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By *arier OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

birmingham

Does anyone actually have any luck on here?

My profile is dead and my couples profile may as well not exist.

I’ve met a couple of great people on here in the past but lately…..not even a decent conversation. It’s also pretty impossible to find bisexual ladies who play alone.

I tend to have no issues at clubs but it would be nice to get to know people a bit first.

Anyone else in the same boat?

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
4 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yes, totally get where youre coming from.

It's exactly the same for me, i prefer clubs.

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By *cfc19821Man
4 weeks ago

chelmsford

It’s like buses ! Nothing then it all comes along - message me directly happy to explain my experiences of both

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

Are you suggesting that the "chemistry" element is lacking on here for you? The substance of getting to know someone as opposed to the ubiquitous one-liner messages that offer nothing for the stimulus?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Stockport

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Stockport

To be fair we do well on fab compared to some , as our profile will show

We've been to lots of clubs , and stood there like spare parts

Been totally blanked , not even the single guy chancers trying their luck

And yet weve been in the queue at townhouse , chatted to a couple as we waited to get in

And when we did , we went straight to a room

Sometimes theres no rhyme or reason

Currently trying to tussle up a meet , with no joy !

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By *arier OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

birmingham


"Are you suggesting that the "chemistry" element is lacking on here for you? The substance of getting to know someone as opposed to the ubiquitous one-liner messages that offer nothing for the stimulus?"

Chemistry is a big thing for me and getting to know what makes the other person tick. It makes sex so much better in my experience.

Messages for example, “nice tits” as flattering as that is doesn’t make me want to drop my knickers 😂 I wouldn’t mind a witty joke for a first message though.

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By *an8iMan
4 weeks ago

Bilston

I much prefer the club scene it's easier to talk to someone than it is to message them on here

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Chichester

Clubs / social events are way better

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By *Clem-Fandango-Woman
4 weeks ago

Yarm


"Does anyone actually have any luck on here?

My profile is dead and my couples profile may as well not exist.

I’ve met a couple of great people on here in the past but lately…..not even a decent conversation. It’s also pretty impossible to find bisexual ladies who play alone.

I tend to have no issues at clubs but it would be nice to get to know people a bit first.

Anyone else in the same boat? "

I've not had very good experiences at the club's in Leeds but maybe I went on bad nights.

On here... I've met some nice guys but I've also met some absolute nutcases.

All in all, I dunno why I'm bothering if I'm honest?

I need a better hobby.

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
4 weeks ago

Norwich

I dont get many messages on here but from the ones I get, I have had some meets. I also have a few guys I meet quite regularly who I met via Fab.

I find clubs quite intimidating as I'm quite a private person and not someone who feels confident to walk around in underwear. I just wear a dress. Also I've only been to VA and there's no private spaces there.

Fab is much harder than it was when I originally joined. I left for about 6 years and came back and everything was so different.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

West Midlands

We are here predominantly for old friends and doing most meets in sex cinemas and clubs when we fancy it, very rare we'll meet new guys on here,does happen but rarely . For what we want, the cinemas in particular tick every box

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By *mmaleiaWoman
4 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’ve not found many people I’ve been attracted to on fab, and I’ve found none at clubs, even the alt nights 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *hagTonightMan
4 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

No. I mostly just use fab for the forum, it is comedy gold

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
4 weeks ago

West Suffolk

We do pretty good on here on the whole. We get offers pretty much every time we put a meet up. They don’t always end in a meet of course, but the majority do.

I think the 3 biggest obstacles to getting a meet on here are the ability to host, matching timings and people not being honest about their intentions, ie saying they are looking for a meet when really all they are looking for is attention and/or a horny chat and/or a wank.

Clubs are not for us. We’re not traditional swingers as such and while we know that’s not the only demographic of club goers, we’re quite specific in what we look for.

I think people come on here with the illusion that it’s gonna be simple when the reality is that it’s not. “We’re all looking for the same thing” is a sentence we see on a lot of profiles, but that’s far from the case.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

I like the mix. I do get to know people at the club first. Often all I will do is chat. You get to choose what you want.

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By *attooboy100Man
4 weeks ago

Sedgley

I prefer the club scene, it sometimes feels like lots of pointless conversations happen on fab. Much easier to talk in person and the effort is easier to give as you know they're not going to turn into Casper on you.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
4 weeks ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

I find clubs are much better for the initial social chitchat , & often it has been a genuine fun interaction with people who have pre blocked me on fab due to age filters etc. The relaxed atmosphere of a club removes the immediate pressure of the meeting to go further than just social if either party wishes, without wasting a journey. Lone females, or lone males with a couple could feel intimidated in other private situations

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By *oney2Couple
4 weeks ago

Chester

We have had zero meets off here.

We use it mainly to check on info at the clubs and I ( female ) enjoy the forums.

If I was a single female you ladies would definitely be catching my eye

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm mot really looking and have filters set to minimise messages.

I note you're after women op and it seems that women do struggle to meet other women on here, there's loads of threads on it.

If you were after men, with your pics you'd be swamped.

I am half a couple though and we always did better meeting others at socials than just relying on fab alone. We also did arrange to meet in clubs too.

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By *oomerangboyMan
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Fabs is nowhere near the place it once was, I think its popularity has become its own down fall in some sense, I think a lot of genuine people get tired of battling through the wasters x

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By *ildTimes.Man
4 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Yep, had loads on here, I find it helps if you have some sort of personality 🤷🏻‍♂️

Clubs might suit some if you're not fussy as most of the guys there will fuck anything.

Fab meets are better if you have standards and like to get to know someone for longer than 5 mins before heading to a sweaty room that smells like piss and disinfectant, but each to their own.

Anyway, my Man whore days are behind me now, sorry to those ladies that never got the chance, ...🥪

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By *arier OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

birmingham

Thanks for all of the advice guys. I think I like the club atmosphere and social interaction in that setting and it gives both me and my husband peace of mind that I’m safe.

I think also knowing for a fact I’m speaking with a woman and not wondering if it’s a genuine person behind each message helps.

It’s difficult to accommodate with an 18year old living under our roof 😂

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