FabSwingers.com forum: Sexless Marriage

By *ellboy812000 OP Man
5 weeks ago

Trowbridge

1st things 1st, I love my wife completely and have no wish for things to change (apart from maybe an upturn in her appetite for sex!!).

Is being on here looking for sex with ladies and couples a complete turn off for those, due to the fact I'm married and hoping to play without consent?

After all, sometimes sex is just sex.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
5 weeks ago

Gloucester

For me (and my partner) yes complete turn off

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By *avid 50Man
5 weeks ago

kendal

There is a big difference between love in a marriage and sex, I loved my wife we had great sex very sensual and very satisfying, it was the complete package, but sadly came to an end. I joined here and I really do enjoy meeting people and if I'm lucky and we click and if we end up having sex even better but although it's great fun and exhilarating it is not the same as sex with my wife was, probably more a kin to going for a good workout at the gym, you look forward to going you enjoy the euphoria of the workout then you shower and go home,

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By *bi HaiveMan
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5 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

This is a commonly asked question and the usual responses will be based on personal beliefs and ethics on the matter.

Personally I (and we on the couples profile) have zero interest in meeting people here without consent from partners. It's not worth the potential drama and consent is key in our minds with all things swinging (and all things in life too really). It makes no difference if it's a man or a woman.

There's enough consenting couples and genuine singles for us to not need to involve those that could both bring drama to our doors and who could be devastating their partners and children through their choices.

People are free to do as they wish of course. We just choose not to be involved or enable them.🤷‍♂️

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By *olfandtazCouple
5 weeks ago

Bristol

It's a turn off for us, we dont need the drama

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
5 weeks ago

Beverley

"There is a big difference between love in a marriage and sex, I loved my wife we had great sex very sensual and very satisfying, it was the complete package, but sadly came to an end. I joined here and I really do enjoy meeting people and if I'm lucky and we click and if we end up having sex even better but although it's great fun and exhilarating it is not the same as sex with my wife was, probably more a kin to going for a good workout at the gym, you look forward to going you enjoy the euphoria of the workout then you shower and go home, "

You should use that as your opening line!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
5 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It is absolutely a turn off for me personally.

I dislike being a part of someone else's deceptions. And I cannot believe I am respected by someone who I already know is deceiving the person who believes they are loved by them.

There are plenty of other cheaters out there who can justify the situations to themselves and it won't bother them. There are plenty of people who just don't care and consider it none of their business.

But being upfront is the way to go.

As someone who had a screaming wife on my doorstep after more than a year of seeing a 'single' guy, please don't assume she'll never find out so it doesn't matter if the fuckjob on the side knows the truth 💜

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By *antra MassageMan
5 weeks ago

Galway

Listen to Esther Perel, on podcasts. She discusses this very openly, no moralising. So refreshing to hear.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
5 weeks ago

Norfolk Coast

Some will never tell you they are married or girl friend as wish to be seen single here on fab it’s when you find out after not the best feeling as you have been lied too . And not given a crap about your feelings just there own as just see this as sex site .

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Just be honest and if it’s a no except it

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By *r.EdibleMan
5 weeks ago

Fraserburgh

Yes it is a complete turn off. On my couples profile we delete messages from cheaters. It's just not right to involve others in your deception. I don't want to be the person the wife comes to gutted as her man was in our bed when she was at home alone looking for him. A secless marriage is not an excuse for adultery, if you really do love her but the sex has ended, discuss it and if she says no to your filandering, then you should either leave or not do it. If she says it's ok, then you can continue with no guilt, but to just do it without her knowledge is the behaviour of a shyster.

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By *ark n kimCouple
5 weeks ago

Durham

"This is a commonly asked question and the usual responses will be based on personal beliefs and ethics on the matter.

People are free to do as they wish of course. We just choose not to be involved or enable them.🤷‍♂️"

100% this.very well said.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes sex is just sex sometimes. Believing that is what makes it easier to justify being here without a partners knowledge, if that partner found out I wonder if they'd agree 🤔.

People have to do what they have to do to get through life. It's not any of our business but we'd rather not be involved, although looking back we definitely have been unwittingly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'd add to that. The people that are here without their partner, just don't talk about how you wish they were, compare them to others or that you are in the position you're in because of something they have done. They aren't here to defend themselves or put their side of the story.

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By *aughtyFreddoMan
5 weeks ago

Coventry

OP - for most men, and some women, sex is just sex. Fill your boots.

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By *piritualSFCMan
5 weeks ago

london

Do what makes you feel right. Great that you are open about it, if the answer is no then respect the others need.

It's not always about the sex, you could probably get the same need/feeling by using this energy productively. Better out than in.

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It won't be for some,

But for me yes, big turn off for me. I'd hate it done to me.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

"This is a commonly asked question and the usual responses will be based on personal beliefs and ethics on the matter.

People are free to do as they wish of course. We just choose not to be involved or enable them.🤷‍♂️"

Exactly my sentiments.

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By *enk15Man
5 weeks ago

Evesham

"After all, sometimes sex is just sex."

If that were true for both you and your partner, there would be no need to keep it secret and you can start a non-monogamous

relationship.

The fact you are hiding it shows it's probably not "just sex"

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
5 weeks ago

Voldsøy

"This is a commonly asked question and the usual responses will be based on personal beliefs and ethics on the matter.

People are free to do as they wish of course. We just choose not to be involved or enable them.🤷‍♂️"

Yeah. Couldn't have said it better than this.

It's not for us, but many have no problem with it. Each to their own.

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
5 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Let's reverse this situation, if you had little appetite for sex and your wife wanted more, would you be ok with her cheating? Or would you rather she had a conversation with you to try and see what will help?

Cheating is disrespectful and very hurtful to those involved.

You are alreading cheating by being here, that in itself is the start of the damage you are about to cause.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
5 weeks ago

cahoots

Total turn off for us

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By *he OpalsnakeMan
5 weeks ago

Thirsk

Gonna be honest dude, if your partner isn't feeling it there could be any number of reasons you aren't considering. Birth control such as the coil, medication, hormones, and that's just the practical. Are you paying attention? are you making an effort? If sex is just sex are you even attempting to make it exciting. Women are from Venus dude, get intergalactic, try, boldly go, use your imagination, if you love her you know her, something used to make her tick. Look inward, did you get too comfortable? Claim before you Blaim dude and love before you lose.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We wouldnt get involved, we aren't here for any drama.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 weeks ago

East Sussex

" Claim before you Blaim dude and love before you lose. "

That is a great quote! I think we could all think on that one.

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By *outherngent74Man
5 weeks ago

Hampshire

It does not sit well with me

I am in a similar situation, I’m not going elaborate about why.

However, I could NEVER cheat on her, nor do I want to leave her.

So I grasped the nettle, and told my wife, that the situation was making me very unhappy, and I need this in my life.

And yes it was a very difficult conversation, and yes we had many sleepless nights, and many conversations where had over the coming few weeks .

But she understands and loves each other, and we have an understanding , I’m open and don't withheld anything, and if she wishes she can see who I’m talking too.

So as long as it doesn't change our set up, or embarrass her, I have consent., but if she is not happy at any point, it stops.

I would suggest meet people in the same situations as yourself, or get some brave pants and bite the bullet.

You never know it may improve

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Swinging for us and me is fun, hurting someone isn't fun, lying and potentially ruining a marraige isn't fun, sexy or remotely hot.

If you can't be honest and respectful to the person you apparently love what can any random meet expect?

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

"It does not sit well with me

I am in a similar situation, I’m not going elaborate about why.

However, I could NEVER cheat on her, nor do I want to leave her.

So I grasped the nettle, and told my wife, that the situation was making me very unhappy, and I need this in my life.

And yes it was a very difficult conversation, and yes we had many sleepless nights, and many conversations where had over the coming few weeks .

But she understands and loves each other, and we have an understanding , I’m open and don't withheld anything, and if she wishes she can see who I’m talking too.

So as long as it doesn't change our set up, or embarrass her, I have consent., but if she is not happy at any point, it stops.

I would suggest meet people in the same situations as yourself, or get some brave pants and bite the bullet.

You never know it may improve"

Now this is refreshing to hear, having the difficult conversations is worth it.

Mrs

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By *nnandElleCouple
5 weeks ago

Brackley

Elle will and does entertain married men in a 1:1 situation, but on the understanding that if drama ever comes to our door, she will be open and honest about the situation and won't be actively protecting the man.

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By *2000ManMan
5 weeks ago

Worthing

Op maybe see if outside the bedroom is the problem.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
5 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

It's a turn off for us.

You might love your wife to your core, but you don't respect her.

If the woman you claim to love doesn't get your respect then how can you be trusted to respect ladies and couples?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Bolton

We don’t care. Your infidelity is your issue. Some have mentioned a wish to avoid potential drama. And yes there’s so many men on here you don’t have to play with those in a relationship. But I’d hasten a guess that many who say they are single are actually in relationships. And I doubt that many women would actually visit the home of the persons their partner had sex with. What is there to gain? More humiliation?

But that’s your choice, and you are of course entitled to it 😊

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By *orkshire biMan
5 weeks ago

where I lay my head

There's more to than just see though. There's no effort in anything anymore and just feels like a waste of time

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By *ittyRoseWoman
5 weeks ago

Baldock

I don't play with men who are married/attached. Unless they are part of a consenting couple of course!

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
5 weeks ago

Kent/London/Greater London

"1st things 1st, I love my wife completely and have no wish for things to change (apart from maybe an upturn in her appetite for sex!!).

Is being on here looking for sex with ladies and couples a complete turn off for those, due to the fact I'm married and hoping to play without consent?

After all, sometimes sex is just sex."

For me you need full Knowledge from your wife/spouse......

I wouldn't go behind another woman's back & Fk her husband.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
5 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You’re going to do what you’re going to do. Don’t worry what a group of strangers think about it.

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By *outherngent74Man
5 weeks ago

Hampshire

For me, shows them as being a selfish and reckless person, who’s just thinking of just own gratification, before their partner's feelings, or the lack the hindsight or the ability see it though someone else’s perspective.

So personally wouldn't get involved and wouldn't like to be near the potential unfolding drama.

A woman I was chatting to, told me her husband was unaware, and she actually mocked him as clueless and trusting, I Blocked !!

It’s supposed to about fun, so have the conversation with her, and don't destroy anything good over a bunk up.

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By *r Man45Man
5 weeks ago

North West

I wouldn't judge anybody tbh, each has there own reasoning and circumstances.

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By *ilddukeMan
5 weeks ago

notts

"Some will never tell you they are married or girl friend as wish to be seen single here on fab it’s when you find out after not the best feeling as you have been lied too . And not given a crap about your feelings just there own as just see this as sex site ."

I find it's best to be upfront from the start

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By *inger_SnapWoman
5 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's not just sex, it's cheating.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
5 weeks ago

Chatham

Some people will fuck you.

Some people won't.

For me, trust is important. How can I trust you to respect my boundaries and consent, or trust you have a clean sti screen, if you can be honest with the women you married.

That's my reasoning of why I stay away from married men

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By *aughty40sRugbyCouple
5 weeks ago

Rugby

I 100% agree . Without consent it's cheating . Period . There's no fancy way around it unfortunately. As a married woman with a couples profile on here I wouldn't want to have any hand in a cheating spouses love life in any way. It's a complete turn off for us as a couple and I can only think how not only your partner would feel but the people you then chose to meet up with as well. For me this life style is about Honesty , safety and mutual respect and as a result are a massive turn on ( for me any way) . If you can't respect your partner enough to have her consent how do you expect anyone else to then feel safe or respected . In my experience sex is never "just sex" it holds alot of feelings and experiences that are only made better when all parties are secure and respectful.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
5 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Im keeping my gob shut after last night. All I will say is put it on your profile then people can make a choice

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By *ora the explorerWoman
5 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"You’re going to do what you’re going to do. Don’t worry what a group of strangers think about it."

This. This is the only answer. Why do people need validation or even care what strangers think about what they do. I’ll never get it.

Just do you!

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