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By *iddler83 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

barnet

I’m not sure this is the right place for me.

I hear that fab should come with a warning about people with poor mental health and rejection and I was advised that this might not be a good thing for me to try.

Do other people find it as hard and mentally exhausting. I’m guessing guys more than ladies.. coz you know 100-1 ration dick pic flooding in boxes etc..

Just wondering about people’s thoughts

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
2 weeks ago

West Suffolk

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

I think it can be difficult for men with poor mental health if they get too invested. A tip that can help is to delete any sent message so you can't keep checking to see if they have been read.

In general as the saying goes when the fun stops, stop.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
2 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Take it with a pinch of salt and enjoy the forums

Mrs

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By *y_journeyMan
2 weeks ago

newark

You need to do the work on yourself before coming into this kind of environment (no pun intended)

Stay strong bro, it’s okay to not be okay 🤝

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By *IXEN200Woman
2 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

It can affect women too, I've had my fair share of breaks from the site, I now only come on to message friends I've made and to use the forums when I want to input anything I do, it can be overlooked at times but you have to just let it wash over you. Don't try too hard and it will find you

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By *iddler83 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

barnet


"It can affect women too, I've had my fair share of breaks from the site, I now only come on to message friends I've made and to use the forums when I want to input anything I do, it can be overlooked at times but you have to just let it wash over you. Don't try too hard and it will find you"

Not made any friends yet

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By *r Bond.Man
2 weeks ago

Moving Around the Midlands

Only you know the answer OP, and if you’re questioning it…………

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By *IXEN200Woman
2 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne


"It can affect women too, I've had my fair share of breaks from the site, I now only come on to message friends I've made and to use the forums when I want to input anything I do, it can be overlooked at times but you have to just let it wash over you. Don't try too hard and it will find you

Not made any friends yet"

You will, give it time

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By *hortieWoman
2 weeks ago

Northampton

*slap*

Use this site as an extra arrow for your bow.. not your total armoury.

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By *elixMan
2 weeks ago

tralee

Yeah man.... if your feeling fragile, fab is difficult. You have to be ready for being ignored and not let it bother you and if your confidence is down that's going to be very hard.

If your mentally exhausted by something maybe you need to put that thing away for a while and concentrate on yourself. Fab ain't going anywhere.

Take care of you first.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
2 weeks ago

West Suffolk


"It can affect women too, I've had my fair share of breaks from the site, I now only come on to message friends I've made and to use the forums when I want to input anything I do, it can be overlooked at times but you have to just let it wash over you. Don't try too hard and it will find you

Not made any friends yet"

Some guys have been on here years and haven’t met anyone, get yourself involved in the forums and have a laugh, don’t take this site too seriously, if it’s getting you down then take a break from it

Mrs

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By *peedyGMan
2 weeks ago

Telford


"Yeah man.... if your feeling fragile, fab is difficult. You have to be ready for being ignored and not let it bother you and if your confidence is down that's going to be very hard.

If your mentally exhausted by something maybe you need to put that thing away for a while and concentrate on yourself. Fab ain't going anywhere.

Take care of you first.

"

Great advice

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By *cottish guy 555Man
2 weeks ago

London


"It can affect women too, I've had my fair share of breaks from the site, I now only come on to message friends I've made and to use the forums when I want to input anything I do, it can be overlooked at times but you have to just let it wash over you. Don't try too hard and it will find you

Not made any friends yet"

The real world is the best place for that. Try clubs or a social.

Don't rely solely on fab and don't let it get you down. Just have a laugh.

It seems to work for me.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
2 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

For you? Maybe if you’re already thinking it is.

For me? No, not really. I simply try to take the place for what it is, a place I can search for people I might get a long with and enjoy something sexy together. It’s not hard to enjoy Fab, unless you have expectations and only enjoy it if you are getting laid.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
2 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

If you’re just using FAB to try and connect then I’d be looking at ways to get out more to clubs and socials. FAB is not the sole answer to your solutions or problems.

K

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By *lexm87Man
2 weeks ago

Various

Think of fab as somewhere you can agree/disagree with someone, but then look at your preferred forms of nudity, then go on to read a multi part thread on alternatives to jaffa cakes, complex personal life experiences, health issues and much more besides.

Did I mention the nudity?

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By *exy RexyMan
2 weeks ago

Up North

Reading what you’ve posted then I’d say No.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
2 weeks ago

London


"Think of fab as somewhere you can agree/disagree with someone, but then look at your preferred forms of nudity, then go on to read a multi part thread on alternatives to jaffa cakes, complex personal life experiences, health issues and much more besides.

Did I mention the nudity?

"

I disagree. Cordially.

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By *lexm87Man
2 weeks ago

Various


"Think of fab as somewhere you can agree/disagree with someone, but then look at your preferred forms of nudity, then go on to read a multi part thread on alternatives to jaffa cakes, complex personal life experiences, health issues and much more besides.

Did I mention the nudity?

I disagree. Cordially.

"

Totally taking on board your comments about real life too.

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters


"I’m not sure this is the right place for me.

I hear that fab should come with a warning about people with poor mental health and rejection and I was advised that this might not be a good thing for me to try.

Do other people find it as hard and mentally exhausting. I’m guessing guys more than ladies.. coz you know 100-1 ration dick pic flooding in boxes etc..

Just wondering about people’s thoughts "

Can I ask OP what did you want to use the site for? When you joined how did you feel in yourself compared to now

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By *iddler83 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

barnet

I was hoping to meet like minded people near me.

Looking for a connection and some fun.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

I’ve been asking myself the same question OP.

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By *angled up in twoCouple
2 weeks ago

West Mids

I think the whole of the internet is a bad place for men, or women, with poor mental health.

Something more grounded and tangible is required.

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By *exyInLatinMan
2 weeks ago

Warsop


"Yeah man.... if your feeling fragile, fab is difficult. You have to be ready for being ignored and not let it bother you and if your confidence is down that's going to be very hard.

If your mentally exhausted by something maybe you need to put that thing away for a while and concentrate on yourself. Fab ain't going anywhere.

Take care of you first.

"

Summed up perfectly! It’s ok to have a break from it as well if your feeling overwhelmed

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By *azzy75Man
2 weeks ago

Houghton le Spring


"I think the whole of the internet is a bad place for men, or women, with poor mental health.

Something more grounded and tangible is required. "

Very, very true.

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