FabSwingers.com forum: Are you good at being single?

By *sWyld OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

So I'm perpetually single. The odd fling that doesn't last and I usually fall for the wrong people. I'm now quite content being single. I don't feel the need for a relationship, or someone 'to complete me'

However,many people I know seem to really struggle with flying solo through life.

They seem to really need to be in a relationship and move quickly into and between them.

Some of them openly say they can't deal with being single.

I wonder why that is?

I like to think we are no longer seen as the problem for being happy on our own but maybe society hasn't moved on as much as I want to believe?

So are you good at being single? Do you feel better in a relationship (even if it's not a great one)?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I'm rubbish at being single.

With the exception of my deliberate celibacy year, I always seem to end up a lot less casual than I intended.

I stick to solo poly though. I get to keep most of the benefits of being single, and then get a load of the couple benefits on top of that, and that works well for me. I don't intend to return to cohabiting or monogamy at any point 💜

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I didn't choose to be single but now I am im coping fine. I never was one to go looking for relationships they just found me and now im staying single

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

I have never been single as an adult and I think I would find it difficult simply because it's not something I'm accustomed to.

I've never thought that I need a partner to 'complete' me though. I know I'm a complete person in my own right.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
3 weeks ago

Reading

This is the longest I've been single since I was a teenager and I'll admit it is really hard to not have someone in my life. I miss the company and security of a relationship but know that I shouldn't rush into anything and need to learn to enjoy my own company. I am keeping myself busy and rebuilding my social life both with people from here and in the outside world. I also made a decision that I wasn't chasing anyone, if chatting starts to feel like hard work, then I let it die out.

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By *agic.MMan
3 weeks ago

Orpington

We all get miserable after being single for too long ...eventually we start craving that emotional connection with someone, but it's better to be miserable single than miserable in a relationship with the wrong person (and most people are the wrong person)...so it's the lesser evil so to speak, at least that's how I see it

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm ok with being single.

I'm in a relationship of almost ten years, but before that, I was single for long periods of time.

I loved living alone and having my own space etc.

I have a friend who can't be on her own for ten mins, in and out of relationships for the sake of it.

A relationship has to add something to your life, for it to be worth it, in my opinion. Not just because you're bored or don't want to be on your own.

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By *sWyld OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I'm rubbish at being single.

With the exception of my deliberate celibacy year, I always seem to end up a lot less casual than I intended.

Best of both worlds lovely

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By *omingo77Man
3 weeks ago

chorley

I’m time served singleton !

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By *sWyld OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"We all get miserable after being single for too long ...eventually we start craving that emotional connection with someone, but it's better to be miserable single than miserable in a relationship with the wrong person (and most people are the wrong person)...so it's the lesser evil so to speak, at least that's how I see it"

I actually think the longer I've been single the more happier and comfortable I've become with it.

As a self confessed hopeless romantic that's probably a bit strange. However, I'm no longer so desperate to be loved that I feel the need to change myself to get it .

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By *infulWinksMan
3 weeks ago

harolds cross,

I’m really good at being single, I can compartmentalise my life much better as a single man, work, dad, me. I am very reluctant to enter a relationship again and think I will stay single. Life does throws unexpected curve balls so who knows for certain.

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By *eriScotMan
3 weeks ago

Scottish Borders

Mastered it, been 3.5 years 😂

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

I haven’t been single since I was 17.

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By *eardedguy83Man
3 weeks ago

Worcestershire

I’ve been single for a long time. I’ve got used to it. Luckily, I have many hobbies, friends and live in a beautiful part of the world.

Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to meet a lady, but the older I get, the harder it becomes.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
3 weeks ago

Next Door

This is my second long periods in my life being single, both have been around 5yrs.

I'm now looking for a relationship as I am missing being intimate and having that special bond with that person.

A fuck buddy or fwb isn't enough now.

So I am starting to struggle being single, for those reasons.

I am happy and contented being single and I dont need someone, I would like someone.

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By *uckurcumMan
3 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

This is so true 😁

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By *sWyld OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I'm ok with being single.

I'm in a relationship of almost ten years, but before that, I was single for long periods of time.

I loved living alone and having my own space etc.

I have a friend who can't be on her own for ten mins, in and out of relationships for the sake of it.

A relationship has to add something to your life, for it to be worth it, in my opinion. Not just because you're bored or don't want to be on your own. "

I agree. Do you think having had time single, it makes you a better partner?

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By *artfordBlokeMan
3 weeks ago

Dartford

Been single 4 years after a 20 year relationship, took some getting used to but I seem to have taken to it quite well. Its not all beer and skittles but it could be much worse.

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By *ayTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I'm happy being single...I actually enjoy my own company!

The ability to do things when I want to and not be hamstrung by others needs and wants.

Don't get me wrong....my children and grand child come before anything else in my life but on a day to day basis I am very happy!

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By *imply_SensualMan
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

I am OK with being single. Yes, there are times when I think having someone in my life would be better, but then I also see plenty of positive with remaining single too.

I think fluid would be the term for me, I am happy either way as long as the relationship is with the right person.

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By *sWyld OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I haven’t been single since I was 17. "

I've been single 17 years now!

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

I genuinely do enjoy most parts of being single. Theres obvious elements emotionally that i can crave from time to time or would be nice to have.

But im comfortable enough in myself and my life that i dont see it as a negative and i enjoy the perks.

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By *sWyld OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I’m really good at being single, I can compartmentalise my life much better as a single man, work, dad, me. I am very reluctant to enter a relationship again and think I will stay single. Life does throws unexpected curve balls so who knows for certain. "

I get this. I compartmentalise all aspects of my life too and its really helped me

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By *enda83Man
3 weeks ago

newcastle

Being honest I struggled with it at first after living with someone for 15 years prior, now I love it and actually think becoming too addicted to it. While I’m comfortable with the thought of being alone for rest of life I would like to have someone special but only if they ticked every box and could be sure it would be forever as not got much time left to waste as getting older

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By *ighlandCooWoman
3 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I actually think the longer I've been single the more happier and comfortable I've become with it.

As a self confessed hopeless romantic that's probably a bit strange. However, I'm no longer so desperate to be loved that I feel the need to change myself to get it ."

This is how I feel. This is the longest I've been single since I was 15.

The longer I am, the more I like it.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to be single for the rest of my life, but I think it would take someone incredible who made my life infinitely better for me to say we were in a relationship and not just FWB or Dating.

Having been hurt in every relationship I've had, the last one especially so, I'm reluctant to have emotional intimacy with anyone. Surface level, sure, but deep feelings.....scare me.

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By *eeman1200Man
3 weeks ago

Paulton Nr Bristol

very good at it

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By *emptme1993Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

I’m quite good at it, sometimes miss being able to just be myself completely with someone, and the other bits that come with a good relationship but yeah all good

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By *adhu25Man
3 weeks ago

london

Sometimes maybe good sometimes maybe shit

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By *olden RatioWoman
3 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

I absolutely LOVE being single, and have been since I was 30. I can do all the things I want to without worrying about leaving someone out.

It's worth noting that I've never wanted to have children or get married, and I appreciate that may have a large hand in how I feel.

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By *Clem-Fandango-Woman
3 weeks ago

Yarm

I've been single the majority of my life, I've never lasted more than a year without a fall out. Fully aware I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to relationships, as I've lived on my own since I was 15. ( Special circumstances )

I like my own space, I run two businesses and don't really have the energy for dating.

Am I a spinster? Absolutely.

Do I have any regrets? Yes, every Christmas I feel a little bit lonelier.

Iris Apfel said the secret to living a long and healthy life was because she never married or lived with a man...

There's no right or wrong situation, just as long as you are happy that's all that matters.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
3 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Yes and no. I’m fine being alone, and I can keep myself alive. But I’m cynical and critical of others relationships. When I see or hear how they treat their partners. (People deserve better than they get. )

So I begin to hate others.

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By *toatMan
3 weeks ago

grangemouth

Never been in a relationship o date that's been it but may be ond day happy just get on with it

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop

Having come out of a pretty restrictive marriage where I felt unloved, undesired and just generally miserable I’m just at the point of life where I’m single for the first time in 12 years and I just want to enjoy it.

That doesn’t mean I want it to be like that for the rest of my life but I’m not looking for anything beyond good fun with really nice folk!

Some days it’s great, some days you miss the intimacy, personally for me it’s the physical intimacy I miss most hence being on here!

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By *exytimeCoolMan
3 weeks ago

swadlincote

"So I'm perpetually single. The odd fling that doesn't last and I usually fall for the wrong people. I'm now quite content being single. I don't feel the need for a relationship, or someone 'to complete me'

However,many people I know seem to really struggle with flying solo through life.

They seem to really need to be in a relationship and move quickly into and between them.

Some of them openly say they can't deal with being single.

I wonder why that is?

I like to think we are no longer seen as the problem for being happy on our own but maybe society hasn't moved on as much as I want to believe?

So are you good at being single? Do you feel better in a relationship (even if it's not a great one)?

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Some handle being single and enjoy life along with can cope well i have admit i one but be nice have fun at times for sure

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By *rAitchMan
3 weeks ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I've been single for almost 14 years after coming out of a 29-year relationship!

I love being single, and I also moved somewhere fairly remote for the solitude. I've had a few FWBs, but not for a while, though. But I'm fine with that. One of my FWBs from 13 years ago is now a Friend Without Benefits. We do live 250 miles apart and see each other 4 or 5 times per year, and she was my plus 1 at my daughter's wedding recently.

I'm happy and content with my life.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester

I think I've spent more of my adult life single than in a relationship. I am quite an independent, introverted person and I am quite happy when single for the most part (particularly if I am still having sex).

Though I've gone years at a time without sex in the past, sex has become more important to me as I've got older I think. I don't think I could go that long without sex now.

But I enjoy my own company, I enjoy living alone, I don't need to negotiate any decisions, I can do what I want.

Someone has to be pretty special for me to want them in my life. I'd rather be single than settle for a relationship I'm not 100% about.

Now and again I might get lonely and miss the intimacy of a relationship, then I try dating again and realise I'm quite happy without a partner 😅

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By *ogerthecabinboy2025Man
3 weeks ago

Wakefield, Huddersfield

Hate being single but saying that I love my own space too can you have the best of both worlds

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By *agic.MMan
3 weeks ago

Orpington

I actually think the longer I've been single the more happier and comfortable I've become with it.

As a self confessed hopeless romantic that's probably a bit strange. However, I'm no longer so desperate to be loved that I feel the need to change myself to get it .

This is how I feel. This is the longest I've been single since I was 15.

The longer I am, the more I like it.

Having been hurt in every relationship I've had, the last one especially so, I'm reluctant to have emotional intimacy with anyone. Surface level, sure, but deep feelings.....scare me.

I think the majority of people who say they are happy being single, have either not been single long enough or are saying it as a coping mechanism. Even if you have been single for 10-15 years, and you are content with it, there will come a day when you want someone...being 70 or even 80, living by yourself in a tiny flat with just a cat or a dog, just doesn't seem like a happy life to me. We all eventually want a special someone in our lives, the issue is we are scared (and rightfully so) most people come into our lives and just fuck things up for us...all the mental peace and emotional stability we managed to create for ourselves just gets destroyed...and that's not worth it. I do hope I'm one of the lucky ones and do find someone special that is truly compatible with me, but if I don't...yeah, I rather be miserable by myself, than miserable with the wrong person.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
3 weeks ago

West Dublin

I've gotten used to being single & I'm very ok with it now.

Single 3yrs now. No flings, no man interest. Focusing on myself & the kids.

I dont get men anyway 😅 So I think I'm better off single. I'm not very dateable (extreme baggage).

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By *luebell888Woman
3 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I like being single and have been alone for 10yrs now. It was all so easy for me as when I was in my 25yr relationship I felt very single as always felt alone. Got the added bonus now of a bed to myself and not as much washing to do so never been happier.

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By *enelope2UWoman
3 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I have never and will never be in a relationship for the sake of one..

I prefer friends with benefits and to be fully single.

Many aren't actually single to begin with when you add family nearby ,friends nearby, coworkers nearby etc.

I'm in the country and on the continent solo..so I'm fully single and independent with zero ties, zero strings, work from home contract so no coworkers...that makes it almost entirely unrealistic that there's someone with similar freedom or flexibility.

I have no choice but to enjoy my own company and my own terms and that's not something most can or would do.

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop

"I like being single and have been alone for 10yrs now. It was all so easy for me as when I was in my 25yr relationship I felt very single as always felt alone. Got the added bonus now of a bed to myself and not as much washing to do so never been happier."

It’s underplayed how much of a benefit only having to do your own (and kids) washing is in being single 🤣

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

London

After a while, you kind of learn that you have to be 😅

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
3 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

Totally yes .. Complete freedom

Still can have affection for FWBs and do stuff together without any commitment

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By *ad NannaWoman
3 weeks ago

East London

I love it.

I'm not walking on eggshells or being accused of cheating. I'm not worried I'll be attacked when he gets in from the pub.

I can wear what I want, go out when I want and have friends if I want.

It's like being out of prison.

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By *ew_balance_coreMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

It can be boring but as I’m older I’ve learnt to take myself on a nice date if needed, just go see a film, having a walk, food coffee etc

And if I’ve enjoyed my own company enough, have a wank when I get home

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I had one relationship, lasting 32 years. I'll never have another one, because she was my soulmate.

But I've really not enjoyed the three years of being single since she passed away.

🙁

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"I had one relationship, lasting 32 years. I'll never have another one, because she was my soulmate.

But I've really not enjoyed the three years of being single since she passed away.

🙁"

Davina 😥 your too wonderful ❤️

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop

"I had one relationship, lasting 32 years. I'll never have another one, because she was my soulmate.

But I've really not enjoyed the three years of being single since she passed away.

🙁"

I'm so sorry for your loss Davina, i cant imagine what thats like and hope you will be ok x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

I truly love being single. What i would have to give up to be in a relationship would make the cost too high and put far too high an expectation on that relationship. Cost/benefit analysis and all that.

I enjoy my own company and have a very good relationship with my family to provide an excellent support system so I am very lucky. Plus I have 🐈🐈.

So for me, fwbs give me everything else.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

"I love it.

I'm not walking on eggshells or being accused of cheating. I'm not worried I'll be attacked when he gets in from the pub.

I can wear what I want, go out when I want and have friends if I want.

It's like being out of prison."

So sorry that happened to you. There are some real fuckers in the world.

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By *armite 500Man
3 weeks ago

Darlington

I absolutely love being single I do what I want when I want

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

I find other people are more bothered about me being single than me tbh. I've been single a few years and you just get used to it over time.

If i met someone i like enough to change that then obviously i would be open to that too.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"I find other people are more bothered about me being single than me tbh. I've been single a few years and you just get used to it over time.

If i met someone i like enough to change that then obviously i would be open to that too."

100% agree with this it seems to bother a lot more people than it actually does me ... the good old "how are you single" message.

I get its meant to be a compliment but it does irk me as its suggestive of there being some wonderful other person in control of me being single and not allowing it when its actually ME and my choice

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
3 weeks ago

IPSWICH

I don't have a choice.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

I actually think the longer I've been single the more happier and comfortable I've become with it.

As a self confessed hopeless romantic that's probably a bit strange. However, I'm no longer so desperate to be loved that I feel the need to change myself to get it .

This is how I feel. This is the longest I've been single since I was 15.

The longer I am, the more I like it.

Having been hurt in every relationship I've had, the last one especially so, I'm reluctant to have emotional intimacy with anyone. Surface level, sure, but deep feelings.....scare me.

I disagree with this as a generalisation. It may be true for you but I don't think it will ever be true for me. I'm not 70 so I cannot foretell the future but I don't see things changing.

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

"I find other people are more bothered about me being single than me tbh. I've been single a few years and you just get used to it over time.

If i met someone i like enough to change that then obviously i would be open to that too.

100% agree with this it seems to bother a lot more people than it actually does me ... the good old "how are you single" message.

I get its meant to be a compliment but it does irk me as its suggestive of there being some wonderful other person in control of me being single and not allowing it when its actually ME and my choice "

Exactly right, it's a choice for some of us until we find someone worth it, not just anyone will do for me like a lot of others I know.

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By *ugar dayMan
3 weeks ago

London

I am trying to be single, but all the women like me.

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By *IXEN200Woman
3 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

This is exactly how I see things, I've had relationships where ive felt so miserable and more lonely than I actually do now so im content being single although I do miss cuddles when I'm in need of one.

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By *ittleLiaisonsWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

Im not sure why I'm so content being single, maybe its because I spent most of my life in an unhappy relationship or maybe I just prefer my own company. Whatever the reason, I'm very happy on my own and have no desire to change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Ive been single over 10 years now and I m happy with the freedom it allows me so I don't see it changing

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By *ak777Man
3 weeks ago

shaw

been a widower for a long time at first it was hard had lots relationships but i am a lot older love being single .

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I love being single. But it’s like solo travelling only on your own when you want that space. If I want to go on dates seven nights a week or take three months off completely from seeing women I can.

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By *ensualDivaWoman
3 weeks ago

Galway, Limerick, Clare, Somewhere sensual

Absolutely.

I enjoy my own company and when I need company I can find it 😊

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By *cedGemWoman
3 weeks ago

your dreams

5 years single on & off...odd mistake of falling into a silly kind of relationship thing. Usually out of boredom but overall I think I'm better on my own

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
3 weeks ago

Hull

Am I ok being single …. Yes I’ve had a solo holiday in the past and planning one for next year and live my life … you can’t spend it waiting for someone.

Would I like to meet someone, absolutely I would, but online dating these days is awful that it’s hard not to be cynical.

So I’ve kinda resigned myself to being single and that maybe I’m not meant to meet anyone!!!

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By *KTim61Man
3 weeks ago

Tipton

I have been Single most of my life, I have had only 1 real girlfriend, we were together for 5 years, but I've got into my head, that I wont ever meet that 1 woman, to be in my life now at 64, but I cook & clean & keep my place, keep myself fit & healthy. I go out regularly, as well as holiday on my own. But who knows I may find a woman on here for me ? Untill then . . . .

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By *evil-AngelWoman
3 weeks ago

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I've been single for over 6years and I'm happy with it. That's not to say I wouldn't have another long term relationship but they would have to be very special for me to give up my independence.

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By *rishVikingMan
3 weeks ago

Shankill

I like doing things at my own speed so it suits me

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By *ighlandCooWoman
3 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I actually think the longer I've been single the more happier and comfortable I've become with it.

As a self confessed hopeless romantic that's probably a bit strange. However, I'm no longer so desperate to be loved that I feel the need to change myself to get it .

This is how I feel. This is the longest I've been single since I was 15.

The longer I am, the more I like it.

Having been hurt in every relationship I've had, the last one especially so, I'm reluctant to have emotional intimacy with anyone. Surface level, sure, but deep feelings.....scare me.

I'd love to find someone who makes my life better and I makes theirs the same.

Sexual compatibility, supportive in every area of life, kind, caring, romantic, highly attractive to me... All of the above. It would be lovely.

But, a huge part of me feels like that's a complete fantasy. That no one ever finds anyone who ticks all boxes.

There's always a compromise somewhere and it's just what part is it that you compromise on.

The thought of someone saying those three little words, absolutely terrifies me, but that due to being scared of being hurt again.

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By *uri00620Woman
3 weeks ago

Croydon

I love being single. I'm seeing someone now but I don't want or expect it to get further than seeing eachother for the odd weekend and going away for some holidays. I don't want more commitment than that. After a weekend am ready for them to go home again. I don't like sharing my personal space.

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By *K_AngelTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Been single for 12 years through choice. No struggle at all, in fact i prefer it. Chocolate cake is lovely but eat it every day and most people soon get sick of it.

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By *unraggedWoman
3 weeks ago

exeter

Parentified child so trained to make sacrifices for other people , I’m miserable in relationships and lose my identity, absolutely thrive when I’m single and am my absolute best self , relationships just aren’t for some people

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By *cLovin2Man
3 weeks ago

London

Been single almost 4 years now, after a long marriage. I'm happy single, realised it gives me the freedom to pursue what I want as opposed to what my partner expects of me. I think you evolve more as a single.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
3 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’ve been single 9 years & I LOVE it

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
3 weeks ago

wonderland.

However,many people I know seem to really struggle with flying solo through life.

They seem to really need to be in a relationship and move quickly into and between them.

Some of them openly say they can't deal with being single.

I wonder why that is?

I like to think we are no longer seen as the problem for being happy on our own but maybe society hasn't moved on as much as I want to believe?

So are you good at being single? Do you feel better in a relationship (even if it's not a great one)?

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I was very good at being single. I didnt feel I needed anyone or anything to complete me.. I enjoyed my life and travelling around as a single.. doing my own thing...not looking for a relationship, as simply I didnt want one...I was happy in myself and my single life

Then I met Mr, and I can tell you that I have never been happier...

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By *2000ManMan
3 weeks ago

Worthing

Not having a relationship is better than a bad one.

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By *uke_silverMan
3 weeks ago

London

I like to think we are no longer seen as the problem for being happy on our own but maybe society hasn't moved on as much as I want to believe?

It hasn't imo.

I disagree with the generalization in earlier replies that everyone wants a "special someone" in their lives or they're not truly happy. That's a very narrow view of the world, and heavily influenced by Western culture. Lots of Eastern philosophies focus on the self - I'd argue monks and nuns know more about life than us.

I like the term self-partnered that Emma Watson used to avoid the inherent negative connotation the word single seems to have unfortunately.

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
3 weeks ago

DUBLIN

The difficulty with staying single for too long is that you become good at it. I've been single for more than 10 years and I gave up the merry-go-round of serial monogamy. At least this place is a bit more honest.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
3 weeks ago

Niche

I wanna have my cake and eat it.

I want all the very many good parts of coupledom.

I also get claustrophobic at the thought of a full-time relationship.

I can't see myself wanting to live full-time with anyone, I enjoy my own personal space too much.

Nor do I want another 'responsibility' on my plate, another person or obligation to be weighed down by. If a guy can manage themselves and adds value to life not just adding jobs to my list... sign me up.

Maybe I'll feel differently in a few years once I've had more time back to myself.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
3 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

"I wanna have my cake and eat it.

I want all the very many good parts of coupledom.

I also get claustrophobic at the thought of a full-time relationship.

I can't see myself wanting to live full-time with anyone, I enjoy my own personal space too much.

Maybe I'll feel differently in a few years once I've had more time back to myself."

Well worded and exactly my sentiment too 💯

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By *enelope2UWoman
3 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"Totally yes .. Complete freedom

Still can have affection for FWBs and do stuff together without any commitment

Shhhh that's deemed strings and dating on this site

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
3 weeks ago

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I’ve been single for a while but would like to meet someone soon. Having said that, I can’t really be bothered with the dating bit… I just want to click with someone and live happily ever after, although I think I might struggle to live with someone again after doing things my own way for so long … 😄

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
3 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

"Totally yes .. Complete freedom

Still can have affection for FWBs and do stuff together without any commitment

Shhhh that's deemed strings and dating on this site "

Each to their own and all that agreed , im all about making friends and FWB's with a focus on the friends part ..

No idea what that's called but I dont do labels anyway 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *lackcanaryWoman
3 weeks ago

Ipswich

However,many people I know seem to really struggle with flying solo through life.

I’ve been single for 10 years and love it. I’ve made some great friends on here though!

They seem to really need to be in a relationship and move quickly into and between them.

Some of them openly say they can't deal with being single.

I wonder why that is?

I like to think we are no longer seen as the problem for being happy on our own but maybe society hasn't moved on as much as I want to believe?

So are you good at being single? Do you feel better in a relationship (even if it's not a great one)?

I’ve been single 10 years and love it. I don’t need a relationship. I’m quite content on my own too and self sufficient. I’ve made some great friends on fab. Having said that I wouldn’t be against something more if it happened to come along but I’m certainly not look for it or chasing after anyone either!

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By *xbabyxxxWoman
3 weeks ago

Doncaster

I love being single best thing I've done is stays single no drama

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By *ovetocum80Man
3 weeks ago

Cradley Heath

I've been single for over 10 years and I enjoy my peace and quiet.

Plus no drama.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

I'm accomplished and enjoy it

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By *ABflirtyWoman
2 weeks ago

Norfolk Coast

I hate it as all feel very new to me..even after a year .

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
2 weeks ago

Debauchery

I’ve been single for a good 9 and a half years, I think I’m much better at that than being in a relationship.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"I’ve been single for a good 9 and a half years, I think I’m much better at that than being in a relationship. "

Does being in a relationship with your zimmer frame count?

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By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

"I love it.

I'm not walking on eggshells or being accused of cheating. I'm not worried I'll be attacked when he gets in from the pub.

I can wear what I want, go out when I want and have friends if I want.

It's like being out of prison.

So sorry that happened to you. There are some real fuckers in the world."

Yes, but I want to point out that I don't know what it feels like to be let out of an actual prison.

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
2 weeks ago

Debauchery

"I’ve been single for a good 9 and a half years, I think I’m much better at that than being in a relationship.

Does being in a relationship with your zimmer frame count? "

For your information I’m

In a relationship with my dildo, not all us oldies need a Zimmerman frame 🤣

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"I’ve been single for a good 9 and a half years, I think I’m much better at that than being in a relationship.

Does being in a relationship with your zimmer frame count?

For your information I’m

In a relationship with my dildo, not all us oldies need a Zimmerman frame 🤣"

Dildo? Is that what you oldies used to call it? Haha 🤣

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
2 weeks ago

Debauchery

"I’ve been single for a good 9 and a half years, I think I’m much better at that than being in a relationship.

Does being in a relationship with your zimmer frame count?

For your information I’m

In a relationship with my dildo, not all us oldies need a Zimmerman frame 🤣

Dildo? Is that what you oldies used to call it? Haha 🤣"

I’m only 3 years older than you old timer, you popping those blue pills?

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"I’ve been single for a good 9 and a half years, I think I’m much better at that than being in a relationship.

Does being in a relationship with your zimmer frame count?

For your information I’m

In a relationship with my dildo, not all us oldies need a Zimmerman frame 🤣

Dildo? Is that what you oldies used to call it? Haha 🤣

I’m only 3 years older than you old timer, you popping those blue pills?"

Is that an offer? 😉

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By *host63Man
2 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

62 and learnt relationships are a waste of time

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By *ornyfitguyforfunMan
2 weeks ago

bristol

Im single my entire life i guess so yeah gotten great at it accepting reality

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I’m happy being single I don’t need another person to complete me I complete myself.

I’m in this mindset as I’ve gotten older I’m more comfortable in my skin I don’t feel the need to perpetually look for a partner.

Been single over a decade now and only have casual sexual encounters even those I’ve slowed right down as some people become a bit attached.

Overall I love the peace of being single just doing my own thing living my best life.

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By *ilverjagMan
2 weeks ago

swansea

Funny enough only Friday night I had this conversation with a lady friend from Weston super mare, who has just took early retirement from a career in public service, her mortgage is paid, and she is in the same comfortable position as I am. We are both agreed that we can't run the risk of a full on relationship because, if it goes wrong, and it results in a financial carve up, we are too old now to replace it all. She described it as, "Getting a bit territorial as she's got older." I agreed saying that by the time anyone gets to our age we should have grown out of emotional high dependency, and should have managed to build up a network of close friends who are a phone call away if we need or want company for any occasion be it sexual or social. That probably sounds a bit materialistic and selfish to some younger people, but you do get to a certain age where you mature out of having genitals for brains.

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By *ovefist84Man
2 weeks ago

Oswestry

A while ago our marriage almost fell apart. We stayed together. Being single kind of scares me, maybe because I am used to have a partner? When I think about sex, if I was single, I'm pretty sure I could find someone for sex, whether it's a man or a woman, I wouldn't have to hide, it would make it hell of a lot easier. Maybe because of the kids? I don't know... Anyone else have that problem?

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By *hiversMan
2 weeks ago

Dinas Powys

I'm so good at being single I don't know if I could do much more than a casual relationship anymore... I miss certain aspects of a relationship, but I'm too used to the independence and freedom to choose what and when I do things.

I keep saying that would change for the right person, but until/unless that happens, I'm happy enough alone 😁

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By *eordieJeansCouple
2 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I was awful at it. I had zero confidence and felt like I was getting nowhere fast. I sorted that out and just as I started enjoying the single life I met my wife.

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By *sWyld OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Thanks for sharing all your thoughts and experiences. So many things being said I agree with.

Perhaps if the whole dating thing wasn't such hard work, changing my single stats would be something I'd want more.

However the last 17 years have just left me with bad experiences, a completely smashed up heart, some funny stories and ultimately becoming a foster home to rescue broken men until they find someone else.

(Not man bashing in anyway, its just been my experiences)

I've spent so long thinking I wasn't good enough. While that might be the case, it doesn't change my requirement for matched energy, matched effort.

Seems a pretty bare minimum requirement but its much easier to find for a night than a lifetime.

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By *appyChap91Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

I'm good at being single, maybe too good. I've live by myself for ages, including during the pandemic which maybe still affects me. I remember when I was on dating apps and a fair amount of people would put in their profiles, something along the lines of "want someone who has their shit together" which I would say I do.

The things I do in my spare time tend to be geared to a person who is single. While having someone else join me with them would be nice, its not essential to have company to enjoy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I’m reasonably good at it. While I’ve no problem travelling on my own or going to restaurants and the like alone I don’t push myself to try new things too often. But I with a partner who what’s to experience different things it would broaden your own horizons a bit.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
2 weeks ago

Hastings

I'm more then happy when single.

I can do what I want when I want and know one leans on me.

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By *alahadLadMan
2 weeks ago

Pembs

I've been single for 7 years. Not without trying mind you! Dating in a rural area is tough enough, and dating apps really chip away at your self esteem.

So then you go out, date people in the real world. I got burnt hard last year by someone I considered a friend playing me off against her ex.

I love the freedom of being single, but the lack of emotional connection sure hits at the end of the day

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By *LawMan
2 weeks ago

Bradford

I've been single for 11 years after taking my son on full time. Never had the time or energy to try dating when he was younger. Now it's just normal for me to be single. I've forgotten what it's like to be in a relationship.

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By *dalisqueWoman
2 weeks ago

land of make believe

I have been single for about 22 years,before that i was in survival mode & very much alone,although not single.

I love being single,and at first needed to be,however I have not given up all hope of someone to share my

life with one day.

🩵🫶🩵

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
2 weeks ago

wonderland.

"I wanna have my cake and eat it.

I want all the very many good parts of coupledom.

I also get claustrophobic at the thought of a full-time relationship.

I can't see myself wanting to live full-time with anyone, I enjoy my own personal space too much.

Maybe I'll feel differently in a few years once I've had more time back to myself."
i had this view for over 18 years... then I met Mr and have become one of those couples I used to laugh atx

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By *arri54Woman
2 weeks ago

Cwmcarn

I'm extremely happy being single, won't settle for anything that brings drama to my life.

I get odd looks when I holiday alone, but am at the age where I literally couldn't care.

You don't need another person to make things happen, do it for yourself.

Still open to being with someone but happy enough without

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By *enda83Man
2 weeks ago

newcastle

Perhaps if the whole dating thing wasn't such hard work, changing my single stats would be something I'd want more. "

Agree with this and it’s what plays a big part in it for me, find the idea of it just exhausting not sure if it’s being older or what or being out of the game so long I’m sure it wasn’t this hard 20 year ago haha

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By *r Light YearMan
2 weeks ago

Brighton

So many interesting and informative perspectives here, thanks for sharing all

I've been single my entire adult life, so while I maybe take the upsides of being single for granted(the freedom/independence, etc.), I can't help but wonder what a positive, healthy relationship could be like

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By *arri54Woman
2 weeks ago

Cwmcarn

"So many interesting and informative perspectives here, thanks for sharing all

Positive, healthy relationships can bring joy but notoriously hard to find and keep

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By *riel13Woman
2 weeks ago

Northampton

A bit too good at it I think... I will never, not be single again and I am more than happy with that

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By *orks66Man
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I’m ok with being single although it can be a lonely sometimes , after a painful divorce I’m not in a rush to get into a relationship but if I find the right person it wouldn’t be out of the question

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
2 weeks ago

London

I love being single and not having constant negotiations about everything.

Although I am not opposed to my status changing if I met the right man. Just not actively seeking anything heavy though.

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By *igblackchocolateMan
2 weeks ago

London & Essex

Depends the reason for being single sometimes there’s a deeper reason

And im cool with single or relationship as long as the other half isn’t crazy Lool

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By *ingh89Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I'm extremely happy being single, won't settle for anything that brings drama to my life.

I get odd looks when I holiday alone, but am at the age where I literally couldn't care.

You don't need another person to make things happen, do it for yourself.

Still open to being with someone but happy enough without

This a is very good outlook to have.

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By *aughtynice78Man
2 weeks ago

Telford

I'm pretty comfortable with being single and haven't felt the need for a relationship, in the last 5 years. All I miss about a relationship is two salaries, frequent sex (although that wasn't particularly frequent in my marriage), and companionship. 99% of the time I'm happy in my own company, though

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
2 weeks ago

Reading

"A while ago our marriage almost fell apart. We stayed together. Being single kind of scares me, maybe because I am used to have a partner? When I think about sex, if I was single, I'm pretty sure I could find someone for sex, whether it's a man or a woman, I wouldn't have to hide, it would make it hell of a lot easier. Maybe because of the kids? I don't know... Anyone else have that problem? "

Having finally made the decision to leave the marriage, I realised I had only stayed because I was scared of being on my own. It took a very close friend who held a mirror up to my life to make me realise that I was scared because I had lost my identity and didn’t feel that I was worthy of being happy. A lot of therapy later, I am coming to terms with being on own and am starting to find the happiness that I had lost and liking myself again. I don’t know if I’m going to like being single but I’ll give it a go.

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By *hocstickMan
2 weeks ago

A log cabin, far far away

I love being single. The time will come where I will want to settle down in a loving relationship but right now I enjoy my own company. I like being able to just get up and go without having to think about anyone else. It's great being able to randomly book a flight somewhere on for example on a Tuesday and fly out on the Friday. Or decide I want to go on a hiking trip and just being able to go a few days later. Or simply lazing around the house on a random evening just because I can

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By *i lad 75Man
2 weeks ago

london

It has Advantages and disadvantages similar to being in a relationship

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By *arri54Woman
2 weeks ago

Cwmcarn

Wishing you all the best, it gets easier as time goes by..

Like yourself, others will feel that about you and as my grandma would've said " better to be miserable alone than miserable with someone "

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By *entleman JayMan
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

I’m good at being single.

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
2 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

in the past i hated being single... always got the comments of "settling down" etc which made me feel like i was wrong for being single ...

now i love being single... i still get comments of settling down... i just tell them to keep their nose out my business

also get comments of cant believe you are single.. like something is wrong with me choosing to stay single. However i am happy where i am now

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