FabSwingers.com forum: Whats wrong with me

By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

Been on here a while and dont seem to be what anyone is looking for. Am i that ugly or is it something else im doing?

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
4 weeks ago

South Wales

40,000 other single blokes on here most days. It's simply maths.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
4 weeks ago

Trowbridge

You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
4 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

"You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?"
exactly this

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By *angled up in twoCouple
4 weeks ago

West Mids

I didn't want to mention it but I think it's your silly smile on your big yellow head.

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By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

"You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?"

Yeah i do have permission though so dont want to seem like im lying if anyone asks

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
4 weeks ago

Gloucester

"You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?"

Was just about to say this. Also we don’t know if your ugly OP your face is hidden.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Well your header is very off putting. sounds as though your doing a favour buying them a drink.

Also noone can see if your ugly or not you've got a big emoji over your face.

You've been here 9 weeks it takes some guys six months to a year to get their first meet

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It's difficult to tell if you're ugly when nothing is actually shown.

It not just the looks or lack of. Most people aren't compatible with most people 💜

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By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

I do tend to show a face pic if someone does show interest but as soon i do i get deleted but thanks everyone i will try and work on pics that im comfortable showing

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By *rith47Man
4 weeks ago

Erith

This site is just very hard work, keep going it does work eventually.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I do tend to show a face pic if someone does show interest but as soon i do i get deleted but thanks everyone i will try and work on pics that im comfortable showing"

But why would they ask when there's another 8 messages waiting from other people, some of who do have enough photos up to gauge attraction even without a face?

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By *angled up in twoCouple
4 weeks ago

West Mids

It would be interesting to know what the OP's expectations were when he signed up.

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By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

"It would be interesting to know what the OP's expectations were when he signed up."

Just looking to meet some like minded people and see where it lead no real expectations

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By *heKaiser777Man
4 weeks ago

Rotherham

Mate join the club, and ive been here a lot longer than you🤣

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

I avoid all profiles that say the wife knows....simply because this can't be verified...too many use that line when it's not the case.

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By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

"I avoid all profiles that say the wife knows....simply because this can't be verified...too many use that line when it's not the case."

Ok thanks for the advice didn't want to seem like im misleading anyone im new to this scene so never sure what to write

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By *rightonsteveMan
4 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You haven’t asked for profile advice so I won’t give any. If a bloke like me can meet people foe sex on here, I’m sure you can.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
4 weeks ago

belfast

Self pity isn't attractive. Also doesn't work.

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By *offysmangoMan
4 weeks ago

Colchester

Married with kids.... Crazy logic, but maybe women don't like that?

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By *rightonsteveMan
4 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Self pity isn't attractive. Also doesn't work."

I was being positive!!

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By *aby.girlWoman
4 weeks ago

St albans

For myself

1 pics are not flattering does not say I've put time into this just I've grabbed some photos and stuck a emoji over me face..

2 the mention of wife for me is a no go..

3 not only wife but children.

4 this kind of post

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Soho

I'm sorry OP but your profile comes across as generic and offering nothing that's unique or makes you stand out.

The first photograph in your profile is of your phallus. I didn't want to go any further within your gallery. I suspect most women wouldn't want to either.

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby

I think the problem is obvious, really... You use a squat pad on the barbell 🤮

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By *ackformore100Man
4 weeks ago

Tin town

"Been on here a while and dont seem to be what anyone is looking for. Am i that ugly or is it something else im doing?

If you don't win the lottery is it something you're doing?

It's really not great odds for single guys on here. All you can do is have good words and good pics and put yourself in the shop window...

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By *irMixNSwingMan
4 weeks ago

Leicester

"Been on here a while and dont seem to be what anyone is looking for. Am i that ugly or is it something else im doing?

Perhaps go to a club and talk to people.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

You must realise we have no idea what you look like

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By *KloganMan
4 weeks ago

Ramsbottom

I don’t usually post on these threads so I apologise if this is misconstrued…

But it’s a bit like a decision tree or logic path, you know the ones. If A doesn’t work then try z,y,x…

Z is start with your profile… is it the best it can possibly be. Would you reply to your message.

At no point on this earth should the question be, “what’s wrong with me?” Try asking yourself “What’s the best way to meet someone who I match with”.

If you walked into a bar with a lynx can under a willy, and a massive emoji on your head, would that work?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

If a man walked into a bar with a massive willy, with a Lynx can emoji on its head, it could work

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By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

Ok cheers everyone will go through it all this weekend

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By *iura1234Man
4 weeks ago

aberdeen

"Been on here a while and dont seem to be what anyone is looking for. Am i that ugly or is it something else im doing?

Don’t take it to heart as one of the comments said it’s maths women get loads of messages it tough going for blokes stay patient and respectful

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By *oelMan
4 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

Nothing is wrong with you, insane ratios. Just use fab as place to post and chat with men or on forums. Expect nothing from here, and be ok with that, and something may come of it

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Soho

"Nothing is wrong with you, insane ratios. Just use fab as place to post and chat with men or on forums. Expect nothing from here, and be ok with that, and something may come of it "

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Riiiiight. So you're expecting him to do nothing whatsoever to improve his profile? ... because, you know, there's nothing wrong with 'him'.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
4 weeks ago

Ends

Happy world emoji day xx

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By *onnie 90Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Been on here a while and dont seem to be what anyone is looking for. Am i that ugly or is it something else im doing?

Hint - it's not instashag. Nothing is guaranteed nor implied.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Happy world emoji day xx"

🚽🚽1️⃣2️⃣3️⃣

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By *ENGUYMan
4 weeks ago

Hull

OP. As a very long term user of FAB, let me enlighten you.

What DID you expect from FAB? Masses of Females messaging you? This isn't an Instant Sex site!!

At only several weeks in, you are simply a mere beginner! You are up against 100's, even 1000's of other males all seeking the same! You have to realise that Females have the upper hand - they can be picky in selecting the males who they like!

Your Profile has to be the equivalent of a JOB CV. It has to stand out against every other man! You must state what you can contribute to plus expect from meeting others.

Your profile needs a Facial photo as potential others like to see who you are or at least, if shy, keep one back to attach to any 1st message from you. Just ditch the Cock Photo to Friends or Private.

You don't accommodate - an instant Turn-off with people, unless you say why!!

Any profile has to stand out with a hell of a lot of effort and patience to succeed. It takes a lot of time + a very thick skin to handle the zero responses!

Good luck - you'll need it!

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By *ay h500Man
4 weeks ago

mansfield

"You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?

Yeah i do have permission though so dont want to seem like im lying if anyone asks "

I'm guessing if you have permission there's no need to hide your face or tattoos.

Letting people see you would be a good start.

Get to a club and meet folk and get verified. A better start.

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By *ustBoWoman
4 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No one can tell if you're ugly or not. No one bars those you have interacted with will know if you are doing anything right or wrong. You are new on here and it usually takes longer for men to have success,as you have found out contrary to the popular belief of some, it is not dial a ride on here.

Some of the previous posters have said you are married but I see no sign of that so you have taken it off your profile I presume, so now anyone looking has no clue. This is exactly why I don't give profile advice,because people change things that others don't like and it doesn't allow those looking to make an informed decision about whether they want to interact or not.

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"OP. As a very long term user of FAB, let me enlighten you.

What DID you expect from FAB? Masses of Females messaging you? This isn't an Instant Sex site!!

Your Profile has to be the equivalent of a JOB CV. It has to stand out against every other man! You must state what you can contribute to plus expect from meeting others.

You don't accommodate - an instant Turn-off with people, unless you say why!!

Any profile has to stand out with a hell of a lot of effort and patience to succeed. It takes a lot of time + a very thick skin to handle the zero responses!

Good luck - you'll need it!

Agreed, but It needn’t be a huge amount of effort. It should be fun and come naturally I don’t agree you need a thick skin. You’re only dealing with lots of rejections if you’re constantly making unwise moves on women that you haven’t got to know.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

"You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?

Yeah i do have permission though so dont want to seem like im lying if anyone asks

I'm guessing if you have permission there's no need to hide your face or tattoos.

Letting people see you would be a good start.

Get to a club and meet folk and get verified. A better start."

Tbf I wouldn’t show my face or tattoos on here. I do have them available to send to potential meets though

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
4 weeks ago

belfast

"Self pity isn't attractive. Also doesn't work.

I was being positive!!

I was replying to the opening post.

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By *artorialMan
4 weeks ago

weymouth

Time wise a few weeks or months is a mere blink if the eye here, I've been on for years and (with the exception of one couple who wanted me to drop everything and rush over) I've failed via this site. Clubs have been varied success and a lot of that is down to the people there at that time.

It is what it is, be patient, go to clubs, socials etc - face to face is always better

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By *onjon123 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

"You’re married, I guess that doesn’t help?

Yeah i do have permission though so dont want to seem like im lying if anyone asks

I'm guessing if you have permission there's no need to hide your face or tattoos.

Letting people see you would be a good start.

Get to a club and meet folk and get verified. A better start."

The reason ive hidden my face and tattoos is a former friend added my pictures on here from my profile and when he wasn't getting what he wanted told everyone id topped myself which led to people messaging my wife about it so just trying to be a bit more cautious

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By *allySlinkyWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

What a dreadful thing for him to do.

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By *arrickrealMan
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Been on here a while and dont seem to be what anyone is looking for. Am i that ugly or is it something else im doing?

Well the self pity is unattractive.

Get a grip.

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By *2000ManMan
4 weeks ago

Worthing

Treat fab as a social club and join in with forum/cam room chat. Make friends and have fun!

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By *ENGUYMan
4 weeks ago

Hull

"OP. As a very long term user of FAB, let me enlighten you.

What DID you expect from FAB? Masses of Females messaging you? This isn't an Instant Sex site!!

Your Profile has to be the equivalent of a JOB CV. It has to stand out against every other man! You must state what you can contribute to plus expect from meeting others.

You don't accommodate - an instant Turn-off with people, unless you say why!!

Any profile has to stand out with a hell of a lot of effort and patience to succeed. It takes a lot of time + a very thick skin to handle the zero responses!

Good luck - you'll need it!

Yes, it should be fun but conversely what I've heard from Female and Couple contacts over the years is how they're swamped with messages.

Equally, over the years, I've seen many messages on here from men complaining about lack of getting meets, whilst their respective profiles lacked what I've stated on this Post. I've heard it too on here and in face to face talking with single males whingeing about the lack of replies yet cannot accept why they aren't noticed??

For me, I read profiles fully and message those with whom I could potentially match. Yes, sometimes messages aren't replied to but I accept that's Life! It's down to other people's choice!

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By * Jason -Man
4 weeks ago

Hounslow

Probably nothing is wrong with you. I don't know you so can't really comment.

Your main problem is that you are a single man on here. (Single in the sense that you are not here with a couples profile).

The ratio of single men to . . . Well, everyone else combined, means that the odds are massively stacked against us right from the start. (That's just the way it is, deal with it). So you need to do something to stand out.

My 2 recommendations, for what it's worth.

Go to a couple of the local social events that get listed on fabs. There are often monthly events.

Remove those photos. They are working against you. If you don't want to show your face then take photos that don't show your head. Blocking your head out like that looks awful and gives an instant negative vibe, (to me at least). Don't block out your tatoos either. (If you are paranoid about being recognised then swinging is possibly not for you). Have a look at other guys profiles for photo ideas, (but no excessive dick picks).

Well that's what I think.

And don't worry about those who say it's because you are married. Everyone has their own do's and dont's and everyone here is into different things. Some women/couples are even actively looking for married men.

Everyone has their own bag and shouldn't be judging others tbh

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By *eneralKenobiMan
4 weeks ago

North Angus

You know when you look and look and look for something in the house and never find it and you think, bugger. That’s gone! Lost forever

Then! When you’re not looking for it, boom! There it goes!

That’s my approach to Fab anyway

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