FabSwingers.com forum: Opinions, please!

By *amie Hants OP Woman
6 days ago

Mariana Trench

Hi gang,

I know this is fab but I like the different opinions. Plus I can’t put this on my socials.

I’m cat-sitting for my mum’s friend this week, and when I got here, I noticed a few places could use some cleaning. I’m wondering about doing a bit of a deeper clean, but I’m not sure if that would come off as rude. I definitely plan to tidy up after myself, but I just want to be helpful without overstepping. The last thing I would want to do is make anyone feel any type of shame.

I appreciate we all have our own standards when it comes to these things, and this is not extremely unclean home at all. There’s just bits here and there that I can see.

What do you think?

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By *lynJMan
6 days ago

Morden

I'd leave it as is unless you're really uncomfortable with the current state. They might think it's intrusive and what else you'd changed.

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By *lasgowPandaMan
6 days ago

Belfast

It would be a very nice gesture to give the place a bit of a spruce up, but just don't mention it x

If asked just say you were tidying up after yourself and got carried away.

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By *oeBeansMan
6 days ago

Derby

Personally, I wouldn't do anything other than clean up after myself. As you said, it's not extremely unclean and if it's just bits of clutter, I'd just leave it as is even if it would annoy me. You don't want that phone call later on asking where X is and why it isn't where they left it 😅

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
6 days ago

Cork

"Hi gang,

I know this is fab but I like the different opinions. Plus I can’t put this on my socials.

I appreciate we all have our own standards when it comes to these things, and this is not extremely unclean home at all. There’s just bits here and there that I can see.

What do you think? "

Hi Jamie,

I think that while your gesture is well intended, I'd be inclined to leave things as they are.

I think the natural response will be interpreted as 'so you think I'm untidy'; of course this is not always the case.

If it was family member there would be a greater chance of it being accepted as you intend it. 😊

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By *olo180Man
6 days ago

West London

Definitely don’t deep clean. Tidying up after yourself yes but I personally wouldn’t go further than that. You run the risk of them seeing you as either judgemental or disgusted by the way they live which wouldn’t be your intention.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 days ago

little house on the praire

I'd really appreciate it but I would just say I cleaned up after myself and not mention you've done it.

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By *amie Hants OP Woman
6 days ago

Mariana Trench

Just to be clear, it’s not so much tidying away her things. I would hate not knowing where all my stuff is. More like cleaning her fridge and oven etc.

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By *ucka39Man
6 days ago

Newcastle

Personally without understanding the actual person circumstances, if I knew that they struggled at times or could see it in a way with my own eyes and it's out of the ordinary. Then I'd do it as a friendly gesture

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
6 days ago

little house on the praire

"Just to be clear, it’s not so much tidying away her things. I would hate not knowing where all my stuff is. More like cleaning her fridge and oven etc. "
Good for it im sure she would appreciate it. Just say you had some time on your hands

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 days ago

Reading

If someone was pet sitting for me and they felt so inclined to clean my oven, I'd be thrilled.

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
6 days ago

Cork

"Just to be clear, it’s not so much tidying away her things. I would hate not knowing where all my stuff is. More like cleaning her fridge and oven etc. "

I'd still be inclined to leave everything as is.

For them it could be exactly how they want it, one person's chaos is an other person's organised.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
6 days ago

Leeds

I think cleaning is a lovely idea. Just don't throw anything away.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
6 days ago

Manchester

I think it depends how close you are. If you are very familiar and you think they would appreciate it I'd say go for it. But I think you're always running the risk of them getting very offended that you've messed with their stuff or think they're dirty or are being interfering etc.

It really depends on the person and your relationship.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
6 days ago

Donut City

"Just to be clear, it’s not so much tidying away her things. I would hate not knowing where all my stuff is. More like cleaning her fridge and oven etc. Good for it im sure she would appreciate it. Just say you had some time on your hands"

This is what I'd do. I'd maybe say I'd finished my book and couldn't find anything to watch on TV and had some energy to burn, and then got carried away tidying up after myself.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
6 days ago

South Wales

I’d be more than happy if my cat sitter also cleaned my house xx 😄

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By *verlooked n UnderusedMan
6 days ago

Leeds

I'd leave it as you found it

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By *dalisqueWoman
6 days ago

land of make believe

I usually pay for a deep clean when I am on holiday,as long as this isn't the case ,I can't imagine why they wouldn't be thrilled.

I would check about the oven though as lots have yearly cleans from the manufacturer.

I have a gorgeous cat ,Xena if you evet fancy coming to cat sit .

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 days ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

Have you spoke to your Mum to see what she thinks? She may be able to offer insight

I personally wouldn't. I do clean both my son's places if I am house sitting because they know what I'm like and I feel comfortable to do it...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 days ago

Crumpet Castle

Obviously I can only speak from my perspective. I don't know either of you.

If a friend agreed to cat sit for me and they cleaned my oven and fridge i'd be FUCKING LIVID.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 days ago

East Sussex

Don't do it. If you were looking after my cat and cleaned my fridge and oven I'd be angry.

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You can cat sit for me any time, I’ll go off camping for a few days and I can borrow a cat, and get some cleaning materials in for you.

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By *aizyWoman
6 days ago

west midlands

No matter how well intentioned you meant it if it was me I would be so embarrassed if someone did that in my house.

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By *dalisqueWoman
6 days ago

land of make believe

"You can cat sit for me any time, I’ll go off camping for a few days and I can borrow a cat, and get some cleaning materials in for you."

😅😅

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 days ago

Bristol

"No matter how well intentioned you meant it if it was me I would be so embarrassed if someone did that in my house."

God knows what they would find stashed away 🤣

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By *amie Hants OP Woman
6 days ago

Mariana Trench

Thank you for all your replies! It’s good to see different views on it. I’m leaning more towards leave it. I think I would be a little embarrassed if someone felt the need to clean my home. Unless it was my mum. I used to love it when she came to stay and super deep cleaned 😍

Thank you for the invitations to cat sit. Please do not steal any cats to entice me round to clean!

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By *uke_silverMan
6 days ago

London

Sounds like a nice thing to do, I'm sure they'd appreciate it!

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By *aizyWoman
6 days ago

west midlands

"No matter how well intentioned you meant it if it was me I would be so embarrassed if someone did that in my house.

God knows what they would find stashed away 🤣"

Depends where they looked!

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 days ago

Bristol

"No matter how well intentioned you meant it if it was me I would be so embarrassed if someone did that in my house.

God knows what they would find stashed away 🤣

Depends where they looked!"

I’ll ask the skeletons! 🤣

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By *sWyldWoman
6 days ago

Edinburgh

I would love if my boys decided to deep clean my house.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 days ago

East Sussex

I often clean my dad's fridge and loo but he's 98, partially sighted and my dad. I wouldn't know where to start with his oven, I suspect it's beyond redemption. God knows what his cleaner does.

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By *nnCeeWoman
6 days ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"You can cat sit for me any time, I’ll go off camping for a few days and I can borrow a cat, and get some cleaning materials in for you."

I was thinking this too!!

I'm well aware I don't do anywhere near enough cleaning. The oven, which I very rarely use, is crying for a clean!

But I can see how.some people may not like it and the connotations...

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By *ifromkentMan
6 days ago

Herne bay

I’d ask your mums opinion if it’s her friend. Some people would be offended by it but others would appreciate it.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
6 days ago

Manchester / Cardiff

"Thank you for all your replies! It’s good to see different views on it. I’m leaning more towards leave it. I think I would be a little embarrassed if someone felt the need to clean my home. Unless it was my mum. I used to love it when she came to stay and super deep cleaned 😍

Thank you for the invitations to cat sit. Please do not steal any cats to entice me round to clean! "

Definitely, don't do it. I learned first hand how bad that can go...🙈

I used a mates flat once while I was working away West, turns out at the same time he was working away further west so I had the place to myself. Much like your situation the gaff definately would have benefited from a clean, so over the two weeks I was there, I did the place top to bottom - like a shiny new penny it was...

He came home the weekend before I left and as much as he was grateful I'd cleaned, he was DEVASTATED I'd spent 20 minutes scrubbing a dirty old mug that had stains a millimeter thick; turns out he'd learned from a travel show in India that Tea tasters never clean their tea-cups as it improves the flavour of the tea, so he'd been cultivating his own tea tasting mug for over a year!!!! 😖

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 days ago

Central

I'd generally do a good clean but I'd not single out anywhere, leaving it very different for them.

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By *ookingforfun73Man
5 days ago

Clacton-on-Sea

This might have been asked but how old is she, I think it would certainly be a nice gesture you are only helping her, of course you know her best so you know her personality and how she might react

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
5 days ago

Norwich

Would you mind coming to stay at my house for a few days?

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 days ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Sorry disagree with most..if you're cleaning with products you've purchased then nothing wrong with that but I'd not relocate any items and id mention it..

Hi I appreciate you allowing me to stay in your home cat sitting I've cleaned up after myself and your hones beautiful. Leave flowers drink etc. A card with another cat sitting day out and possibly just a card saying if you know any other friends who'd like a deep cleaning cat sitter please recommend me.

They'll either notice and appreciate the deep cleaning or not. I again wouldn't relocate any personal items far from a designated spot or rummage through drawers, closed bedroom doors, etc.

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By *amie Hants OP Woman
5 days ago

Mariana Trench

"Sorry disagree with most..if you're cleaning with products you've purchased then nothing wrong with that but I'd not relocate any items and id mention it..

They'll either notice and appreciate the deep cleaning or not. I again wouldn't relocate any personal items far from a designated spot or rummage through drawers, closed bedroom doors, etc.

I’m not looking to make this a regular thing. She couldn’t get the fleabag into a cattery. I wouldn’t want recommendations

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By *eriScotMan
5 days ago

Scottish Borders

"Hi gang,

I know this is fab but I like the different opinions. Plus I can’t put this on my socials.

I appreciate we all have our own standards when it comes to these things, and this is not extremely unclean home at all. There’s just bits here and there that I can see.

What do you think? "

If you’re staying there and think it needs cleaned while you do then go for it. Why would anyone be annoyed if someone who was staying over at their house helping them out by cat sitting then cleaned too??

You can always just say you made a mess and that’s why it’s been cleaned up??

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By *rtwisted98Man
5 days ago

Market harborough

I agree with the post above. Better yet just blame the cat tell them it made a mess so you cleaned it lol

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