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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️" This! | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???" Nope. Who someone has slept with before me is none of my business. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️" This! | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???" Why are you asking her how many people she’s fucked? It’s none of any bodies business but hers | |||
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️ This! " 💯 | |||
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me. "And did you say i dont know ill just pop onto the swingers site to find out? 🤣🤷♀️ | |||
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental. I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past. Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people. " how can you morally question someone whilst frequently a swingers site. | |||
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental. I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past. Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people. " Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ | |||
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"Why would you ask her how many she has slept with, it sounds like you could carry a bit of Jealousy, if so swinging isn't the game for you." Bit of a stretch and jump to conclusions there. What makes you think he asked her? He said nothing to imply that, but you label him and jump to a stupid conclusion. | |||
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️" Absolutely this! | |||
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental. I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past. Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people. Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ " That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter. | |||
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"Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh." I can’t imagine asking the question! | |||
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"Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh. I can’t imagine asking the question!" Exactly and it really shouldn't matter at all if you like each other. | |||
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"Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh. I can’t imagine asking the question! Exactly and it really shouldn't matter at all if you like each other. " | |||
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"Tbf he is saying he didnt ask.. i wrongly assumed he did .. so maybe she wanted to be judged by him .. maybe not by a full swinger site mind but yano 🤣🤷♀️" Very true he did say that | |||
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental. I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past. Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people. Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter." Some women enjoy sex with different partners because they get pleasure and enjoyment from experiencing/connecting with new people, or multiple people at the same time, or having sex with strangers. Why do we always have to pathologise women's sexuality? Nobody ever questions if there's a "reason" a man has fucked 200 women. | |||
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"Here, no. We're here for a reason. For a partner, yes. " Why is there a difference? | |||
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental. I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past. Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people. Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter. Some women enjoy sex with different partners because they get pleasure and enjoyment from experiencing/connecting with new people, or multiple people at the same time, or having sex with strangers. Why do we always have to pathologise women's sexuality? Nobody ever questions if there's a "reason" a man has fucked 200 women. " 
The same can be said for both men and women. I know of men and women who have had over 300 sexual partners. | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. " Why the difference? 🤔 | |||
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental. I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past. Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people. Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter. Some women enjoy sex with different partners because they get pleasure and enjoyment from experiencing/connecting with new people, or multiple people at the same time, or having sex with strangers. Why do we always have to pathologise women's sexuality? Nobody ever questions if there's a "reason" a man has fucked 200 women. " Probably cos he’s exaggerating and full of it | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔" I was just thinking 🤔 this myself | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???" I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️ | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👌 | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️" 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"Why would you ask her how many she has slept with, it sounds like you could carry a bit of Jealousy, if so swinging isn't the game for you. Bit of a stretch and jump to conclusions there. What makes you think he asked her? He said nothing to imply that, but you label him and jump to a stupid conclusion." I've never once known a lady to confess the number of partners they have had and I'm well into three figures not counting the ones whilst swinging. | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔" Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?  | |||
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"I've sucked over 500 different cocks. If it bothers people, well there's nothing I can do about it. I'm not going to lie if asked " Well done for keeping count ... impressive | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely? "So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you? | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you? "I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours. | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours. "It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much. | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours. "But what if it was over their lifetime, for example someone could have had sex with 5/6 different men a year since they were 18 and that would total 175 nearly..... | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
But what if it was over their lifetime, for example someone could have had sex with 5/6 different men a year since they were 18 and that would total 175 nearly....."Forgot to add in their mid 40's | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much."The more you're on here the more crazies you'll encounter | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much.
The more you're on here the more crazies you'll encounter "Lol too right. | |||
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"I operate a don’t ask don’t tell policy " Good mantra 👌 | |||
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"Yes If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️" | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???" Nope none of my business. 175 is pretty low imo if people fuck regular in this game over the years | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much.
The more you're on here the more crazies you'll encounter "Why is it crazy though? I know for a fact I've likely slept with a similar number in my life as the girls in the OP. I've never felt judged by anyone. Its never hindered me finding a relationship. Sure, people will have different views. But what if the girl of your dreams rocked up, you fell in love, married, had kids and on her deathbed she announced she'd slept with 500 people before you. Would it really change your view of her at that point? Or is it a case of what you don't know doesn't hurt you? Because I'd bet there's plenty who'd never dream.of telling you even a rough number, or would fib if there was any indication shown that they'd be viewed negatively by a guy if they told the truth. 🤷♂️ Everyone has a past. You can't change it, nor does it affect your future. | |||
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"Yes If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️ "No we are all diferant and you need to try befor you buy, so to speak. Some are lucky to find a sole mate some like verity. So long as in the moment we focus on each other that's fine. | |||
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"Yes If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️" Yet thus is sex site ultimately lol most normal civilian people would look down with disgust and disdain at any man / woman on sites like this as tainted / corrupt.
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. " Say you want to be blocked by couples without saying "I want to be blocked by couples" 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me. "Sounds like she's testing you. | |||
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" Everyone has a past. You can't change it, nor does it affect your future. " And remember folks, if you are attracted to them now it's their past that shaped them into who they are 😊 | |||
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"It bothers a lot of people hence the number of profiles that say they're not 'looking to sleep their way through the site' and the occasional thread asking about 'body count'" Also "quality not quantity" | |||
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" she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. " It's a high number if it's over one weekend | |||
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" Even if you are protected AND regularly tested, there’s still things you can catch. " Every time I cross the road I could get knocked down and killed but I prefer to take the risk rather than stay indoors. | |||
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"My wife has had two" How many have you ? | |||
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"Not at all.. doesn't bother me at all. Some questions aren't meant to be asked if you dont wanna know the answer " This! | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️" If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke  | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️ If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke "From the American pie movie by any chance? 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️ If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke "Fair play to you for confidently announcing you’re judgemental. Always nice to know who makes sweeping statements. For the record if I told you my body count you wouldn’t need to multiply it by 3 (shock horror people exist that tell the truth) | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️ If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke
Fair play to you for confidently announcing you’re judgemental. Always nice to know who makes sweeping statements.
For the record if I told you my body count you wouldn’t need to multiply it by 3 (shock horror people exist that tell the truth)"How is acknowledging that people exagerate or downplay the numbers judgemental.🤷 | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️ If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke
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"People by their very nature are judgemental. It’s how they choose options, especially with people who they are interested in forming relationships with. It’s how they filter the yays from the nays. Everyone has different standards or expectations and that’s fine. It’s perfectly normal. This is a swingers site, so straight away, people on here will be judged by the non swinging communities. The idea of partners being shared casually for thrills exited some people and disgusts others. I think that the body count thing comes down to people’s expectations of loyalty and monogamy. People will look at the past to predict the future. I’ve heard people describe swingers as people who behave like alley cats. That’s fine, that’s their opinion. Swingers usually describe that sort of person as prudish, uptight and frigid. We’re not all compatible and never will be. " Perfectly balanced, as all things should be | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Say you want to be blocked by couples without saying "I want to be blocked by couples" 🤣🤣🤣" Good riddance 👌🏽 | |||
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"What was the reason for telling you, I'd be wondering." This is what I thought too. Sounds like she wanted a reaction from you OP. Who I’ve slept with before someone else isn’t something I discuss with anyone. Sexual health is a discussion topic between potential partners. Discussing previous ones is not 👍🏻 | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl ... but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys" I think this actually is judgemental because of your use of the word "but". Like when people say "I'm not racist but ..." | |||
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"Speaking with a really nice girl ... but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys I think this actually is judgemental because of your use of the word "but". Like when people say "I'm not racist but ..."" Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ. Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you. | |||
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" Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ. Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you. " I'm not saying he's racist. I'm saying he's judgemental. | |||
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" Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ. Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you. I'm not saying he's racist. I'm saying he's judgemental. " But your using racism as a comparison, when they are completely different. One is by choice. The other isn't. You can't choose your race, but you choose who you pick as a sexual partner and how many you sleep with, and anything made by choice is should be open to opinion by others. Using race is extremely naive, and to me, shows just how easily you would use it in an argument for no reason whatsoever. | |||
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"175 is too high for us, 174 is our cut-off point " Show offs, mine is 176. And that is non negotiable. | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. " Why? | |||
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" Using race is extremely naive, and to me, shows just how easily you would use it in an argument for no reason whatsoever. " I was actually highlighting the use of the word "but". I used that phrase as an example of the negative use of the word "but". I repeat, I am not saying the OP or anyone on this thread is racist. You have called me stupid, you have called me naive. I haven't insulted anyone other than saying I consider the OP to be judgemental. | |||
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"The thing is, people are being judgmental of people who are being judgemental!! If someone deems 175 too many, that's their prerogative. Who is anyone to say they shouldn't think that. It's up to them. Just like if someone sleeps with 100 in a week, that's also up to them. We all have our own criteria." Exactly. We all have choices. There’s sooo many reasons I won’t meet people which im sure the majority on here would find ridiculous 🤣. I don’t feel the need to broadcast them though or listen to peoples opinions on them. | |||
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"Don’t think I’ve ever asked that question, as long as she’s not Bonnie blue we’re all adults and judging someone by the number of people they’ve been with means nothing. What difference does it make if someone has slept with 2 people but 500 times, or 80 people a total of 400 times 🤷♂️" There is a difference between having regular sex with one partner and lots of single encounters with different partners. Although the may have had the same amount of sex, it’s the multiple partners that seems to put people off. | |||
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"Don’t think I’ve ever asked that question, as long as she’s not Bonnie blue we’re all adults and judging someone by the number of people they’ve been with means nothing. What difference does it make if someone has slept with 2 people but 500 times, or 80 people a total of 400 times 🤷♂️" I think the Bonnie Blue thing was a fake publicity stunt anyway. | |||
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"I have just had a very similar experience. I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that . I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!! " He's not looking for a virgin nympho, just someone who hasn't had 40 (or alot more since you lied) different cocks inside them. He's doing what's best for him, as you sleeping with 40+ men is doing what's best for you. | |||
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me. "By posting this question, i assume that her number does bother you. Her being open about it would imply (in my opinion) that she has told people before and it has put them off. Her honesty about it should not be a concern, in my eyes. Or are you more concern about how you compare ? If they were that great she would still be with them | |||
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"For just a liaison? No. For potential relationship material? Yes it does. Why the difference? 🤔 Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
But what if it was over their lifetime, for example someone could have had sex with 5/6 different men a year since they were 18 and that would total 175 nearly....." | |||
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"I'm just waiting for her to reassure OP that he shouldn't worry, he's the only guy that really matters to her - because, after all, the other 175 were just paying customers..." | |||
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"I have just had a very similar experience. I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that . I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!! He's not looking for a virgin nympho, just someone who hasn't had 40 (or alot more since you lied) different cocks inside them. He's doing what's best for him, as you sleeping with 40+ men is doing what's best for you. I have been tested and sex ( other than that had in a long-term, committed relationship) has always been safe . I have never cheated in a relationship. So why is the fact I enjoy sex off-putting? " | |||
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me.
By posting this question, i assume that her number does bother you.
Her being open about it would imply (in my opinion) that she has told people before and it has put them off. Her honesty about it should not be a concern, in my eyes.
Or are you more concern about how you compare ?
If they were that great she would still be with them
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"Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊" You could slice me up and serve me with gravy | |||
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"Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊 You could slice me up and serve me with gravy " Ooh you flirt you | |||
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"I have just had a very similar experience. I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that . I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!! He's not looking for a virgin nympho, just someone who hasn't had 40 (or alot more since you lied) different cocks inside them. He's doing what's best for him, as you sleeping with 40+ men is doing what's best for you. " ☠️ 😂😂😂 | |||
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"Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊 You could slice me up and serve me with gravy Ooh you flirt you " Me! Never!!!! | |||
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️" This^^^ Also, are you suppose to keep count on how many you slept with??? I don't see why body counts matter personally. I dont give a damn how many people someone slept with... that's their business not mine Just as the number of people i slept with isnt other peoples business | |||
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" Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ. Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you. I'm not saying he's racist. I'm saying he's judgemental. But your using racism as a comparison, when they are completely different. One is by choice. The other isn't. You can't choose your race, but you choose who you pick as a sexual partner and how many you sleep with, and anything made by choice is should be open to opinion by others. Using race is extremely naive, and to me, shows just how easily you would use it in an argument for no reason whatsoever. " I think you're missing the point - all words before 'but' don't count. You can apply it to any situation, you're a great candidate 'but' you didn't get the job. If they thought you were a great candidate you would have got the job. | |||
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"175 is too high for us, 174 is our cut-off point Show offs, mine is 176. And that is non negotiable. " We're quite flaky - if she could assure us that a couple of her partners lost their hardon and didn't come, we could be pushed to 175. | |||
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