FabSwingers.com forum: Turning wife into a slut mission

By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

When the wife and I go for a city break we always enjoy a bit of a pub crawl before getting back to our hotel for a great night of sex, (partly down to the alcohol and partly down to being away from our adult kids who are still living with us)

The thing is when we are out she gets a lot of attention from other men which gets me slightly turned on but that's as far as it ever goes.

I have tried bringing it up with her that these guys would love to fuck her but she just gets angry and tells me I am weird.

How do I change her opinion on this?

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By *idnight_Express69Man
2 weeks ago

Rochdale

"When the wife and I go for a city break we always enjoy a bit of a pub crawl before getting back to our hotel for a great night of sex, (partly down to the alcohol and partly down to being away from our adult kids who are still living with us)

The thing is when we are out she gets a lot of attention from other men which gets me slightly turned on but that's as far as it ever goes.

I have tried bringing it up with her that these guys would love to fuck her but she just gets angry and tells me I am weird.

How do I change her opinion on this?"

You don’t. She’s shown you how she feels.

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

If you keep badgering her, you'll end up getting no sex

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By *aizyWoman
2 weeks ago

west midlands

You don't, if you have already talked to her about it and she is set against it respect her wishes.

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By *lynJMan
2 weeks ago

Morden

The thing is when we are out she gets a lot of attention from other men which gets me slightly turned on but that's as far as it ever goes.

I have tried bringing it up with her that these guys would love to fuck her but she just gets angry and tells me I am weird.

How do I change her opinion on this?

You don’t. She’s shown you how she feels. "

What he said ☝️

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

You don’t you respect your wife’s choice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 weeks ago

East Sussex

Why do you want your wife to be different? Don't you love her how she is?

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By *odgerMooreMan
2 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper

I think if you have openly stated that you get turned on by the idea of her having sex with other guys while you watch and/or join in and she has said she’s not interested then the discussion is closed. She might like the idea of watching you having sex with several blokes - Profile says you’re straight so im guessing you wouldn’t be up for that… no means no.

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You don't, is the simple answer.

You've told you it turns her on, she wasn't keen, there's your answer op.

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

*told her *

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By *oodmessMan
2 weeks ago

yumsville

Have the good sex and think of the other men when you shag her

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By *ll 4 HerCouple
2 weeks ago

Bolton

From a couples perspective and the male half.

I had a similar experience, Nancy was always getting attention and for the early part of our marriage I got very jealous, these feelings faded and slowly over time I started to get turned on by the thought of her with other men.

At first I subconsciously suppressed these thoughts as they seemed abnormal, until one night, I instigated a conversation about fantasies, we each discussed ours and I admitted my thoughts on seeing her with other men.

At first her initial response was as you have described, although I wouldn't say she was angry, instead she said if you think this is a way of being with other women with my permission, you are barking up the wrong tree.

After some more discussion I explained that there was no ulterior motive and that the thought really turned me on. She then divulged that when we used to watch the TV series on Hedonism (yes I know that's a long time ago) she had thoughts about sucking me and another guy off in the hot tub, things went on from there.

It has taken a long time to get where we are now, I did lots of research into hotwifing/cuckold etc, the psychology of it, all to reassure her that this wasn't that strange.

For a long time I am sure she was convinced that there was a motive behind it, however 11 years on she is now fully embracing the hotwife lifestyle.

The big difference however is I didn't have a profile on here as a single male looking for meets with other women.

One of the things I learned in the research, possibly the most important thing is this lifestyle is about trust and honesty, if she doesn't know about your profile here I would suggest you are already in a losing battle.

Do some research, understand the complexity of the lifestyle but more importantly have an open and honest conversation with her when you have some private time.

You cannot coerce her into doing something she doesn't want to do and you can't hope to enter this lifestyle on a foundation of lies. If she is dead set against it then leave it alone. In time just having spoken about it she might, just might come around in her own time.

Good luck OP.

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By *uddy laneMan
2 weeks ago

dudley

The thing is when we are out she gets a lot of attention from other men which gets me slightly turned on but that's as far as it ever goes.

I have tried bringing it up with her that these guys would love to fuck her but she just gets angry and tells me I am weird.

How do I change her opinion on this?"

It may be quicker and less complicated if you tell your otherr half you want to become a cuck.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 weeks ago

East Sussex

It would be quicker and less complicated if people accepted their partner as they are, instead of constantly wanting more.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
2 weeks ago

Norwich

Does she know you're here as a male profile wishing to meet females and 'Looking to have some fun'?

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By *esmdMan
2 weeks ago

Woodhall Spa

Love to turn my Mrs into being slut xx

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By *assy69Man
2 weeks ago

sussex and Wales

The thing is when we are out she gets a lot of attention from other men which gets me slightly turned on but that's as far as it ever goes.

I have tried bringing it up with her that these guys would love to fuck her but she just gets angry and tells me I am weird.

How do I change her opinion on this?

You don’t. She’s shown you how she feels. "

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
2 weeks ago

in Lancashire

As others have said afford her the respect she deserves, she may in time change her mind a little or she may never do so but that's her choice and absolutely fine..

These threads are fairly common and to be honest they are not a good look..

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
2 weeks ago

Southwest & Cork City

Lol,account gone...guess he didn't like the feedback and expected a step-by-step guide.

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By *AYENCouple
2 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Love to turn my Mrs into being slut xx"

A Slut?! Perhaps you could define Slut, and we'll see if we can help . . . .

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By *oodmessMan
2 weeks ago

yumsville

"Love to turn my Mrs into being slut xx"

I thought she was a good 9/10.. your mum made it 10/10

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