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"I never leave my child anywhere unless there is PROPER care ... and I won't do because she is my child and my responsibility End of" | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! " disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex" Hey thats a bit harsh! Didnt u read the comment wot he had said to her about their child near the pool? I wldnt want my child going on holiday if they had a father as irresponsible as him either | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex" why shouldn't she stop him if he has openly said don't worry there are plenty of people around if my ex said that i would go mad because those people don't know your kids | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex" Sounds like a responsible mother to me | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex Hey thats a bit harsh! Didnt u read the comment wot he had said to her about their child near the pool? I wldnt want my child going on holiday if they had a father as irresponsible as him either" Fact of the matter is, do you think his cavilier attitude only manifests itself on holiday?!! Of course not, he sounds irresponsible BUT that's who she picked to father her child AND the child has the right to spend time with both parents. | |||
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"We go on lots of beach holidays and whilst one reads or sunbathed or chills, the other watches the kids. We used to put bright hats on them too when they were younger. Easier now they are older but still check. " Exactly what we used to do and when ive been on my own with mine always been in with them or sat on the side watching and they are good swimmers. Its a skill i insisted on and had my lil un 2 years of lessons...at 5 she wore a life vest its crazy how some parents are so careless | |||
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"We go on lots of beach holidays and whilst one reads or sunbathed or chills, the other watches the kids. We used to put bright hats on them too when they were younger. Easier now they are older but still check. " Exactly what we used to do and when ive been on my own with mine always been in with them or sat on the side watching and they are good swimmers. Its a skill i insisted on and had my lil un 2 years of lessons...at 5 she wore a life vest its crazy how some parents are so careless | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex" She is a responsible mother who cares about the safety of her child that's who she is. She has every right to make a decision to protect the welfare of her child. | |||
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"There is of course instances where no matter how careful parents are accidents happen, my niece ran away from her mother when she was 4 and purposely jumped in the pool which happened to be the deep end......she was fine as they were right after her, but she was just being purposely defiant as some children can be ........... A" Absolutely agree with you - as a parent you can only do so much. I used to think, when mine were young, that all I could ever do was "my best" and trying to be the best possible parent. Of course different parents have different ideas what constitutes a good parent - in my world as long as they genuinely try to do that, try to be there for the kids that is good enough for me. | |||
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"There is of course instances where no matter how careful parents are accidents happen, my niece ran away from her mother when she was 4 and purposely jumped in the pool which happened to be the deep end......she was fine as they were right after her, but she was just being purposely defiant as some children can be ........... AAbsolutely agree with you - as a parent you can only do so much. I used to think, when mine were young, that all I could ever do was "my best" and trying to be the best possible parent. Of course different parents have different ideas what constitutes a good parent - in my world as long as they genuinely try to do that, try to be there for the kids that is good enough for me. " Totally agree no matter how much yo watch or warn accidents happen....But she was fine as her parents were watching her ...one of my boys almost got knocked over as he plled his hand free and almost ran under a car managed to grab him just in time never had the wind taken out of me so quick i full on sat on the floor n cried and they looked at me like i was some sort of emotional wreck lol | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex Hey thats a bit harsh! Didnt u read the comment wot he had said to her about their child near the pool? I wldnt want my child going on holiday if they had a father as irresponsible as him either Fact of the matter is, do you think his cavilier attitude only manifests itself on holiday?!! Of course not, he sounds irresponsible BUT that's who she picked to father her child AND the child has the right to spend time with both parents." To be perfectly honest only I know the facts of the matter and don't quote to me about children having rights to both parents!! Her father has turned into the most irresponsible uncaring individual since leaving as he simply became bored with responsibility therefore left it behind. I try to ensure they have a relationship but his idea of it is to have her less than 48 hours each month and then does very little with her when he does! And as I know his idea of a holiday is to lie in the sun asleep tll he reaches the David Dickinson shade of skin leaving other people to watch out for his daughter then I have every right to want to protect my child!! | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex" Lol the only bitter one sounds like you!!! I'm certainly as far from a bitter spiteful ex as you can get and i pretty much have to force him to see his daughter as he basically washed his hands of her and any responsibility when he left. As her mother and as the full time parent I have every right to decide where she goes and who with!!! And for the record he has several holidays a year and not once ever even asked if he could take her with him anyway as that would be too hard work as he can't even manage to have her for more than 48 hours in a whole month!! | |||
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"When we go on holiday we don't even leave our children in holiday clubs. If they want to go that's fine, but we stay with them . We can't believe the amount of people who take their kids to the kids club and dump them there and bugger off out from the hotel. Soo so wrong but that's just my opinion Her xx" Spot on hun | |||
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"As a single dad, who is intending to take my kids on holiday with me alone for the first time in 14 years, I e read this thread with intrigue and disgust..... Intrigue because it is the parents responsibility, being abroad is no where near like being at home, most kids still want to do there own thing whe away... It's not always possible. I watch my kids like a hawk regardless of where I am. Even if we're just out shopping in town. They are MY responsibility, not anyone else's!! Disgust at some of the comments aimed at a few individuals because of the lapse attitude of an ex.... If I had the attitude I would expect not to ever see my kids again, let alone to take them abroad. Some men, and women, don't deserve to have the rights to see there kids after a split.... I believe everyone deserves the right to prove themselves as a fit parent, that goes for the 'responsible parent' who has full custody. I went through a bitter divorce and an extremely nasty custody battle for 6 years to see my kids twice a month at weekends, and for two half terms a year. I now have them full time because my ex relinquished her responsibility as there full time mum because she couldn't look after them all the time. No body is perfect, we all make mistakes, that's what makes us human. But at the end of the day it is ultimately the parents responsibility to look after the welfare of there own child regardless of wether they are at home in everyday life, or on holiday, be it abroad or in the uk. " Well said and thank you and I hope you have a fabulous holiday | |||
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"It is a most tragic accident, I do think however that some people on here don't appreciate the ability of a small child to occasionally slip out of sight for a few seconds. I was the most vigilant of parents, my sons well being and safety was paramount as they grew up, but I will admit to having several heart stopping moments when they as small children slipped out of sight even if it was for three or four seconds, it still frightened the hell out of me. I think most parents will have had this happen if they are to be honest about it, as little kids can easily be out of sight for a few seconds when other children are running around playing, they are often simply shielded by another bigger child standing in front of them. These couple of seconds can be all it takes for a small child to slip off the edge of a swimming pool into the water, or nudged into the water by another child. We have no way of knowing how long this child slipped out of _iew of the father, it could have been five seconds....once she was at the bottom of the pool it would have been difficult to see her if the pool was busy with kids splashing around. So maybe we should hold fire before we describe the grieving father as a bad parent.....It might not be that simple" The difference is Jane I wouldn't have been blaming anyone for my mistake. My youngest was by my side one second in Woolworths, gone the next: she'd gone of sulking because she couldn't have pic n mix. The security guard stopped her from leaving the store. If he'd been busy elsewhere and run into the street I shudder to think what would have happened, but it would have been my fault. Some people would blame the security guard and Woolworths! | |||
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"I watch my daughter like a hawk on holiday near the pools whereas my ex would lie back and say there's plenty of people around!!! Hence I do not allow him to take her on holiday!! Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents!! disgraceful. Who are you to decide where the girl's father takes her? What would you say if he didn't "allow" YOU to take her on holiday? You sound like a bitter spiteful ex Sounds like a responsible mother to me" | |||
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"For all those judgmental people on here how many people have lost sight of their child in a shop or supermarket even if it is for a second x" whilst not being judgemental we did that when our lad decided to play hide n seek in a clothes shop when he was 3.. he just stepped back when we were not looking, it was very quick and whilst it only lasted for about 3 to 4 minutes we were frantic till he stepped out of the clothes rail.. parents are people and people make mistakes.. if you have yet not, you will.. | |||
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