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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

How do u cope with a partner that wants sex(intimacy)once a month (around)

Compared to the partner that desires it more like twice a day

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Two suggestions.

Talk to them and come to some sort of compromise.

Or.

Decide you're incompatible and leave.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle


"How do u cope with a partner that wants sex(intimacy)once a month (around)

Compared to the partner that desires it more like twice a day

"

Are you talking about a couple where one is happy with once per month and the other wants it twice a day ?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
4 weeks ago

West Suffolk


"Two suggestions.

Talk to them and come to some sort of compromise.

Or.

Decide you're incompatible and leave. "

Nothing more to be said really, perfect advice

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
4 weeks ago

from mars

Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

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By *ittlebirdWoman
4 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"Two suggestions.

Talk to them and come to some sort of compromise.

Or.

Decide you're incompatible and leave. "

💯 this

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Mismatched sex drives lead to resentment and remorse unless they're talked about properly and dealt with accordingly.

Only the two people involved can know what the way forward is, and only if they actually communicate with each other.

Opening up or breaking up are the usual options for genuine mismatched drives. Or finding out why one party isn't feeling it and addressing that properly if it's a situational mismatch 💜

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Find alternative way to keep yourself busy in things that you also enjoy then enjoy the sexual side when the day comes. So maybe deciding do you prefer the beginning of the month or the end of the month

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By *olo180Man
4 weeks ago

West London


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

"

Someone call the empathy police

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By *astradamossWoman
4 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Talk to them. Does it bother them that they don’t have the same level of desire…has it always been like this?

Are there things that the horny partner could do to help? Not just in the bedroom but generally?

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
4 weeks ago

Norwich


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

"

Not helpful.

He was asking for help with resolution of the problem.

Perhaps other couples have been through it and have found a way forward.

We can't all have all the answers. Sometimes me need advice from others.

There's no need for unhelpful responses. Just scroll on.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
4 weeks ago

from mars


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

Someone call the empathy police "

🎻

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

"

My advice to you is do not open any thread that has the word advice or help in the title. Have a wank instead.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
4 weeks ago

from mars


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

Not helpful.

He was asking for help with resolution of the problem.

Perhaps other couples have been through it and have found a way forward.

We can't all have all the answers. Sometimes me need advice from others.

There's no need for unhelpful responses. Just scroll on. "

It’s obvs really …. If you’re not happy then leave … same with yourself rather than commented you could have scrolled along …. 🤷‍♂️ … I’m not too fussed if my comment isn’t popular … I’m allowed my opinion and I gave it …

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
4 weeks ago

from mars


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

My advice to you is do not open any thread that has the word advice or help in the title. Have a wank instead. "

😂 … As you were

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

Yes

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West


"Mismatched sex drives lead to resentment and remorse unless they're talked about properly and dealt with accordingly.

Only the two people involved can know what the way forward is, and only if they actually communicate with each other.

Opening up or breaking up are the usual options for genuine mismatched drives. Or finding out why one party isn't feeling it and addressing that properly if it's a situational mismatch 💜"

This is perfect.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

And just to say, sometimes it’s not mismatched sex drives but mismatched timings and communication. One goes to bed at 10pm because they’re knackered and hopes the other joins them for sex. The other heads up later and tries initiating to be turned down because it’s too late now and they have to be up early. Both feel hurt that the other doesn’t get it. Both feel undesired and unwanted but neither express why. It’s the sort of thing that can nearly break a relationship and this is me speaking with the voice of experience.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West


"And just to say, sometimes it’s not mismatched sex drives but mismatched timings and communication. One goes to bed at 10pm because they’re knackered and hopes the other joins them for sex. The other heads up later and tries initiating to be turned down because it’s too late now and they have to be up early. Both feel hurt that the other doesn’t get it. Both feel undesired and unwanted but neither express why. It’s the sort of thing that can nearly break a relationship and this is me speaking with the voice of experience. "

This was typed with feeling but not the best clarity. Hopefully it’s understandable.

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

Great advice but unfortunately in my case when ask for time together or a romantic night causes more problems

It seems to be the case of just waiting till the time is right

It’ is a case of mismatched. Sex drives but wasn’t initially

But now is i do believe menopause has a lot to do with it but five years in now is just the normal passion on both sides is massively pleasurable sleeping next to a lady I massively desire daily

That just desires me every other month is painful

A previous reply suggested filling my time with something else

Sounds like a good way forward

Although not where I feel I would like to be and that is making my partner feel loved and wanted and desired

And also felling the same back

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

Sounds like good advice

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

It’s Getting there unfortunately

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

Just causes more grief unfortunately

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

I agree unfortunately

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By *a_brunetteWoman
4 weeks ago

Wiltshire


"How do u cope with a partner that wants sex(intimacy)once a month (around)

Compared to the partner that desires it more like twice a day

"

Either compromise or separate

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

Definitely agree on timings but also tried altering that so I went to bed at same time

End up cuddling the women I desire and want to please

And can’t have for longer so now at 9am just more frustrated

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

Twice a day is overkill for me.

Unless my partner was adventurous and amazing every time we had sex, I'd get bored very quickly.

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

At least , I made you laugh. Or kinda if that’s a word xxx

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

Twice a day is a desire but in current circumstances would happily settle for once a week

And only desire is to please rather than be pleased so no desires ruled out (other than every month or other month )lol

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By *ackformore100Man
4 weeks ago

Tin town


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

"

What friendly advice. Well done you.

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By *wolitretony OP   Man
4 weeks ago

blackburn

It was x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

OP if you use the reply and quote button people will know who you're replying to.

If you want to make her feel wanted and desired and your current methods aren't working, talk to her about what she needs 💜

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By *sStephenPickleMan
4 weeks ago

Ends

Communication

Communication

Communication

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

"

That's a huge assumption that they do get by, day to day. Perhaps a little more caution with your assumptions?

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
4 weeks ago

from mars


"Kinda makes me laugh when people ask for advice on here .. like can’t you think for yourself ? ..

If you’re not happy then YOU have to do something about it .. non of us can give advice on YOUR life … Go with your gut … or have a wank ….

Then you have the what advice can I do to improve my profile lot … like fuck 🤦‍♂️ … how do people get by day to day 😂 ..

That's a huge assumption that they do get by, day to day. Perhaps a little more caution with your assumptions?"

Cheers mate

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