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"My own insecurities. X " not living up to impossibly high standards? I’m afraid of that | |||
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"If i was unsure it wouldn't have got past a social " This | |||
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"Who? " Them? | |||
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"Wanna list?" Please | |||
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"If i was unsure it wouldn't have got past a social This " 📝 | |||
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"My own insecurities. X not living up to impossibly high standards? I’m afraid of that " that amongst a few others x | |||
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"Got a first social tomorrow with a chap. My mind will confirm in the first 30 seconds whether we'll be fucking. For me, there's no such thing as 'unsure' if it's about someone putting part of their body in mine." I’m sure | |||
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"I can think of two. 1. Worried about not being, at least, satisfactory. 2. Not sure I'm into them like that anymore."   | |||
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"Why are you? " Geezz this is my current quandary! | |||
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"Why are you? " I'm unsure about everything. Lol! Unfortunately it comes from trauma. I just live with it. Especially when you get to my age a lot of people have baggage/ previous unpleasant experiences. Swinging and kink has taught me a lot actually in a weird way. I can say I'm unsure or uncomfortable and that's ok. It's checking in with your play partners and being risk-aware of your own limitations and setting your own boundaries. I let people know I can get triggered and have episodes and it's not due to them. It's just something that can happen randomly. One of my play partners is very good. He's calm and he's put me in the recovery position before. | |||
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"I am unsure about having sex with them because they want me to host and I can't be arsed to get my sheets messy..." Lol! My home is my safe space for unmasking so I don't want to let people in. In fact I wonder if I keep it messy/cluttered to keep people out. I play in clubs mostly. | |||
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"Needless to say, I'm now trying to decide whether to try to let him down politely, or just block him. 😞" Sounds like you have been more than polite with him already Davina. | |||
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"Needless to say, I'm now trying to decide whether to try to let him down politely, or just block him. 😞 Sounds like you have been more than polite with him already Davina." Yeah. Meh. Not only do I not trust him, I feel patronised. 🙁 | |||
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"Could you not just tie him to a chair, pop a condom on him and ride him like there's no tomorrow? " 🤣 No. No, the thrill of anticipation has rather passed with this one. | |||
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"That's what socials are for... Try before you 'buy' (mods I am not promoting any kind of payment!!)" Is your third hole available?? | |||
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"Needless to say, I'm now trying to decide whether to try to let him down politely, or just block him. 😞 Sounds like you have been more than polite with him already Davina. Yeah. Meh. Not only do I not trust him, I feel patronised. 🙁" Don't blame you at all, but take comfort from the fact you found out before meeting him. | |||
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"I am unsure about having sex with them because once we agreed a date, and I said he could take a few pics, he started on about how he'll just take a couple of pics with himm in me bareback!. Um, NO! I explained this right upfront - I don't bareback! Oh, that's fine, it'll just be for a few seconds, to take the pics.. I see. Well, then... NO! I'm convinced he's going to try to slip it in raw while I'm all in the moment. Sigh. Fuckit! 😩 " Tell him there's a word for that.... It begins with R and ends in APE. He ain't worth it Davina, sounds like a knob. | |||
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"Needless to say, I'm now trying to decide whether to try to let him down politely, or just block him. 😞 Sounds like you have been more than polite with him already Davina. Yeah. Meh. Not only do I not trust him, I feel patronised. 🙁 Don't blame you at all, but take comfort from the fact you found out before meeting him." I know! 😳 | |||
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"That's what socials are for... Try before you 'buy' (mods I am not promoting any kind of payment!!) Is your third hole available?? "
C'mon man, keep up, it's all about the 4th hole now!!
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"That's what socials are for... Try before you 'buy' (mods I am not promoting any kind of payment!!) Is your third hole available??
C'mon man, keep up, it's all about the 4th hole now!!
Mr Mystique would have known that "Stop adding new features! | |||
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"That's what socials are for... Try before you 'buy' (mods I am not promoting any kind of payment!!) Is your third hole available??
C'mon man, keep up, it's all about the 4th hole now!!
Mr Mystique would have known that "Is that a negative cumshot down my own japs eye? | |||
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"I am unsure about having sex with them because once we agreed a date, and I said he could take a few pics, he started on about how he'll just take a couple of pics with himm in me bareback!. Um, NO! I explained this right upfront - I don't bareback! Oh, that's fine, it'll just be for a few seconds, to take the pics.. I see. Well, then... NO! I'm convinced he's going to try to slip it in raw while I'm all in the moment. Sigh. Fuckit! 😩 " Eww... This is why I fuck in clubs...in full view of everyone and no cameras allowed!! | |||
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"Could you not just tie him to a chair, pop a condom on him and ride him like there's no tomorrow? " this is often what pops in my head with naughty/bad men. They need to be taught a lesson. 
Tied up and told
Repeat after me: No means no! | |||
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"Could you not just tie him to a chair, pop a condom on him and ride him like there's no tomorrow? 🤣 No. No, the thrill of anticipation has rather passed with this one. " yeah that definitely happens..especially if they beg or try to manipulate or coerce you after you've already said no! Christ I had to threaten one guy with having the organisers throw him out to get him to recognise that no means no! Another reason why I play in clubs and groups. | |||
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"Needless to say, I'm now trying to decide whether to try to let him down politely, or just block him. 😞 Sounds like you have been more than polite with him already Davina. Yeah. Meh. Not only do I not trust him, I feel patronised. 🙁 Don't blame you at all, but take comfort from the fact you found out before meeting him." Yup dodging SA. | |||
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"Because he may not live up to my high sexual expectations, and I'll be left feeling deflated wondering why I pick men who act sexy, but plank in bed." burst out laughing at plank in bed. I get annoyed and switch on them.... Then turn them every which way but loose. Lol! I have to remind myself to be gentle with the men that I actually do like.
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"I am unsure about having sex with them because once we agreed a date, and I said he could take a few pics, he started on about how he'll just take a couple of pics with himm in me bareback!. Um, NO! I explained this right upfront - I don't bareback! Oh, that's fine, it'll just be for a few seconds, to take the pics.. I see. Well, then... NO! I'm convinced he's going to try to slip it in raw while I'm all in the moment. Sigh. Fuckit! 😩 Tell him there's a word for that.... It begins with R and ends in APE. He ain't worth it Davina, sounds like a knob." So many knobs. so little time... and energy! | |||
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