FabSwingers.com forum: Do lots of verifications put you off

By *aughty workman88 OP Man
4 days ago

Colchester

How many is to many would this put you off someone had lots

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 days ago

Crumpet Castle

"How many is to many would this put you off someone had lots "

Too many is purely your choice.

It is not the number of verifications that would put me off but the wording in them...... as that does reflect on your own character.

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By *ocomotiveMan
4 days ago

Sunderland

Not me.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
4 days ago

Kent

We have a fair few but we have been here for some years now. Some of our veris are from people we've met and not played with, it's always worth keeping an open mind and not judging others based on high amount of veris I believe x

Mrs x

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
4 days ago

South Wales

Wouldn’t put us off at all xx 😘

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 days ago

Leeds

Never paid any thought to the number, the context however would/does x

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
4 days ago

Bedale

The raw number isn't that relevant as some people, including ourselves, have been in the lifestyle for a decade or more.

The pace of them is sometimes a little bit disconcerting. If we see multiple meets per week and it's clear they aren't all socials then it's going to be a red flag.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
4 days ago

Staffordshire

"Never paid any thought to the number, the context however would/does x"

Agreed, we tend to not ve put off by the quantity, but if theyre really graphic that can be a little off putting.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
4 days ago

cardiff

I don't look at verifications, I just want to know you are real. It's like a rating system of your sexual prowess, I don't want to know that and therefore I never write any and don't want any.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
4 days ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I have hundreds but they are from hosting parties for many years. I've had people judge and call me a slut etc when they've seen the total amount (used to be higher!) but I just point out if they bothered to read even a few they'd see I'm not Bonnie Blue....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 days ago

little house on the praire

No it doesn't put me off

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By *cl1912Man
4 days ago

Swinton

"No it doesn't put me off"

Think every decent profile has a couple of veris just to show their a genuine person ect

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By *.hrisMan
4 days ago

Bath

I'd prefer plenty of verifications. It shows that they're active people and won't be a time waster.

I'm sure most people wear protectuon on here, so all good

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By *icknDeeCouple
4 days ago

hartlepool

Isn't the number of verification you have directly connected to how long you've been on the site?

We've been here around 15 years so surely it'd be weird if we didn't have several verification...

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
4 days ago

Wolverhampton

We have quite a few veris, a lot of which are from social events. The number of veris don't bother us, and like others have said, it's about the context of them. If for example, I saw a profile that was meeting several different sexual partners week in week our, and appearing to look like they are trying to fuck their way through fab, it would put me off massively.

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By *evonFbsCouple
4 days ago

Devon

Agree with the majority on here

We have quite a lot and they tend to come in flurrys from local events we attend.

Due to negative feedback in the past about too many veris we tend to only show our latest ones

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 days ago

Crumpet Castle

"No it doesn't put me off

Think every decent profile has a couple of veris just to show their a genuine person ect "

and they should deny the rest ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 days ago

Crumpet Castle

"Agree with the majority on here

We have quite a lot and they tend to come in flurrys from local events we attend.

Due to negative feedback in the past about too many veris we tend to only show our latest ones"

That's the truth of it isn't it. People could have sex with 50 per week but only show two per year ......... so why should anyone rely on veris..

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By *issmorganWoman
4 days ago

Calderdale innit

It's not the amount, but the content and sometimes who they're from that will put me off.

For example, when I lived in a different area, there was a married women who did bare gang bangs and posted she got an sti once as her status.

If anyone messaged me and had met her, instant delete.

Some got crafty and hid her veries though, so I had to check hers if I got a message 😂.

Any that are massively graphic or self appraising put me off like made her squirt over and over,banged her all over etc.

I just want to know someone is who they claim to be and isn't a complete weirdo.

I like the ones with some humour in.

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By *ein-guyMan
4 days ago

East Cowes

"It's not the amount, but the content and sometimes who they're from that will put me off.

For example, when I lived in a different area, there was a married women who did bare gang bangs and posted she got an sti once as her status.

If anyone messaged me and had met her, instant delete.

Some got crafty and hid her veries though, so I had to check hers if I got a message 😂.

Any that are massively graphic or self appraising put me off like made her squirt over and over,banged her all over etc.

I just want to know someone is who they claim to be and isn't a complete weirdo.

I like the ones with some humour in. "

This

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By *offysmangoMan
4 days ago

Colchester

Depends on the context of the verifications. If it's many within a small time frame, immediate no from me. If it's clubs, socials, or multiple from regular friends, them no.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
4 days ago

Lincolnshire

I don’t think verifications solely put us off but they may confirm incompatibility, due to the content which is not to our taste, sent or received.

If their pics were graphic and then veri’s were similar then they would show that they do FAB differently to us.

Veri’s are just another layer to determine compatibility.

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By *G74Woman
4 days ago

Blackburn

Had to laugh as I got called a whore for having so many veris, yet they obviously hadn't read them as I host events at No3 and most are from people coming to my events rather than people I've played with. 😅

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By *istalloverCouple
4 days ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

We have over 50 verifications but it doesn't mean we gave played with all of them ,

A verification means you are genuine ,not a spoof profile or a std carrier.

Best to read the veris and make your own mind up.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
4 days ago

Stockton

Again to follow others depends on context if its several sexual encounters in a short space of time its not for me. Not saying theres anything wrong with it we all do fab differently just not what im looking for 😁

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
4 days ago

London/Kent

To be truthfully honest........Alot of play verifications would put me off yes

I know some people ask not to be verified by many because they know it's off putting......

I had a FWB before & I found a whole trail of many verifications I knew nothing about by chance.....

He had asked for us to be exclusive & it put me totally off him when I discovered he was fkin left right & center, just very promiscuous aren't for me & that's ok too.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 days ago

Central

No. I use them solely to help me to discern if someone is legitimate and likely reliable

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By *icknDeeCouple
4 days ago

hartlepool

"We have over 50 verifications but it doesn't mean we gave played with all of them, A verification means you are genuine ,not a spoof profile or a std carrier.

Best to read the veris and make your own mind up. "

Well, truth be told of all our verifications, we've played with 99.99% of them. However, there are the couples who wanted bareback or other questionable practices which we've declined.

Even when they've left us feedback, we won't display it, because it's not what we're about or want to be seen to be about.

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think a lot of people are put off but maybe not realising the timescale they were in.

I have 50 but over 7 years & more than half are just socials .

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By *anky_PankyWoman
4 days ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Had to laugh as I got called a whore for having so many veris, yet they obviously hadn't read them as I host events at No3 and most are from people coming to my events rather than people I've played with. 😅"

Oh crap, if you are a whore with that many what am I with over 1000?! 🤣😂

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By *ife NinjaMan
4 days ago

Dunfermline

Nope 🤓

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 days ago

Ayrshire

Yes

I don't really want to meet anyone that's heavily into the social scene

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 days ago

Carlisle usually

Some people are put out by other people's sex lives existing. It's odd.

For some people, any is too many. For others it's some arbitrary amount after which the person is clearly dirty or used up or something silly.

I like to see that someone has verifications. If they choose to show them, I like to see what people have had to say about them that they are happy to display. But mostly I just glance to see if they are verified as people who show up and at least remotely resemble the person they present themselves as.

I don't show any of mine any more after some issues with people harassing people who'd verified me. But mostly they're from clubs and socials, I never liked the graphic sex style veris 💜

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By *sStephenPickleMan
4 days ago

Ends

I can honestly say, the amount of verifications above 1 does not bother me at all.

Who they are from however…

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By *icknDeeCouple
4 days ago

hartlepool

Also, verifications disappear when someone leaves the site. We've lost loads over the years from people who arn't here anymore.

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By *ingerTatsMuscleMan
4 days ago

Brum

There's more to it than just numbers. A lot of veris can be from webcams or if you go to a club people who have spoke to you will send a veri rather than it be all people you've fucked.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
4 days ago

Niche

Yes for a few reasons.

Different likes.

Different habits sexually and socially.

Different attitudes to privacy.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
4 days ago

Maidstone

Nope. They mean literally nothing to me. I've no interest in looking at someone's fan mail🥱

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By *tlanshiaWoman
4 days ago

Chatham

It doesn't put me off per sey, but the content sometimes does. I don't like vulgar descriptions. I'll usually always do and have a nose at the people giving a veri too.

It's the fab equivalent of looking through the windows of people who don't close the curtains when I'm walking past.

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 days ago

Belfast

Numbers in general don't put me off.

I wouldn't have anything in common with someone who has lots of play verifications mainly because I rarely meet and take a long time to get to know someone before meeting so we wouldn't be compatible and therefore I wouldn't start a conversation.

I have met women who have had a lot more verifications than I had because they were here much longer and the vast majority were social so while those numbers are irrelevant as is the content of the verifications, I focus more on who wrote them as that gives more clues than the verification itself.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
4 days ago

Niche

I do appreciate them being there though. I read what a person chooses to display. And I read what they have chosen to write in return.

It reveals a lot about the person, the personality.

Helps me know if we're suited.

Lots of times people say what they believe will get them what they want. But veris speak truth to their actions & choices.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
4 days ago

Stockton

"Numbers in general don't put me off.

100% agree

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By *sWyldWoman
4 days ago

Edinburgh

The number, not particularly. The trail or certain people in it, very much

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By *inger_SnapWoman
4 days ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Depends what they're for. People who go to socials and clubs often have hundreds, but they won't have had sex with them all.

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By *riel13Woman
4 days ago

Northampton

Not at all, I used to have alot, on my previous profile. It just puts off people that aren't for you

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By *eroLondonMan
4 days ago

Mayfair

I would be put off if the profile mentioned "quality over quantity" whilst displaying an inordinate amount of sexually vulgar and graphic verifications over a short timeframe.

The provenance of the verifications are more important to me – the people who are writing them, whether the verifications are consistent, highlighting of incompatibilities... ...

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By *eonknifeWoman
3 days ago

skegness

not only the number of verificatios, but if they have verifications with people i don't find attractive myself (could be age or looks or gender), I'll pass.

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By *pforfun06Man
3 days ago

Kidderminster

Not at all

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By *ueen BeatriceWoman
3 days ago

Lavender Town

Any more than zero is too many.

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
3 days ago

Norwich

If you're looking for a regular like I am, lots of verifications might put you off because then you think they're not really going to want to stick to seeing one person.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
2 days ago

London

"Any more than zero is too many."

That's me fucked then.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
2 days ago

West Devon

The number of verifications doesn't bother us more the content. We go to clubs and parties and appreciate it's easy to get a lot of verifications on one night just by being social.

We do tend to only show the last year on our profile, anything older is probably less relevant.

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By *eliWoman
2 days ago

How many do you consider too many, OP?

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
2 days ago

London/Kent

Lots of penetrative sex play verifications are extremely off putting for me. HIV is rapidly on the rise & other STI's & as we know condoms do not protect against certain Stis.

'Ride On' & Whatever......But I value my health immensely.

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By *arleycplWoman
2 days ago

Leyburn

Not the number but the content, say if they play bareback.

Only time numbers have ever put me off, the used to be a female who travelled around in a van and used to get lots, 10 plus, of veries each night,

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By *ueen BeatriceWoman
2 days ago

Lavender Town

"Not the number but the content, say if they play bareback.

Only time numbers have ever put me off, the used to be a female who travelled around in a van and used to get lots, 10 plus, of veries each night, "

Omg Van girl!!! I hope she’s doing well in life

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By *arleycplWoman
2 days ago

Leyburn

"Not the number but the content, say if they play bareback.

Only time numbers have ever put me off, the used to be a female who travelled around in a van and used to get lots, 10 plus, of veries each night,

Omg Van girl!!! I hope she’s doing well in life"

That's her had hundreds of veries in a couple of weeks, was a great way of finding out the barebackers

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By *midnight-Woman
2 days ago

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Neither the number, nor the context put me off

If I want to meet them, I meet them

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By *wnedandtamedWoman
2 days ago

Manchester

"Not the number but the content, say if they play bareback.

Only time numbers have ever put me off, the used to be a female who travelled around in a van and used to get lots, 10 plus, of veries each night,

Omg Van girl!!! I hope she’s doing well in life"

Living the dream

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
2 days ago

Plymouth, South west

The number isn't important to us, more what they say... some people can have huge amounts of veris but when you look, lots are webcam.

We go to clubs and socials and can end up with loads of veris on the same evening

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By *etwife8230Couple
2 days ago

Newport

Nope ,I like to read them beforehand x

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