a display cabinet. Time and place.

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By *relanddirectMan
47 weeks ago

cheshire & london


"Not everyone needs to know my shit so I'm very good at saving it for those that I'm comfortable sharing with. Otherwise I'm business as usual. I don't think it's faking it. You don't have to carry your troubles around with you in a display cabinet. Time and place."

This! Perfect description

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By *ubFTMTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Swindon

Physically yes, I ghost social media when I am struggling and that tends to be the give away but I can be battling my darkest demons, struggling to keep my head up, ho through the darkest thoughts possible but if you met me during this time you would have no idea

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By *sWyldWoman
47 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I very much spend a lot of my life pretending all is well , when its not. I think that comes with the territory of being a parent. Especially as a single parent.

I'm fiercely independent which makes it hard for me to ask anyone for help . So the default of no its fine, is always there .

I also think when your perceived to be the 'strong one ' it can be hard to be anything else . Sometimes I wish I never have to be resilient again, but thats just not ever going to be my reality.

At work I have to hide my true feelings or emotions often in order to maintain my career.

And yes,I'm even pretty adept at faking an orgasm or two as well.

So I guess I fake things constantly, as I know so many other people do too. Its a standard survival technique, not a way to deceive though.

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By *IXEN200Woman
47 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne


"I very much spend a lot of my life pretending all is well , when its not. I think that comes with the territory of being a parent. Especially as a single parent.

I'm fiercely independent which makes it hard for me to ask anyone for help . So the default of no its fine, is always there .

I also think when your perceived to be the 'strong one ' it can be hard to be anything else . Sometimes I wish I never have to be resilient again, but thats just not ever going to be my reality.

At work I have to hide my true feelings or emotions often in order to maintain my career.

And yes,I'm even pretty adept at faking an orgasm or two as well.

So I guess I fake things constantly, as I know so many other people do too. Its a standard survival technique, not a way to deceive though. "

I can relate to this, I hide things very well its like having a bottle inside me which I put all my problems into then put the cork back on

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
47 weeks ago

All over


"I very much spend a lot of my life pretending all is well , when its not. I think that comes with the territory of being a parent. Especially as a single parent.

I'm fiercely independent which makes it hard for me to ask anyone for help . So the default of no its fine, is always there .

I also think when your perceived to be the 'strong one ' it can be hard to be anything else . Sometimes I wish I never have to be resilient again, but thats just not ever going to be my reality.

At work I have to hide my true feelings or emotions often in order to maintain my career.

And yes,I'm even pretty adept at faking an orgasm or two as well.

So I guess I fake things constantly, as I know so many other people do too. Its a standard survival technique, not a way to deceive though. "

A lot of truth in that for so many people. And definately not deceiving. Much of what you said resonates. Especially when you have to be the one with the strong shoulders or have to support others. I appreciate what others have said also that you just get on and share as and when appropriate if you can. Not everyone has others to share with though and just grin and bear it. Some seem to be constantly manage to be care free and obviously happy for them.

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By *sWyldWoman
47 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"I very much spend a lot of my life pretending all is well , when its not. I think that comes with the territory of being a parent. Especially as a single parent.

I'm fiercely independent which makes it hard for me to ask anyone for help . So the default of no its fine, is always there .

I also think when your perceived to be the 'strong one ' it can be hard to be anything else . Sometimes I wish I never have to be resilient again, but thats just not ever going to be my reality.

At work I have to hide my true feelings or emotions often in order to maintain my career.

And yes,I'm even pretty adept at faking an orgasm or two as well.

So I guess I fake things constantly, as I know so many other people do too. Its a standard survival technique, not a way to deceive though.

A lot of truth in that for so many people. And definately not deceiving. Much of what you said resonates. Especially when you have to be the one with the strong shoulders or have to support others. I appreciate what others have said also that you just get on and share as and when appropriate if you can. Not everyone has others to share with though and just grin and bear it. Some seem to be constantly manage to be care free and obviously happy for them. "

My eldest son describes it as Swanning. Looks calm and serene on the surface, frantically paddling underneath

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
47 weeks ago

All over


"Good morning OP, I trust your well on this fine morning?

I find it hard to hide my emotions, I am afraid my heart too is much on my sleeve as they say, which is good and bad in some situations … hiding them may make one less vulnerable- yet the person, really see who you are and your emotional triggers

Tough call … I guess you can only be yourself

"

Absolutely, everyone deals with day to day stuff in diffetent ways. Faking it is just one of those if that is how you cope or have nobody to share your troubles with I believe.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
47 weeks ago

All over


"I don't know if it's always "faking" it, sometimes it's about things being private, unimportant at the time, not relevant to the people you're with, the conversation you're having etc.

I do put a "brave" face on at times but that's because I have things to get on with and I'm quite happy to process things alone. Once I've worked through it I can be better at talking to others. I don't really bury my head in the sand - if something needs doing I'll get on with it.

My downfall is my face being too expressive - it says how I'm really feeling light-years before I do. "

That last bit made me laugh.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
47 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes I do fake it. Most people don't care or want to know about your trials and tribulations they have enough of their own. They're much more receptive to the good times in your life though. There are rare exceptions and I exclude family and very close friends.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
47 weeks ago

All over


"Yes I do fake it. Most people don't care or want to know about your trials and tribulations they have enough of their own. They're much more receptive to the good times in your life though. There are rare exceptions and I exclude family and very close friends.

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A lot of truth in that.

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