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I’ve recently entered into a submissive role and I am THRIVING. I’ve never felt as fulfilled in my whole life.
Naturally I'm eager to research, and learn more on the subject, but there’s not much information on here when I’ve searched.
I’d love to hear from other women who have adopted the same position as me. So please do get in touch with me | |||
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" Also, do you know about aftercare and sub drop? Discuss Dom drop too.. it is a thing. Discuss your checking in protocol during and after scenes. The traffic light system is very good, and should mean you won't ever need to use your safe word. However you must discuss and trust your dom adheres to them. So many so called doms nowadays dismiss this, as if to say, you won't need one, or they won't respect it. Discuss an alternative to safe words if your doing sensory depravation or a scene where your unable to talk.. I might be going on, but I've seen so much poor practice over the years, and it gives us kinksters a bad rep." Thank you for looking out for me We seem to have discussed and covered all those bases together already.
I’m pretty well informed and knowledgeable on the dynamic, so I do know what is to be expected of him.
He’s been living and experiencing the scene for a number of years, so knows what is expected of him.
The only part where my knowledge is lacking … is creativity and inspiration. I want to be nosy and find out from others what escapades they’ve got up to, so I can pinch ideas from them | |||
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" Also, do you know about aftercare and sub drop? Discuss Dom drop too.. it is a thing. Discuss your checking in protocol during and after scenes. The traffic light system is very good, and should mean you won't ever need to use your safe word. However you must discuss and trust your dom adheres to them. So many so called doms nowadays dismiss this, as if to say, you won't need one, or they won't respect it. Discuss an alternative to safe words if your doing sensory depravation or a scene where your unable to talk.. I might be going on, but I've seen so much poor practice over the years, and it gives us kinksters a bad rep. Thank you for looking out for me We seem to have discussed and covered all those bases together already.
I’m pretty well informed and knowledgeable on the dynamic, so I do know what is to be expected of him.
He’s been living and experiencing the scene for a number of years, so knows what is expected of him.
The only part where my knowledge is lacking … is creativity and inspiration. I want to be nosy and find out from others what escapades they’ve got up to, so I can pinch ideas from them "Well.. again feel free to message and I'm sure Teecups will happily let you pinch some heehee..  | |||
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. " Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. | |||
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" Also, do you know about aftercare and sub drop? Discuss Dom drop too.. it is a thing. Discuss your checking in protocol during and after scenes. The traffic light system is very good, and should mean you won't ever need to use your safe word. However you must discuss and trust your dom adheres to them. So many so called doms nowadays dismiss this, as if to say, you won't need one, or they won't respect it. Discuss an alternative to safe words if your doing sensory depravation or a scene where your unable to talk.. I might be going on, but I've seen so much poor practice over the years, and it gives us kinksters a bad rep. Thank you for looking out for me We seem to have discussed and covered all those bases together already.
I’m pretty well informed and knowledgeable on the dynamic, so I do know what is to be expected of him.
He’s been living and experiencing the scene for a number of years, so knows what is expected of him.
The only part where my knowledge is lacking … is creativity and inspiration. I want to be nosy and find out from others what escapades they’ve got up to, so I can pinch ideas from them
Well.. again feel free to message and I'm sure Teecups will happily let you pinch some heehee..
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. " I am not implying anything. It might be me but I'd hazard a guess that any sub, any dom, wouldn't be give/receive a collar in under a year to a new sub, same with leads, cuffs, and hoods. It usually starts sexually.. holding down, spanking, using toys to either force or edge, using kitchen utensils - spatulas and so on and so on and builds from there. It's usually where people get a liking for d/s play, roles or more vanilla type. You are asking for hints and tips but it you have a master and already have a lot of gear, and with the sensory play in your pic, it looks like you are fairly well along with ideas | |||
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"How about joining that other Fet site that can't be named?! C" I think you're referring to the "FETish LIFEstyle" site there is a world of inspiration on there
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. I am not implying anything. It might be me but I'd hazard a guess that any sub, any dom, wouldn't be give/receive a collar in under a year to a new sub, same with leads, cuffs, and hoods. It usually starts sexually.. holding down, spanking, using toys to either force or edge, using kitchen utensils - spatulas and so on and so on and builds from there. It's usually where people get a liking for d/s play, roles or more vanilla type. You are asking for hints and tips but it you have a master and already have a lot of gear, and with the sensory play in your pic, it looks like you are fairly well along with ideas" It's you. Why on earth would you call out someone like this? You don't know anything about them. Like, what's your point? All they did was ask for tips and ideas and here you are trying to paint them in a negative light for no apparent reason other than you decided to put someone down based on reasons that you basically made up to suit your purpose. | |||
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. I am not implying anything. It might be me but I'd hazard a guess that any sub, any dom, wouldn't be give/receive a collar in under a year to a new sub, same with leads, cuffs, and hoods. It usually starts sexually.. holding down, spanking, using toys to either force or edge, using kitchen utensils - spatulas and so on and so on and builds from there. It's usually where people get a liking for d/s play, roles or more vanilla type. You are asking for hints and tips but it you have a master and already have a lot of gear, and with the sensory play in your pic, it looks like you are fairly well along with ideas It's you. Why on earth would you call out someone like this? You don't know anything about them. Like, what's your point? All they did was ask for tips and ideas and here you are trying to paint them in a negative light for no apparent reason other than you decided to put someone down based on reasons that you basically made up to suit your purpose. " Very eloquently put. 
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I’ve recently entered into a submissive role and I am THRIVING. I’ve never felt as fulfilled in my whole life.
Naturally I'm eager to research, and learn more on the subject, but there’s not much information on here when I’ve searched.
I’d love to hear from other women who have adopted the same position as me. So please do get in touch with me "Consent: it works for BOTH parties and either can remove consent at any time for any reason so always communicate boundaries, wants & needs in all aspects of your dynamics. Focus is often on how the sub feels but the power exchange can also influence a Dom in negative ways too so it’s important for both parties to openly and honestly talk with each other. | |||
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. I am not implying anything. It might be me but I'd hazard a guess that any sub, any dom, wouldn't be give/receive a collar in under a year to a new sub, same with leads, cuffs, and hoods. It usually starts sexually.. holding down, spanking, using toys to either force or edge, using kitchen utensils - spatulas and so on and so on and builds from there. It's usually where people get a liking for d/s play, roles or more vanilla type. You are asking for hints and tips but it you have a master and already have a lot of gear, and with the sensory play in your pic, it looks like you are fairly well along with ideas It's you. Why on earth would you call out someone like this? You don't know anything about them. Like, what's your point? All they did was ask for tips and ideas and here you are trying to paint them in a negative light for no apparent reason other than you decided to put someone down based on reasons that you basically made up to suit your purpose. " This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked.. | |||
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" Also, do you know about aftercare and sub drop? Discuss Dom drop too.. it is a thing. Discuss your checking in protocol during and after scenes. The traffic light system is very good, and should mean you won't ever need to use your safe word. However you must discuss and trust your dom adheres to them. So many so called doms nowadays dismiss this, as if to say, you won't need one, or they won't respect it. Discuss an alternative to safe words if your doing sensory depravation or a scene where your unable to talk.. I might be going on, but I've seen so much poor practice over the years, and it gives us kinksters a bad rep."  | |||
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. I am not implying anything. It might be me but I'd hazard a guess that any sub, any dom, wouldn't be give/receive a collar in under a year to a new sub, same with leads, cuffs, and hoods. It usually starts sexually.. holding down, spanking, using toys to either force or edge, using kitchen utensils - spatulas and so on and so on and builds from there. It's usually where people get a liking for d/s play, roles or more vanilla type. You are asking for hints and tips but it you have a master and already have a lot of gear, and with the sensory play in your pic, it looks like you are fairly well along with ideas It's you. Why on earth would you call out someone like this? You don't know anything about them. Like, what's your point? All they did was ask for tips and ideas and here you are trying to paint them in a negative light for no apparent reason other than you decided to put someone down based on reasons that you basically made up to suit your purpose. This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked.. "Wow!!! I'm glad people have called out your BS!!! As alluded to in my responses. We as kinksters, no matter what experience we may have, are always seeking advice sbd tips. Because. That's how we improve our dynamics, become safer, and expand that experience. | |||
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"You're owned, have a collar, cuffs, leads, masks, audio and sensory dep profile pic but say you have recently entered a submissive role? The two things don't add up. You don't get owned, but only just enter a sub role or have the accessories you do without first enjoying some type of submissive sexual play first. I don't understand the point of this thread... people are throwing out safe word tips when they are seemingly deep in master/sub relations. Please can you elaborate for me, as I’m not sure what you’re trying to imply here? I don’t know what connection you’re trying to make between the images on my profile, and me saying that I have recently entered into a sub role? Would you like me to give you details of the journey we’ve taken so far, complete with dates and times… so you can analyse how long our dynamic has existed? Apologies if you misunderstand what the word “recently” means. I am not implying anything. It might be me but I'd hazard a guess that any sub, any dom, wouldn't be give/receive a collar in under a year to a new sub, same with leads, cuffs, and hoods. It usually starts sexually.. holding down, spanking, using toys to either force or edge, using kitchen utensils - spatulas and so on and so on and builds from there. It's usually where people get a liking for d/s play, roles or more vanilla type. You are asking for hints and tips but it you have a master and already have a lot of gear, and with the sensory play in your pic, it looks like you are fairly well along with ideas It's you. Why on earth would you call out someone like this? You don't know anything about them. Like, what's your point? All they did was ask for tips and ideas and here you are trying to paint them in a negative light for no apparent reason other than you decided to put someone down based on reasons that you basically made up to suit your purpose. " MY purpose? You sound as if I hold some kind a grudge? To be straight, they didn't ask for tips, people started giving them - they already new them. They asked for people to DM if were d/s. That is why I questioned their play, ownership, collars etc given OP said "recent to sub" We don't know if it's the male or female asking.. if this another thread to have 'willing (new) subs' mail for play. If they are new and are hooding etc - fair play but for me you don't jump from vanilla sex to a collar and chain overnight. It's observation, if that's negative, get the paddle out  | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. " I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it  perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X"Allmusicmatters.. Look me up.. Say hello. And I can help if you'd like. | |||
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked.. "... what was asked in OP... was dm's. | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X
Allmusicmatters..
Look me up..
Say hello. And I can help if you'd like."
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X"That site is terrible to navigate. Maybe get yourself to some munches/group socials first and make some real life connections who are already established on that site? Then your network of connections can grow plus you’ve got plenty of people who can help you vet new friends if needed from a safety perspective? | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X
That site is terrible to navigate. Maybe get yourself to some munches/group socials first and make some real life connections who are already established on that site? Then your network of connections can grow plus you’ve got plenty of people who can help you vet new friends if needed from a safety perspective? "Absolutely agree on munches... | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X"Yes it's not particularly user friendly which is annoying ☹️ sometimes you can find groups on there that are based around interests you have, and you can post threads in the group asking for advice or for people to contact you to chat. I hope you find what you're looking for. I play kinky at times, but I am not in a formal D/s dynamic with anyone or "owned" (I don't enjoy the high protocol side of kink) so probably not the best to offer advice about that 😊 | |||
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked..
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked..
... what was asked in OP... was dm's. "It's both amusing and saddening that you can't see beyond the end of your nose on this one. There's no need to die on this hill. Just let it go. | |||
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked..
... what was asked in OP... was dm's.
But not being dug out by someone with no knowledge other than your assumptions.. "Makes you wonder if a sepia bdsm pic gets you out of questions with the amount of threads that get called out. | |||
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked..
... what was asked in OP... was dm's.
It's both amusing and saddening that you can't see beyond the end of your nose on this one.
There's no need to die on this hill. Just let it go."You realise there's no hill as their profile and OP are in plain sight. I am pointing out the obvious. You don't have to be a genius. Simply because this has a PowerRanger Unite response, doesn't make it true. I'll leave you to dm each other. | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X
That site is terrible to navigate. Maybe get yourself to some munches/group socials first and make some real life connections who are already established on that site? Then your network of connections can grow plus you’ve got plenty of people who can help you vet new friends if needed from a safety perspective?
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked..
... what was asked in OP... was dm's.
It's both amusing and saddening that you can't see beyond the end of your nose on this one.
There's no need to die on this hill. Just let it go.
You realise there's no hill as their profile and OP are in plain sight. I am pointing out the obvious. You don't have to be a genius.
Simply because this has a PowerRanger Unite response, doesn't make it true.
I'll leave you to dm each other. "I respect your dedication and commitment to expose me as a fake/scam dom. It’s clearly your area of expertise and something you have extensive knowledge about. I’m sorry that in the past you have fallen victim to a fake Dom and I understand that’s why you’re so passionate to prevent it from happening to another person. At the end of the day, if scrutinising my profile has made you feel better then I’m happy for you. I really needed a laugh today so thank you for the entertainment. | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." I can’t remember where I asked you for your opinion on my lifestyle but thanks for sharing it with us. | |||
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" This.. Needless criticism rather than what was asked..
... what was asked in OP... was dm's.
It's both amusing and saddening that you can't see beyond the end of your nose on this one.
There's no need to die on this hill. Just let it go.
You realise there's no hill as their profile and OP are in plain sight. I am pointing out the obvious. You don't have to be a genius.
Simply because this has a PowerRanger Unite response, doesn't make it true.
I'll leave you to dm each other.
I respect your dedication and commitment to expose me as a fake/scam dom.
It’s clearly your area of expertise and something you have extensive knowledge about.
I’m sorry that in the past you have fallen victim to a fake Dom and I understand that’s why you’re so passionate to prevent it from happening to another person.
At the end of the day, if scrutinising my profile has made you feel better then I’m happy for you.
I really needed a laugh today so thank you for the entertainment.
"It's a bit odd this... but when someone quotes me, I am inclined to reply. You have replied earlier, I didn't reply for sake of thread, instead replying to others and not replying to others.. for sake of thread. It doesn't take much to point things out. There is nothing on your profile bar "owned". There is nothing on the thread bar "recent sub", "dm me", with replies that include "We seem to have discussed and covered all those bases together already". If you want me reply I can, but a quick tip is that anyone can reply to a thread... like it, don't, agree with it, chat about it, ignore it. I moved past replying a while ago, I have a little to do but can post my opinion and keep posting it if you like. | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X
That site is terrible to navigate. Maybe get yourself to some munches/group socials first and make some real life connections who are already established on that site? Then your network of connections can grow plus you’ve got plenty of people who can help you vet new friends if needed from a safety perspective?
Absolutely agree on munches...
You did not perhaps run one..in Croydon and attend one at Crystal Palace "Once you do navigate it it's a very useful site for what you want | |||
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"I don't think fab is particularly kink friendly sadly, especially the forums. As much as there are always a few lovely helpful people willing to be give advice, there's also lots of negative, critical, judgey and kinkphobic people who have to weigh in with their 2p. There are other more kink/fetish orientated sites and online communities where you might be better asking advice. I’ve realised that now… I naively believed this was a non judgmental safe space. It’s a shame because I’m somebody who prides themselves on never kink shaming ANYONE for ANYTHING. Thank you for your kindness. I have already joined the f 3 t site… a while ago… but I’m struggling to figure how to navigate my way round it perhaps this is my incentive to finally figure it out! X
That site is terrible to navigate. Maybe get yourself to some munches/group socials first and make some real life connections who are already established on that site? Then your network of connections can grow plus you’ve got plenty of people who can help you vet new friends if needed from a safety perspective?
Absolutely agree on munches...
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" Also, do you know about aftercare and sub drop? Discuss Dom drop too.. it is a thing. Discuss your checking in protocol during and after scenes. The traffic light system is very good, and should mean you won't ever need to use your safe word. However you must discuss and trust your dom adheres to them. So many so called doms nowadays dismiss this, as if to say, you won't need one, or they won't respect it. Discuss an alternative to safe words if your doing sensory depravation or a scene where your unable to talk.. I might be going on, but I've seen so much poor practice over the years, and it gives us kinksters a bad rep. Thank you for looking out for me We seem to have discussed and covered all those bases together already.
I’m pretty well informed and knowledgeable on the dynamic, so I do know what is to be expected of him.
He’s been living and experiencing the scene for a number of years, so knows what is expected of him.
The only part where my knowledge is lacking … is creativity and inspiration. I want to be nosy and find out from others what escapades they’ve got up to, so I can pinch ideas from them "Hi, I'd say looking at FETish LIFEstyle site is a great resource. As it has people with different kinks on there, people in different sorts of relationships as well as the different stages of relationship. As well as writings and groups for all sorts. There are also a wealth of ideas on high jinks that you can get up to, ie are you more of a brat sub or a good girl sub? I'm not a sub brat at all, just a little cheeky at times so some of the stuff my friends get up to, I would nooooo way do. But it's a good place to connect and it has a lot of events and munches advertised too. Also read read read. There are lots of kink type books out there. I read lots of kink fiction and they are great for ideas and the consequences given for when mischief has occured 😁😁 | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." Why do you think it isn’t a two way thing? It’s a power exchange | |||
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"Fet Life. The forums on there helped me immensely when I started out in this world. " I'm so stealing this way of writing it | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." But a thought built on a Fab and general misconception that D/s is purely about sex or "slap and tickle". Each D/s relationships is different and the sexual control element varies in each relationship. Not all D/s is built on the "Story of O". As others have pointed out it can be about cherishing each other. In modern D/s both the sub and Dom are equal as humans and in the relationship. However, many believe that the D/s dynamic is about consensual power or authority exchange, ie a desire and need to be in an hierarchical relationship being the hallmark of D/s. The consensual power exchange may be sexual or any mix of different behaviors. If you feel D/s is too much look up either Owner and Property relationships or Gorean relationships. | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." A someone who likes playing the submissive role, I get as much from it as the Dom does. It is absolutely a two way thing. | |||
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"Helllooooooooo
I’ve recently entered into a submissive role and I am THRIVING. I’ve never felt as fulfilled in my whole life.
Naturally I'm eager to research, and learn more on the subject, but there’s not much information on here when I’ve searched.
I’d love to hear from other women who have adopted the same position as me. So please do get in touch with me "There is A LOT of information out there, it’s just about knowing where to look. A basic beginner’s is The Ethical Slut or Screw the Roses, Give me the Thorns’ both are excellent books. If you google D/s guides or books about submission, you will get some basic hits. Also if you look at the web site Fet… life without the space you’ll find a lot of help | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." Thanks for your input on something that is nothing to do with you. This comment shows that you know nothing about it | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." You clearly don’t understand a D/s dynamic. You don’t get any more equal and two-way as this. Stay in your lane. | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought. You clearly don’t understand a D/s dynamic. You don’t get any more equal and two-way as this. Stay in your lane." This | |||
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"Not into subs, sex should be a two-way thing. Just a thought." why contribute to a thread you have no interest in? Does your ego dictate that you must inform everyone of your 'superior opinions ' ? | |||
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"Fet Life. The forums on there helped me immensely when I started out in this world. " Seconded. More kink based just takes a while to get used to | |||
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