FabSwingers.com forum: How important is it for you

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm odd,....... I don't like pre planned things as i over think but I'm not good with spur of the moment either

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

pd"

Would you like to know what you might be missing for pointing out my mistakes?;-)

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By *picenicelyCouple
over a year ago

third star on the right

I love and hate planning; I love feeling organised but hate that with kids things never go to plan..its ok though we end up having loads of fun anyway!

In general I find loose plans best as we can plan for our own actions but rarely can we account for the actions of others

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I'm odd,....... I don't like pre planned things as i over think but I'm not good with spur of the moment either

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Maybe it depends on the context for you?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I love and hate planning; I love feeling organised but hate that with kids things never go to plan..its ok though we end up having loads of fun anyway!

In general I find loose plans best as we can plan for our own actions but rarely can we account for the actions of others

Mrs

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SO you are saying planning is ok as long as there is a degree of flexibility?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certain things I have to plan..... cant be dealing with folk who faff around, some things are ok on an adhoc basis

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

Would you like to know what you might be missing for pointing out my mistakes?;-) "

You'll never catch me ...

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

Would you like to know what you might be missing for pointing out my mistakes?;-)

You'll never catch me ...

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I will if you wear the shoes Minxie has in mind for you

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Certain things I have to plan..... cant be dealing with folk who faff around, some things are ok on an adhoc basis

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depending on context I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

Nortmally when i plan anything, It usually goes tits up pardon the expression!

Billy

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

used to be nothing more important things had to be done an done right an I belived there would plenty of time for me an to enjoy life with the money I was making

after a reasonable serious acident I realised thats bull shit life can be over in a hart beat now id not say I just live for now but at least try an find a happy medium

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

Nortmally when i plan anything, It usually goes tits up pardon the expression!

Billy"
Aw - maybe sometimes we try too hard to plan and then we are disappointed when all our effort seems ot have been wasted, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take each day as it comes. I don't worry about yesterday and tomorrow is a new day. I rarely plan anything. The result is, little stress and a carefree existence...

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"used to be nothing more important things had to be done an done right an I belived there would plenty of time for me an to enjoy life with the money I was making

after a reasonable serious acident I realised thats bull shit life can be over in a hart beat now id not say I just live for now but at least try an find a happy medium"
I can understand that a life changing event makes you reconsider your priorities - I was also thinking of planning parties and events etc. and how much planning is necessary there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Certain things I have to plan..... cant be dealing with folk who faff around, some things are ok on an adhoc basis

depending on context I guess? "

Absolutely..... meets..... fine planning, my niece..... can just turn up whenever she likes and can change plans halfway through a day...... shes 8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

Nortmally when i plan anything, It usually goes tits up pardon the expression!

BillyAw - maybe sometimes we try too hard to plan and then we are disappointed when all our effort seems ot have been wasted, eh? "

Possibly! just seems when i plan it, it never goes to plan! anything but!

Billy

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I take each day as it comes. I don't worry about yesterday and tomorrow is a new day. I rarely plan anything. The result is, little stress and a carefree existence..."
My kind of philosophy

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

I can be quite impulsive, If you don't have a plan, nothing can go wrong!

Go with the flow (but a back-up plan could come in useful).

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By *picenicelyCouple
over a year ago

third star on the right

"I love and hate planning; I love feeling organised but hate that with kids things never go to plan..its ok though we end up having loads of fun anyway!

In general I find loose plans best as we can plan for our own actions but rarely can we account for the actions of others

Mrs

SO you are saying planning is ok as long as there is a degree of flexibility?

Lets just say if I was as flexible as my planning I would be..er..well.. really bendy

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only plan I now follow is perfect in it's simplicity,,,

My plan is simply to follow no plan….!.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

time keeping for me is a serious issue .. think this is due to my dad who always had the agenda ' if you don't arrive anywhere ten minutes ahead of time consider yourself late'

the military also sing of this same hymn sheet so time keeping does stress me out somewhat

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I can be quite impulsive, If you don't have a plan, nothing can go wrong!

Go with the flow (but a back-up plan could come in useful).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If family parties or a meet then yes, but can be a spur of the moment kind of woman. But sometimes neither work out

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

It depends. I like people to turn up and what happens after that happens or doesn't. A few ground rules and expectations are fine though.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

super relaxed in every aspect of my life as is my fella but I cant shake the time keeping issue .. my bear bug I guess

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"super relaxed in every aspect of my life as is my fella but I cant shake the time keeping issue .. my bear bug I guess

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You know I can understand it to a degree with my own miltary background but I have really softenend. In my professional life I think if I have a time agreed with somebody then short of a genuine problem they should be on time - otheriwse it feels as if they are saying to me that my time is less important than mine.

That said in my social life I am far more laid back.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?"

nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its an appointment of any kind then I will be early.

Everything else just takes care of its self, as I try and keep up.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"If its an appointment of any kind then I will be early.

Everything else just takes care of its self, as I try and keep up."
Same here - I try not to let people down ever. But with social arrangements I dont get stressed if I am running a bit late.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

Would you like to know what you might be missing for pointing out my mistakes?;-)

You'll never catch me ...

I will if you wear the shoes Minxie has in mind for you

Trust me i straightened her out on that ...not a prayer !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?"

Doing what I did for a living required meticulous planning but depended on an intense process of continuous reassessment and adaptation of those plans….!.

Which is why I now bask in the glorious abandon of randomality

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

"If its an appointment of any kind then I will be early.

Everything else just takes care of its self, as I try and keep up.Same here - I try not to let people down ever. But with social arrangements I dont get stressed if I am running a bit late.

When arrangements have been made I allow extra time for travelling, shit happens, don't like being too early though.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

Would you like to know what you might be missing for pointing out my mistakes?;-)

You'll never catch me ...

I will if you wear the shoes Minxie has in mind for you

Trust me i straightened her out on that ...not a prayer !

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She is on her knees already ..........

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praying

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?

Doing what I did for a living required meticulous planning but depended on an intense process of continuous reassessment and adaptation of those plans….!.

Which is why I now bask in the glorious abandon of randomality

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Sox, do you always have to add an innuendo - like you + basques?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?

Doing what I did for a living required meticulous planning but depended on an intense process of continuous reassessment and adaptation of those plans….!.

Which is why I now bask in the glorious abandon of randomality

Sox, do you always have to add an innuendo - like you + basques?

Nice try Affo, I see your cunning plan …..

But you’ll not get me to admit I deliberately planted that word as part of my cunning plan to slip one in where-ever I can ….. Boom-boom….

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?

Doing what I did for a living required meticulous planning but depended on an intense process of continuous reassessment and adaptation of those plans….!.

Which is why I now bask in the glorious abandon of randomality

Sox, do you always have to add an innuendo - like you + basques?

Nice try Affo, I see your cunning plan …..

But you’ll not get me to admit I deliberately planted that word as part of my cunning plan to slip one in where-ever I can ….. Boom-boom….

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Me and cunning? I am a linguist (FFS whispered in hushed lady like tones)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anybody else find they have changed over the years from being really anal about times and planning to a more relaxed approach now?

Doing what I did for a living required meticulous planning but depended on an intense process of continuous reassessment and adaptation of those plans….!.

Which is why I now bask in the glorious abandon of randomality

Sox, do you always have to add an innuendo - like you + basques?

Nice try Affo, I see your cunning plan …..

But you’ll not get me to admit I deliberately planted that word as part of my cunning plan to slip one in where-ever I can ….. Boom-boom….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I plan things all the time. Anticipation is fun.

I usually have a plan A, B and C. Sometimes also a plan D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"depends on the context really ,in my professional life yep ,private life no...by the way you missed a N out

see me after !!

Would you like to know what you might be missing for pointing out my mistakes?;-)

You'll never catch me ...

no no no bad vicar .... u can't nick my saying cos you never rose to the challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be a little pointless me planning things to the last little detail, cos lets be honest things dont go according to plan for me lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

Meets have to be planned usually because of time - but not to the finest detail. I do like to travel with little planning. Nothing pleases me more than to just grab a passport, pile my bags in the car, get on a ferry and find a hotel in a nice town/village as I go. Travelled round much of Europe like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a general plan, but go with the flow

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"to have things planned to a fine detail? I mea in general... and this can be light hearted or serious

I am a planner..plan everything and have been known to get quite distressed if circumstances change my plans....

Am learning to cope better and to reliniquish control....

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I think it would be a little pointless me planning things to the last little detail, cos lets be honest things dont go according to plan for me lol

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We had heard

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