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By *idthelad OP   Man
7 weeks ago

camden

Is it me or is it hard to get the attention of a lady just coz ur south Asian? I’m sure there’s woman out there who do like them.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Soho

I suspect the lack of attention is probably attributed to what you're doing to gain their attention and less related to your cultural/ethnic background.

Perhaps they are less enamoured by your profile...?

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By *idthelad OP   Man
7 weeks ago

camden

Also a possibility.. I try keep it simple but then again our msgs gets buried deep into other msgs that they constantly receive every time they go online or post a update lol ..

Appreciate the response

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By *ung nine inchMan
7 weeks ago

leeds

There horny

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By *ovinglife!40Man
7 weeks ago

Hinckley


"Is it me or is it hard to get the attention of a lady just coz ur south Asian? I’m sure there’s woman out there who do like them."

The first thing a lady looks at is your profile.

If they see one that totally lacks any effort they just move on to a guy who has bothered with a good profile.

Due to being so many of us single guys on here, they can choose the best of the best irrelevant of heritage.

There are lots of women that like them, but presentation and effort is everything!!

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
7 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Don't keep it simple OP, tell us more about you in your bio. (Maybe some new/fresh pics will entice)

I'd do ya lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's difficult for all single men.

There are though profiles that specify ethnicities they will or won't meet and some that aren't so open about the choices they make based on skin colour or ethnic origin. It is one factor among many that make being a single man on fab more difficult than many would hope.

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By *idthelad OP   Man
7 weeks ago

camden

I agree it’s flooded with single men and each lady mostly gets inundated with msgs so may the best man win lool

And Yh maybe work on the profile and pics for now

Cheers for that X

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By *idthelad OP   Man
7 weeks ago

camden

I will be honoured to host you one day thank you for the compliment.

Perhaps you could take me on a trip down memory lane and start from 2017 and work our way upto date lol I know you don’t accept msgs but I wouldn’t stop urs from entering my inbox either ..

Long drives are my thing :D

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
7 weeks ago

Prestwich

You're unlikely to meet anybody on here, but it's useful for chatting and finding out about different clubs etc

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I dont think its because your Asian probably way your messaging a lot of single guys struggle on here we've met Asian guys before.

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By *ndymac888Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I’ve seen profiles asking for that specific demographic mate.

So there is a market for what you have.

Fab is more of a place to look for specific sexual interests and it’s easy to get discouraged by lack of matches, but people aren’t looking for quantity they want specific matches.

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By *idthelad OP   Man
7 weeks ago

camden

Probably rite :D

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

Only the very tiniest minority of people are going to be mutually compatible, irrespective of gender. Take charge of what you can control and change. Plus make realistic expectations

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By *ootyhunter69Man
7 weeks ago

bushey

Just keep swimming, in an ocean where there's so many fish like us or different to us

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By *nsanityBohemianstyleWoman
7 weeks ago

Worsley, Manchester

👋

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By *luebell888Woman
7 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I know quite a few British Asian men who do very well on fab.

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
7 weeks ago

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Im assuming you have re written your profile recently?? It's not half bad, I've seen much much worse. Things take time, look for local socials in the area to attend maybe.

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By *AYENCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Lots of guys like to blame the things they can't change, their ethnicity, height, age, size etc. but a lack of response is usually down to the things they can change. K.

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By *rHotNottsMan
7 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Lots of guys like to blame the things they can't change, their ethnicity, height, age, size etc. but a lack of response is usually down to the things they can change. K."

It’s true, but they usually don’t know how, or even where to start , it’s not for lack of trying - they are just hopeless. Read it all the time on here I’m just think utterly clueless they are about women

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle


"Is it me or is it hard to get the attention of a lady just coz ur south Asian? I’m sure there’s woman out there who do like them."

I guess accusing everyone of being anti South Asian is easier than taking a look at things objectively.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
7 weeks ago

Ends


"Is it me or is it hard to get the attention of a lady just coz ur south Asian? I’m sure there’s woman out there who do like them.

I guess accusing everyone of being anti South Asian is easier than taking a look at things objectively. "

Accusing Everyone? 🤨

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By *sStephenPickleMan
7 weeks ago

Ends

I’ve seen more profiles saying ‘no Asian men’ than I have any other demographic. You can be successful on here, of course but I think if the pool of women that are interested in you is smaller, the chances of success on here are lower than for other groups.

Focus on what you can control though. I’m not going to be mad at you for this post. Good luck.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
7 weeks ago

Prestwich


"I’ve seen more profiles saying ‘no Asian men’"

Same, I block those people.

How anybody judges human beings that way is beyond me, vile.

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By *ootyhunter69Man
7 weeks ago

bushey


"I’ve seen more profiles saying ‘no Asian men’

Same, I block those people.

How anybody judges human beings that way is beyond me, vile."

Best way to handle those. No point them even appearing in your search

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
7 weeks ago

Prestwich

Exactly, don't engage.

Avoid.

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By *uri00620Woman
7 weeks ago

Croydon


"Is it me or is it hard to get the attention of a lady just coz ur south Asian? I’m sure there’s woman out there who do like them."

You're having a challenging time here like most men I'm afraid. It's a numbers game. I do think you're right about your partucular demographic having an even tougher time though based upon profile stipulations alone. Then there's those who do but wouldn't broadcast them in that way.

I can't particularly advise beyond what others suggest but good luck!!

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By *allipygousMan
7 weeks ago

Leicester

OP, out of all the demographics of single men the south Asian men fare worse in here. Yes, some are successful but the vast majority struggle because no matter how good your profile there are far more people that are not willing to entertain the south Asian male than are willing to. It comes down to cultural differences, poor attitudes from a lot of your south Asian peers and that forbidden 'r' word, racism.

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By *cLovin2Man
7 weeks ago

London

Fab is not the easiest place to look for women tbh, for me it's a more social thing. With 200 men for every woman on here, you have very little chance of meeting up with a woman. What is more is that most women on here don't find what they want either. Best to find your women elsewhere and use this as a social place.

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By *rWonkaMan
4 weeks ago

London

I have to admit, when I get the push back I inevitably get, that’s the reason I get 10 times out of 10 unfortunately. There’s a perception is good eggs just get wrapped up with. It’s a shame…

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By *ack1971Man
4 weeks ago

Cork


"I have to admit, when I get the push back I inevitably get, that’s the reason I get 10 times out of 10 unfortunately. There’s a perception is good eggs just get wrapped up with. It’s a shame…"

I hear what you're saying, and I know you speak from personal experience.

But there are a lot of guys from South Asia that are very successful, especially in clubs where interaction is more fluid, stable, friendly than on social media of any type.

I know a few South Asian guys that wouldn't dream on connecting online as it's a waste of time due to people's attitudes, but in reality they have a great time at events.

There is a distinct difference between the two, and I think that goes for a lot of people online who are perceived differnet from others.

The biggest shame in 2025 is that people have to state their preferences when it is not required.

If someone is in their inbox that they don't want, then they have to right to not interact with them.

Its not necessary to flag it in your profile as a "preference".

If this was about sexuality for a moment, I'm straight; but I get a lot of mails from bi sex or gay men, often daily. It doesn't offended me in any way because people are people, it doesn't challenge, change my world view, sexuality, or perceptions.

I don't have to state "No bisexual or gay men" why would I??

The flip side of that is people put preferences so they dont waste anyone's time and nothing is inferred by it. It just doesn't do it for them sexually.

I'm not everyone cup of tea either.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
4 weeks ago

Leeds


"It's difficult for all single men.

There are though profiles that specify ethnicities they will or won't meet and some that aren't so open about the choices they make based on skin colour or ethnic origin. It is one factor among many that make being a single man on fab more difficult than many would hope. "

TBH it’s not one factor for “a single man”. It’s a factor for minorities.

Racism isn’t the same kind of thing as having a particular taste.

Yes people can meet whoever they want. It’s their choice. But I’m not one for sugarcoating and pretending it’s normal to say “no Asians”.

I’m not Asian. But because I’m mixed black/white, some people occasionally think I am (on here, and in real life).

It’s quite shocking the way some people will treat me when they think I’m Asian. Equally as shocking how they change to being friendly and open when they find out I’m not.

It’s nothing to do with skin colour or appearance, and everything to do with prejudice.

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By *arkDesires81Man
4 weeks ago

Fabworld


"Is it me or is it hard to get the attention of a lady just coz ur south Asian? I’m sure there’s woman out there who do like them."

I've struggled to, I come and go to this site like a yo-yo. But stay positive, be polite, don't take anything too personally (or take anything seriously), encourage a social meet first aswell. Develop your profile. Everyone has their likes etc.

Good luck

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Your a nice looking guy. I know some very successful Asian guys on here

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