FabSwingers.com forum: How to get my gf on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
2 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Well I convinced Mrs by having an open and honest adult conversation with her.

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By *nefc69Man
2 weeks ago

preston

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy"

Whisper some low key scenarios whist having a session! See what her reaction is! If she’s against it just say I was trying to add a bit of our 1:1 life with. Bit of fantasy stuff! If she’s gushes your in with a chance

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum

She’s already on here fella, we rattled her last Tuesday afternoon then shared a pizza.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 weeks ago

East Sussex

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy"

If you don't know her well enough to know what her reaction will be then you need to start there. Get to know her better, work on your communication emotional and sexual then you can ask these questions without fear of her reaction.

Almost every man who asks this question seems to want an easy way to get their partner into swinging. There isn't one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also you appear to have started without her, that's never the right way to go about it.

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By *latandTCouple
2 weeks ago

South Essex

Still starting on the journey, but conversation was key. Actually surprised us both how much we enjoyed our club visits.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy

That proper made me laugh 😂😂

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By *ustBoWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You need to talk to her there is no other way. If you cannot do that then forget about it .

Any other way is coercive.

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By *nefc69Man
2 weeks ago

preston

What flavour pizza was it?

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By *2000ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

Say Chris Hemsworth, Tom Hardy, Jason Mamoa, Brad Pitt are on here.

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By *elloWoman
2 weeks ago

alpha centauri

Tell her that every lady who signs up on here gets a free cake and a cat every month

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"What flavour pizza was it? "

Pineapple obvs ! The Swingers Pizza

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By *nefc69Man
2 weeks ago

preston

"What flavour pizza was it?

Pineapple obvs ! The Swingers Pizza"

Oh yeah 🤣🤣🤣 silly me

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By *elshlad27Man
2 weeks ago

holyhead

"She’s already on here fella, we rattled her last Tuesday afternoon then shared a pizza."

😂😂 class!

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By *latandTCouple
2 weeks ago

South Essex

"What flavour pizza was it?

Pineapple obvs ! The Swingers Pizza"

Oh yuck - maybe swinging isn’t for us

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
2 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

Why do we have so many of these posts….

Have a conversation with her…. Don’t be pushy, just bring it up and see where it goes. If it goes nowhere then suck it up and accept it isn’t for her.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy"
When you say 'do this' what EXACTLY do you mean ? What is 'this' to you ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"What flavour pizza was it?

Pineapple obvs ! The Swingers Pizza

Oh yuck - maybe swinging isn’t for us

You could play pineapple roulette....... like pick a piece off n do a forfeit ,person to pick the last piece off gets to choose the taboo of their choice with no cop outs.

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
2 weeks ago

South Wales

"Well I convinced Mrs by having an open and honest adult conversation with her."

☝️☝️☝️

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By *bi HaiveMan
2 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Also you appear to have started without her, that's never the right way to go about it.

This.

What was your original motivation for joining?

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By *latandTCouple
2 weeks ago

South Essex

"What flavour pizza was it?

Pineapple obvs ! The Swingers Pizza

Oh yuck - maybe swinging isn’t for us

You could play pineapple roulette....... like pick a piece off n do a forfeit ,person to pick the last piece off gets to choose the taboo of their choice with no cop outs."

Like the way your thinking

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By *warveMan
2 weeks ago

slough

Oioi

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By *arvest84Man
2 weeks ago

brigg

when we started , it was my wifes idia .

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By *adyBugsWoman
2 weeks ago

cognito

Sometimes I come onto the forums and blink lots because I just can’t believe what I’m reading 👀 but I am thankful for the natural filters…

Coercion is not the same as consent. If you have to “persuade” your partner to join in then you are engaging in a whole world of unacceptable conduct.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

Meanwhile elsewhere is a lady starting a thread asking how she can get her partner to stop suggesting we get another woman around. It's bad enough he's a disappointment to me.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

The best way is to find a guy on here without her knowing. Then get him to meet you both somewhere with the plan that he seduces her, and you end up having a threesome. It never fails to have spectacular effects.

Oh, and you might want to have an appointment booked with a divorce lawyer for the morning after.

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By *enk15Man
2 weeks ago

Evesham

I used a Neuralyzer.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
2 weeks ago

from mars

Send her to me .🍒

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Dear O.P.

Gettin your gf to join up here won't get you laid any more than you are getting already .....

Just in case it's not her sexual enjoyment that you are thinking of

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Sometimes I come onto the forums and blink lots because I just can’t believe what I’m reading 👀 but I am thankful for the natural filters…

Coercion is not the same as consent. If you have to “persuade” your partner to join in then you are engaging in a whole world of unacceptable conduct. "

same .... then I give thanks that I am single

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Send her to me .🍒"

Why?

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Have a conversation with her, ideally 9 weeks ago before you created your profile however as you’ve decided to explore and get a head start ASAP 👍

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
2 weeks ago

from mars

"Send her to me .🍒

Why?"

😏

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
2 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy"

Don't fucking try.. and certainly don't try and coerce her, that shit isn't cool

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
2 weeks ago

from mars

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy

Don't fucking try.. and certainly don't try and coerce her, that shit isn't cool"

You fuckin tell him ☘️

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
2 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"How do you lads convince your missus to do this, trying to get my gf to do something like this but not sure if it's her thing and don't want her going crazy

Don't fucking try.. and certainly don't try and coerce her, that shit isn't cool

You fuckin tell him ☘️"

😁

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

In an open relationship, swinging has never came up in conversation and not sure on how to bring it up

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

If your in an open relationship surely you can open up to her.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
2 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

"In an open relationship, swinging has never came up in conversation and not sure on how to bring it up"

Again, you sit down with her and have an open honest conversation with her about it.

If you are in a open relationship it isn't a big stretch to ask about.

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By *vonne5exMan
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

It's not for everyone, respect her decision

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By *adyBugsWoman
2 weeks ago

cognito

"In an open relationship, swinging has never came up in conversation and not sure on how to bring it up"

I think your definitions of “open” might not be aligned…I suggest sitting down together and reading the dictionary then having a good old fashioned debate of a cup of tea like civilised human beings.

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By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

"In an open relationship, swinging has never came up in conversation and not sure on how to bring it up"

Open as in you both see other people for sex?

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
2 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

She might already be in here? 🤷‍♂️

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By *2000ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

"Tell her that every lady who signs up on here gets a free cake and a cat every month"

* Quota of men v women...women goes up by 1000%

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By *alm_one4Man
2 weeks ago

RM16

Every relationship I’ve had, I’ve always been open about what I’ve got up to, and asked the question. It’s mostly been no, with a couple of curiosity conversations. My ex wife gave it 2 weeks of thought but said no after she cuddled up to my then bestie and said it’d put her off thinking what might happen.

In all honesty, if OP is struggling to ask the question then he probably knows what the answers going to be.

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