FabSwingers.com forum: Consent

By *lackjack1st OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

An open and important question ❓

When you are about to have sex, do you verbally state that is what you want and wait for verbal confirmation or is consent more or less implied non verbal ly?

Ladies how do give consent?

And how do you ask for it?

Men, the same question ❓

Men are asking for consent or giving it?

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

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By *vaRoseWoman
3 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

If it’s a kink scene then absolutely yes I check consent

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By *y_journeyMan
3 weeks ago

newark

I’ll pull out my consent contract and feather quill right before moment of impact

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

I normally carry written contracts on a scroll, 📜 to formally acknowledge consent, then I have fingerprint pads to thumbprint below the signature.

A 3rd independent party to act as a witness, who then remains to ensure if consent stops we stop immediately!

Prior to this I was old fashioned and it would have to be communicated between us, visually, audibly and with some body language thrown in. 🤣🤣

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea "

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Never in my life. But I would absolutely expect if I said no at any point that that would be respected immediately. This I have done and it was.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent."

Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !

So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩‍🦽

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By *ad NannaWoman
3 weeks ago

East London

It would have been spoken about before meeting a man.

During the act saying no, or don't do that, or anything like that is withdrawing consent.

Common sense prevails.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

When I have sex with people, especially for the first time, I regularly check in with them throughout the encounter. ‘Is this ok?’ ‘Are you ok?’ Etc

This never happens to me from my partner but I’m ok because I’m checking in on them which maybe implies my consent is there anyway

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By *rSuave88Man
3 weeks ago

Mirfield

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.

Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !

So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩‍🦽"

I knew there was a reason why i liked you 😏

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.

Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !

So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩‍🦽

I knew there was a reason why i liked you 😏"

Ah u cutie you 😘

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.

If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.

Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !

So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩‍🦽"

I'm getting Pink power rangers vibes. 😂

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.

Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !

So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩‍🦽

I'm getting Pink power rangers vibes. 😂"

Omg my fave one! Right im getting the outfit my mind is made up 🙅‍♀️

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea

Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.

Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !

So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩‍🦽

I'm getting Pink power rangers vibes. 😂

Omg my fave one! Right im getting the outfit my mind is made up 🙅‍♀️"

Sweet, I'll grab the OG Black Ranger one.

We just need some volunteers for Red,Blue, Yellow and Green, then we're cooking💫🤛🏽

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

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"No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.

If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop. "

Consent is just about so much more than verbal. I’m not only going to wait for a partner to say no, gotta look for other things to check in with too. But also, in my opinion, check ins between positions, when you’re unfamiliar with their reactions to different things etc is completely normal to me. I hadn’t thought it could be off putting tbf.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

Having said all this- I’m a proper woke gen Z snowflake.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

On here it's usually discussed before hand likes and dislikes. I dont actually give my verbal consent. But if I wasn't happy with something I'd just say stop

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By *he Silver FuxMan
3 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

“Are we gonna fuck?”

“Fuck yeah”

“Alrighty then”

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
3 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

When I’m about to have sex, I recite some common wedding vows, if she sticks around I know she’s up for it.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Vanilla, just crack on if I appear to be into it. Body language is enough usually and I'll tell you if I'm not into it.

Kink requires negotiation and absolutely clear verbal consent ahead of time 💜

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.

We’re all different Steve. I remember a very heated debate about consent between husband and wife and that they should ask all the time if they touched them etc. after 30 years he would have thought I’d gone mad if I asked his consent to fondle his bits every time he walked past me! Never once have we asked specific consent to touch each other.

Another couple may feel totally different though and that’s also cool

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

Sometimes I’ve even said ‘I’m going to fuck you now’ Or ‘can I fuck you?’

I think I’ve been doing sex so wrong.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.

Can I kiss you right now?

Does that feel good?

Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?

Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?

All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Obviously anything kink related needs more detailed discussion and agreement on limits and safe words etc beforehand, even more so if restraints or gags are in use.

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By *imply_SensualMan
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

In the main, it is implied consent, but only because I will have discussed it in advance, maybe had a social and flirting, and their body language in response to kissing etc.

However, if they suddenly ask me to stop, or say no to something, then I always respect that.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.

Can I kiss you right now?

Does that feel good?

Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?

Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?

All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.

Phew.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.

I think like so many things it's a generational thing.

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By *hortieWoman
3 weeks ago

Northampton

I talk to 'em.. lol.

This is going to sound a bit base / crass to some, but tough titty.. for the first social , I'll know within 30 seconds if I'm down to fuck .

So at that social, they'll get a bit more info , my hard limits. See what they're like with having nails broken off in their back or butt cheeks.. that kinda thing.

Now, I'll either scare them off at that point, they get a bit of wank bank material, or it'll progress to a meat meet. I always always reiterate my hard limits before that meet... You, I might happily have you throw me down on the bed and fuck my arse . The next guy I meet, different scenario. I might just want to do piss play.

Regular check ins are great.. communications key, always. Don't ever, ever feel bad about saying no. Or saying exactly what you want. Like a job interview.

This shit isn't to be trifled with.. be brave, be honest about what you want and what you don't want.

♥️

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"I talk to 'em.. lol.

This is going to sound a bit base / crass to some, but tough titty.. for the first social , I'll know within 30 seconds if I'm down to fuck .

So at that social, they'll get a bit more info , my hard limits. See what they're like with having nails broken off in their back or butt cheeks.. that kinda thing.

Regular check ins are great.. communications key, always. Don't ever, ever feel bad about saying no. Or saying exactly what you want. Like a job interview.

This shit isn't to be trifled with.. be brave, be honest about what you want and what you don't want.

♥️

I love this 🤣🤣🤣👌

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By *ugby 123Couple
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3 weeks ago

O o O oo

"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.

Can I kiss you right now?

Does that feel good?

Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?

Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?

All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.

That would turn me off and lose the moment totally

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.

I think like so many things it's a generational thing."

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By *weetiepie99Woman
3 weeks ago

cardiff

"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.

Can I kiss you right now?

Does that feel good?

Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?

Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?

All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.

That would turn me off and lose the moment totally"

Me too!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.

Can I kiss you right now?

Does that feel good?

Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?

Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?

All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.

That would turn me off and lose the moment totally

Me too!!"
and me

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

When someone follows me back to a hotel room and gets naked, I take that as a yes.

If someones nervous then you take the next part slow and use their body language as a sign.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.

Can I kiss you right now?

Does that feel good?

Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?

Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?

All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.

That would turn me off and lose the moment totally

Me too!!and me"

Me three

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

"I need to feel you inside me" or "please fuck me now" is kind of verbal consent isn't it?

Being a bit more serious... I don't know if I do then and there. It's normally pretty obvious - enthusiastic non verbal consent. If there's something I don't want to do? That's pretty obvious. It depends on who I'm with - I've checked in when I've been with couples before because it's difficult to always clearly read how they're feeling.

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By *ittleLiaisonsWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

I don't feel the need to give consent as if im engaging with someone and it leads that way, there's the consent. Saying no is a different story though, im very clear about boundaries and not wanting to do things.

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By *ustAnotherMan
3 weeks ago

brumish

I think implied consent is usually the way things work out, it's important to know when someone can't give consent implied or otherwise...the tea thing really.

Not taking advantage of someone and making sure you're not, just being a fucking human being basically

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