FabSwingers.com forum: 31 years old and (basically) still a virgin

By *lujiz94 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Bishop's Stortford

I've only ever got naked with one woman, which was about 4 years ago. It was with a nice polish woman on here (profile not here anymore) I tried to have sex with her, but I was so nervous I couldn't get a proper erection. She gave me a blowjob and a handjob, and eventually I jizzed all over her body (and got some on the pillowcase, which made her upset although she did her best not to show it)

I still really want to have sex properly, but I'm autistic which makes social interactions extremely difficult for me.

I'm rather strongly considering a professional to help me, but I'm really worried about the medical and moral issues around it.

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By *offysmangoMan
3 weeks ago

Colchester

I can only give you one piece of advise that helped me:

Under no circumstances, should you ever say the word jizz.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 weeks ago

Gloucester

What medical and moral issues?

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
3 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Have a search of the threads that contain neurodivergent, that may be helpful to you to have a read at some of the topics covered

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

Nationality didn’t feel relevant.

If you want to have sex with a professional, then do it. Hope you find the confidence and you enjoy it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

If you are thinking about going to an sex worker, look online for one that is going to meet your needs. There sexual health will be second to none as they will be getting regular checks.

As for the moral side it's just like any other trade. If your car needs fixing you will take it to a garage.

There is also a lot of autistic people on here. Good luck

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

"What medical and moral issues?"

He's talking about prost1tutes, so the medical would be an STD and Moral issues arise from a lot of them, either:

A) being drug or alcohol dependant with no other way to support their lifestyle, and/or,

B) modern day sl@very aspect whereby they are forced into having sex by large gangs, normally European.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

What are the medical and moral issues around paying for a consensual service with someone who is likely to be more aware of suitable safety practice than the majority of women you could meet on a night out? 💜

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

"I've only ever got naked with one woman, which was about 4 years ago. It was with a nice polish woman on here (profile not here anymore) I tried to have sex with her, but I was so nervous I couldn't get a proper erection. She gave me a blowjob and a handjob, and eventually I jizzed all over her body (and got some on the pillowcase, which made her upset although she did her best not to show it)

I still really want to have sex properly, but I'm autistic which makes social interactions extremely difficult for me.

I'm rather strongly considering a professional to help me, but I'm really worried about the medical and moral issues around it."

Try popular dating sites, or visit some clubs listed on here.

They're decent, Libs is relaxed. You can sit and watch, or try and talk to people.

Obviously I have no knowledge around the neuro diverse aspect, but hopefully that can answer some of your queires.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

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"What medical and moral issues?

He's talking about prost1tutes, so the medical would be an STD and Moral issues arise from a lot of them, either:

A) being drug or alcohol dependant with no other way to support their lifestyle, and/or,

B) modern day sl@very aspect whereby they are forced into having sex by large gangs, normally European."

I don’t know that it’s clearly implied what kind of service providers he’s seeking. These generalisations aren’t true of all kinds of sex workers. It sounds like you’re talking about specific kinds of workers here

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 weeks ago

Gloucester

"What medical and moral issues?

He's talking about prost1tutes, so the medical would be an STD and Moral issues arise from a lot of them, either:

A) being drug or alcohol dependant with no other way to support their lifestyle, and/or,

B) modern day sl@very aspect whereby they are forced into having sex by large gangs, normally European."

I know he’s talking about SW’rs. But seeing as it’s legal here it’s not just people like you’ve described in your reply.

Most SW’rs actually do the job by choice here and get tested more frequently than swingers.

I was genuinely asking for what concerns the OP.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 weeks ago

Gloucester

"What are the medical and moral issues around paying for a consensual service with someone who is likely to be more aware of suitable safety practice than the majority of women you could meet on a night out? 💜"

This is what I was asking but you worded it much better than I did.

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By *lcherasDreamTimeCouple
3 weeks ago

Manchester

I'm sure there will be many people in here that would be interested in being your first, maybe make that your angle on your profile, you may get some who have that as their kink.

It's important to not rush into anything you're not comfortable with and would be best to try and find someone understanding and sensitive to your fears, maybe as others have said by searching for neurodivergent topics/people in the forums.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

OP you do what is best for you and i hope it works out for you.

But yeah i agree the neurodiverse threads will be a good place to start and see how your probably not the only person to feel/experience that.

Lots of people would prefer someone who doesnt have lots of experience 😘

Good luck

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By *entlemanJay39Man
3 weeks ago

Northampton

Well, I agree with you both, yes I assumed that when he mentioned seeking help from a Professional, I assumed professional sex worker and not a therapist, but then what are the medical and moral concerns there?

yes I was talking about specific types of sex workers, which was why I said "a lot" and not "all".

if these kind people can point you in the direction of some tried and tested clean sex workers then hopefully they'll DM you OP. 🤷🏽‍♂️

I do agree, that there will be a lot of sex workers, who do NOT fall in the categories I described. But then are there moral/medical issues around 'clean' & 'legal' sex workers who actually chose to do it, and practice in a safe environment?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Medical i wouldn't worry about as they practice safe sex. Ethics depends on you and your moral framework. I don't see anything wrong with sex work as long as the woman is doing it voluntarily.

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 weeks ago

Cheltenham

OP I would do what’s right for you and don’t worry about what anyone else says or thinks.

I am sure there are a lot of professionals who are more than able to help out and if you were to explain your situation then they would be very understanding - that’s basically their job so let them do what they are good at.

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