FabSwingers.com forum: How many unread messages in your inbox...

By *aptain V OP Man
3 days ago

Birstall, Leicester

Will you read and reply to them or bulk delete them?

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By *afkaMan
3 days ago

Nottingham (ish)

Just three today, never had any need to bulk delete

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 days ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Zero

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By *obilebottomMan
3 days ago

All over

None, read them all

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By *ittlebirdWoman
3 days ago

The Big Smoke

None. I’ve read them all and not replied to most.

I very rarely bulk delete OP

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By *avexxMan
3 days ago

cheshire

thousands of the buggers

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By *ilverFoxOralLoverMan
3 days ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Lol, bulk delete, I'm a man in this site, I never have unread messages.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
3 days ago

Reading

Just the one because I'm not ready to respond yet.

I'm not sure I've ever bulk deleted.

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By *he MinionMan
3 days ago

Done my fab'min for this morning.

Doesnt usually take long. A polite not for me, good luck, to the gents who ask if i want sucking off and that generally covers it.

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
3 days ago

London

687 unread dms right now (yes 687) & I have some filters set.......& no I won't delete them, site system eventually automatically deletes them after a certain length of time

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By *ittyRoseWoman
3 days ago

Baldock

537, and that's with filters on!

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By *obilebottomMan
3 days ago

All over

"Done my fab'min for this morning.

Doesnt usually take long. A polite not for me, good luck, to the gents who ask if i want sucking off and that generally covers it."

Hahaha

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By *olden RatioWoman
3 days ago

Buckinghamshire

11 - I keep the interesting ones unread until I have a moment to give them my full attention and send a decent reply.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
3 days ago

Altrincham

None, not one - I bulked deleted the other day and hid the profile

🫣

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By *hiversMan
3 days ago

Dinas Powys

None 😕

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By *udie NudieMan
3 days ago

Newcastle NE3

"Will you read and reply to them or bulk delete them?"

Messages?

There are messages?!

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
3 days ago

North West

2. The previews suggest I’ll probably just delete without opening. I am considering replying to the guy who wants to know where my dress is from. Because I want to know why he wants to know.

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By *an1978Woman
3 days ago

Wales

20.. but then my profile is deliberately unwelcoming.

Woke to 22.

Replied to 2

Scanned who the others are from, there are 5 I will reply to later on.

When I was actively participating it could be 50-100 a day because there are about 10 women and 500 men on fab in my area.

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By *oiluvfunMan
3 days ago

Penrith

"Lol, bulk delete, I'm a man in this site, I never have unread messages. "

I hear you brother

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By *estructionDollyWoman
3 days ago

Manchester

850. I may end up bulk deleting again.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
3 days ago

Norwich

I don't get many messages but I automatically delete them when they are not my preference and my profile clearly states that.

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By *hatgingerguyMan
3 days ago

Manchester

18 from the last couple of days. I should tighten my filter some more. It's so low volume I either reply or ignore

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 days ago

Carlisle usually

I've already done my morning "No thanks" run 💜

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By *obilebottomMan
3 days ago

All over

"18 from the last couple of days. I should tighten my filter some more. It's so low volume I either reply or ignore"

Must be the love fir ginger

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By *ackmeoviMan
3 days ago

Wales

As a man don't get many maybe 20 a day answer them all

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By *hatgingerguyMan
3 days ago

Manchester

Must be the love fir ginger

There's me thinking it's my massive wit

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 days ago

Ends

20. But I get overwhelmed and forget to reply.

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By *issmorganWoman
3 days ago

Calderdale innit

1, I use a fair few filters so that the number stays low.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
3 days ago

Stockport

You are obviously asking on the presumption that people get messages !

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By *lcherasDreamTimeCouple
3 days ago

Manchester

58,

We go through and reply to messages together for the most part of possible, some will be saved to return to later, some will be deleted immediately, some will be deleted and blocked. All depends on content and perceived demeanour.

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By *pice of Life 101Couple
3 days ago

Bristol

124 today but will delete most as sadly same old shite.

Need to be more creative…or at least polite ha x

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By *dalisqueWoman
3 days ago

land of make believe

I bulk delete when it is nearing 1,000.I do use the filters ,however that doesn't stop people that have previously messaged even if I havnt replied.

212 unread currently 🩵

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By *unTimeVikingMan
3 days ago

downham market

0 as I never get any lol

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
3 days ago

The Heart of Hollownest, Dudleyish.

Currently none. There was 12 when we checked this morning.

3 we replied to, 8 we deleted and 1 we had to block them.

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By *haringisCaring1208Couple
3 days ago

Lurgan

147 at the minute. We always try and reply to everyone even if it is a polite thanks but no thanks. We only reply when we are together and it’s been a mental week so they’ve built up

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By *alm_one4Man
3 days ago

RM16

None, as with most Guys, very rare that I get a message.

Only time I use bulk delete is when I’m fed up at looking at the unread or deleted messages I sent that are in my outbox

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
3 days ago

Cork

Have a wild guess, andswers on a postcard.

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By *ookie46Woman
3 days ago

Deepest darkest Peru

My filters are very tight so only 10

I will reply as most of them are friends

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By *ickawitchCouple
3 days ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Nil : We try to read and answer all of them unless they are being disrespectful.

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By *eardedguy83Man
3 days ago

Worcestershire

Currently…none. I get really excited when I have 3 unopened messages 😂😂

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 days ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

627.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 days ago

Castlebar

None. I read/delete so no excess buildup 🤣

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 days ago

East Sussex

Zero

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By *ustBoWoman
3 days ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Zero.

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By *alico_KittyWoman
3 days ago

Kittys Lane

60 at the moment

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By *arried curious guyMan
3 days ago

Motherwell

None, I read them all

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By *ustice 500Man
3 days ago

huddersfield

Over 20 which sounds fantastic but they’re all from gay guys looking for straight men to “swallow”

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 days ago

Reading

None I've read them all.

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By *an SummersMan
3 days ago

Near you?

I have men and male couples blocked, so zero.

Nothing worse to ruin the unread message buzz than seeing it’s from a bloke

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By *entmike76Man
3 days ago

bury

None i read them all, doesn't take long to be fair there few and far between

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By *an SummersMan
3 days ago

Near you?

"Currently…none. I get really excited when I have 3 unopened messages 😂😂"

That’s very specific. If it’s 2 or 4, then you’re not excited at all?

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
3 days ago

Debauchery

657….. now here me out, firstly I don’t have time for a load of admin and secondly it does say if you are above my 30 mile radius I probably won’t reply but people will still message 🤦🏽‍♀️

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 days ago

Gloucester

None. I do read most of them, delete those who just send vulgar messages, reply to those who are polite and respectful. I’ll be honest most get deleted though. Seems some people forget how to make a good first impression on here.

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
3 days ago

Cork

[Removed by poster at 22/06/25 12:32:50]

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
3 days ago

Cork

"None i read them all, doesn't take long to be fair there few and far between "

"Them"? ...plural??

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By *irk_Dastardly.Man
3 days ago

Salisbury/London

None, mind you it doesn’t take long to read them; mostly from admin reminding me about site support code running out!

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By *an SummersMan
3 days ago

Near you?

"657….. now here me out, firstly I don’t have time for a load of admin and secondly it does say if you are above my 30 mile radius I probably won’t reply but people will still message 🤦🏽‍♀️"

You have replied to me in the past when I’ve wanted to compliment you of an upload, even though I’m miles away, so thanks for that 😊

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By *r Man45Man
3 days ago

North West

Absolutely none....i think its broken

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By *5NyorksMan
3 days ago

.......

None.... my admin is impeccable. Or there maybe a second reason 🙄😂

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By *carlettsWoman
3 days ago

Harpenden

None I also love a tidy inbox

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By *rSircumsizedMan
3 days ago

Newport

101

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By *hostrider212Man
3 days ago

None…. Never get any messages

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 days ago

merseyside

Usually about 10 a day, unless new photo generates more or we've put on a post regarding holiday meet etc.

Always reply to all messages, usually, no thanks as they don't read profile but think it's just good manners to bang out a quick reply.

If they don't read profile or their profile is a one line etc, then just block.

Don't want to waste their time or ours.

Have no interest in chatting unless in a social face to face, where a little effort has to be used.

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By *uffolkMan300Man
3 days ago

come find me

117 and that's after a very recent clear out 😱😱

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By *WANDTGCouple
3 days ago

Borough of Greenwich

None, as we both respond during the day

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
3 days ago

Prestwich

Zero, I always try to reply.

Admittedly I don't get 0.1% of the message some people get, so I totally get people who ignore some.

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By *arlo56Man
3 days ago

newcastle

Zero

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
3 days ago

Debauchery

You have replied to me in the past when I’ve wanted to compliment you of an upload, even though I’m miles away, so thanks for that 😊"

Shhh don’t tell people that 🤣😂🤣.

Honestly though if I can I will and if it’s people being nice I will but I don’t want people to take it personal if I don’t manage to

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By *ovetocum80Man
3 days ago

Cradley Heath

Got no messages to have unread lol

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By *sTiqueWoman
3 days ago

Leeds

Pleased at the range - from none to one or two to hundreds!

Mine is one-ish/ two-ish a day and I either delete or reply politely if they have clearly ignored my profile info; or I engage to see what's what. I am off to look at my filters now to see why.....

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By *hunky GentMan
3 days ago

Chesterfield (temp)

I think mine is broken.

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By * Jason -Man
3 days ago

Hounslow

A few, (although most of the carefully and individually crafted messages in my sent box remain unopened weeks and months later)

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By *ire-runner-82Man
3 days ago

Notth Hanpshire

Nil. Big fat 0. Nothing. 😭

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By *antricSeeker60Man
3 days ago

Durham

Two…

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By *etflixAndWhoMan
3 days ago

Nottingham

19 - and I usually deleted them around once a day

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By * Jason -Man
3 days ago

Hounslow

"A few,"

Scrap that. My ADHD brain missread the question. Doha!

I have a few inbox messages but they have all been read and replied to

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By *JB1954Man
3 days ago

Reading

Not sure. Normally if no reply say after couple weeks . Then delete .

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By *he_Tall_and_Tatted_oneMan
3 days ago

all over

0 unread in my inbox,

My outbox however, thats a different story

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By *TRAY-CATMan
3 days ago

None unread ,as I get very few messages ....

I'm sure it must be my age that puts them off ..

it can't be my sparkling personality or my body of an adonis....

( FYI .I also exaggerate a lot )😂🤣😇😇

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By *ustamanMan
3 days ago

weymouth

I've a whole pile in my sent folder still yellow

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
3 days ago

London (She/Her)

I’m really taken aback by your numbers, right now I’ve got 1415 and I am not a site hottie so I don’t understand why my numbers are so high. Are you guys just a lot quicker at answering messages than I am?

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By *smith87Man
3 days ago

totton

Zero

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By *TRAY-CATMan
3 days ago

"I’m really taken aback by your numbers, right now I’ve got 1415 and I am not a site hottie so I don’t understand why my numbers are so high. Are you guys just a lot quicker at answering messages than I am? "
.. ..

Women will always get thousands of messages as women are outnumbered by males on here by 10 times as many .. but enjoy the attention. I know I would .xx

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By *hunky GentMan
3 days ago

Chesterfield (temp)

Do people check their 'friends only' messages?

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 days ago

Belfast

Zero. No idea when I last had a message.

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By *TRAY-CATMan
3 days ago

"Do people check their 'friends only' messages? "
.. i would if I gad any friends ..haha 😪

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By *nspecifiedEntityMan
3 days ago

Hanwell, The Shades.

Here to join the Zero club. The same thing as every day Pinky.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
3 days ago

London

None. My brain has difficulty ignoring the yellow notification so I have to address it.

ASD much?

I don't receive massive volumes anyway so it works out quite well.

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By *lex46TV/TS
3 days ago

Near Wells

I never deleted messages. There was ten messages. Some I answered and some I ignored.

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