FabSwingers.com forum: Odd question

By *asepaul71 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Buxton

Really random comment/question.

I'm a gay guy, don't see myself any other way, I'm mid 50's no looker, very little confidence but know what I do and don't like.

Over the past few months I've got talking to a very lovely slightly younger woman, apparently I've given her the confidence to leave her partner, she's now a single parent. She messages 24/7 and we get on, I really like talking to her and tbh think the world of her but I'm me n gay and that's as far as it would go, mates, but she seems to think she can change me. I really like her as a friend, I would continue to look out for her but it's never going to happen. Anyone else been in a similar situation , what do you do/say without offending or losing that friendship.

By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

Honesty is the only answer. And caution, for her wellbeing, as she's potentially vulnerable and has somewhat blinded herself to reality. Ensure that boundaries are explicitly clear and maintained

By *asepaul71 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Buxton

Thank you, I know she's vulnerable and I guess a lesser person would take advantage. I just want a mate n nothing more

By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

What makes you think she thinks she can change you? Has she said as much?

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

We need a bit more information. Has she actually said she wants more than friendship from you?

She's either being extremely disrespectful or she's very, very needy. Maybe encourage her to widen her circle of friends so she doesn't rely on you so much.

By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

This may seem a silly question, have you told her outright you're gay, as you're listed as bi.

Maybe she just likes your support and friendship and feels more confident due to it.

By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If you've told her you're gay and she's still trying to initiate something other than friendship, you need to be firm and tell her it'll never be more, but you'll be there as a friend.

If that's ignored, I know it's hard, but you'd need to cut contact.