FabSwingers.com forum: Been Single Awhile – Looking to Rebuild Confidence

By *xi12345 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Exminster

Hi, I’m a genuine single male who’s been out of the game for a while. I’ve been single for quite a long time and, if I’m honest, haven’t had any intimacy in ages. I’m looking to meet an understanding woman who might be open to helping me get my confidence back.

Not looking to rush or pressure anyone – just hoping to connect with someone kind, patient, and open-minded. If you’re someone who enjoys helping others feel good about themselves again, I’d love to hear from you.

Thanks for reading – feel free to drop me a message or ask anything.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

I'd encourage you to improve your overall social skills, if necessary, with everyone. This would take the pressure off a specific woman to be your rescuer. If a woman is just a friend, then she's first and foremost a unique person. Cultivate all kinds of friendships, without the pressure on one gender and without pressure for one friend to become a romantic partner, nor a FB to become a romantic partner either.

Perhaps explore some of your interests in a socially active way? You could potentially do volunteering and meet other volunteers, whilst helping to do great things.

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By *itgingermanMan
2 weeks ago

Rotherham

What’s your passion out of work

Got to events that you like to do. Meet ups in the same things you enjoy doing

Myself I meet loads of people with similar interests. You don’t even go looking for a partner or date and it just comes

It’s funny but when to go hunting for something it does not happen, when you don’t go looking and just been you it happens 🤪

I saying this and been in 3 very long term relationships, I must have done something right, in between those I done ok as well because I am just been me, living life to max, travel loads too

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
2 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I'd encourage you to improve your overall social skills, if necessary, with everyone. This would take the pressure off a specific woman to be your rescuer. If a woman is just a friend, then she's first and foremost a unique person. Cultivate all kinds of friendships, without the pressure on one gender and without pressure for one friend to become a romantic partner, nor a FB to become a romantic partner either.

Perhaps explore some of your interests in a socially active way? You could potentially do volunteering and meet other volunteers, whilst helping to do great things.

I would date you if I could. Lol! great advice.

Literally have the idea of not dating any cis-hetero men ever again. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
2 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Hi, I’m a genuine single male who’s been out of the game for a while. I’ve been single for quite a long time and, if I’m honest, haven’t had any intimacy in ages. I’m looking to meet an understanding woman who might be open to helping me get my confidence back.

Thanks for reading – feel free to drop me a message or ask anything."

No advice. Only my anecdotes.

I've been single for nearly 12 years after the traumatic end to my former marriage.

While I'm not a man-hater, I seem to get more easily irritated ( perimenopause and neurodivergent ageing) by men specifically and people in general... I somehow make all kinds of allowances for kids and animals stills.

about 2.5 years ago I realised that I was lacking intimacy because I was disconnected from my body and other people and just going through the motions so I joined Fab, clubs and events and I feel more alive and more confident now. I still have wobbles as I struggle to connect and have low libido because of it but it's better than nothing I say.'

I have no intention of becoming a man's emotional support animal again. It uses up too many autistic spoons.

there are women who have more spoons than me though.

Good luck.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

Fab can be really tough for men so I think the advice above on connecting with people through hobbies and interests is good. If you do stay on Fab, try not to take it too seriously.

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