FabSwingers.com forum: Why are we here?

South London

How many of us really understand what it is that keeps us coming back to fab? I believe ive got adhd (undiagnosed) & the dopamine I crave comes in abundance via sexual chemistry with a woman. I’ve found a niche clique that hits the spot. Anyone else really understand why they are here?

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By *YDB75Man
3 weeks ago

Beverley

Honestly.

Its my escape

The place nobody that knows me would ever expect me to be. This and the gym.

Thats about it really

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By *outhLondonSmile OP Man
3 weeks ago

South London

Hah yes. I enjoy a run also, I’ve much more control over that release than this one! This one is much more emotionally charged.

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By *BWHunterMan
3 weeks ago

London

I’m here to forget.

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By *sWyldWoman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Boredom and habit really.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
3 weeks ago

North West

"Boredom and habit really. "

This and the notion that every now and then you meet a gem. Doesn’t happen often though.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

"Boredom and habit really.

This and the notion that every now and then you meet a gem. Doesn’t happen often though. "

Agreed! It’s the hope that kills you

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By *avecooper69Man
3 weeks ago

Benfleet

"Boredom and habit really.

This and the notion that every now and then you meet a gem. Doesn’t happen often though. "

That's very true

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
3 weeks ago

West Suffolk

We are only here for 1 simple reason, to get cock for Mr, he has always been bi but in previous straight relationships he had to miss out on cock so Mrs allows him to suck cock and get fucked by guys off here.

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

To find quality sex partners which I seem to find more easily here than on any other app. Plus the forums.

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By *lix CoxMan
3 weeks ago

CF39

Listening to so much BS

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By *outhLondonSmile OP Man
3 weeks ago

South London

"Boredom and habit really.

This and the notion that every now and then you meet a gem. Doesn’t happen often though. "

Love this. Diamonds are indeed in the rough.

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking

I like the forums and BapHunting, I also have adhd and we do like a rush!

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By *estiswestMan
3 weeks ago

glasgow

Connection id say

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

Right now? Well there’s bugger else to do at this hour when it’s too hot to sleep

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By *outhLondonSmile OP Man
3 weeks ago

South London

I also think some of us are here because we’re lonely & isolated. I certainly feel that. When I do find someone I click with, meeting them is therapeutic as I don’t feel alone in this world (re my desires & kinks).

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By *ust want fun 888Man
3 weeks ago

nearby

I’m beginning to wonder

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

"I also think some of us are here because we’re lonely & isolated. I certainly feel that. When I do find someone I click with, meeting them is therapeutic as I don’t feel alone in this world (re my desires & kinks)."

This I absolutely agree with, it’s sometimes the social interaction that perhaps is lacking at times

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
3 weeks ago

Up North

Most of it has already been touched on. Boredom, social interaction and ultimately the hope you’ll find someone who can scratch whatever itch you may have.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

"Most of it has already been touched on. Boredom, social interaction and ultimately the hope you’ll find someone who can scratch whatever itch you may have. "

Adding the confidence boost that fabs can sometimes provide, though it can be a double edged sword

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking

I agree, for me the joy when you click with people and keep chatting, as often it’s hard to make friends with people and talk about sex outside of fabs.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

"I agree, for me the joy when you click with people and keep chatting, as often it’s hard to make friends with people and talk about sex outside of fabs. "

Totally, I personally I’m incredibly selective with who I want knowing things outside of fabs

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By *oubleswing2019Man
3 weeks ago

Colchester

DOSE is why we are here.

Dopamine

Oxytocin

Serotonin

Endorphins

We all have different levels of these in our bodies and our lack of some or over-abundance of others drives us accordingly.

We're all just following chemical messaging, whether that messaging has been created by ourselves, by others, by external influence or internal desire.

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By *ilverjagMan
3 weeks ago

swansea

Some might say, "We're all here because, we're not all there!"

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By *eneralKenobiMan
3 weeks ago

North Angus

It’s the cake recipes for me personally

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
3 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

My satyriasis.

…Look it up 😄

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By *artorialMan
3 weeks ago

weymouth

My ego needs to be regularly beaten down

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By *alloSpaceboyMan
3 weeks ago

The Fortress of Solitude

Escape, recognition, release.

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By *thfloorCouple
3 weeks ago

Hove

"I also think some of us are here because we’re lonely & isolated."

Pretty vulnerable thing to be admitting so openly. I also do think my maladaptive socialising plays a big role in being perennially drawn to fab&swinging. Add to that obsessive tendencies, voyeurism, special interest in sex& relationships, boom! I can check out any time I like...

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
3 weeks ago

Voldsøy

I'm not even sure anymore.

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yeah I love adventures & sex without the normal relationship

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By *ugsfuntimeMan
3 weeks ago

Colchester

To try and have some new experiences while single..... plus hopefully gain some confidence in the process.

Currently not meet up with anyone... there's still time I guess

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

Pretty much this

Most of my friends are settled down and my social life isn't really very social these days.

Also it's easier to chat about sexual interests and find sexual compatibility on here without the awkwardness.

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By *inja 636Man
3 weeks ago

Grays

Tits and gash

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By *pl83mfCouple
3 weeks ago

Montreal

It started with trying to find someone or another couple to join us... but it's more boredom right now

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I have been here years and still find it a pleasant passtime.

I can take it or leave it. When I work away for long or short periods I don't miss it.

When I am working in the U.K. and especially from home - I use it in my coffee breaks e.g. I have just had breakfast and I am drinking a coffee - then I am off out for a couple of hours.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

It's NEVER to assuage boredom.... i'm never bored.

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By *olden RatioWoman
3 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Mainly here for the forums and some willy.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"I'm not even sure anymore."

Me neither

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By *eardedguy83Man
3 weeks ago

Worcestershire

Sex …. But more the forums because an older guy like me has little or no chance of sex.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"I'm not even sure anymore.

Me neither "

about Mirfield - it's north of Morrisons n South of the Zoo

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By *etstalk69Man
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

…. For sex!!

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By *arkhelgaCouple
3 weeks ago

leeds

Sometimes the chat on here can be naughty,Mark lurves flashing his tackle.....

The way to think about it is don't take fabswingers too seriously it's not real life but ok for a spot of escapism 😈😈😈

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"I'm not even sure anymore.

Me neither

about Mirfield - it's north of Morrisons n South of the Zoo"

🤣🤣🤣

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By *eathcliffMan
3 weeks ago

Cardiff

Why are we here? Perhaps, in the end, for nothing more — and nothing less — than the pursuit (italics) of happiness.

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By *ingsysMan
3 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"How many of us really understand what it is that keeps us coming back to fab? I believe ive got adhd (undiagnosed) & the dopamine I crave comes in abundance via sexual chemistry with a woman. I’ve found a niche clique that hits the spot. Anyone else really understand why they are here? "

Pretty much this. It's a positive feeling

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By *ackmeoviMan
3 weeks ago

Wales

To have a perv when horny...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Why are we here? Perhaps, in the end, for nothing more — and nothing less — than the pursuit (italics) of happiness."

Jesus ...... this is happiness ?

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By *midnight-Woman
3 weeks ago

...

I found more than I was looking for - it's only group socials that keep me here now

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By *litteasingManMan
3 weeks ago

Thereabouts

We are here to fuck and to be fucked. But we get pissed when we are fucked up

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By *eathcliffMan
3 weeks ago

Cardiff

"Why are we here? Perhaps, in the end, for nothing more — and nothing less — than the pursuit (italics) of happiness.

Jesus ...... this is happiness ?

I suppose it depends on the day, doesn’t it? Some days it feels like happiness is right here in front of us — other days it’s an inside joke the universe forgot to explain.

But hey, if we’re going to be here anyway… might as well share a smile or two while we look for it, right?

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
3 weeks ago

Norwich

Mainly to have sex on a regular basis.

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By *litteasingManMan
3 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"Mainly to have sex on a regular basis. "

More if a dream than reality I suppose

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By *outhLondonSmile OP Man
3 weeks ago

South London

Thx for the honesty. Am not alone it seems.

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By *ilverjagMan
3 weeks ago

swansea

"Why are we here? Perhaps, in the end, for nothing more — and nothing less — than the pursuit (italics) of happiness."

Well if the thoughts of the late, great Ken Dodd, whom I've actually met bye the way, are anything to go by, you may well be right because, Ken was on record as saying that it was his dick that inspired the his song, "Happiness" (A Penis). Quote the lyrics, "Happiness, (A Penis), the greatest gift that I possess, I that I possess, I thank The LORD that I've been blessed, with more than my share of A Penis!" Many a true word said in jest, but if that's what some are looking for, then you're possibly right.

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

Mainly to read the increasing amount of AI posts/profiles.

Occasionally sex stuff, once, max twice a year.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Why are we here? Perhaps, in the end, for nothing more — and nothing less — than the pursuit (italics) of happiness.

Jesus ...... this is happiness ?

I suppose it depends on the day, doesn’t it? Some days it feels like happiness is right here in front of us — other days it’s an inside joke the universe forgot to explain.

But hey, if we’re going to be here anyway… might as well share a smile or two while we look for it, right?

Absolutely right. I'd say it's a pleasant pass time but I know exactly who and what makes it pleasant for me

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By *ittlebirdWoman
3 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I like it here. I’m gonna stay 🌈

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"Boredom and habit really. "

I have to agree with you xx

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By *ildTimes.Man
3 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

I like to look at Boobs 🤷🏻‍♂️🥪

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"I like to look at Boobs 🤷🏻‍♂️🥪"

Good reason

At least your honest

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
3 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Why are we here - How many of us really understand what it is that keeps us coming back to fab? I believe ive got adhd (undiagnosed) & the dopamine I crave comes in abundance via sexual chemistry with a woman. I’ve found a niche clique that hits the spot. Anyone else really understand why they are here? "

I'm here for the attention and affirmation that someone finds me appealing but not in just a sexual way, I've had some lovely messages from all kinds of people on here; single men, married men, women, couples, TV/CD, that have given me that rush of dopamine, about shared interests & life experiences, compliments and advice

My situation is I'm happily married and he's given me his consent to find a boyfriend, I join here and have found someone, it's been on going for a while and going well

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
3 weeks ago

from mars

pass the time ..

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
3 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Boobsucker - I agree, for me the joy when you click with people and keep chatting, as often it’s hard to make friends with people and talk about sex outside of fabs. "

I've tried to talk to my GFs about what I get up to here, not about the site specifically but the nautiness of what I'm doing and it wasnt received positively, so I back tracked and haven't spoke about it since - lots of vanilla conversations

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
3 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Originally when I joined a few years back it was fun and opened up a lot of doors and experiences, now it's boredom mainly and the forums, but even those are repetitive. Really I have no idea why I'm still here 🤷

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By *estructionDollyWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester

The men I meet on "normal" dating apps tell me I'm intimidating because I'm quite sexually motivated/experienced, or I find a lot of them boring/incompatible, or they try and convince me to go back to monogamy which I don't want.

For all it's faults, I find many more compatible people on fab.

I also use fab to keep in touch with friends I've met at clubs, and to chat shit on here when I'm bored. Living alone can get very boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Perving on other people's sex lives is the primary kink for me

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By *hrills and adventureMan
3 weeks ago

Winchester

I saw the title of the thread and thought this was going to be a deep discussion on the meaning of life. So the answer 🤔 .........,is 42.

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By *rookedsmileMan
3 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Escape, trying to connect with whats missing.

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By *sTiqueWoman
3 weeks ago

Ilkley

Life is short and we are all on borrowed time - this has been a good place for me to live a little whilst I can!

Agree that there's an addiction to the dopamine hit of a new person and them being a gem.

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