FabSwingers.com forum: face pics

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure if I'm right or wrong here, but being married, I like to be discreet, so showing my face pic, I need to build up trust, and have alway had a golden rule, no face pics for people within 10 miles of home. Have had two recent chats, both very fun, they want to meet, but when I refuse the face pic, that's it, all over, and they never showed me who they were, I suggested both time's, let's just have a casual meet, can see each other, and both being adults, if we don't like what we see, be polite, and just leave it there., so the question is, does a guy always have to show a face pic first!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many man as a woman you can insist on one here and if not move onto ones who will send them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure if I'm right or wrong here, but being married, I like to be discreet, so showing my face pic, I need to build up trust, and have alway had a golden rule, no face pics for people within 10 miles of home. Have had two recent chats, both very fun, they want to meet, but when I refuse the face pic, that's it, all over, and they never showed me who they were, I suggested both time's, let's just have a casual meet, can see each other, and both being adults, if we don't like what we see, be polite, and just leave it there., so the question is, does a guy always have to show a face pic first!!!"

Someone has to send one or you could end up meeting a beast. I wouldn't meet without camming at the min offer that if you don't want to send pictures.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone has to send one or you could end up meeting a beast. I wouldn't meet without camming at the min offer that if you don't want to send pictures. "

The problem with the cam is guys seem the need to get their cock out while its on. Its some sort of dire need for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your willing to meet why not just show face pic first. Would be far more awkward meeting without seeing pic and finding out it someone you know.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

If we did social meets before deciding on a meet we wouldn't waste time going unless we saw them first....but, we would do it with a cam and we all show face.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have always had public face pics available on here, but sometimes I can understand how it can turn into a Mexican Standoff. If you have them for friends only then surely there must be a certain amount of trust between the two parties

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Just send your pic. How hard can it be lol

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

It's not blind date, wouldn't even consider a social without seeing a face pic. If I don't know what you look like, how will I know it's you when we meet?

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By *illyxWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

So let me get this right, you won't show someone on here a face pic privately but you will go along and meet them in the flesh? Because you're married so they might recognise a pic of you but they wouldn't recognise you in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just send your pic. How hard can it be lol"

In most pictures I get they are very hard.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So let me get this right, you won't show someone on here a face pic privately but you will go along and meet them in the flesh? Because you're married so they might recognise a pic of you but they wouldn't recognise you in real life

Exactly what I was about to say! Very confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you wont show face pic befor you meet someone how they expected to know who there looking for? you gonna sit there with your cock out and hope they recognise you that way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I send a face pic when I feel there is a connection - not before, or if it comes about as part of the ebb and flow of conversation. I do not feel it should be something forced or demanded.

If the other party don't like it, fair enough. That's how I roll

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

It's your call . Who's going to find you in here anyway . We all rely on discretion here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get "send face pic" as the initial reply without even a conversation from some couples and females.

I just delete, block, report to admin and link them to the Al-Qaeda most wanted jihad list.

Well, i dont but feel like doing that. Don't send the pic anyway, they are probably Channel 4 creating a rogues gallery of swingers.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Just send your pic. How hard can it be lol

In most pictures I get they are very hard.

Show off

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

As for most, our time is precious and we would not consider a social meet without being certain that there is at least a physical attraction.

Unfortunately for you, the number game means that most couples/females have the power. - Personally, if we get messages from a guy who refuses to show his face pictures yet expects a meet, we're more likely to move on to the guy who WILL show us his face.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refuse to be beholden to 'the numbers game' - that it should dictate to me that I must compromise my own principles.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either. "

I always work on the basis, whoever makes initial conract sends a face pic first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refuse to be beholden to 'the numbers game' - that it should dictate to me that I must compromise my own principles.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd like to add a caveat to my

"No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either"

...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres absolutely no way id consider meeting anyone who wont send me a face pic, admittingly the pic they send could be ten years old, someone else even, but its a start,and I don't understand why you see this as a problem. ive had meen want to meet me without seeing mine and I don't understand that either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to add a caveat to my

"No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either"

...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet. "

Ditto!

For some reason there's many a regular poster that i'm happy to chat with and swap pics with even if they're the other end of the country and there's little if not no hope that we'll ever meet face to face!

Just remembered the reason!

Seems the majority have more common sense, courtesy and respect, and way less of a sense of expectancy than many i've come across elsewhere on site!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'd like to add a caveat to my

"No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either"

...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet.

Ditto!

Just remembered the reason!

Seems the majority have more common sense, courtesy and respect, and way less of a sense of expectancy than many i've come across elsewhere on site!

Obi, I came to the conclusion a while ago that the happiest and most 'successful' people on Fab are right here, as regular posters.

Our degrees of separation are far less than six.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to add a caveat to my

"No face pic = no meet.

Actually, no face pic = no chat either"

...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet. "

Chatting to people about forums isn't exactly what is being said here.

This is about chatting to someone who has contacted u on the basis of it leading to a meet

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've got 2 face pics, one miserable sod looking one and one happy smiley one. The social meet get the happy one. A sex meet gets the miserable one. If they still want to meet me after that then they are really interested. So then they get the smiley one as a reward.

I only send cock ones to Obi. Saying "you're a cock"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never meet anyone i havnt seen,and im sure lots think the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would also never meet anyone without seeing face pictures first. Simple thing is why would you want to go on a blind date? Having talked to guys and then they have sent a face picture some are not for me.

Why would I waste my time meeting someone to then have to say to their face no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even arrange or say id meet till ive seen i pic i don't see the point i like to swap face pics pretty soon into messages.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I wouldn't meet without seeing a face pic or having cammed (apart from forumites)...if I were you OP, I'd be more worried about meeting someone blind and it being a friend, relative...or even your wife (bugger, I'll have the Piña Colada song in my head all day now)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to give a face pic but get very angry when I get people asking for them who have no photos at all on a profile

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"I always work on the basis, whoever makes initial conract sends a face pic first"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its interesting - I agree with the notion that whomever makes initial contact should 'show me theirs' and then 'Ill show out mine' - to turn a phrase!

However, I find that the expectation that the initial message must contain a face pic to be off-putting. Typically, I can, within a few messages tell If I'm going to get on with someone and want to get to know them - because after 3 messages were I'm writing a couple of paragraphs and all I'm getting back is 'LOL', 'Ok' or 'xXx' it pretty much kills it for me!

At least if you have the 'back n forth' going on email, it's something you can still have even if you do see face pics and decide they are not for you. Sometimes, the social aspect can be just as rewarding as anything else.

IMHO, deciding to talk to someone purely on the strength of an initial face picture carries with it the potential danger to degrade this site (and swinging) into a 'meat market' subculture / mentality - something which users of this site are quick to point out to those that equate swinging to 'pulling someone down the boozer for a night' its most definitely not!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've had ladies NOT ask for a face but ask for a pic of my bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to disagree with you on that one. If there isn't a physical attracion there in the first place then I wouldn't want to meet up. Those that message saying they want to meet and will travell miles without knowing what I look like are the ones making this site look like a 'meat market'. There has to be some banter and a conection as well obviously but if I don't fancy you, I ain't kissin you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had ladies NOT ask for a face but ask for a pic of my bum "

Well it is a nice bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like face pics,.so.you can see who.you are chatting to. Would like to meet blind x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well said, why is it such a demand on initial contact, sending a face pic, so if all guys had a real and fake pic, and always sent the fake pic with the initial message, people would not know It's fake, because they have never met them!!!!

I do send face pics to people I trust or live a bit further away, the issues here were, this person could live in the same street, so surely I have to be cautious!!!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Well said, why is it such a demand on initial contact, sending a face pic, so if all guys had a real and fake pic, and always sent the fake pic with the initial message, people would not know It's fake, because they have never met them!!!!

I do send face pics to people I trust or live a bit further away, the issues here were, this person could live in the same street, so surely I have to be cautious!!!"

If you sent a fake pic then you'd be found out at the meet and possibly embarrassed if the person(s) made a scene. As you're married you're knocking yourself of a good few people's lists who won't meet attached, as you won't send face pics you're reducing your chances more, but that's entirely down to how you want to use the site, I wouldn't meet you at all if you lived in my town because you're married (don't have a problem with neighbours seeing strangers coming to my house, but not Jane Bloggs husband) and I wouldn't meet you blind at all either, it seems like we may have found an entity even rarer than genuine single bi-fems - couples/singles who meet attached folk without knowing what they look like

Best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send cock ones to Obi. Saying "you're a cock"

He's not kidding! Had another this morning!

However I do know what he looks like from the neck up as like me, Steve tends to keep his webcam above the waist when in chatrooms!

OP - as has been said - your situation will naturally mean you're wary of showing your face publicly on site. If I were you (regardless of not being here in the first place - personal choice) i'd consider a full clothed body shot wearing sunglasses - slightly more discreet and if it was to fall into the wrong hands at least it wouldn't be a naked shot with you flashing your tackle!

If you want to meet - the fact is that the majority will not do it blind - so the choice of whether to send face pics in the hope it leads to meets, or to not send and find yourself getting turned down - can only be yours!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I do send face pics to people I trust or live a bit further away, the issues here were, this person could live in the same street, so surely I have to be cautious!!!"

why were you even chatting to them if they lived too close to you? desperation causin you to change your tactics maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think you hit the nail on the head, need to stick to my rules, and not meet anyone in a 15 mile radius of my house, less complicated, and don't let my pants rule my brain, lol Ty x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

not desperation, she had the biggest breasts i had ever seen, lol the thing was, she was also married, and looking for discreet fun, but wouldn't show me her pic until i showed mine, then she has all the power, and could know me, never reply through fear of me knowing her, then i would always be on the lookout, wondering what happened to my pic !

just walk away now, i think, and back to showing my pic to people i can trust x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

good idea !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet someone without a face picture. You just never know who your meeting then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not desperation, she had the biggest breasts i had ever seen, lol the thing was, she was also married, and looking for discreet fun, but wouldn't show me her pic until i showed mine, then she has all the power, and could know me, never reply through fear of me knowing her, then i would always be on the lookout, wondering what happened to my pic !

just walk away now, i think, and back to showing my pic to people i can trust x"

There has to be an element of trust but even if she did know you, she's not likely to broadcast it to the world as she's in the same boat as you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could you both just not go on cam? Then if your both worried about the photos been used indiscreetly that is taken away?

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

For me personally i will talk for for a while via message but after that i expect to swop a clear face photo.

It all becomes pointless otherwise for me as that initial attraction/spark has to be there.

All you can do is to tag your photos to stop them being mis-used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never meet anyone if we didn't see a face picture.

Surely a single female wouldn't neither for her safety. Plus how the hell you meant to find the person your meant to be meeting if you don't know what they look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"good idea !"

Which one?

OP - if you hit the +quote option it'll be more obvious which posts your replies relate to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill send a face pic with first message if I can be sure I don't know the person but ill always try and send one within a few messages

I think you need a face pic as early as possible to build up the trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a face pic is make or break even having a conversation with a person then I've no time for them, of course however I understand that there needs to be a mutual physical attraction before you can consider meeting anyone, so will always send a face pic before attempting to take things further - I simply find that things work far more smoothly if you take this step when you're already chatting comfortably.

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By *ickloverMan
over a year ago

Devizes

I have a face pic I send with first or second message, but usually conversations get closed after that, my fault for looking like a young micky Rooney .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got face picture on profile and always send face pictures with messages but understand some people have to be careful with face pictures. I am meeting a women next week been messaging for few weeks still not seen a face picture of her yet but excited about meeting. Maybe I'm one the odd ones that could meet without seeing face picture?????

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I've got face picture on profile and always send face pictures with messages but understand some people have to be careful with face pictures. I am meeting a women next week been messaging for few weeks still not seen a face picture of her yet but excited about meeting. Maybe I'm one the odd ones that could meet without seeing face picture?????

nahhhh, your just a horny lad who cant believe his luck getting a meet off here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha Evie, to true you know how hard it is been a single lad on here, especially with a face like mine lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i've done very well off here, and even better on another site

just got carried away, back to my rules now !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i'm like you, would be happy to meet without a face pic, you don't have to have sex with them when you meet !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No face pic no chat end of conversation

I like to see whom I'm chatting to

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

If you message first, show a face pic first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A true tale

Lady I know decided on a discreet meet . Her marriage was no quite over and salvageable though sexless. She needed a spot of relief and joined a well know. Site.

Discretion was a must . She insisted , no pics for secrecy.

She was very interested in a chap who insisted on a pic.

She sent it and it ended up on a social site. This chap decided to send it to associated with the ' I'm in for this hi chick ' line . Only fun I guess but someone who knew her and the hubby spotted it .

Ended up with the hubby, need I say , the marriage was not rekindled.

Most people are very genuine , or if not with their age , weight , cock size or oral skills, most would not intentionally cause problems for other members, but it can happen.

I'm attached and have no wish to part. I like a bit o fun and wish to keep it discreet. Many attractive ladies have passed bye but I stick to this rule too.

A meet for a quick drink at a location convenient for the lady . Part after 10 mins, if its a yes or no , she can do it without a face to face situation.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I/We would never meet without seeing face pics....

But we know others that do, and for them it has not been a problem...

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Having been swept along by someone and agreeing to meet without a face pic recently I now always insist on a face pic fairly early on, not straight away and usually when he has asked for one of me....

When I finally did get a face pic thankfully the day before the meet there was absolutely nothing that attracted me to him at all.

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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm on the women's side here, we were after a few men to join us for a GB - couldn't keep track of the replies without faces.

We exchange when prompted and often we offer ours but not when messaging for the first time unless we are replying...

Most exp swingers are reasonable about this and we follow their guidelines but I wouldn't send out my pics to a Shadow Profile unless they had the right vers...

Man up you ugly minger

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A true tale

Lady I know decided on a discreet meet . Her marriage was no quite over and salvageable though sexless. She needed a spot of relief and joined a well know. Site.

Discretion was a must . She insisted , no pics for secrecy.

She was very interested in a chap who insisted on a pic.

Ended up with the hubby, need I say , the marriage was not rekindled.

Most people are very genuine , or if not with their age , weight , cock size or oral skills, most would not intentionally cause problems for other members, but it can happen.

I'm attached and have no wish to part. I like a bit o fun and wish to keep it discreet. Many attractive ladies have passed bye but I stick to this rule too.

A meet for a quick drink at a location convenient for the lady . Part after 10 mins, if its a yes or no , she can do it without a face to face situation.

well said ! and i'm sticking to my rules, no face pic if in the same town !

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